@carterh33 I'm glad AF finally came so you can start a new cycle! FX ovulation comes during an ideal week!
@brooklyngirl18 I love that you were like "finally!" lol When I told friends my DH and I were dating, all of them were like "DUH. FINALLY. Took you guys long enough." And yes, I wrote out that ode and just wanted to go home and squee to my DH!
2. WTO? I think? CD12 today. First month using clear blue advanced digital ovulation kit. I'm on day 5 of high fertility. No peak yet... Getting antsy here.
3. Rave: we installed a patio two weekends ago and we finally bought sod to repair the grass we tore up and I have to say for a husband and wife DIY paver patio it looks great! DH did a great job and worked really hard!
Rant: our dog has been limping around and not wanting to use his left back leg so we took him to the vet today. Theyre suspecting a tear in one of his knee ligaments and will need surgery to repair. This has been just a real crap shoot of a year. They say bad things come in threes so I'm hoping our dog needing expensive surgery is number three. 1. Car accident 2. Miscarriage 3. Dog surgery? Guess we'll see.
4. So many of you have such adorable meeting stories! I worked with DHs sister in law for a few months and she had just had a baby so he came to her house the same time I was there to meet his new niece. Long story short he considers flirting to be mopping up his spilled coffee with my flip flops and then messaging me on Facebook haha obviously it worked
im still thinking of everyone and wishing everyone strength as you power through another week. We are strong, stronger than anyone knows!
2. CD23 and either WTO still or just did this weekend and haven't had a temp shift yet. I really wish that 1)I ovulated regularly and 2)I actually knew my body so I knew what the heck was going on with it
3. Rave - Had a great weekend up north with my family which included a horseshoe tournament and my nephews bday party. Rant - see #2
4. When I read all these cute and innocent high school sweetheart/long time besties stories I hesitate to share mine, lol. Ah well, you guys won't mind
DH was a grad assistant football coach and the shot clock keeper during my college basketball games the year I was in grad school. He was actually dating one of my teammates and I was hanging out with one of his football coach buddies. Fast forward four years and he's up from Florida visiting one of our mutual friends who asked me to come up and join her as she showed him the local night life. Numerous beer pong games and bar hops later the three of us in our drunken stupor planned a vacation where my girlfriend and I would go visit him in Florida four months later to go to a football game (he worked in the NFL at the time). Welp that night ended with what I thought was my very first "one night stand" but then we followed through on that vacation and we really hit it off when I stayed at his apartment for the week. We dated long distance for about a year and then I moved 1500 miles to be with him...the second I decided without hesitation to quit my job, pick up my life and move for a man was exactly when I knew it was gonna be forever. We were engaged a year later, married the year after that and will be celebrating our third anniversary next week
DH - 34, Me - 32 Married 7/13 TTC #1 since 10/13 BFP 2/4/15, MC twin boys at 18w3d 5/15 IUI #1 2/25/16
@cmmiller531 I hope things go alright with your pup. Maybe they might come up with a solution as an alternative to surgery. Either way, here's hoping a budget-friendly solution and for the pup to heal quickly!
@SoonToBeMommaHowe That's so romantic that you moved 1500 miles to be with DH!! Happy Early Anniversary!
This GTKY question has made me really sappy all day today. Luckily, DH and I both had a day off!
@chloe97 I'm sorry about your EDD and that AF is taking her sweet time. I hope things regulate soon and you find the best RE practice to fit your needs.
@lilylover27 I'm glad you love your Kindle! I'm slowly converting to e-reader myself.
@reneeannemm I'm sorry you had to deal with the gastritis pain! It is awful. My doc thinks I have an ulcer or severe reflux and the pain is real. Your story about meeting DH sounds sweet and magical. I'm sure your wedding was amazing, given your propensity for event planning and hosting!
@AliciaGoose Try not to beat yourself up over possible timing issues. You're doing the best you can.
@allysondunn2 Hope your TWW remains relaxing and zen!
@dubcompanion I'm sorry about your friend's behavior. I keep saying there is something about being 30...you realize many of the errs of your 20 something year old ways. Some people don't get it. I hope your friend is able to realize the real problem that is happening. Also, I too met my DH in 9th grade!
@TScalei The "feeling comfortable" part of a relationship is so important!
@roxgibbons I've got all my things crossed for this IUI cycle for you!
@cmmiller531 I'm sorry to hear about your pup. I admire that you and DH did DIY pavers. That's such a difficult thing to do!
@SoonToBeMommaHowe I hope your cycle straightens itself out soon and O is very apparent one way or another!
::whew that was a lot of tagging...apologies if I missed anyone!::
AFM:
2. WTO, I think. I've not been well and think my cycle got thrown off. I'm using OPKs for the first time so now I think it's actually confusing me more. Dang $0.30 Wondfos. I'll probably be whining over on WTO for a little while yet.
3. Rants/raves: I'm starting to feel better from whatever GI thing I have is, so much so that we've decided to sorta try this cycle instead of bench ourselves. If aforementioned O would get with the program, I would love to start the TWW crazies.
4. GTKY: How did you meet your DH/partner? Was it lurrvvve at first sight? Did you have a moment you "just knew"?
Met and started dating DH in high school. Had some brief off and on periods while we were too immature to realize we had something amazing. He is truly my best friend. Got engaged last year of college and married soon after. Boring, I know, but there's something special about growing up with your partner during adolescence. We've officially known each other half of our lives!
1. Introduce yourself (if you're new):back again after my 3rd loss this year. 1 MMC at 9 weeks then 2 CPs
2. Status (WTO, TWW, Benched, etc.): benched
3. Rants/raves: met with the RE today and my MFM appointment is next week. Luckily already have had RPL labs done, my medical endo keeps close tabs on my thyroid and we are getting the saline ultrasound done tomorrow so most testing is finished as we start. Will take a few weeks to get genetic karyotyping back and that should line up with CD3 labs to have a decent plan in place
4. GTKY: How did you meet your DH/partner? Was it lurrvvve at first sight? Did you have a moment you "just knew"?
we met in college. I played volleyball and he played baseball. Both of our teams were very close so when he transferred in for his junior year some of his teammates brought him over to a preparty at one of the volleyball apartments to introduce him to people. Mine. One of the guys was actually my drunk make out buddy from the year before but the minute DH walked in the door, I yelled DIBS!! I was dancing on a table, he was dumb struck. We had a whiskey shooting contest in my bathroom and have been together ever since.
