It's Friday.. and I'm just not really looking forward to the weekend. It's another weekend of my husband working the whole time and me trying to find things to do with my 1.5 year old. It's going to be gorgeous out, but beaches will be insanely busy because of it and I just don't see the fun in chasing a toddler on a crowded beach. We will surely play outside a lot, and I love him to pieces, he lights up my entire world - but I still find it rather lonely to be without adult interaction for a couple days.
Things always turn out better than I'm expecting, but dreading weekends is a real bummer.
There is way too much white knighting happening lately on our very snark-free BMB. I'm so over it. If you're going to defend some drive-by newbie that is insulting all of us, then maybe you should move along yourself.
I'll bite! I am not a fan of the maternity photos where mom is naked! I think pregnancy is beautiful (most of the time) and I have seen some gorgeous pics of women while pregnant but I just am not a fan of the I covered up my breasts so let's pretend like this is appropriate to display my naked body pictures! It makes me super uncomfortable when people display said pictures in their home for all to see! Guess I am just more modest than some!
Mine is a FFFC... with everything going on (working on nursery, DH taking summer classes, a teething toddler) finding time for sex has been hard. Last Friday night, SIL watched DD at her house so DH and I could paint the nursery. We went straight home and had sex before we painted. DD got picked up kind of late, but so worth it.
FFFC I am a serious lurker of the other boards and I love how snarky they are. I think its June and July that have like turf wars going on, it cracks me up
But, I do like our board I've asked a lot of "silly" questions and I appreciate the responses.
@Megan324 I haven't been doing much lurking, but I love snark, too. I love, love our board, but there are times I miss the snark from my first board. I may go check out this turf war.
@Megan324 I haven't been doing much lurking, but I love snark, too. I love, love our board, but there are times I miss the snark from my first board. I may go check out this turf war.
100% this. Love this board, it's really peaceful and calm. My last board was so snarky but it was lively and entertaining and fun in a different way. Both are equally awesome.
camichael84 I find the only way sex gets done is if I do it first. While it may not be romantic to say lets do this now before I start on other stuff. If I wait till after it never happens!
Me: 32 DH: 31
TTC #2 since January 2018
Baby #1 DD Born 8/25/2016 BFP: 8/11/18 Due: 4/26/18
DH is having people over today to brew beer...and we fly out tomorrow morning at 5:30 for a ten day trip...I don't really like the guys he invited, and I am very frustrated he picked the day before a trip to host and do a day-long, messy activity. Plus, I'll end up getting stuck with taking care of the smoker (ribs for everyone) and sides. I guess the confession part is that I'm faking being okay with it, but will likely hide inside in the air con and be grumpy all day!
I'll bite! I am not a fan of the maternity photos where mom is naked! I think pregnancy is beautiful (most of the time) and I have seen some gorgeous pics of women while pregnant but I just am not a fan of the I covered up my breasts so let's pretend like this is appropriate to display my naked body pictures! It makes me super uncomfortable when people display said pictures in their home for all to see! Guess I am just more modest than some!
Stemming from this: I really don't care if people want to do a nakey shoot. What bothers me is when women choose to do a nude maternity shoot & then let the photographer edit the crap out of them to make them look PERFECT. I understand editing to fix lighting, background, etc., but my gosh. When you smooth every trace of cellulite, get rid of the stretch marks, perk up the boobs, erase every body hair...you're not you. You look like a damn robot. If you want to capture your inner pregnant goddess, capture the real thing. (I'd like to show examples but I think it would be frowned upon if I googled "nude maternity shoot" at work!)
In other news, my FFC is that I bought a cute (non maternity) shirt for post baby but the sizing runs way small & I know it will not fit, so I gifted it to a friend for her birthday. ¯\_(ツ)_/¯
There is way too much white knighting happening lately on our very snark-free BMB. I'm so over it. If you're going to defend some drive-by newbie that is insulting all of us, then maybe you should move along yourself.
There is way too much white knighting happening lately on our very snark-free BMB. I'm so over it. If you're going to defend some drive-by newbie that is insulting all of us, then maybe you should move along yourself.
I feel like I'm missing something....
Yup missing it too, but maybe I just haven't looked at the threads where this applies? @TheTamedShrew
@PoodleDoodleOoo@LakeR2014 On a "weighty" thread, we had a newbie post a bit insensitively, she was called out (fairly gently, I thought!), and a regular (or at least a name I recognized) pulled a GBCB. It was all a bit weird, especially for this board!
@PoodleDoodleOoo@LakeR2014 On a "weighty" thread, we had a newbie post a bit insensitively, she was called out (fairly gently, I thought!), and a regular (or at least a name I recognized) pulled a GBCB. It was all a bit weird, especially for this board!
@Jabreen How did I forget that thread?! Oy! Thanks for the update.
