@scgirl6113@jlea05@mommywesley@Lecool That was one of many... special... experiences she told me about. My main take away from her pregnancy and postpartum experience is that doctors in France are hella patriarchal. "Wimmin havin' babies be crazy!" Seems to be their general standpoint.
@jlea05 I've heard some cool things about the "sage-femmes" they have over there (midwives, or literally "wise women"), but I think that fluent French speakers have way better access, maybe, so I think the expat experience might be a little slanted towards the mentality we've both heard about.
Yeah this is a huge fear of mine too. We were told a couple of weeks ago that the tech was "80% sure it was a boy" and OH and I are completely convinced it's a boy... but we're reluctantly holding off on sharing that information with others. Maybe kind of selfishly, I really don't want to get a bunch of "handsome like daddy" onesies from various family members. My cousin's son was wearing a shirt the other day that said "Daddy's Little Home Run" and it really creeped me out that anyone would even make a shirt like that--am I the only person in the world that gets some sort of sexual baseball reference out of that?
@jessty3 I've seen charts that show that the fetal heart rate link to sex is completely bunk:
Total old wives tale stuff
I doesn't tell anyone the sex of my first until my baby shower. Best idea ever. You actually get the things you register for. I feel like clothes are personal. If you wouldn't choose clothes for me then don't choose them for my baby. Not in a mean way, but individual tastes vary greatly!
@poetryandoceans No there is some really seriously creepy crap out there with onesies...
I don't know why people think that just because their baby is too young to understand what they're wearing that it's okay. At some point, I want to be able to show my future 8-year-old photos of them when they were 1 without having to explain what a blow job is...
Yeah this is a huge fear of mine too. We were told a couple of weeks ago that the tech was "80% sure it was a boy" and OH and I are completely convinced it's a boy... but we're reluctantly holding off on sharing that information with others. Maybe kind of selfishly, I really don't want to get a bunch of "handsome like daddy" onesies from various family members. My cousin's son was wearing a shirt the other day that said "Daddy's Little Home Run" and it really creeped me out that anyone would even make a shirt like that--am I the only person in the world that gets some sort of sexual baseball reference out of that?
@jessty3 I've seen charts that show that the fetal heart rate link to sex is completely bunk:
Total old wives tale stuff
I doesn't tell anyone the sex of my first until my baby shower. Best idea ever. You actually get the things you register for. I feel like clothes are personal. If you wouldn't choose clothes for me then don't choose them for my baby. Not in a mean way, but individual tastes vary greatly!
Oh my gosh, yes! This! Clothes ARE personal, and I never buy clothes for other peoples' babies because like you said, everyone's style is different. My MIL buys our daughter clothes for Christmas and birthdays, and she has hideous taste! I have literally never liked, nor kept, any clothes she has bought her. I always return them or consign them.
We are having our 3rd boy and I couldn't be happier. My sister also has three boys, my oldest brother has a boy and none of us have girls! It's pretty crazy but we love it.
I do hate the comments about "trying for a girl", I always just give an eye roll. I couldn't believe it but MIL actually responded by saying she felt so sorry for me we announced LO was a boy. I just told her DH and I were thrilled and very lucky to have 3 healthy babies FFS.
ETA: I really don't feel like I'm missing anything. My children are individuals with individual and unique likes and interests. There is no guarantee that if we had a little girl she would want to do ballet or enjoy Disney princess movies, she may still want to be on the T ball team. The only difference is I typically have fewer clothes to choose from at the store.
@canavara Oh my god, who would dress their kid in those. The "hung like a 5 year old" in particular really irks me. I'm not sure why people feel the need to sexualize their infants and young kids like that.
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I don't know why people think that just because their baby is too young to understand what they're wearing that it's okay. At some point, I want to be able to show my future 8-year-old photos of them when they were 1 without having to explain what a blow job is...
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I do hate the comments about "trying for a girl", I always just give an eye roll. I couldn't believe it but MIL actually responded by saying she felt so sorry for me we announced LO was a boy. I just told her DH and I were thrilled and very lucky to have 3 healthy babies FFS.
ETA: I really don't feel like I'm missing anything. My children are individuals with individual and unique likes and interests. There is no guarantee that if we had a little girl she would want to do ballet or enjoy Disney princess movies, she may still want to be on the T ball team. The only difference is I typically have fewer clothes to choose from at the store.
Me: 28 | DH: 31
Together since 2006 | Married May 2015
TTC #1 since November 2015
BFP 5/17/16 | EDD 1/27/17 | Born 2/4/17