We were around both sides of our families this weekend, and it was the first time for several family members to see the baby. He really does not look overwhelmingly like either one of us, so I was asked about 472 times "Who does he look like?" Or "He looks just like your dad" or "He looks just like his dad" or "He has your mouth." And on and on..
Micah looks like Micah. Can we please stop dissecting his face to attribute to family members?
Married: May 2012 DS1: May 2016 DS2: Jan 2019 Baby #3 EDD: 6/18/24
We were around both sides of our families this weekend, and it was the first time for several family members to see the baby. He really does not look overwhelmingly like either one of us, so I was asked about 472 times "Who does he look like?" Or "He looks just like your dad" or "He looks just like his dad" or "He has your mouth." And on and on..
Micah looks like Micah. Can we please stop dissecting his face to attribute to family members?
YES OMG THIS!
My parents do it every time they see him! Which is practically every weekend if not, more!! Every time I post a pic, family members have to say he looks like me, DH or my dad. My parents love guessing what he'll grow up to look like. Who cares?! He's a cute little baby, that's it. End of story.
We were around both sides of our families this weekend, and it was the first time for several family members to see the baby. He really does not look overwhelmingly like either one of us, so I was asked about 472 times "Who does he look like?" Or "He looks just like your dad" or "He looks just like his dad" or "He has your mouth." And on and on..
Micah looks like Micah. Can we please stop dissecting his face to attribute to family members?
YES OMG THIS!
My parents do it every time they see him! Which is practically every weekend if not, more!! Every time I post a pic, family members have to say he looks like me, DH or my dad. My parents love guessing what he'll grow up to look like. Who cares?! He's a cute little baby, that's it. End of story.
Just the other day my mom was talking about how with babies there's so much speculation about how they'll turn out, but they're really amazing and special at this point in time too, and we should enjoy that. I totally agreed and thought it was a super sweet thing for her to say!
Anyone being annoyed by family members who calls LO 'their child', like 'my smart little boy' and you're just like, nope he's definitely mine. I don't know why it gets me, but it does
Anyone being annoyed by family members who calls LO 'their child', like 'my smart little boy' and you're just like, nope he's definitely mine. I don't know why it gets me, but it does
Yes! MIL calls her her baby and will comment on pictures saying mine, it irritates me so bad. My dad on the other hand calls her his baby and it doesn't bother me because I like him more than her
Anyone being annoyed by family members who calls LO 'their child', like 'my smart little boy' and you're just like, nope he's definitely mine. I don't know why it gets me, but it does
My grandmother did this with DS1. She did it with my siblings and me too until I got a bit older and saw that it made my mom frustrated, so I started squashing it. With DS1, I tended to correct her by saying something like, "yep, he's your great-grandbaby!" and now she calls him that instead of her baby.
We were around both sides of our families this weekend, and it was the first time for several family members to see the baby. He really does not look overwhelmingly like either one of us, so I was asked about 472 times "Who does he look like?" Or "He looks just like your dad" or "He looks just like his dad" or "He has your mouth." And on and on..
Micah looks like Micah. Can we please stop dissecting his face to attribute to family members?
YES. I am getting so tired of MIL telling me that DS looks JUST like my DH, and that he has all the features of THEIR side of the family, also insisting he WILL have red hair just like her. HOW ABOUT NO, HOW ABOUT HE IS HIS OWN PERSON. Just stop already with the dissecting its so annoying.
While I am at it, I am also annoyed that people always say " He looks JUST Like your husband, sorry.... nothing like you." UGH if you need to comment on his looks please don't apologize that YOU think my son looks nothing like me, that is YOUR OPINION.
Anyone being annoyed by family members who calls LO 'their child', like 'my smart little boy' and you're just like, nope he's definitely mine. I don't know why it gets me, but it does
Yes! MIL calls her her baby and will comment on pictures saying mine, it irritates me so bad. My dad on the other hand calls her his baby and it doesn't bother me because I like him more than her
lol yes this. My mom can do it but with MIL it would drive me bananas.
