I was afraid to put this out there... but here it goes.... I don't think I want to breastfeed. At first I was all about it, but for some reason now, I'm not so sure.
And I'm afraid to be judged for not wanting to breastfeed my baby... I keep going back and forth. Not sure what direction I'll go in.
No judgement here. I bf'd my son exclusively for 6 months, but I wasn't working full time back then. Now, I'm not sure how long I'll make it (I don't have a lot of luck pumping), so I'm not going to stress if it's not as long this time around. My mom and MIL didn't breastfeed their children, and we all grew into healthy, happy adults.
I work full time as well and I only get 6 - 8 weeks off. Plus my husband wants to be involved in the feedings. He expressed that the other day and I think thats when I started second guessing BFing @MKJeffrey2002.
Married 11-11-11 TTC only since Dec 2015. I had some weight to get off. Been working hard in the gym for over a year. BFP 02-15-16 with our first IT'S A BOY!!!
there are a lot of flameworthy confessions out there but I don't think you will find that BFing vs FFing is going to be one of them around here. Elsewhere in your life is where you will have to worry about people being vocal or judgey about your decisions. As a PP said, if you do decide for certain to FF, you will need to go into the decision FIRMLY with your hospital, and I would even suggest choosing a hospital and touring it to determine their degree of formula-friendliness. I've heard some real horror stories.
@sportiegrl1213 With DD, I had no desire to breastfeed but was guilted into it so I gave it a shot. Because I had no initial desire to BF, and the decision to try was made at the hospital, I had done zero research so I was completely unprepared for it and on top of that was resentful for feeling pressured into it. Needless to say, I did not have a very successful experience. I think my daughter and myself would have been much happier had we never been subjected to that kind of frustration and struggle. I became very ill with the flu at 3 months PP, struggled with my supply, was quarantined from DD for a few days, and that pretty much ended breast feeding for me. That being said, with LO, since we were broke and the cost of formula was so daunting and since I was a little better seasoned and open minded to breast feeding, I decided to BF and pump. I had a MUCH better experience with him. I only quit with him because I had a hard time setting a steady feeding and pumping schedule with him that worked around school, picking up my kids, getting FI to and from work so I ended up with painfully engorged boobies often and decided to call it quits but it was a better experience than my first. This go around, I am now considering exclusive pumping. I have everything from LO still fresh in my memory, I have a MUCH more steady schedule and am able to plan and coordinate pumping times, and am more aware of the benefits of breast milk (and formula isn't getting any less expensive). My point is, do what works for you, and do not let anybody pressure you into doing anything you don't want to. What works for you could also change, so don't feel discouraged by any of your decisions.
also when they ask "how are you feeeeeeling?" they just wanna know if you puke or pee youreelf
From experience, if you tell them too much they won't ask again. Tell them how it feels like there's a bowling ball in your pelvis or that you have to pee every 30 minutes, etc.
why do people think it's okay to ask you in person about your breast feeding plans? esp if you aren't close to them?
THIS, already with a not-that-close male coworker and my dental hygienist. And also people asking how you're feeling...I get a bizarre sense that when I tell some people I'm feeling pretty good right now (even when it's not true), that they're disappointed not to hear some gruesome or gory TMI stories, wtf?!
I agree we were camping this weekend with a big group of people and lot of them I haven't even seen yet this summer, so of course I've been asked lots how I've been feeling. Aside from heart burn I feel great. It's been an easier pregnancy than my others by far. That's what I say but I'm starting to get tired of the question cause I wonder what they're really fishing for.