I I had a moment when we both just knew that involved us running through an absolute pissing rainstorm to go put the top back on my Jeep about 7 weeks after we met
Me: 30 DH: 31 Married: 11.12.11 TTC: Nov 2015 BFP #1: 1.22.16 MMC: 2.29.16 ( tetrasomy 11, partial deletion 1, XXX) D&C: 3.2.16 BFP #2: 4.14.16 CP: 4.17.16 BFP #3: 6.10.2016 CP: 6.17.2016 RE appt: 6.27.2016- saline sono all clear Chromosome karyotype- Normal both me and DH Progenity: + carrier Tay-Sachs, Gaucher's, hemachromatosis. DH: carrier Alpha 1 anti-trypsin Clomid + TI Cycle #1: pending 8.15.16 Fur mom to 2 sled masters: an Alaskan malamute and a malamute wolf hybrid half marathon running, surgery loving trauma hand and reconstructive plastic surgery PA-C PCOS, hypothyroid, MTHFR, hx of LEEP in 2006
1. Introduce yourself (if you're new): Semi new - Hi!! I am back in the game after my loss in December. Married for 6 years, have a 4.5yr old son, and ready to add on to this family since graduating with my Masters.
2. Status (WTO, TWW, Benched, etc.): I'm currently in my TWW. I plan to test next Sunday. Trying to keep the optimism up, without diving into the "what ifs?".
3. Rants/raves: Y'all. I missed the ladies on TB!
4. GTKY: How did you meet your DH/partner? Was it lurrvvve at first sight? Did you have a moment you "just knew"?: We met 9 years ago - Our moms worked together..not a set up. It just happened, and it happened well.
My goodness - how do you all keep track of everyone to tag and respond? I can't figure it out! Is there some trick I'm missing.
All I can say is @chloe97 - so sorry its your due date mine is barreling towards me and I'm super nervous. (I can only remember chloe because we were on loss board at same time)
1. Introduce yourself (if you're new): I'm Laura, trying for our 3rd kid. I got pg in December and had MMC that required 2 D&Cs (1st resulted in a perforated uterus) that was discovered at 13 weeks.
2. Status (WTO, TWW, Benched, etc.): Benched for couple more cycles for mostly personal reasons.
3. Rants/raves: Rave: I'm in NOLA right now for a conference. Kind of fun but kind of lonely. Rant: I had to re-interview for my job last week and it was so annoying. I'm fairly certain it was a formality (I'm a lecturer at a university and always hired on a one year contract). I LOVE my job so much but I also suffer from major imposter syndrome and think I'm not good enough so its causing all kinds of doubt. I *need* this job. Honestly, it saved me after my loss...
4. GTKY: How did you meet your DH/partner? Was it lurrvvve at first sight? Did you have a moment you "just knew"? We met in high school, I went to the all girls school and he went to the all guys high school. We can't remember the exact time we met... I was friends with all the girls from his middle school and we somehow became friends. We ended up at same undergrad and started dating when we were 20. I knew he was the one the summer after undergrad when we did a cross country drive to take me to graduate school.
**** TW - kids and loss mentioned **** ~~ married 8.11.07 ~~ DD1 1.16.11 ~~ DD2 1.3.14 ~~ ~~ BFP3 12.22.15 MMC 2.29.16 @ 13 weeks ~~ ~~ 2 D&Cs (3.1.16 and 3.10.16) for MMC ~~ BFP4 10.27.16 MMC 1.23.17 @ 16 weeks ~~ D&E 1.26.17 ~~
@SoonToBeMommaHowe don't feel alone...DH was my first and only one night stand as well! Hell, we're adults! In our thirties! Lucky for me he was a good ol' boy from Louisiana....or as he says, "Momma didn't raise no dummy."
@Amdogger82 my first BFP came from a -2 timing as well, so FX for you! @moofish2364 I honestly was skeptical but I love it so far! Just finished reading Room, I know Amazon had them on sale about 2 weeks ago when DH bought it. @silentp sorry for the upcoming dates. Hope you have a good time on your trip! @brooklyngirl18 I finally watched GOT and oh my goodness!! SO MUCH HAPPENED!! Now I don't want to wait till next season!! Sigh..
Married: June 2011 TTC #1: September 2015-January 2016 BFP #1: 1/25/16 - MMC Diagnosed 3/22/16 TTCAL: June 2016 BFP #2: 8/26/16 - EDD 5/9/17 Jackson born 5/6/17 at 8:36 PM - 9lbs 5oz & 21in
@ladipale I can do it no problem at first: I keep one tab open where I'm writing and the other to go back and read the posts (and double check I have the @ done correctly). As the thread goes on, it gets harder for me to keep it straight and I usually just start love titting things instead of directly talking to the person and then finally give up completely and silently cheer people on in my head.
OK, I messed up big time. It's DH's birthday this week. I thought Friday was the 30th, not July 1st. We're having the owners of the cafe/record store downstairs over for dinner on Thursday; specifically that day because I didn't want to have new people over on his birthday. But no, this whole time I've been planning I've had my dates moved about onto the wrong days. July 1st is a holiday in Canada, which means DH is home, which means his surprises can't be done without him seeing, unless I do them the day beforehand and serve them with the new friends instead of saving them for the next day when his bff is coming. His bff was also supposed to help me in secret, as it's a whole new cake decorating technique and it's definitely going to take me all day. Anyway, ooopsies.
Renee, 34 + Devon, 29 married 08/13 TTC 09/15 *TW Loss mentioned* BFP 12/15/15 EDD: 08/26/16 MMC discovered 1/25/16 at 9 +3 TTCAL 3/2016 Acupuncture 11/16 Dx December 2016: unexplained January 2017: 50 mg Clomid + TI = BFP #2 01/30/17 Please be a sticky baby! EDD: 10/15/17 Measuring ahead! 10/12/17 Ambrose born on his due date!
@carterh33 I hope you have a more normal cycle this time around! One of the things I'm most nervous about is whether or not my cycle will go back to normal. FX for you!
@reneeannemmDouble tabs, how did I never think of that?! I usually mobile bump so replies are a giant pain. But the double tab thing would make computer and iPad bumping much easier. Also, I hope you're able to get things together for DHs birthday even though it's not optimal anymore!