So since my last comment on here a few days ago my hubby and I got or offer accepted on a new house. We are super excited but when we told the in-laws about it there response was they're happy fit us but since we'll be further away we shouldn't expect then to come over often (they haven't been over and seen LO in 3 weeks anyways) and that she probably wouldn't be able to watch LO on Thursdays now... I'm just confused now because we are now the same distance away from them as their daughter is and they go watch her kids at least once a week, usually twice... oh well. I'm just not sure what I'm going to do when i start back to work next week. I only work 3 days but I can't find anyone as a back up to my MIL. My mom is trying to retire so hopefully that happens soon as this move makes us closer to my parents.
@okcountrygirl Your in-laws are freaking toxic. I'm so sorry.
Ask your MlL to keep up her promise to look after LO on Thursdays for a few weeks until you find someone else, and then cut her loose--you don't need to put up with her treating you and your family like second class goods...
As mentioned previously, we spent all of last weekend at my in-laws. Today is my nephew's 5th bday party at my in-law's house. We live 3 hours away, and I was unsure if me and the baby were going to make the trip back this weekend because of a) all the crap we have to pack (again) b) I don't really want him around a bunch of little kids and c) he has been super fussy the past few days, and maybe that's related to spending 3 nights away from home and being held by 17 different people while we were there.
Ultimately, I decided not to go. When DH called his mom and told her he was coming by himself, she lost it. Started crying and saying that I shouldn't feel like the baby isn't welcomed in their house (not the case); that she wanted to "show him off at church;" and that she would hold the baby the whole time we were there so I could have a break (thanks? But I want to hold my baby too). Missing family events is a cardinal sin to my MIL, but I didn't expect her to freak out like this.
DH really wants me to go, and now I feel like I have to. I'm sure there will be an awkward phone call from MIL about me keeping her grandson from her if I don't go. I have a feeling this will end up being a much bigger deal than necessary. But.. I'm currently up nursing at 3:40 am, and we need to leave by 7 to make it to the party. I haven't packed anything...
Married: May 2012 DS1: May 2016 DS2: Jan 2019 Baby #3 EDD: 6/18/24
@bshurdy I wouldn't go. If she calls explain that LO hasn't had his shots and could catch anything so easily. I would think she would understand that. She wouldn't want LO sick. But be sure to say you had a great time with them LAST WEEK.
My MIL wants to see Pollie at least once a week if not more. We went over today and had an appointment to get to after so we were there for an hour before. She texts me an hour later saying she bought Pollie some outfits and is at the laundromat. I text her back a thank you and she then says how she really wanted to see her longer than she did today and asked what other day she can see her this week. Me and MIL have nothing in common and I hate visiting with her longer than an hour. I really wanted to just text her back and be like sorry that's it for this week but also don't want to be a bitch.
@ninnyjean I totally get it! My MIL drives me crazy too! But instead of going to her place with LO to hang out so she can spend time with the baby, I have her come over to our place to watch LO for 2-3 hours while I get out to shop, have lunch, get a pedi, or whatever. That way, I only have to make small talk with her for about 5-10 minutes when she gets there and when she leaves and we are both happy. Is that an option for you? Would you feel comfortable letting MIL watch her in your own home for a few hours while you get some me time?
@ninnyjean I totally get it! My MIL drives me crazy too! But instead of going to her place with LO to hang out so she can spend time with the baby, I have her come over to our place to watch LO for 2-3 hours while I get out to shop, have lunch, get a pedi, or whatever. That way, I only have to make small talk with her for about 5-10 minutes when she gets there and when she leaves and we are both happy. Is that an option for you? Would you feel comfortable letting MIL watch her in your own home for a few hours while you get some me time?
That's actually not a bad idea! She is going to be watching her two days a week when I go back to work, so I'm going to have to get comfortable with leaving her with her so might as well take advantage of a little free time
Me too! Even though my in laws sometimes annoy the hell out of me, I consider myself lucky all things considered... I can't believe what some of yours have said/done!