My FFFC: My mom told me when I first got pregnant that she wanted to do a shower for me...I pushed back because it's our 2nd but she insisted, so I said ok...last week, she told me she didn't feel like doing it anymore (she's a flake), and I'm actually a little bummed....not telling anyone but you guys though!
Another FFFC inspired by @neolani42 (I totally get you). We are throwing a Baby-Q next weekend and insisted on no gifts just a celebration on us. We made a registry anyway as a checklist and for completion discounts. I still check it all the time even though no one knows about it, and get a little bummed that nothing has been bought off of it. I'm gift-grabby, I know. We really don't need much for #2, I just LOVE opening gifts.
My UO is I can't get on board with the loud ass lulu roe leggings... Just can't!
FFFC- I may or may not have woke up a couple days this week laying on my back and it felt glorious but I quickly rolled onto my side. Also, DH refuses to have sex with me for whatever reason and I'm about to just lay spread eagle on our bed and until he does something about it. I want sex damnit!
My FFFC is that I'm at work, Thursday is my last day (I'm a teacher-librarian). We had to pack the entire library because they're redoing the floors this summer. The library is almost packed, report cards are done, I have about a week to go and I want to do NOTHING. I have personal stuff I could be working on but I have zero motivation
Me: 30 | DH: 32 Together since 2008 | Married 2012 TTC #1 October 2014 BFP #1 October 2014 | CP #1 October 2014 BFP #2 November 2014 | CP #2 December 2014 BFP #3 June 2015 | MMC at 16 weeks September 2015 BFP #4 January 2016 | EDD September 12, 2016 | Baby Ducks born September 5, 2016
This is probably a mix of UO and FFFC... but I can't wait for all this thick pregnancy hair to fall out postpartum. It's getting outta control!!
(I've never experienced it myself, but I read somewhere that your hair essentially stops shedding in pregnancy, and then it starts shedding like crazy postpartum and it sounds like others have had similar experiences. Either way, I'm sick of my super thick and hot hair and ready for my normal hair to return).
@Megan324 I'm in public and I totally laughed out loud over your registry comment. It wasn't a cute laugh either, kind of a quacky one. LOL. Awesome post.
@PoodleDoodleOoo Disagree! I love my temporary thick locks! I have super thin hair (usually) and a pixie. Pregnancy has made my short hair feel amazing (it was long w DD so I never really noticed). This is how the other half lives?? Not having to wash hair every day? I'll be so sad when the drain starts clogging. But I feel for you if it's changed yours for the less agreeable, it's funny how hair/haircuts have such an effect.
I'm over the huge gender neutral push. I get the place it's coming from, but I feel like it's gone way over the top and it's almost become yet another thing for people to get judgey about. When my kids are babies and toddlers, they wear gender specific things. I love pink and tutus for DD and sports and trucks for DS. Does this make me unsupportive of those who indentify with a gender different than their sex? NO. This also does not mean I will not be supportive if my children decide one day that they'd like to wear something different or identify with the other gender. All it means for now is they don't know a damn bit of difference and I don't feel the need to push gender neutrality on them until they voice wanting something different than what they have.
@PoodleDoodleOoo - I don't mind my hair being a bit thicker while pregnant.. literally I don't shed at all while pregnant.. I will attest to what you've heard/seen though.. Lost SO much in my showers after having baby.. ended up cutting my hair to above my shoulders because it was easier to lose shorter hairs versus super long ones. This time my hair is already short, so I'll just keep it this way
@PoodleDoodleOoo@abberson I was looking forward for my hair to get all thick and crazy, but it doesn't seem to have changed at all. It still feels normal and isn't giving me any more or less trouble than usual. I'm kind of bummed about missing out on the glorious locks during pregnancy!
@JLmama118 I am alllll about breaking stereotypes and gender norms (My graduate degree is higher ed adm. with focus in social justice) BUT I agree with you 100%. My son is about to have all the trucks and monsters and manly man clothes, and my niece is going to be in an explosion of pink! Why? Because it is adorable that's why.
We probably tend to buy more "boyish" things, but we don't say no to gender opposing(?) things. DS1 has a purple scooter that he picked out, I paint his toenails if he asks, DS2 has a baby doll, we have a play kitchen and Melissa&Doug mop/broom set. They recently picked out a set of new water bottles that are pink/purple over blue/green.
I'm probably not going to go out of my way and suggest painting their fingernails pink sparkly like I might with DD, but if they ask, I'm certainly not going to tell them only girls can do that.
FFFC: I just made a lunch dessert smores from last weekend's camping trip leftovers. I roasted a marshmallow on the flames of the stove burner. Only felt a little ridiculous .
