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Schell2013 · July 2016

Better late than never! My phone didn't work where we camped this weekend. I had to wait all weekend, and now I don't see one?

Schell2013 · July 2016

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mrszoess · July 2016

I hate the whole "watch for
morotcycles" and blaming car owners for their accidents. every motorcycle driver except for the Harley crowd drive like absolute animals weaving through lanes and speeding.

if they crash it's their OWN faults. (sorry not sorry)

mothernorth · July 2016

@mrszoess I have to disagree. I was almost killed on my motorcycle in 2012 by a woman in a Trailblazer switching lanes without checking her mirrors pushing me into oncoming traffic. My saving grace was the car in the next lane heading towards me swerved over real fast and stopped to give me room to dodge her because I didn't have time to down shift or upshift to stop or speed up in those few moments. I wasn't speeding, weaving, swerving, or anything like that at all. Just cruising. That being said, I think drivers need to look out for EVERYBODY, not just motorcycles. You assume a riskier position by riding bikes, it is what it is. The protection from collision isn't there. A small car or any vehicle really would have been in danger in that situation as well. Check your mirrors and don't drive like assholes, people.

mothernorth · July 2016

Thanks for picking up the slack! @Schell2013 Not sure how I forgot this, I was active Friday and everything

Pregnancy Brain?

Schell2013 · July 2016

@AllyTheKid no problem! I actually wondered if I missed a good one and it had to be deleted or something! Lol

Schell2013 · July 2016

My confession.
I will preface by saying I am not prejudice or racist or any of the other things related.
But I will say I am getting sick of things like gay pride parades for example. I feel like they are getting out of hand and redundant. I don't care who you sleep with its 2016, just stop with it already. This goes for all parades, riots and protests. Like common folks don't we have something better to do with our time. Nobody is all going to see eye to eye, it won't matter how many parades and things you do. For the same reason your allowed to have freedom of speech is the same reason people don't have to agree with you or can choose to speak out against the same thing your campaigning for.

mrszoess · July 2016

@allythekid if you're driving normal and a car hits you that's clearly her fault but the people who drive like animals and then I'm told it's the drivers who need to watch when they weave and drive between lanes and cut people off and people can't predict their moves that's clearly the bikes fault

mothernorth · July 2016

@mrszoess I do not disagree with that. But I apply that same sentiment to all drivers- don't drive stupid.

UponAStar16 · July 2016

@Schell2013 I'm a little confused what's making you "sick of" parades that I'm guessing you probably don't attend, or what you consider "out of hand"?

Schell2013 · July 2016

UponAStar16 said:

@Schell2013 I'm a little confused what's making you "sick of" parades that I'm guessing you probably don't attend, or what you consider "out of hand"?

They're constant here. There is either protests regarding the oil patch here people that are against it, parades to promote pipelines, parades to promote marijuana parades for everything. Then there is always back lash or crap getting wreaked, businesses getting damaged. It's not just a simple 1 hour parade here. I wish we could just accept our differences and plain old respect each other. They don't help anything here, they just make it worse.
I hope that clarifies my frustrations a little bit.

krzyriver · July 2016

@Schell2013 I'll only speak to gay pride because I'm a member of the LGBT community, but the point of pride parades these days is to take back a sense of pride and honor in who we are because we are still so widely discriminated against. It's a chance to be out and proud and surrounded by people who understand and support us. Too have fun without fear of being abused. I do think some behavior that takes place at pride is over the top and intentionally in-your-face when it doesn't need to be because you're right, there will always be people who are uncomfortable or disagree and it's not right to shove it down their throats either. But pride itself is an incredible and liberating experience for some people who have spent their entires lives afraid. While *you* might not care who people are sleeping with, there are still many people that do. And that is why pride is still so important.

krzyriver · July 2016

@Schell2013 I just saw your clarification and I want to add that I can understand your frustration with a constant string of various parades. I used to live in a small town and it would shut the whole city down and cause chaos.