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@sportiegrl1213 With DD, I had no desire to breastfeed but was guilted into it so I gave it a shot. Because I had no initial desire to BF, and the decision to try was made at the hospital, I had done zero research so I was completely unprepared for it and on top of that was resentful for feeling pressured into it. Needless to say, I did not have a very successful experience. I think my daughter and myself would have been much happier had we never been subjected to that kind of frustration and struggle. I became very ill with the flu at 3 months PP, struggled with my supply, was quarantined from DD for a few days, and that pretty much ended breast feeding for me. That being said, with LO, since we were broke and the cost of formula was so daunting and since I was a little better seasoned and open minded to breast feeding, I decided to BF and pump. I had a MUCH better experience with him. I only quit with him because I had a hard time setting a steady feeding and pumping schedule with him that worked around school, picking up my kids, getting FI to and from work so I ended up with painfully engorged boobies often and decided to call it quits but it was a better experience than my first. This go around, I am now considering exclusive pumping. I have everything from LO still fresh in my memory, I have a MUCH more steady schedule and am able to plan and coordinate pumping times, and am more aware of the benefits of breast milk (and formula isn't getting any less expensive). My point is, do what works for you, and do not let anybody pressure you into doing anything you don't want to. What works for you could also change, so don't feel discouraged by any of your decisions.
Thank you so much for this response, I'm so sorry you had a not so great experience the first time around. I've been doing research on both sides and figuring out what will be right for me. I know I'll figure it out and whatever will work, will work. Either way he'll be properly fed and well taken care of.
And OMG I can't agree more with you girls about why people think it's ok to ask if we plan on BFing. This is what set me off a little today and decided to post this. My coworker asked me and said I sure hope you are, it's the best thing for you and your baby. I just said yeah. I didn't even know what to say. And I've been so hormonal lately, it almost made me cry. Because I felt bad saying I'm not sure yet. I just need to get over it and what people think.
Thank you all again for shedding some insight on this topic. I really appreciate it. All you ladies are the best! Love our board!
Married 11-11-11 TTC only since Dec 2015. I had some weight to get off. Been working hard in the gym for over a year. BFP 02-15-16 with our first IT'S A BOY!!!
@sportiegrl1213 it's none of your coworker's GD business. I have little patience for people who ask just to ask, but even less for people who ask so they can then give you unsolicited advice. I'm nominating him/her for TW Tuesday. You will do what you need to do to make sure your baby is fed when it comes time and F everyone and their opinions!
ETA sorry if you had a bigger TW but just seeing how people hurt you and many other ladies on here, makes me ragey
Re: FFFC?
TTC only since Dec 2015. I had some weight to get off. Been working hard in the gym for over a year.
BFP 02-15-16 with our first
IT'S A BOY!!!
That being said, with LO, since we were broke and the cost of formula was so daunting and since I was a little better seasoned and open minded to breast feeding, I decided to BF and pump. I had a MUCH better experience with him. I only quit with him because I had a hard time setting a steady feeding and pumping schedule with him that worked around school, picking up my kids, getting FI to and from work so I ended up with painfully engorged boobies often and decided to call it quits but it was a better experience than my first.
This go around, I am now considering exclusive pumping. I have everything from LO still fresh in my memory, I have a MUCH more steady schedule and am able to plan and coordinate pumping times, and am more aware of the benefits of breast milk (and formula isn't getting any less expensive).
My point is, do what works for you, and do not let anybody pressure you into doing anything you don't want to. What works for you could also change, so don't feel discouraged by any of your decisions.
considered. when you say that people don't move and wait for you to say jk or whatever lol
And OMG I can't agree more with you girls about why people think it's ok to ask if we plan on BFing. This is what set me off a little today and decided to post this. My coworker asked me and said I sure hope you are, it's the best thing for you and your baby. I just said yeah. I didn't even know what to say. And I've been so hormonal lately, it almost made me cry. Because I felt bad saying I'm not sure yet. I just need to get over it and what people think.
Thank you all again for shedding some insight on this topic. I really appreciate it. All you ladies are the best! Love our board!
TTC only since Dec 2015. I had some weight to get off. Been working hard in the gym for over a year.
BFP 02-15-16 with our first
IT'S A BOY!!!
ETA sorry if you had a bigger TW but just seeing how people hurt you and many other ladies on here, makes me ragey