I don't understand the point of pricey designer purses and diaper bags. I can't grasp spending $300+ for a bag that's will at some point have to be put on the disgusting floor of a public restroom. Or is it just me that ends up in the bathrooms that don't have (or have broken) purse hooks? I would much rather spend that money on other things.
I have no desire or inclination to have any sort of sexy times whatsoever. I'm constantly exhausted, I don't feel particularly attractive considering I'm waddling everywhere, but DH is all butthurt that I never want to. Then again, he also seems to think (and this has been a problem in our relationship from day 1) that I can just turn it on like a lightbulb like he can. I don't even want alone sexy time, I just want to lie on the couch, nap, eat and occasionally have my feet rubbed. Unfortunately, part of it is also I'm not finding DH super attractive right now; he decided back in October he wanted to grow his hair out. He's part Jamaican, so he has very wirey, coarse thick beautiful hair. In the past he's grown it out but nothing compared to now, it's longer than mine. I can stand it if it's in a ponytail or a bun, but even then I'm like dude... you use my hair straightener more than I do, not cool. Most of the time he wears it down and it obscures his face and he looks like a dirtbag high school skateboarder kid, and he's almost 30. And I can't tell him it's making him unattractive to me because he get soooo sensitive about it and it turns into a fight. My UO? I'm seriously considering drugging him and shaving it all off when he passes out. But that's probably frowned upon, right?
@yellowrose314 I am laughing so hard right now because I feel your pain! I recently had it out with DH over body hair as well. His beard. He's always had a goatee kind of thing going on, but recently he decided to let the chin hair grow out and it was sticking out EVERYWHERE. Finally, about two nights ago, I told him "That's gotta go". He resisted but finally trimmed it.
He's been going scruffy lately too. He DOES have long hair (it was nearly to his waist when we started dating, and it was GORGEOUS, but it's been shoulder length for the past year and a half) but he normally keeps himself very very groomed. Until recently he used a straight razor on the regular to shape his facial hair very precisely and now he'll only shave every so many days. When he's scruffy and then throws his hair up in a ponytail he looks like a hoodlum! He's been under a lot of stress work-wise lately so I haven't been on him about it, but come on. Your face is like sandpaper and it looks like you haven't slept in five days!
I vote for you getting him while he's sleeping. LOL
@yellowrose314 - I have zero interest in sexy time right now too. I have my alone time because the urge comes and goes within like a minute.. and if that time lines up with my shower or something similar, I can take care of it before the urge passes.
I also go through phases of not being as attracted to my husband as other times. He has super curly/coarse black hair as well and I hate when he lets it get too long and it gets poofy (it's a Jewfro.. please don't let me offend anyone here, he is jewish and it gets the typical fro-like shape). and also he has a full beard that I hate when it gets super poofy. I am totally honest and blunt with him about it, I never say that he looks bad but that I prefer how he looks and thinks he looks amazing with short hair and a tamed beard. I'm sure sometimes it hurts his feelings, but I ask for his opinion ALL the time about my hair, etc. so he has the opportunity to be honest back
@AnnaS930 I totally feel you. My DH is in the process of opening a new restaurant and has started working extra long hours and sometimes 6 days a week I get bored w/o him and all the little things that happen in my little world with LO seem so insignificant to his big crazy hectic days. It makes me want to cry when we only get one day off together and then its 6 more straight days of him working non stop. :'(
My FFFC is that I bought LO2 a stroller blanket and onsie from a boutique for WAY too much $. But I couldn't help myself! It will be his coming home outfit and the blanket will (hopefully) become his blankie and we'll get a lot of use out of it.
UO - agreed with the lack of snark on this board. I do appreciate the tameness and kind nature of our board but snark is so entertaining!! I feel like I don't participate in this board as much as I did my previous one bc a lot of the threads are things I already know/experienced being a STM... I sometimes casually stroll through looking for something funny to read where I can bust out some GIFs and there's nothing. Im gonna check out June/July
@yellowrose314@Bibliobebe OMG the long hair. When FI and I started dating his hair was long (for a guy) but not too long, it was like.....eric from boy meets world in the early seasons. NOW?!? Its down to almost his waist. He is native american so I get it but from chin length up until pretty recently I hated hated hated his hair. I threatened to cut it in his sleep but he said he would shave my head. and I wouldn't put it past him lol. Now I braid it every day and it looks a lot better.
Maybe give him a pre-baby gift, a giftcard to a nice salon for a hair cut?
@izzetoot yes to the lack of snark and gifs. I miss all the gif parties and gifs with snark from TTGP. Does this group not enjoy gifs? Too busy to gif? Not know how to gif?
Eta: my gif game is weak from lack of practice. I'm rusty...
@fireflygirl12 - is that really the first place your mind goes when you see a beard? Aren't like half of men bearded these days?? I'm really disturbed by that comment.. hahaha
Re: UO + FFFC
Things always turn out better than I'm expecting, but dreading weekends is a real bummer.