Schell2013 · July 2016

@krzyriver I can understand why folks would feel the need to step forward and try to get support. It's for sure one of the biggest things people are slammed about, which isn't cool either. But it seems (I'm speaking only in my experience) it actually does the opposite of gaining support, it's making people actually fight back.

it's sad that we can't just leave each other alone.
Your also right we don't live in a large city. So it does shut our whole downtown core down, and main road through town. There is always a business or two that gets broken windows or spray painted and it's just starting to put a real bad taste in my mouth now. This is in all parades, riots, rallies, so not just solely the gay pride crowd. I'm all for standing up for what you believe in, but when peoples businesses are getting vandalized for you to think your proving a point I have an issue with that and it's going to be much harder to gain the communities support.

blaf322 · July 2016

Psh... I LOVE pride parades and festivals! One of my favorite times to be uptown! I adore seeing so much love and support for an amazing community from businesses and locals. It's the best. Also, by far the best people watching you can do because so many folks are dressed up, painted up and just so happy to be there... It's wonderful!

blaf322 · July 2016

Oh, and my FFFC: I'm seriously considering calling DH when he's otw home from golfing and asking him to pick up some of those Keebler cookies that taste just like the Girl Scout caramel delights... Knowing full well that DH won't eat any bc he's doing low carb and I'll definitely have the entire package downed before the weekend. Oh well!

UponAStar16 · July 2016

Haha wow @Schell2013 it sounds like your town goes wild with parades and that your frustration has less to do with the actual cause like, who's sleeping with who (although I'd say LGBT issues are much more complex than sex) and more to do with overly enthusiastic parade activity. I don't get out much so I've never heard of a town plagued with MJ and pipeline parades as well as LGBT and other civil rights causes, but good luck with what I'm sure causes a traffic headache!

mothernorth · July 2016

I only have an issue with parades and protests that are CLEARLY attempting to antagonize another party, and obviously never intended to be some form of peaceful demonstration rallying supporters together and attempting to spread relevant information for the sake of progress. We have plenty of "activists" at my school, and the majority of them are just psuedo-intellectual hipster kids trying to stir up reactions from people for some "cause", ultimately just acting like destructive, argumentive children seeking attention and validation.

queen_frostine · July 2016

They just had to cancel a pride parade in my area because of threats of violence. *That* is unacceptable. Of course the only other parade I know of other here is the Christmas parade, and I've never seen that or any fallout from it. (Also I stay home as much as possible...)

ball4768 · July 2016

I live in Oklahoma, where people boycotted the downtown Christmas parade because the organizers called it a "holiday" parade. That's right- it was TOO inclusive for folks around here.

mothernorth · July 2016

@ball4768 isn't great living right on the big, shiny buckle of the Bible belt?

Schell2013 · July 2016

AllyTheKid said:

I only have an issue with parades and protests that are CLEARLY attempting to antagonize another party, and obviously never intended to be some form of peaceful demonstration rallying supporters together and attempting to spread relevant information for the sake of progress. We have plenty of "activists" at my school, and the majority of them are just psuedo-intellectual hipster kids trying to stir up reactions from people for some "cause", ultimately just acting like destructive, argumentive children seeking attention and validation.

I agree with all of this, and that is what it has become in my community. You'll always have people for something or against it. It's human nature. But nobody should be shot for it or have their property ruined and de faced cause someone was trying to make a point. That's not cool!

Schell2013 · July 2016

UponAStar16 said:

Haha wow @Schell2013 it sounds like your town goes wild with parades and that your frustration has less to do with the actual cause like, who's sleeping with who (although I'd say LGBT issues are much more complex than sex) and more to do with overly enthusiastic parade activity. I don't get out much so I've never heard of a town plagued with MJ and pipeline parades as well as LGBT and other civil rights causes, but good luck with what I'm sure causes a traffic headache!

It's an oilfield town here. It's kinda red neck and hay wire but it's definitely gotten way worse the last 10 years. Seriously most people here cannot do anything tactfully. I just feel like there is enough conflict that parades are just adding fuel to the fire. That's why I am sick of them.

sjo_thetwins · July 2016

I love pride parades. I love that the LGBT community or any community has the ability to be so public in a parade celebrating their selves. It IS 2016, but sadly, it has really just taken this long for the PARADES to be less novelty. Saying "it's 2016" we should all just love each other and do better things with our time - is a sweet sentiment, but just about all that it is. Because who sleeps with who seems to be a big concern to a lot of people that don't have any input in who I get a big juicy orgasm from. Which will forever blow my mind, btw. How two people love each other/who they love/etc, being someone else's business, is and will always be absolutely ridiculous to me. But I guess that's why pride parades make me happy. I got to ride on my wife's motorcycle in the pride parade (which was out first date) and give a giant "fuck you" to all the protestors looking me in my face telling me that what I was doing was wrong, and thinking that their opinion had any persuasion or value on who I would love.

People trying to dictate other people's lives realllllllly gets under my skin. Especially when the people who are doing the dictating, don't want it done back to them. So, basically, I'm all for parades if that's as close as you can get to support and recognition as just being a person. This is solely speaking on LGBT pride, not any others.