@ladipale Ugh, having to reinterview for your job yearly sounds awful. I'm glad it's more of a formality, but still. Also enjoy NOLA!
@Wishilivedinflorida Thank you! It actually made me feel much better to hear that. Also I really hope your body gets on board and those OPKs start to get darker soon!
@lilylover27 Thanks! I am symptom spotting like a nut! Also, we just watched the GOT season finale last night too. It was so good. I am dying for a peek of next season!
@Wishilivedinflorida People say it was the best wedding they've ever been to, but I was too tired from catering the whole thing myself to care! We married in a public park with about 30 people, my best friend officiated and we ate a picnic afterwards. It was really casual: I was barefoot and DH forgot to take his sunglasses off his head. No flowers, just herbs to decorate. Only regret was my ex-gf was my maid of honour and her (now) wife took the pictures and really only took them of herself.
Renee, 34 + Devon, 29 married 08/13 TTC 09/15 *TW Loss mentioned* BFP 12/15/15 EDD: 08/26/16 MMC discovered 1/25/16 at 9 +3 TTCAL 3/2016 Acupuncture 11/16 Dx December 2016: unexplained January 2017: 50 mg Clomid + TI = BFP #2 01/30/17 Please be a sticky baby! EDD: 10/15/17 Measuring ahead! 10/12/17 Ambrose born on his due date!
1. Introduce yourself (if you're new): Hi, I'm new to this board. I miscarried my 2nd pregnancy at around 7.5 weeks in April. I decided to take some time off at the bump, but here I am again!
2. Status (WTO, TWW, Benched, etc.): WTO- AF is pretty much over now, so..yay? Had one of those stupid long cycles with BFNs until CD 39. Awful.
3. Rants/raves: OK so does this happen to anyone frequently? People keep asking me if I want to have more kids. Well, seemed pretty obvious to me that I wanted more considering I was just pregnant. Maybe they think I've changed my mind, but I'm starting to think it's just a thinly veiled attempt at asking if I'm trying again. Regardless, the question seems kind of insensitive. I'd prefer if you just came out and asked me if I was trying again instead of couching in hypotheticals.
4. GTKY: How did you meet your DH/partner? Was it lurrvvve at first sight? Did you have a moment you "just knew"?
DH and I have known each other since we were kids (grew up in the same church) but I hated him for most of our childhood because he was homeschooled know-it-all. But then puberty hit and I was totally digging that white boy fro he was sporting. We've been together since the summer of 8th grade and were married almost 6 years ago.
@reneeannemm Your wedding sounds lovely! I'm sorry your pictures weren't all of what you wanted.
Welcome, @shepardcommander! I'm sorry people are making insensitive comments and asking questions like that. I'm assuming you told people about your last pregnancy....if so, those comments are especially cruel.
Today my hairdresser asked if DH and I wanted kids. I responded with a very awkward high-pitched "yeeeaahh." Then proceeded to say we are "working on it." Ugh.
thanks @Wishilivedinflorida! The circumstances aren't preferable, but all the same glad to be back here interacting with people in the same boat.
My DH and I were very open about our loss since he's on staff at our church, and honestly for the most part it's been a freeing experience to allow others to participate in our grief and allow us to share in their past losses. And I try to give people the benefit of the doubt when they say asinine things (I know I've put my foot in my mouth more than once), but some times, man! There was one acquaintance I had who asked if I wanted more kids very close to my loss (after I had announced it) and when I told her I had one, she was like, "oh yeah I knew that" and then proceeded to tell me how she had a MC but wasn't ever sad about it. So..basic empathy isn't a skill some people have been blessed with.
@shepardcommander - I am sorry for people's insensitive comments. It bothers me too when people make comments about do you want kids/ when are you going to have them I think people mean well but its like if we had something we wanted to share we would.
@Wishilivedinflorida - that sounds like me whenever I get my hair done, go for a massage etc. Its like im trying to relax from ttc and now I have to field ques from strangers about if I want kids, when I am going to have them and why I don't have them. Ugh! lol
Can I vent on a non-TTCAL issue?? My brother and SIL mentioned in passing about moving out of NY because it is too expensive and they want a better life for their 2 kids. Well they mentioned maybe TN but now I have my mom freaking out even though nothing is set in stone and who does it fall on? Me of course, sigh it is like I always have to be the one to be there and do everything and never leave and my brother can do whatever he wants. Sorry just needed a little mini vent because I have been consoling her non stop now for two days and it is really grating on my nerves! Proceed back to original topics lol
Married: June 2011 TTC #1: September 2015-January 2016 BFP #1: 1/25/16 - MMC Diagnosed 3/22/16 TTCAL: June 2016 BFP #2: 8/26/16 - EDD 5/9/17 Jackson born 5/6/17 at 8:36 PM - 9lbs 5oz & 21in
2. Status (WTO, TWW, Benched, etc.): Benched temporarily. Been sick with tonsillitis with a high fever, so I've not really been up to it. Hopefully, the antibiotics kick in ASAP so we can get back to it lol.
3. Rants/raves: For once, I had a wonderful weekend. My husband and I visited northern MI, got golfed and just had a VERY relaxing vacation. I actually won the vacation from my local TV station. We got to stay in a really awesome hotel, right by the water. They gave us free food all the time lol It was great.
4. GTKY: How did you meet your DH/partner? Was it lurrvvve at first sight? Did you have a moment you "just knew"? We met in my Sophomore year of college. On facebook, you used to be able to click on the bands you like, and it would show you all of the people who went to your school that liked the same thing. Well I clicked "streetlight manifesto" and saw my husband's profile at the top, looking all handsome, wearing a Coheed and Cambria tee and thought "Hm, he's really cute. I'm going to say hi" We started talking via AIM (yes this was a long time ago lol) and finally hung out. It was pretty much love at first meeting. We hit it off immediately. We liked similar things and he showed me so much new stuff. I feel like the moment that I "knew" he was the one was the first time we really hung out. It was such an awesome day and we actually kissed on the first date. It only took us 3 weeks of dating for him to tell me that he loved me. =D We've been together for almost 9 years now.