My MIL Is really getting on my last nerve, she has a completely different style of parenting which is fine but she pushes it on me and my partner which drives me crazy. Sooo anyway she really dislikes that I post pictures of Florence on social media, but she's our daughter, and me and my partner both agreed that we don't mind posting the occasional picture of her, we're proud so of course we want to show her off. My partners Skype is set up on my phone too and MIL doesn't know that, but she's just messaged him slagging me off because I changed my cover photo to Florence on Facebook. I'm sorry but why is it any of her business and how dare she judge my parenting skills! Does anyone think I'm being unreasonable? I'm just really pissed off right now with her.
My MIL Is really getting on my last nerve, she has a completely different style of parenting which is fine but she pushes it on me and my partner which drives me crazy. Sooo anyway she really dislikes that I post pictures of Florence on social media, but she's our daughter, and me and my partner both agreed that we don't mind posting the occasional picture of her, we're proud so of course we want to show her off. My partners Skype is set up on my phone too and MIL doesn't know that, but she's just messaged him slagging me off because I changed my cover photo to Florence on Facebook. I'm sorry but why is it any of her business and how dare she judge my parenting skills! Does anyone think I'm being unreasonable? I'm just really pissed off right now with her.
No. As parents you have to stand your ground. My mil is insane and she has lots of opinions that she makes known (over and over and over again) but her opinions are irrelevant to me. Let her know that you and your SO spoke about the pictures and then any conversation about it after that, I would just politely change the subject. One things I've learned the second time around is that you have to be confident and not give a shit about what other people think. It gets easier!! Promise.
It's almost midnight, and I'm still waiting on my FIL to show up and help take care of my very wide awake ten year old niece who is currently hopped up on a mixture of fear that my MIL's ghost is hanging around here (she passed away in my guest room) and on the promise of the ice cream he said he was going to bring. Also, LO is being fussy as heck tonight, which is not helping at all.
So she's not technically my family but my dad's long term girlfriend can go away now, okthanx! Yesterday we were packing to head back to the city so I told our oldest he couldn't go swimming. She suggested he ask Daddy instead. Umm hello. Don't tell my 2.5 year old child to play us against each other. She also loves asking if he wants ice cream while I'm feeding him dinner. I'm pretty sure there was smoke coming out of head all weekend.
So, I know this is a super minor thing (I'm snickering as I type), but my in-laws use the word "toot" repeatedly (think 8-10 times), every time our daughter passes gas. I'm just not a fan of the word to begin with, but when they repeat "did you toot?" in an oh-so mushy baby voice over and over again I just want to say "yes, she farted!"
So, I know this is a super minor thing (I'm snickering as I type), but my in-laws use the word "toot" repeatedly (think 8-10 times), every time our daughter passes gas. I'm just not a fan of the word to begin with, but when they repeat "did you toot?" in an oh-so mushy baby voice over and over again I just want to say "yes, she farted!"
I can one up you...my in laws call farts butt tickles.
So, I know this is a super minor thing (I'm snickering as I type), but my in-laws use the word "toot" repeatedly (think 8-10 times), every time our daughter passes gas. I'm just not a fan of the word to begin with, but when they repeat "did you toot?" in an oh-so mushy baby voice over and over again I just want to say "yes, she farted!"
My MIL just says over and over "isn't she cute? Isn't she precious?" Minor, but maddening.
Not a huge issue or anything, but last weekend MIL came to visit. I was napping while they were over so I didnt see them, but MIL brought a bumbo that she bought. Without asking if it was something we wanted to use. I know there is a bit of controversy around them with being bad for babies posture/hip alignment etc, and some are fine with it while others arent. I decided after reading about them that it wasnt skmething I wanted LO to use (this was actually a few years ago, after I heard bad things about bumbos). Anyway, after they left and I got up, I talked to DH about it and said I dont want LO to use it. He agrees with me, but hasnt told his mom. He didnt want me to tell her, and then she texted him a few days agk asking how LO likes it. And he still didnt tell her, just said we havent really used it. He avoids confrontation of any kind at all costs, but MIL is also a major drama queen. I just wish she would ask us before buying baby gear.