LauraPCOS · July 2016

I live just north of Toronto, but was born and raised in the city. We have a parade for everything - Christmas, Easter, St. Patty's Day, Gay Pride, Caribbean Culture, Chinese New Year, and I'm sure there is more I can't remember, and that's just parades....then there are protests and marches regarding religions and cultures, food production (GMOs & "farmers feed cities" groups), save the bees, etc., and then there are the festivals - taste of *insert culture*, rib fest, food truck, hot and spicy, mac & cheese, and a whole bunch more. So if you ever visit Toronto, especially from April - October, you're going to find something going on downtown.

LauraPCOS · July 2016

AllyTheKid said:

@mrszoess I do not disagree with that. But I apply that same sentiment to all drivers- don't drive stupid.

*stuck in the box*

I agree with the just don't drive stupid, no matter what you're driving. I've seen all kinds of stupid mistakes drivers make (and probably myself too) it doesn't matter what their mode of transportation is. Only recently did I see an SUV driver lose control when it was perfect driving conditions.

mothernorth · July 2016

I had a confession to post on here but I forgot it already =/ guess it wasn't all that great or I would have remembered.

TurtleMomma · July 2016

I yell constantly. I feel like if I don't yell people won't hear me,literally and figuratively.

blaf322 · July 2016

@TurtleMomma ... You're not alone here. If DH and I aren't getting along, I swear he doesn't hear me unless I raise my voice.... Then he asks why I'm yelling

mothernorth · July 2016

@ TurtleMomma @bnsmith85 That is an everyday struggle for me. For whatever reason, it seems nobody in this house is able to pick up my voice frequency until I raise it. Then it is only heard 1/2 the time. So then I have to yell and suddenly everybody is shocked and upset that I'm yelling. Quit ignoring me a-holes, you can hear me, you're just trying to get away with not listening until you realize I'm serious.

UponAStar16 · July 2016

Omg if you all knew how much I could relate, DH and I just had a "conversation" about that this weekend. If you listened before when I was firmly disagreeing, I wouldn't have bothered raising my voice lol

sportiegrl1213 · July 2016

I was afraid to put this out there... but here it goes.... I don't think I want to breastfeed. At first I was all about it, but for some reason now, I'm not so sure.

And I'm afraid to be judged for not wanting to breastfeed my baby... I keep going back and forth. Not sure what direction I'll go in.

Schell2013 · July 2016

@sportiegrl1213 I had a friend who had a baby close to the same time I had my first and she never did. She was formula fed right from the hospital. It didn't really change anything other than she did say washing bottles and waiting for one in the middle of the night was kinda a pain but she had a lot more freedom that first year than I did. Each to their own, but it did work fine for them. Just be prepared in the hospital they did make her feel a little crappy about it, our hospital is extremely pro breastfeeding so that was a bit of a hurdle for her.

MRSCORKER · July 2016

sportiegrl1213 said:

I was afraid to put this out there... but here it goes.... I don't think I want to breastfeed. At first I was all about it, but for some reason now, I'm not so sure.

And I'm afraid to be judged for not wanting to breastfeed my baby... I keep going back and forth. Not sure what direction I'll go in.

You do what's best for you. If breastfeeding is going to stress you out, that's not good for you or your LO. Try not to worry about the opinions of others, no matter what you choose, someone is going to think you're doing it wrong.

sportiegrl1213 · July 2016

Thank you @Schell2013. I appreciate your response. I'm sure I'll try it out to see if I like and go from there. Either way I know my baby boy will be healthy and taken care of.

Schell2013 · July 2016

You're welcome @sportiegrl1213 either way you do it, they'll grow and be healthy and happy!

sportiegrl1213 · July 2016

@MRSCORKER you're right. I have to do what's best for me and my little man and can't worry about my families or friends for that matter, opinions. Thank you for your kind words!

blaf322 · July 2016

zero judgement here @sportiegrl1213! You do what you think is best for you and your LO and it'll all work out in the end, no matter what you choose

sportiegrl1213 · July 2016

@bnsmith85 thanks girl!!

UFJen · July 2016

@sportiegrl1213 I'm with you on this. I don't have a strong desire to breastfeed at all. I feel like I will try because that's what i'm "supposed to do", but really feel indifferent about it. I told my husband and he supports me, but I really havent told many other people for the same reasons as you, the judgement. Just know you are not alone in those feelings!

sportiegrl1213 · July 2016

That makes me feel so much better @UFJen. I know I'm not alone in all this but it's a hard choice. My husband supports me either way too. At the end of the day its all about how we feel and what we want.

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