Me: 28 DH: 29 Married: 4-25-2014 TTC: March 2015 BFP: 2-18-16 Confirmed MMC: 3-31-16 D&C: 4-2-16 TTCAL: May 2016 IUI: 5/13/17-Femara and Trigger, POAS 5/27/17 BFP 5/27/17
2. Status (WTO, TWW, Benched, etc.): Benched until August
3. Rants/raves: Frustrated with all the prego women in my life Sounds so mean
4. GTKY: How did you meet your DH/partner? Was it lurrvvve at first sight? Did you have a moment you "just knew"? We met through mutual friends and YES it was complete and total love from the second our eyes met.
@lilylover27 I'm sorry, that is incredibly frustrating. I can't speak from experience on your side but I can on the other side. My MIL complains about every decision DH and I ever consider making to my SIL. I think mothers feel more comfortable talking and venting to their daughters for whatever the reason may be. That's still really frustrating though.
@CTRMommyof4 Don't worry about being frustrated with others who are pregnant. It's completely normal. I just deleted two people on Facebook yesterday because I saw their bump pics and got mad. They were people I didn't like much anyway so the decision wasn't too hard. But I have a ton of other pregnant friends or friends who recently had babies that I also get frustrated with regularly. It is hard! But don't feel bad about yourself. You're not alone.
@CTRMommyof4 it's pretty normal to be frustrated with them. I am pretty much a hermit now to avoid all of them at work because it's still painful
Me: 30 DH: 31 Married: 11.12.11 TTC: Nov 2015 BFP #1: 1.22.16 MMC: 2.29.16 ( tetrasomy 11, partial deletion 1, XXX) D&C: 3.2.16 BFP #2: 4.14.16 CP: 4.17.16 BFP #3: 6.10.2016 CP: 6.17.2016 RE appt: 6.27.2016- saline sono all clear Chromosome karyotype- Normal both me and DH Progenity: + carrier Tay-Sachs, Gaucher's, hemachromatosis. DH: carrier Alpha 1 anti-trypsin Clomid + TI Cycle #1: pending 8.15.16 Fur mom to 2 sled masters: an Alaskan malamute and a malamute wolf hybrid half marathon running, surgery loving trauma hand and reconstructive plastic surgery PA-C PCOS, hypothyroid, MTHFR, hx of LEEP in 2006
Remember all of my pregnant Facebook friends I mentioned earlier? Two of them gave birth today. TWO! So I was greeted with two lovely birth announcements in one day. I think if anything I need to step back from Facebook because I'm not sure if / when seeing things like that will get easier.
@AliciaGoose@CTRMommyof4 I "hid" a lot of people on Facebook after my loss. I couldn't stand their pregnancy or baby posts. I still cringe in public when I see pregnant people and babies. It's normal to feel that way. Somebody posted their pregnant announcement on Facebook on my birthday. It totally ruined my day. They got hidden as well lol
Honestly, I have found it's been a sweeter life without Facebook entirely. It's really made me realize who my IRL friends really are, plus I don't have to see all the baby/kid posts.
Facebook is the worst. I've deleted so many people because I couldn't handle it. The worst though was my cousin that was 6 weeks further along than I was. I mean I get you're excited about your pregnancy, but you don't need to post about it daily.
Ugh. I also had a birth announcement on fb. Two close friends and family are also pregnant. One is due a month before my due date and the other a month after. I just can't handle it.
My FB has gotten so baby-crazy. Tonight I just had a shutdown mode and declared to my husband that I didn't give a flying f*ck about anyone's kid. I am not normally that mean-spirited but I'm just in one of those funks today. And it used to be that every so often, I'd see a pic of someone's kid - now everyone seemingly has at least one. I can't scroll more than 2 or 3 posts without seeing a baby. Some days it gets to be more than others. Today's one of them.
Without wanting to sound like a complete downer, I'm so glad for this board and others similar. It reminds me I'm not alone. I can only hope to be so lucky to one day inundate unsuspecting FB friends with pics of my own babies one day. (Not TOO many, but... no promises either)
It must be the season because there are so many baby posts on my FB timeline as well! One that really got me is a woman who already had two kids, admittedly not planned, and had just got back in the relationship with the father and got KU again on accident. I mean yea that is great I am happy she had such an easy time but I am so tired of seeing things like "it was a big surprise" "we couldn't believe it" and I am sitting over here like checking my temp every morning and obsessing over SS. Ugh, I know it sounds petty but it irks me even more when I see the "we weren't even trying" posts. Also crap ton of baby showers on my FB, seems like everyone I know is due from August-October, may have to stay off FB during those months!
Married: June 2011 TTC #1: September 2015-January 2016 BFP #1: 1/25/16 - MMC Diagnosed 3/22/16 TTCAL: June 2016 BFP #2: 8/26/16 - EDD 5/9/17 Jackson born 5/6/17 at 8:36 PM - 9lbs 5oz & 21in
@lilylover27 I absolutely loathe the "we weren't even trying" comments even IRL. You obviously had unprotected sex and you're shocked that you're pregnant? Give me a break. I have one friend that accidentally got KU on the pill with near perfect usage....that's a different story but most people are like "sex gets you pregnant? Who knew?"
@Wishilivedinflorida the worst is when those people IRL then tell you that you should just wing it and see what happens. Like seriously?!? If perfect timing isn't helping I honestly don't think being naïve and just BD unprotected will work. I feel like this is going to be a hard cycle anyway. Got CH this morning earlier than usual and my parents are having a party on the 3rd and all the friends of the family are coming. I am bracing myself for the "when are you going to have a baby" "what are you waiting for" that I get every time. I think I may just snap this time and say I had a MC but thanks for asking! I am getting frustrated just thinking about it!
Married: June 2011 TTC #1: September 2015-January 2016 BFP #1: 1/25/16 - MMC Diagnosed 3/22/16 TTCAL: June 2016 BFP #2: 8/26/16 - EDD 5/9/17 Jackson born 5/6/17 at 8:36 PM - 9lbs 5oz & 21in
Oh yes, @lilylover27. That's so true as well. Because they get accidentally KU it's automatically that easy for the rest of the world, too. I'm sorry you are dreading the questions from family. If you don't want to mention the MC but still get your point across, just simply tell your family that those types of questions are rude and to stop asking, point blank. I've started doing that with people that I particularly don't care about offending and who keep prying. Sometimes I brush it off if it's an innocent question (like from my hairdresser the other day), but it depends.
