Eh, I think she is just going for a trifecta of closing down threads.
Also, I lurked for a long time and wish I had joined in sooner. When I did decide to participate, it was already VERY apparent to me how this group likes to keep the board and the tone of the July group as a whole. It was easy to join in and no one has ever made me feel uncomfortable. I am betting there are some lurkers who say lurkers because they recognize there is a little more snark than other months and they don't want to participate in it but DO want to read stories and symptoms of their moms due around the same time as them. Perfectly alright! Join in or don't.
My FFFC: I think we are the best month on the bump and bet some other ladies who lurk from other months wish their boards were as organized as ours and didn't put up with special snowflake threads.
I have to tell you that you are ridiculous. I am both a healthcare worker, and the mother of a child with autism, and have been treated with nothing but respect here. I have no idea what autism acceptance has to do with this board.
I only post occasionally because my life is so crazy hectic right now, but I have always been welcomed.
Reason being I am not just here for myself, but to also be part of a community. I want to contribute to help others too, not just put my own thoughts out there.
The problem is not that new people are not accepted, it's that a lot of new people don't feel the need to get to know any one here and only want to post for their own benefit, they write a post and run.
As someone who is First Nation I find your comments @JMelody02 highly offensive and completely bigoted. You know absolutely nothing about being excluded because of not being an "American".
It's the same failed logic as not being considered an American because you weren't born in the US. I can't post bc I didn't from day 1 so I don't belong and am an outcast. I am a July Mom so therefore I meet the criteria as far as the Bump guidelines are concerned. Can't we all just be more accepting of each other and therefore model it for our children?
Step 1). LURK
Step 2). Comment in some of the daily threads and offer support to others
Step 3). Gain acceptance over time as more people start to recognize you as someone that contributes and is not a total rando.
You forgot the now-necessary addition of step 1a: apologize for not introducing yourself and ignoring the board's organization guidelines. Owning your mistakes goes a long way. Lots of newbs have made faux pas, the ones that are polite and humble are generally well received.
Circling back around to FFFC: I don't like when people say "kiddos." My mother does and ick! No thank you. I do not have "kiddos," I have kids or children.
My fffc: I think that people who assume that a group of women who have pretty much been together for the last 9ish months are "rude" and such, are childish. I also think that these childish adults need to learn the difference between actually being an adult, and being a little kid who is playing dress up in mommy's clothes (for lack of a better analogy). I also think that maybe you should follow the norm of the boards and understand that a lot of these women have been here for others when they've been having issues themselves.
@HenchBytch I'm jealous. I keep having 'is that just a random cramp or do I have to poop?' moments that result in me just chillin on the toilet because I'm afraid I might poop myself.
@HenchBytch I'm jealous. I keep having 'is that just a random cramp or do I have to poop?' moments that result in me just chillin on the toilet because I'm afraid I might poop myself.
I mean, I pooped but there was nothing satisfying about it. Cue the never-ending wipe meme.
FFFC: My lunch today was a smores frap and a chocolate chip muffin. I'm in my last 10 days of eating whatever the hell I want clearly. And when someone eye balled me in the mall for my frozen coffee I contemplated telling them that caffeines ok now because I already know she has three arms but I chickened out.
@HenchBytch I'm jealous. I keep having 'is that just a random cramp or do I have to poop?' moments that result in me just chillin on the toilet because I'm afraid I might poop myself.
I am playing "poop, contraction, or cramp" right now as well. This symptom watching is killing me.
@HenchBytch I'm jealous. I keep having 'is that just a random cramp or do I have to poop?' moments that result in me just chillin on the toilet because I'm afraid I might poop myself.
I mean, I pooped but there was nothing satisfying about it. Cue the never-ending wipe meme.
That's why I buy my TP at Costco.
My FFFC is that I have been hardcore lurking the May BMB in the last week or so... Those ladies are a hilarious wealth of PP knowledge. And the snark is on point.
I'm also into eating whatever the heck I want. If that means dipping fries in my frosty, eating half a box of Lucky Charms, dipping celery in chocolate or having an ice cap here and there I'm gunna eat that sh!t. Also to people who stare/judge ... I carried a carton of milk and some strawberries out of the grocery store the other day and the cashier said she can have someone help me carry it out. B!tch, do I look crippled?? Let me do my thing without out your judgy eyes.
FFFC: When my vagina gets sandy I like to join groups where I'm obviously unwelcome and be an idiotic ¢un†! Too stupid to bump, too sanctimommy to die! #punctuationisfortheweak
My FFFC: today was my last day at work so I drove over there dropped off my client files, work computer, and dropped the mike. I know it's not 5:30 yet but BYYYYYYEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEE
QBF: no no. Not sub-par. I feel like we would all be one big happy snark family. I started lurking some of their PP threads when I was looking for EP guidance, the snark is just a nice bonus.
I feel the need to remind everyone about the squatty potty. Use this technique and you'll quickly find out whether it's poop or contractions. I don't even have the squatty potty itself, I use my kid's stepstool or just stack up a few boxes of whatever's in that bathroom (tampons, etc). It does wonders, ladies. Tell your husbands, too.
I'm really bummed I missed the chance to use the lady gaga gif where she's eating popcorn and makes the comment to JT and Andy Samburg about them still being in her bed.
@mandyjulie Our bathroom trash can has a lid and it's awesome for the same purpose! Seriously any old box or container that gets your feet up reallllllly helps with this!
Re: FFFC
Also, I lurked for a long time and wish I had joined in sooner. When I did decide to participate, it was already VERY apparent to me how this group likes to keep the board and the tone of the July group as a whole. It was easy to join in and no one has ever made me feel uncomfortable. I am betting there are some lurkers who say lurkers because they recognize there is a little more snark than other months and they don't want to participate in it but DO want to read stories and symptoms of their moms due around the same time as them. Perfectly alright! Join in or don't.
My FFFC: I think we are the best month on the bump and bet some other ladies who lurk from other months wish their boards were as organized as ours and didn't put up with special snowflake threads.
I only post occasionally because my life is so crazy hectic right now, but I have always been welcomed.
Reason being I am not just here for myself, but to also be part of a community. I want to contribute to help others too, not just put my own thoughts out there.
The problem is not that new people are not accepted, it's that a lot of new people don't feel the need to get to know any one here and only want to post for their own benefit, they write a post and run.
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You forgot the now-necessary addition of step 1a: apologize for not introducing yourself and ignoring the board's organization guidelines. Owning your mistakes goes a long way. Lots of newbs have made faux pas, the ones that are polite and humble are generally well received.
It's just sad to see someone purposefully trying to rile up the ladies on the bored. Why bother at this stage, really?
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Married May 16th 2015
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Married May 16th 2015
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I hate stranger stares !
That's why I buy my TP at Costco.
My FFFC is that I have been hardcore lurking the May BMB in the last week or so... Those ladies are a hilarious wealth of PP knowledge. And the snark is on point.
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Married May 16th 2015
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*edit: because my spelling is shit
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