Also her and SFIL are quiet and super reserved, and anytime LO farts she always acts like its something to be ashamed about. Drives me nuts!!
Going to rant here again...I've been sleeping on the couch because due to reflux Emi's been in the rocker, so that she won't choke on it in her sleep (pediatrician approved provided that we do lots of tummy time). Mainly because I can put the rocker right next to the couch and be on the same level as it for the whole replace-the-paci thing we go through each night. Anyway, about twenty minutes ago my FIL comes through the front door (he has a key), setting off the dogs barking. Y'all, Emi has slept for mayyyyybe 20 minutes total today, and I had just finally gotten her to sleep for real. And now she's wide awake again.
I have my ten year old niece here and apparently the reason he's here is to help out with her but seriously, that help would have been a lot more valuable a few hours ago during dinner when I was trying to juggle both girls and a meal and nursing. The ten year old is fast asleep right now. It was the same thing last night.
So, I know this is a super minor thing (I'm snickering as I type), but my in-laws use the word "toot" repeatedly (think 8-10 times), every time our daughter passes gas. I'm just not a fan of the word to begin with, but when they repeat "did you toot?" in an oh-so mushy baby voice over and over again I just want to say "yes, she farted!"
My MIL just says over and over "isn't she cute? Isn't she precious?" Minor, but maddening.
We post photos to a shared iCloud album and MIL feels the need to comment on every single picture something like "gosh he's so inquisitive" or "he's so smart and curious!" With a million stupid empjis every time. I know she's just enjoying the pics but it drives me insane to see her incessant commentary. Everyone else comments every selectively or not at all!
Going to rant here again...I've been sleeping on the couch because due to reflux Emi's been in the rocker, so that she won't choke on it in her sleep (pediatrician approved provided that we do lots of tummy time). Mainly because I can put the rocker right next to the couch and be on the same level as it for the whole replace-the-paci thing we go through each night. Anyway, about twenty minutes ago my FIL comes through the front door (he has a key), setting off the dogs barking. Y'all, Emi has slept for mayyyyybe 20 minutes total today, and I had just finally gotten her to sleep for real. And now she's wide awake again.
I have my ten year old niece here and apparently the reason he's here is to help out with her but seriously, that help would have been a lot more valuable a few hours ago during dinner when I was trying to juggle both girls and a meal and nursing. The ten year old is fast asleep right now. It was the same thing last night.
Can you say something? Like, it would be more helpful if you came over earlier, if you're going to be this late don't bother, or text me before you open the door so I can minimize noise around Emi?
Also her and SFIL are quiet and super reserved, and anytime LO farts she always acts like its something to be ashamed about. Drives me nuts!!
This is so dumb. Babies have bodily functions just like everyone else. Do they expect LO to hold it in until they are gone or something?
I know what mean! I've had a couple people look at me when Ainsley farts like they've never heard a fart before, or I'm supposed to excuse her, or something.
Going to rant here again...I've been sleeping on the couch because due to reflux Emi's been in the rocker, so that she won't choke on it in her sleep (pediatrician approved provided that we do lots of tummy time). Mainly because I can put the rocker right next to the couch and be on the same level as it for the whole replace-the-paci thing we go through each night. Anyway, about twenty minutes ago my FIL comes through the front door (he has a key), setting off the dogs barking. Y'all, Emi has slept for mayyyyybe 20 minutes total today, and I had just finally gotten her to sleep for real. And now she's wide awake again.
I have my ten year old niece here and apparently the reason he's here is to help out with her but seriously, that help would have been a lot more valuable a few hours ago during dinner when I was trying to juggle both girls and a meal and nursing. The ten year old is fast asleep right now. It was the same thing last night.
