Bed rest mamas

csukkha · June 2016

Hopefully this board will remain unpopular for the remainder of everyone's pregnancy. For those of us prescribed bed rest I wanted a place to support each other until delivery.

AshleyB09042015 · June 2016

Sorry for the long rant. Ive been waiting to have other mom's to talk to about this.

I was hospitalized June 12 - 17 and have been on bed rest at home ever since. Im 30 weeks tomorrow. Im allowed to get up to pee, shower and cook easy meals. The only time I can leave the house is for Dr appointments. Im on bed rest for a shortened thinned cervix, degenerating massive fibroid and I lost my mucus plug. I went into labor when in the hospital but they stopped it.

Im slowly going crazy. Netflix has lost its appeal. It so warm outside I would love to walk my dogs or go to the cabin for the weekend. I cant imagine doing this for 6 more weeks. My Dr doesn't think Ill make it past 36 weeks. Every day now is just a bonus since they thought she was going to be come a few weeks ago. I was already given steroid shots to help with my her lung development and given every test in case I deliver early.

Im finding it hard not to lash out at my DH. He goes golfing every Tuesday, out for lunch with his friends etc. I know I cant expect him to be on bed rest too but its hard being alone all day and night bored out of my mind. Im also finding it hard to get prepared for baby. I make lists and DH goes and gets what I think we need but I want to go baby clothes shopping and see things in person.

Lastly Im worried about delivering vaginally and not being prepared. I was walking an hour a day up till being hospitalized. I was trying to prepare and exercise for an easier delivery. Now I cant do anything. I also had to cancel my prenatal classes as my Dr said it would be to much for me. So now I have no idea what to expect, how to breath, drug options etc. Im sure I can research it but Im upset and wont be as informed or prepared as I had hoped.

csukkha · June 2016

AshleyB09042015 Sorry to hear you have been on bed rest for 3 weeks. I'm starting to wonder the same things about vaginal delivery. I was a big runner before the bfp but the 1st trimester i had no energy to run i was just starting to get back to running roughly 4 miles 3x a week. It took me weeks to build stamina to feel good after a run. Worried how out of shape I will be after 9+ weeks of bedrest. Like you the worst part is being stuck inside when all I want to do is enjoy the outdoors. Not to mention i'm burning all of my sick and annual leave. I remind myself it's better than sitting in the NICU and to take it day by day. I was also planning to take prenatal classes in july, I thought I saw on another board online classes are available.

rn1stbae · June 2016

I'm so sorry guys. I would want to go see stuff in person too... do you have to be "horizontal" or can you go out in a wheelchair?

This isn't ANYTHING like hat you're going through but I was sick last week and got really dehydrated and had to stay in bed for two days and I even thought to myself "man, bestest is so hard!". Then I thought, well, I guess if it were this or a little preemie that had to be on bed rest the first few weeks of its life I would choose for it to rest in my belly.

What other things can they do in bed guys? You could maybe knit a baby blanket! Sew, paint a watercolor for the baby's room, or even have the hubby FaceTime you from stores to try and get a better experience.

Us other ladies are here to offer support too!

Prof=Mom · June 2016

Hi Ladies

Thanks for starting this. There are do many levels of bed rest. Still trying not to feel sorry for myself bc baby is what's important.

I've been on limited duties since March. Had to stop teaching which was sad. Love my students! Working from home for now.

I was actually sad when my Dr told me that I couldn't go to costco until approved. Had cerclage surgery, can do more outside of home but limit myself to 2 things per day. Everyone always making me sit down. My BFF rolled me around Church one day in a wheelchair.

Praying for a good final trimester and delivery for us all! Stay strong...

Prof=Mom · June 2016

@AshleyB09042015 another awesome thing is not being able to do anything but wait for someone to help. Laundry stopped bc I couldn't take baskets anywhere. Although throwing clothes over the balcony has been fun!

AshleyB09042015 · June 2016

@Prof=Mom yeah my Dr. specifically said no Laundry or Cleaning. My DH was with me at the appointment so he made it very clear to him that I could not do any of those things.

Its hard because DH doesn't clean like I would or know how to do laundry properly. His Aunt and Uncle are coming up for a visit next week for 3 days (even after I said no) and I cannot clean the house for them. Its been 3 weeks and my floors aren't washed, bathrooms are a mess etc. I cant even go out for dinner with them or entertain them. We told them that and they are coming anyways.

@csukkha I agree on the NICU. That's how me and DH think about it. Every day she stays in my tummy is one less day she will be in NICU. I cant imagine having to leave her every night in NICU and going home. I feel like I would lose that bond with her. Though for me this is almost 100% going to happen at least for a short time. If I don't make it to 36 weeks or she isn't over 5 pounds at delivery, they keep her.

I didn't know about the online classes so I guess I better look into that.

Prof=Mom · June 2016

No the best was my BIL came to stay for 5 days and I had 3 days notice! I had to call my Mom in for backup to clean what DH couldn't process. I slept for a week after he left.

jensou · June 2016

@RN1stBae what a great idea about FaceTime / Skype from the store!