But, I do like our board
BFP: 8/11/18 Due: 4/26/18
In other news, my FFC is that I bought a cute (non maternity) shirt for post baby but the sizing runs way small & I know it will not fit, so I gifted it to a friend for her birthday. ¯\_(ツ)_/¯
My UO is I can't get on board with the loud ass lulu roe leggings... Just can't!
FFFC- I may or may not have woke up a couple days this week laying on my back and it felt glorious but I quickly rolled onto my side. Also, DH refuses to have sex with me for whatever reason and I'm about to just lay spread eagle on our bed and until he does something about it. I want sex damnit!
Me: 30 | DH: 32
Together since 2008 | Married 2012
TTC #1 October 2014
BFP #1 October 2014 | CP #1 October 2014
BFP #2 November 2014 | CP #2 December 2014
BFP #3 June 2015 | MMC at 16 weeks September 2015
BFP #4 January 2016 | EDD September 12, 2016 | Baby Ducks born September 5, 2016
(I've never experienced it myself, but I read somewhere that your hair essentially stops shedding in pregnancy, and then it starts shedding like crazy postpartum and it sounds like others have had similar experiences. Either way, I'm sick of my super thick and hot hair and ready for my normal hair to return).
My fingernails are growing awesome, though!
BUT I agree with you 100%. My son is about to have all the trucks and monsters and manly man clothes, and my niece is going to be in an explosion of pink! Why? Because it is adorable that's why.
*Edited because spelling is hard today*
We probably tend to buy more "boyish" things, but we don't say no to gender opposing(?) things. DS1 has a purple scooter that he picked out, I paint his toenails if he asks, DS2 has a baby doll, we have a play kitchen and Melissa&Doug mop/broom set. They recently picked out a set of new water bottles that are pink/purple over blue/green.
I'm probably not going to go out of my way and suggest painting their fingernails pink sparkly like I might with DD, but if they ask, I'm certainly not going to tell them only girls can do that.
I don't understand the point of pricey designer purses and diaper bags. I can't grasp spending $300+ for a bag that's will at some point have to be put on the disgusting floor of a public restroom. Or is it just me that ends up in the bathrooms that don't have (or have broken) purse hooks? I would much rather spend that money on other things.
DD 10/4/02
DS due 9/28/16
My UO? I'm seriously considering drugging him and shaving it all off when he passes out. But that's probably frowned upon, right?
He's been going scruffy lately too. He DOES have long hair (it was nearly to his waist when we started dating, and it was GORGEOUS, but it's been shoulder length for the past year and a half) but he normally keeps himself very very groomed. Until recently he used a straight razor on the regular to shape his facial hair very precisely and now he'll only shave every so many days. When he's scruffy and then throws his hair up in a ponytail he looks like a hoodlum! He's been under a lot of stress work-wise lately so I haven't been on him about it, but come on. Your face is like sandpaper and it looks like you haven't slept in five days!
I vote for you getting him while he's sleeping. LOL
I also go through phases of not being as attracted to my husband as other times. He has super curly/coarse black hair as well and I hate when he lets it get too long and it gets poofy (it's a Jewfro.. please don't let me offend anyone here, he is jewish and it gets the typical fro-like shape). and also he has a full beard that I hate when it gets super poofy. I am totally honest and blunt with him about it, I never say that he looks bad but that I prefer how he looks and thinks he looks amazing with short hair and a tamed beard. I'm sure sometimes it hurts his feelings, but I ask for his opinion ALL the time about my hair, etc. so he has the opportunity to be honest back
My FFFC is that I bought LO2 a stroller blanket and onsie from a boutique for WAY too much $. But I couldn't help myself! It will be his coming home outfit and the blanket will (hopefully) become his blankie and we'll get a lot of use out of it.
UO - agreed with the lack of snark on this board. I do appreciate the tameness and kind nature of our board but snark is so entertaining!! I feel like I don't participate in this board as much as I did my previous one bc a lot of the threads are things I already know/experienced being a STM... I sometimes casually stroll through looking for something funny to read where I can bust out some GIFs and there's nothing. Im gonna check out June/July
When FI and I started dating his hair was long (for a guy) but not too long, it was like.....eric from boy meets world in the early seasons.
NOW?!? Its down to almost his waist. He is native american so I get it but from chin length up until pretty recently I hated hated hated his hair.
I threatened to cut it in his sleep but he said he would shave my head. and I wouldn't put it past him lol.
Now I braid it every day and it looks a lot better.
Maybe give him a pre-baby gift, a giftcard to a nice salon for a hair cut?
Eta: my gif game is weak from lack of practice. I'm rusty...
DD 10/4/02
DS due 9/28/16