Can you say something? Like, it would be more helpful if you came over earlier, if you're going to be this late don't bother, or text me before you open the door so I can minimize noise around Emi?
I've talked to my husband about it, and for the time being FIL has got the message. He's not happy about it, but the truth is that FIL is easily distracted and super impulsive - doesn't really think things through. It's not malicious, but he's just not one of those people who would think about how something will affect other people around him. So in a few weeks he will have forgotten all about it. I'm trying to set a 9:00 rule, though - if you can't be here by 9pm, call us or don't come at all (at least until she's a bit older) - so we will see how that goes.
I don't *think* i posted my MIL drama right after Ashlynn was born....but I just went back to work this week and I don't remember anything any more...like eating, refilling water bottle, or using the restroom... just in case i'll leave it abridged
She's been pretty much as bad as I feared...so it is good to know I'm not crazy...the good news is we have only been seeing them about once a week so the bad is somewhat contained. A lot of the same grandmonster habits you've all stated- "my little girl", baby hogging, unsupportive of breastfeeding...doesn't listen/respect rules.
after explaining safe sleep multiple times, she still wanted to "wedge" a blanket under LO so that she was "propped on her side" to help with gas
invited people over to our house without asking us during the first couple weeks
complained to DH that the toilets were filthy....uh we just had a baby that won't sleep - there's the brush, you can do it.
her idea of "helping" is I'll hold the baby and you go do housework even though your stitches hurt when you stand or walk to much - oh and i hope you weren't planning on doing laundry as part of that housework because I brought your SIL over and all her laundry to do while we're here.
emotional warfare and only directing questions regarding events and things she wants to DH like I don't exist. Got to him, and pressured him about taking our 4 week old to a family cookout when I wasn't sure if it was time yet
bringing dinner first week out of the hospital, breaded chicken, pasta salad, corn....i'm gluten intolerant and have severe IBS...which she's known and cooked accordingly for 5 years
In general - the brood mare has finally delivered the long awaited grandchild and is no longer neccessary - well until it's time to nurse - but then again can't you just pump dear?
This was the first week of "grandmacare" on Monday's - and two days before she already
started bitching about the drive (30 min) and asking
when we'll start bringing LO down to her on Sunday and leaving her until
Monday after work - uh....we never agreed to that... You want me to
leave my breastfed baby with you for over 24 hours once a week? If this
was such a problem, you shouldn't have asked to do it - we would have
done daycare an extra day a week!
On top of everything - DH was offered an amazing job opportunity....1300 miles away...instead of being happy for him she cried...a lot...when he told her. Then at dinner with his cousin she went on and on about how she "hasn't stopped crying since he told her" and how she "finally got what I've been asking for for three years and she's being ripped away from me. But I won't stop them from going". Good - because there is nothing you could do... Glass half full - the whining was in front of us at dinner and not behind our backs.
I don't *think* i posted my MIL drama right after Ashlynn was born....but I just went back to work this week and I don't remember anything any more...like eating, refilling water bottle, or using the restroom... just in case i'll leave it abridged
She's been pretty much as bad as I feared...so it is good to know I'm not crazy...the good news is we have only been seeing them about once a week so the bad is somewhat contained. A lot of the same grandmonster habits you've all stated- "my little girl", baby hogging, unsupportive of breastfeeding...doesn't listen/respect rules.
after explaining safe sleep multiple times, she still wanted to "wedge" a blanket under LO so that she was "propped on her side" to help with gas
invited people over to our house without asking us during the first couple weeks
complained to DH that the toilets were filthy....uh we just had a baby that won't sleep - there's the brush, you can do it.
her idea of "helping" is I'll hold the baby and you go do housework even though your stitches hurt when you stand or walk to much - oh and i hope you weren't planning on doing laundry as part of that housework because I brought your SIL over and all her laundry to do while we're here.
emotional warfare and only directing questions regarding events and things she wants to DH like I don't exist. Got to him, and pressured him about taking our 4 week old to a family cookout when I wasn't sure if it was time yet
bringing dinner first week out of the hospital, breaded chicken, pasta salad, corn....i'm gluten intolerant and have severe IBS...which she's known and cooked accordingly for 5 years
In general - the brood mare has finally delivered the long awaited grandchild and is no longer neccessary - well until it's time to nurse - but then again can't you just pump dear?