Prof=Mom · June 2016

Dr said to take it easy yesterday, so I'm clearing my tour schedule for Summer '16. Sorry world u will miss the rap stylings of MC Science Mom...

But seriously I will be taking advantage of the kindness of strangers and asking them to put DH in the grocery cart.

jevers · June 2016

I was thinking about starting the same thread...bedrest sucks! I've been on a variation of modified bed rest and pelvic rest due to a hematoma for 11 weeks now, another 10 weeks to go. I haven't been to Target in 11 weeks and I miss it! The hardest part is not lifting or playing outside with my daughter. I can't clean, bend over, be on my feet too much, lift anything over a gallon of milk etc. I'm lucky enough to work from home so my job stays somewhat secure and my week days go by quickly. I try to lay outside on a lounge chair at least 15 minutes a day to get some sun and my husband has really stepped up. Although with 10 weeks to go not a single thing is done for this baby! Nursery isn't painted, I don't even have a diaper for him! I have been holding out hope that I can get up and do more myself but I think it's time to hire help & delegate. My husband can only keep up with our daughter, his work & housework. The shopping & other projects keep getting pushed off. I hope all of us end up with healthy, full term babies & a new appreciation for a normal pregnancy!

jbscmama · June 2016

Sorry you ladies are dealing with this....sounds really tough. You are being such troopers! It will all be worth it in the end and sounds like you have good support networks who are helping pick up the slack. Hang in there!!!

Anya Lynn · July 2016

We are heading into week 3 of bed rest here. Basically labor started about 29 weeks with slow contractions but lost mucus plug, cervix was open and thin so it's been on my butt since then. And with three kiddos at home it's killing me. The house is a disaster, the kids are trying to kill eachother and I can't hardly do anything to help keep them happy. But. I'm with you all, more days in mean less days in the NICU!

Prof=Mom · July 2016

Do you all have someone who can come help out with stuff like cleaning or watching the kids other than your SO? Even for a few hours it makes a big difference. I gave up on shame years ago.

csukkha · July 2016

TMI not sure how many of you are suffering from constipation. Sick of the little rabbit turds I was managing to expel. In the hospital i was alternating between colace, milk of magnesia and miralax. Just figured out juicing has helped keep me fairly regular if anyone is interested the juice recipe i use:

2 carrots

2 celery stalks

1 apple

1 pear

2 leaves of Kale

1 cup of Spinach

1 or 1/2 Beet

Beets and leafy greens are also hypertension lowering foods.

ivassaq · July 2016

My BFF was on bed rest for the majority of her third trimester. She had a really hard time with it as well. One thing that helped her feel productive in preparing for birth was she used the time to really practice hypnobirthing. After she had her boy she said that looking back it was a silver lining of the bed rest. She said that she never would have taken the time to do the meditations as focused and diligently as she did. She felt like it really helped.

Im reading a book called Mindful Birthing that also could be really helpful in many different situations. Including bed rest. Basically gives an eight week course of different mindfulness practices for you (and your partner if they are interested) to work through that deal with the many sides of pregnancy and birth (fear, pain).

Sending each of you strength as you power through this!

SarahNH1 · July 2016

Feel for you all on bed rest! Thankfully so far I'm not going to have to go that route. Was wondering for those able to work from home moms. What do you do? I need to find something that I can do after baby in born while on maternity leave (unpaid) if possible.
Thanks! Here's to all babies born healthy!

jevers · July 2016

I work for a large software company and they offer working from home to almost all employees if remote. I prefer to work in the office usually but luckily I can do my same page remote. I think most tech companies or office jobs are offering work from home now, it's easy to stay connected. Good luck!

Prof=Mom · July 2016

I do consulting so it's great to be able to work from home now. Just find what you are good at and see if people need help with it. :-)

jevers · July 2016

Have any of you ever pulled a muscle from coughing too much? It's pathetic really but I caught a bad cold from my daughter and have been a coughing/sneezing mess for a week. I have a constant throbbing ache on the side of my belly now and I am wondering if I pulled a muscle from my constant coughing. I've been horizontal or not doing much for 12 weeks now so I'm assuming I have like no muscle tone left!

Prof=Mom · August 2016

So the bed rest struggle is real. After returning home from 4 nights in hospital this week from a laundry related incident (pulled a muscle) I realize that my MIL is coming for the weekend to bring DS back from summer break.
There was no deep cleaning done, no groceries in the fridge, nada. I tried to cook veggies and burned them mercilessly. Oh well i told her i shouldn't be up anyway. But I finally forced myself into being ok with that.
In all honesty it was good for all of them to see that I needed help with the "take for granted" things that get done around here. plus the excruciating amount of pain that had to be managed was a reminder that I am still a human being.
I thank God that I'm feeling better, MIL is back home safe and everyone has a new outlook on pregnant life. Maybe next time she will volunteer to help out when she sees me trying to slide off the couch to do something. Or at least help me get up ; -)

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