@Wishilivedinflorida that's a good response. These people are also the ones who told my mom when I was KU back in February that it looked like I gained weight...as if that is ok to comment on as well. Oh the ladies also love to give me all sorts of advice without even knowing we are TTC. I may just be really late to this party and have to leave early!
Married: June 2011 TTC #1: September 2015-January 2016 BFP #1: 1/25/16 - MMC Diagnosed 3/22/16 TTCAL: June 2016 BFP #2: 8/26/16 - EDD 5/9/17 Jackson born 5/6/17 at 8:36 PM - 9lbs 5oz & 21in
I agree I feel so much better when I take breaks from facebook but its hard to maintain because it just sucks you back in. @dubcompanion - I can't go through facebook without seeing birth announcements, gender reveals, pregnancy or baby pics - its seriously nuts! It makes me feel so bitter looking at them glad I am not alone!
@ lilylover27 & @Wishilivedinflorida - I agree people who say just relax and it will happen make me want to scream. We tried ntnp at first and it didn't happen and it took a while to happen with carefully planned BDing. And it really is science if you don't BD during your FW you really have 0 chance of getting KU. I hate people's annoying ques of when are you guys going to have kids? I try to brush it aside and tmake light of it - but it is hurtful. And really can ruin a party for me. It really is just a ques you should never ask anyone.
@TScalei Sometimes it's not even just big announcements. It's TimeHop and nostalgia photos of people's kids like, "Remember when he was THIS little???" And it's like... sigh... It's SO hard to not be critical of it, because I just simply am not in that place in life yet. I'm SURE it's absolutely amazing to think of how much your baby has grown, and I'm so thankful I have so many friends/peers that are proud, happy parents. I'd rather get that sense than the opposite. But it's still one more reason I have to see baby pics.
I feel like such a grump on FB lately. I think it's time to take a break. Lately, too, I've had one friend request after another of coworkers. (This is what I get for friend-ing those two or three I actually wanted to connect with.) So that might also be why there's a sudden inundation of baby photos - that many more young families. Teachers like to procreate.
My chart is super stressing me out this month. I know that's a really stupid thing considering this is my first cycle post loss and it was bound to be a mess. But mostly what's bothering me is my post O temps. They don't seem to be that high. Now granted my coverline is much much higher than it normally is cause I had wonky up and down temps in the beginning of my cycle this month. But when I compare these post O temps to my previous post O temps they seem a tad lower. I wish I could blame it on air conditioning but honestly in the winter it was just as cold in my room.
I'm stressing myself out because when I was KU, my progesterone was incredibly low and I was told my body wouldn't support the pregnancy. I'm getting CD21 testing next month when we start trying again to see if there's a problem, but I was REALLY hoping it wasn't a problem and that my previous pregnancy just wasn't viable and the low progesterone was my bodies way of saying that. Now with these low post O temps I'm starting to freak myself out and thinking more that maybe I do have a problem.
I am also starting to feel my hypochondria come back, and I haven't had to deal with it in over a year (which is an impressive record for me). I stayed at a friends house where it was hot two nights ago and actually woke up with a bit of a fever but no symptoms of being sick. I felt weak and kind of out of it in the morning but then things went back to normal and I'm fine today. But my brain is not fine in terms of letting it go and thinking it doesn't signify something else (while also finding additional symptoms to justify these feelings).
Re: *TTCAL Check-In Week of June 27*
@brooklyngirl18 I love that you were like "finally!" lol When I told friends my DH and I were dating, all of them were like "DUH. FINALLY. Took you guys long enough."
3. Rave: we installed a patio two weekends ago and we finally bought sod to repair the grass we tore up and I have to say for a husband and wife DIY paver patio it looks great! DH did a great job and worked really hard!
Rant: our dog has been limping around and not wanting to use his left back leg so we took him to the vet today. Theyre suspecting a tear in one of his knee ligaments and will need surgery to repair. This has been just a real crap shoot of a year. They say bad things come in threes so I'm hoping our dog needing expensive surgery is number three. 1. Car accident 2. Miscarriage 3. Dog surgery? Guess we'll see.
4. So many of you have such adorable meeting stories! I worked with DHs sister in law for a few months and she had just had a baby so he came to her house the same time I was there to meet his new niece. Long story short he considers flirting to be mopping up his spilled coffee with my flip flops and then messaging me on Facebook haha obviously it worked
im still thinking of everyone and wishing everyone strength as you power through another week. We are strong, stronger than anyone knows!
2. CD23 and either WTO still or just did this weekend and haven't had a temp shift yet. I really wish that 1)I ovulated regularly and 2)I actually knew my body so I knew what the heck was going on with it
3. Rave - Had a great weekend up north with my family which included a horseshoe tournament and my nephews bday party.
Rant - see #2
4. When I read all these cute and innocent high school sweetheart/long time besties stories I hesitate to share mine, lol. Ah well, you guys won't mind
DH was a grad assistant football coach and the shot clock keeper during my college basketball games the year I was in grad school. He was actually dating one of my teammates and I was hanging out with one of his football coach buddies. Fast forward four years and he's up from Florida visiting one of our mutual friends who asked me to come up and join her as she showed him the local night life. Numerous beer pong games and bar hops later the three of us in our drunken stupor planned a vacation where my girlfriend and I would go visit him in Florida four months later to go to a football game (he worked in the NFL at the time). Welp that night ended with what I thought was my very first "one night stand" but then we followed through on that vacation and we really hit it off when I stayed at his apartment for the week. We dated long distance for about a year and then I moved 1500 miles to be with him...the second I decided without hesitation to quit my job, pick up my life and move for a man was exactly when I knew it was gonna be forever. We were engaged a year later, married the year after that and will be celebrating our third anniversary next week
Married 7/13
TTC #1 since 10/13
BFP 2/4/15, MC twin boys at 18w3d 5/15
IUI #1 2/25/16
@SoonToBeMommaHowe That's so romantic that you moved 1500 miles to be with DH!! Happy Early Anniversary!
This GTKY question has made me really sappy all day today. Luckily, DH and I both had a day off!
@lilylover27 I'm glad you love your Kindle! I'm slowly converting to e-reader myself.