This was the first week of "grandmacare" on Monday's - and two days before she already
started bitching about the drive (30 min) and asking
when we'll start bringing LO down to her on Sunday and leaving her until
Monday after work - uh....we never agreed to that... You want me to
leave my breastfed baby with you for over 24 hours once a week? If this
was such a problem, you shouldn't have asked to do it - we would have
done daycare an extra day a week!
On top of everything - DH was offered an amazing job opportunity....1300 miles away...instead of being happy for him she cried...a lot...when he told her. Then at dinner with his cousin she went on and on about how she "hasn't stopped crying since he told her" and how she "finally got what I've been asking for for three years and she's being ripped away from me. But I won't stop them from going". Good - because there is nothing you could do... Glass half full - the whining was in front of us at dinner and not behind our backs.
For the love of God, I hope your husband takes that job! She sounds horrible! It sounds like 1300 miles will do you all some good.
I don't *think* i posted my MIL drama right after Ashlynn was born....but I just went back to work this week and I don't remember anything any more...like eating, refilling water bottle, or using the restroom... just in case i'll leave it abridged
She's been pretty much as bad as I feared...so it is good to know I'm not crazy...the good news is we have only been seeing them about once a week so the bad is somewhat contained. A lot of the same grandmonster habits you've all stated- "my little girl", baby hogging, unsupportive of breastfeeding...doesn't listen/respect rules.
after explaining safe sleep multiple times, she still wanted to "wedge" a blanket under LO so that she was "propped on her side" to help with gas
invited people over to our house without asking us during the first couple weeks
complained to DH that the toilets were filthy....uh we just had a baby that won't sleep - there's the brush, you can do it.
her idea of "helping" is I'll hold the baby and you go do housework even though your stitches hurt when you stand or walk to much - oh and i hope you weren't planning on doing laundry as part of that housework because I brought your SIL over and all her laundry to do while we're here.
emotional warfare and only directing questions regarding events and things she wants to DH like I don't exist. Got to him, and pressured him about taking our 4 week old to a family cookout when I wasn't sure if it was time yet
bringing dinner first week out of the hospital, breaded chicken, pasta salad, corn....i'm gluten intolerant and have severe IBS...which she's known and cooked accordingly for 5 years
In general - the brood mare has finally delivered the long awaited grandchild and is no longer neccessary - well until it's time to nurse - but then again can't you just pump dear?
This was the first week of "grandmacare" on Monday's - and two days before she already
started bitching about the drive (30 min) and asking
when we'll start bringing LO down to her on Sunday and leaving her until
Monday after work - uh....we never agreed to that... You want me to
leave my breastfed baby with you for over 24 hours once a week? If this
was such a problem, you shouldn't have asked to do it - we would have
done daycare an extra day a week!
On top of everything - DH was offered an amazing job opportunity....1300 miles away...instead of being happy for him she cried...a lot...when he told her. Then at dinner with his cousin she went on and on about how she "hasn't stopped crying since he told her" and how she "finally got what I've been asking for for three years and she's being ripped away from me. But I won't stop them from going". Good - because there is nothing you could do... Glass half full - the whining was in front of us at dinner and not behind our backs.
For the love of God, I hope your husband takes that job! She sounds horrible! It sounds like 1300 miles will do you all some good.
Agreed!!! And it kills me that she said "finally got what she'd been asking for." Um this is a child, not a puppy. And she's not yours. Your MIL has some f'ing issues.