@reneeannemm I'm sorry you had to deal with the gastritis pain! It is awful. My doc thinks I have an ulcer or severe reflux and the pain is real. Your story about meeting DH sounds sweet and magical. I'm sure your wedding was amazing, given your propensity for event planning and hosting!
@roper2617 Fx anyway for this cycle!
@AliciaGoose Try not to beat yourself up over possible timing issues. You're doing the best you can.
@allysondunn2 Hope your TWW remains relaxing and zen!
@dubcompanion I'm sorry about your friend's behavior. I keep saying there is something about being 30...you realize many of the errs of your 20 something year old ways. Some people don't get it. I hope your friend is able to realize the real problem that is happening. Also, I too met my DH in 9th grade!
@TScalei The "feeling comfortable" part of a relationship is so important!
@roxgibbons I've got all my things crossed for this IUI cycle for you!
@bornready I'm praying for a good day 5 for you!
@amberruka I hope your endocrine stuff gets worked out soon. No AF is a double-edged sword...there are good and bad parts to it for sure!
@MooFish2364 Happy anniversary!
@Amdogger82 Yay for an awesome Monday! Awesome Monday's are so hard to come by! I would also pee on so many sticks with -2 timing as well.
@carterh33 I'm glad you're finding support here. It's what we are all about. It sucks being here, but at least we are all in good company!
@brooklyngirl18 Congrats to DH! Such a wonderful accomplishment!
@iceandsnowflakes29 Best first date story I've heard in a long time!
@cmmiller531 I'm sorry to hear about your pup. I admire that you and DH did DIY pavers. That's such a difficult thing to do!
@SoonToBeMommaHowe I hope your cycle straightens itself out soon and O is very apparent one way or another!
::whew that was a lot of tagging...apologies if I missed anyone!::
AFM:
2. WTO, I think. I've not been well and think my cycle got thrown off. I'm using OPKs for the first time so now I think it's actually confusing me more. Dang $0.30 Wondfos. I'll probably be whining over on WTO for a little while yet.
3. Rants/raves: I'm starting to feel better from whatever GI thing I have is, so much so that we've decided to sorta try this cycle instead of bench ourselves. If aforementioned O would get with the program, I would love to start the TWW crazies.
4. GTKY: How did you meet your DH/partner? Was it lurrvvve at first sight? Did you have a moment you "just knew"?
Met and started dating DH in high school. Had some brief off and on periods while we were too immature to realize we had something amazing. He is truly my best friend. Got engaged last year of college and married soon after. Boring, I know, but there's something special about growing up with your partner during adolescence. We've officially known each other half of our lives!
2. Status (WTO, TWW, Benched, etc.): benched
3. Rants/raves: met with the RE today and my MFM appointment is next week. Luckily already have had RPL labs done, my medical endo keeps close tabs on my thyroid and we are getting the saline ultrasound done tomorrow so most testing is finished as we start. Will take a few weeks to get genetic karyotyping back and that should line up with CD3 labs to have a decent plan in place
4. GTKY: How did you meet your DH/partner? Was it lurrvvve at first sight? Did you have a moment you "just knew"?
we met in college. I played volleyball and he played baseball. Both of our teams were very close so when he transferred in for his junior year some of his teammates brought him over to a preparty at one of the volleyball apartments to introduce him to people. Mine. One of the guys was actually my drunk make out buddy from the year before but the minute DH walked in the door, I yelled DIBS!! I was dancing on a table, he was dumb struck. We had a whiskey shooting contest in my bathroom and have been together ever since.
I I had a moment when we both just knew that involved us running through an absolute pissing rainstorm to go put the top back on my Jeep about 7 weeks after we met
Married: 11.12.11
TTC: Nov 2015
BFP #1: 1.22.16 MMC: 2.29.16 ( tetrasomy 11, partial deletion 1, XXX)
D&C: 3.2.16
BFP #2: 4.14.16 CP: 4.17.16
BFP #3: 6.10.2016 CP: 6.17.2016
RE appt: 6.27.2016- saline sono all clear
Chromosome karyotype- Normal both me and DH
Progenity: + carrier Tay-Sachs, Gaucher's, hemachromatosis. DH: carrier Alpha 1 anti-trypsin
Clomid + TI Cycle #1: pending 8.15.16
Fur mom to 2 sled masters: an Alaskan malamute and a malamute wolf hybrid
half marathon running, surgery loving trauma hand and reconstructive plastic surgery PA-C
PCOS, hypothyroid, MTHFR, hx of LEEP in 2006
2. Status (WTO, TWW, Benched, etc.): I'm currently in my TWW. I plan to test next Sunday. Trying to keep the optimism up, without diving into the "what ifs?".
3. Rants/raves: Y'all. I missed the ladies on TB!
4. GTKY: How did you meet your DH/partner? Was it lurrvvve at first sight? Did you have a moment you "just knew"?: We met 9 years ago - Our moms worked together..not a set up. It just happened, and it happened well.
All I can say is @chloe97 - so sorry its your due date
1. Introduce yourself (if you're new): I'm Laura, trying for our 3rd kid. I got pg in December and had MMC that required 2 D&Cs (1st resulted in a perforated uterus) that was discovered at 13 weeks.
2. Status (WTO, TWW, Benched, etc.): Benched for couple more cycles for mostly personal reasons.
3. Rants/raves: Rave: I'm in NOLA right now for a conference. Kind of fun but kind of lonely. Rant: I had to re-interview for my job last week and it was so annoying. I'm fairly certain it was a formality (I'm a lecturer at a university and always hired on a one year contract). I LOVE my job so much but I also suffer from major imposter syndrome and think I'm not good enough so its causing all kinds of doubt. I *need* this job. Honestly, it saved me after my loss...
4. GTKY: How did you meet your DH/partner? Was it lurrvvve at first sight? Did you have a moment you "just knew"?
We met in high school, I went to the all girls school and he went to the all guys high school. We can't remember the exact time we met... I was friends with all the girls from his middle school and we somehow became friends.
We ended up at same undergrad and started dating when we were 20. I knew he was the one the summer after undergrad when we did a cross country drive to take me to graduate school.
~~ married 8.11.07
~~ DD1 1.16.11 ~~ DD2 1.3.14 ~~
~~ BFP3 12.22.15 MMC 2.29.16 @ 13 weeks ~~
~~ 2 D&Cs (3.1.16 and 3.10.16) for MMC
~~ BFP4 10.27.16 MMC 1.23.17 @ 16 weeks ~~ D&E 1.26.17 ~~
CP 1/25/16 4.5 weeks, developed Graves' disease
@moofish2364 I honestly was skeptical but I love it so far! Just finished reading Room, I know Amazon had them on sale about 2 weeks ago when DH bought it.
@silentp sorry for the upcoming dates. Hope you have a good time on your trip!
@brooklyngirl18 I finally watched GOT and oh my goodness!! SO MUCH HAPPENED!! Now I don't want to wait till next season!! Sigh..
TTC #1: September 2015-January 2016
BFP #1: 1/25/16 - MMC Diagnosed 3/22/16
TTCAL: June 2016
BFP #2: 8/26/16 - EDD 5/9/17
Jackson born 5/6/17 at 8:36 PM - 9lbs 5oz & 21in
OK, I messed up big time. It's DH's birthday this week. I thought Friday was the 30th, not July 1st. We're having the owners of the cafe/record store downstairs over for dinner on Thursday; specifically that day because I didn't want to have new people over on his birthday. But no, this whole time I've been planning I've had my dates moved about onto the wrong days. July 1st is a holiday in Canada, which means DH is home, which means his surprises can't be done without him seeing, unless I do them the day beforehand and serve them with the new friends instead of saving them for the next day when his bff is coming. His bff was also supposed to help me in secret, as it's a whole new cake decorating technique and it's definitely going to take me all day. Anyway, ooopsies.
TTC 09/15
*TW Loss mentioned*
BFP 12/15/15 EDD: 08/26/16
MMC discovered 1/25/16 at 9 +3
TTCAL 3/2016
Acupuncture 11/16
Dx December 2016: unexplained
January 2017: 50 mg Clomid + TI =
BFP #2 01/30/17 Please be a sticky baby!
EDD: 10/15/17 Measuring ahead! 10/12/17
Ambrose born on his due date!
@cmmiller531 Come on peak! I hate that wait!
@brooklyngirl18 Congratulations to your DH!
@carterh33 I hope you have a more normal cycle this time around! One of the things I'm most nervous about is whether or not my cycle will go back to normal. FX for you!
@reneeannemmDouble tabs, how did I never think of that?! I usually mobile bump so replies are a giant pain. But the double tab thing would make computer and iPad bumping much easier. Also, I hope you're able to get things together for DHs birthday even though it's not optimal anymore!
@ladipale Ugh, having to reinterview for your job yearly sounds awful. I'm glad it's more of a formality, but still. Also enjoy NOLA!
@HookEmNelson The what ifs are what get me as well
@Wishilivedinflorida Thank you! It actually made me feel much better to hear that. Also I really hope your body gets on board and those OPKs start to get darker soon!
Married: November 2015
TTC#1: January 2016
BFP: 5/02/16 - MC: 5/27/16
TTC 09/15
*TW Loss mentioned*
BFP 12/15/15 EDD: 08/26/16
MMC discovered 1/25/16 at 9 +3
TTCAL 3/2016
Acupuncture 11/16
Dx December 2016: unexplained
January 2017: 50 mg Clomid + TI =
BFP #2 01/30/17 Please be a sticky baby!
EDD: 10/15/17 Measuring ahead! 10/12/17
Ambrose born on his due date!
2. Status (WTO, TWW, Benched, etc.): WTO- AF is pretty much over now, so..yay? Had one of those stupid long cycles with BFNs until CD 39. Awful.
3. Rants/raves: OK so does this happen to anyone frequently? People keep asking me if I want to have more kids. Well, seemed pretty obvious to me that I wanted more considering I was just pregnant. Maybe they think I've changed my mind, but I'm starting to think it's just a thinly veiled attempt at asking if I'm trying again. Regardless, the question seems kind of insensitive. I'd prefer if you just came out and asked me if I was trying again instead of couching in hypotheticals.
4. GTKY: How did you meet your DH/partner? Was it lurrvvve at first sight? Did you have a moment you "just knew"?
DH and I have known each other since we were kids (grew up in the same church) but I hated him for most of our childhood because he was homeschooled know-it-all. But then puberty hit and I was totally digging that white boy fro he was sporting. We've been together since the summer of 8th grade and were married almost 6 years ago.
Welcome, @shepardcommander! I'm sorry people are making insensitive comments and asking questions like that. I'm assuming you told people about your last pregnancy....if so, those comments are especially cruel.
Today my hairdresser asked if DH and I wanted kids. I responded with a very awkward high-pitched "yeeeaahh." Then proceeded to say we are "working on it." Ugh.
My DH and I were very open about our loss since he's on staff at our church, and honestly for the most part it's been a freeing experience to allow others to participate in our grief and allow us to share in their past losses. And I try to give people the benefit of the doubt when they say asinine things (I know I've put my foot in my mouth more than once), but some times, man!
There was one acquaintance I had who asked if I wanted more kids very close to my loss (after I had announced it) and when I told her I had one, she was like, "oh yeah I knew that" and then proceeded to tell me how she had a MC but wasn't ever sad about it.
So..basic empathy isn't a skill some people have been blessed with.
@Wishilivedinflorida - that sounds like me whenever I get my hair done, go for a massage etc. Its like im trying to relax from ttc and now I have to field ques from strangers about if I want kids, when I am going to have them and why I don't have them. Ugh! lol
TTC #1: September 2015-January 2016
BFP #1: 1/25/16 - MMC Diagnosed 3/22/16
TTCAL: June 2016
BFP #2: 8/26/16 - EDD 5/9/17
Jackson born 5/6/17 at 8:36 PM - 9lbs 5oz & 21in
2. Status (WTO, TWW, Benched, etc.): Benched temporarily. Been sick with tonsillitis with a high fever, so I've not really been up to it. Hopefully, the antibiotics kick in ASAP so we can get back to it lol.
3. Rants/raves: For once, I had a wonderful weekend. My husband and I visited northern MI, got golfed and just had a VERY relaxing vacation. I actually won the vacation from my local TV station. We got to stay in a really awesome hotel, right by the water. They gave us free food all the time lol It was great.