Thanks @swflJD and @Aquinna82 .... the whole in law family makes all these excuses for her. Completely agree about the puppy analogy! MIL is baby crazy and I've been a little worried about when LO's 6 or so if she'll stop paying as much attention to her in favor of the newest baby. She used to be wonderful! I mean she and I have always had a little issue with boundaries in my home and housework (I've caught her scrubbing my kitchen during family parties). I used to feel closer to her than my own mother, but over the last year she's completely changed. My mother said the same thing about the job...she said to run...
On an evil note - DH is starting to get a little pissed by everything being about the baby and the mythological advice shoved on him, which I find entertaining as hell.
Re: Problematic Parents/In-Laws: Post-partum Edition
Micah looks like Micah. Can we please stop dissecting his face to attribute to family members?
DS1: May 2016
DS2: Jan 2019
Baby #3 EDD: 6/18/24
My parents do it every time they see him! Which is practically every weekend if not, more!! Every time I post a pic, family members have to say he looks like me, DH or my dad. My parents love guessing what he'll grow up to look like. Who cares?! He's a cute little baby, that's it. End of story.
@kbrands7 The voice of reason as always! Good idea, might try that!
While I am at it, I am also annoyed that people always say " He looks JUST Like your husband, sorry.... nothing like you." UGH if you need to comment on his looks please don't apologize that YOU think my son looks nothing like me, that is YOUR OPINION.
Ask your MlL to keep up her promise to look after LO on Thursdays for a few weeks until you find someone else, and then cut her loose--you don't need to put up with her treating you and your family like second class goods...
Ultimately, I decided not to go. When DH called his mom and told her he was coming by himself, she lost it. Started crying and saying that I shouldn't feel like the baby isn't welcomed in their house (not the case); that she wanted to "show him off at church;" and that she would hold the baby the whole time we were there so I could have a break (thanks? But I want to hold my baby too). Missing family events is a cardinal sin to my MIL, but I didn't expect her to freak out like this.
DH really wants me to go, and now I feel like I have to. I'm sure there will be an awkward phone call from MIL about me keeping her grandson from her if I don't go. I have a feeling this will end up being a much bigger deal than necessary. But.. I'm currently up nursing at 3:40 am, and we need to leave by 7 to make it to the party. I haven't packed anything...
DS1: May 2016
DS2: Jan 2019
Baby #3 EDD: 6/18/24
Also her and SFIL are quiet and super reserved, and anytime LO farts she always acts like its something to be ashamed about. Drives me nuts!!
I have my ten year old niece here and apparently the reason he's here is to help out with her but seriously, that help would have been a lot more valuable a few hours ago during dinner when I was trying to juggle both girls and a meal and nursing. The ten year old is fast asleep right now. It was the same thing last night.
Not everyone can breastfeed - Mammary Hypoplasia/Insufficient Glandular Tissue Awareness
She's been pretty much as bad as I feared...so it is good to know I'm not crazy...the good news is we have only been seeing them about once a week so the bad is somewhat contained. A lot of the same grandmonster habits you've all stated- "my little girl", baby hogging, unsupportive of breastfeeding...doesn't listen/respect rules.
This was the first week of "grandmacare" on Monday's - and two days before she already started bitching about the drive (30 min) and asking when we'll start bringing LO down to her on Sunday and leaving her until Monday after work - uh....we never agreed to that... You want me to leave my breastfed baby with you for over 24 hours once a week? If this was such a problem, you shouldn't have asked to do it - we would have done daycare an extra day a week!
On top of everything - DH was offered an amazing job opportunity....1300 miles away...instead of being happy for him she cried...a lot...when he told her. Then at dinner with his cousin she went on and on about how she "hasn't stopped crying since he told her" and how she "finally got what I've been asking for for three years and she's being ripped away from me. But I won't stop them from going". Good - because there is nothing you could do... Glass half full - the whining was in front of us at dinner and not behind our backs.
On an evil note - DH is starting to get a little pissed by everything being about the baby and the mythological advice shoved on him, which I find entertaining as hell.