4. GTKY: How did you meet your DH/partner? Was it lurrvvve at first sight? Did you have a moment you "just knew"? We met in my Sophomore year of college. On facebook, you used to be able to click on the bands you like, and it would show you all of the people who went to your school that liked the same thing. Well I clicked "streetlight manifesto" and saw my husband's profile at the top, looking all handsome, wearing a Coheed and Cambria tee and thought "Hm, he's really cute. I'm going to say hi" We started talking via AIM (yes this was a long time ago lol) and finally hung out. It was pretty much love at first meeting. We hit it off immediately. We liked similar things and he showed me so much new stuff. I feel like the moment that I "knew" he was the one was the first time we really hung out. It was such an awesome day and we actually kissed on the first date. It only took us 3 weeks of dating for him to tell me that he loved me. =D We've been together for almost 9 years now.
Married: 4-25-2014
TTC: March 2015
BFP: 2-18-16
Confirmed MMC: 3-31-16
D&C: 4-2-16
TTCAL: May 2016
IUI: 5/13/17-Femara and Trigger, POAS 5/27/17 BFP 5/27/17
3. Rants/raves: Frustrated with all the prego women in my life
4. GTKY: How did you meet your DH/partner? Was it lurrvvve at first sight? Did you have a moment you "just knew"? We met through mutual friends and YES it was complete and total love from the second our eyes met.
@CTRMommyof4 Don't worry about being frustrated with others who are pregnant. It's completely normal. I just deleted two people on Facebook yesterday because I saw their bump pics and got mad. They were people I didn't like much anyway so the decision wasn't too hard. But I have a ton of other pregnant friends or friends who recently had babies that I also get frustrated with regularly. It is hard! But don't feel bad about yourself. You're not alone.
Married: November 2015
TTC#1: January 2016
BFP: 5/02/16 - MC: 5/27/16
Married: 11.12.11
TTC: Nov 2015
BFP #1: 1.22.16 MMC: 2.29.16 ( tetrasomy 11, partial deletion 1, XXX)
D&C: 3.2.16
BFP #2: 4.14.16 CP: 4.17.16
BFP #3: 6.10.2016 CP: 6.17.2016
RE appt: 6.27.2016- saline sono all clear
Chromosome karyotype- Normal both me and DH
Progenity: + carrier Tay-Sachs, Gaucher's, hemachromatosis. DH: carrier Alpha 1 anti-trypsin
Clomid + TI Cycle #1: pending 8.15.16
Fur mom to 2 sled masters: an Alaskan malamute and a malamute wolf hybrid
half marathon running, surgery loving trauma hand and reconstructive plastic surgery PA-C
PCOS, hypothyroid, MTHFR, hx of LEEP in 2006
Married: November 2015
TTC#1: January 2016
BFP: 5/02/16 - MC: 5/27/16
Me: 26 DH: 28
TTC #1 since 06/2014
BFP #1 09/23/15. MMC discovered 11/24/2015
BFP #2 08/24/16 EDD 05/08/17
Without wanting to sound like a complete downer, I'm so glad for this board and others similar. It reminds me I'm not alone.
TTC #1: September 2015-January 2016
BFP #1: 1/25/16 - MMC Diagnosed 3/22/16
TTCAL: June 2016
BFP #2: 8/26/16 - EDD 5/9/17
Jackson born 5/6/17 at 8:36 PM - 9lbs 5oz & 21in
TTC #1: September 2015-January 2016
BFP #1: 1/25/16 - MMC Diagnosed 3/22/16
TTCAL: June 2016
BFP #2: 8/26/16 - EDD 5/9/17
Jackson born 5/6/17 at 8:36 PM - 9lbs 5oz & 21in
TTC #1: September 2015-January 2016
BFP #1: 1/25/16 - MMC Diagnosed 3/22/16
TTCAL: June 2016
BFP #2: 8/26/16 - EDD 5/9/17
Jackson born 5/6/17 at 8:36 PM - 9lbs 5oz & 21in
@Wishilivedinflorida LOL at the john stewart gif! seems like a lot of people need a refresher on the birds and bees.
Married 10/12
DS 11/14
Ectopic 2/16
PCOS/Ovulation Dysfunction 11/16
IUI x 3- BFN
Laparoscopy 3/17 Endo and tubal damage
IVF- 4/17- 40 eggs retrieved, 10 blasts, 7 pgs tested embryos
FET- 6/17- BFP!
Due Feb 15, 2017
@ lilylover27 & @Wishilivedinflorida - I agree people who say just relax and it will happen make me want to scream. We tried ntnp at first and it didn't happen and it took a while to happen with carefully planned BDing. And it really is science if you don't BD during your FW you really have 0 chance of getting KU.
I hate people's annoying ques of when are you guys going to have kids? I try to brush it aside and tmake light of it - but it is hurtful. And really can ruin a party for me. It really is just a ques you should never ask anyone.
I feel like such a grump on FB lately. I think it's time to take a break. Lately, too, I've had one friend request after another of coworkers. (This is what I get for friend-ing those two or three I actually wanted to connect with.) So that might also be why there's a sudden inundation of baby photos - that many more young families. Teachers like to procreate.
My chart is super stressing me out this month. I know that's a really stupid thing considering this is my first cycle post loss and it was bound to be a mess. But mostly what's bothering me is my post O temps. They don't seem to be that high. Now granted my coverline is much much higher than it normally is cause I had wonky up and down temps in the beginning of my cycle this month. But when I compare these post O temps to my previous post O temps they seem a tad lower. I wish I could blame it on air conditioning but honestly in the winter it was just as cold in my room.
I'm stressing myself out because when I was KU, my progesterone was incredibly low and I was told my body wouldn't support the pregnancy. I'm getting CD21 testing next month when we start trying again to see if there's a problem, but I was REALLY hoping it wasn't a problem and that my previous pregnancy just wasn't viable and the low progesterone was my bodies way of saying that. Now with these low post O temps I'm starting to freak myself out and thinking more that maybe I do have a problem.
I am also starting to feel my hypochondria come back, and I haven't had to deal with it in over a year (which is an impressive record for me). I stayed at a friends house where it was hot two nights ago and actually woke up with a bit of a fever but no symptoms of being sick. I felt weak and kind of out of it in the morning but then things went back to normal and I'm fine today. But my brain is not fine in terms of letting it go and thinking it doesn't signify something else (while also finding additional symptoms to justify these feelings).
Married: November 2015
TTC#1: January 2016
BFP: 5/02/16 - MC: 5/27/16