Monday Bitchfest 06/20

rnyland1 · June 2016

Mondays.....

tired monday frustrated paul rudd sigh

jwittwer · June 2016

Work. This whole week my bitch will be about work. So much to do, and so little time. Thinking about all we have left to do for this audit makes me want to curl up into the fetal position and cry.

rnyland1 · June 2016

G'morning ladies... SD has been complaining about an earache for the past few days -- My first thought was regular old ear infection, which are usually viral. Finally last night I look at her ear and there's all kinds of nasty drainage coming out of it - definitely swimmer's ear, but bad!! I sense a trip to urgent care this afternoon. Also, SD cries every. single. night when we try to put her to bed (she's 9). I get that she misses her mom and I think that is totally normal. She might even feel a bit guilty for staying with us for a whole month without her mom. But, she didn't always do this, and has stayed with us in our house multiple times before. I think crying the first couple of nights is totally understandable, since we have a totally different routine at our house vs. her mom's house, but she has been here almost 2 weeks and has two weeks left and is still crying every night. When I ask why she's crying, she just says "I don't know." Her bedtime routine now takes 45 min or more, and if we don't get her settled down she keeps coming back to our room crying. It's disrupting other members of household who are trying to sleep, such as SS and DS!! Have no idea what to do about this. She seems fine and happy all day but as soon as we tell her it's time to go to bed it turns into some kind of shit show. Obviously she's trying to deal with some big emotions. As stepmom I'm lowest on the totem pole of parenting so suggestion she see a counselor or something will not go over well

TxTeacher91 · June 2016

This morning I peed on the floor in my bathroom while throwing up. This last trimester is taking whatever dignity I had left

LadyFleck · June 2016

@rnyland1 Would it be possible for her to call her mom before bed as part of a routine? I know step families are not always friendly (believe me) but feeling like she has the option to reach out to her mom might just calm her down.

Even though shes she's only nine, her hormones are raging and she's changing so much everyday. She just might not be mature enough to understand and articulate it. If it's her mom she says she's missing but still can't tell you exactly why she's crying, it could simply be she feels cut off even if she's happy being with you guys.

TiffRox81 · June 2016

I now wake up every two hours throughout the night to use the bathroom. It is so annoying!! Mostly because just the act of getting in/out of bed is a challenge itself! I am SUPER ready to meet this kid!!

[Deleted User] · June 2016

@rnyland1 I don't have any advice, but I really hope things get better soon!

Heat and humidity are my b!tch today. I won't be getting anything done. Plus it's wrecking my hair. This is basically me today:

jwittwer · June 2016

@rnyland1 I think the combination of missing her mom plus the sore ear is definitely taking it's toll on her. After seeing the doc (and probably getting antibiotics), do you think you could try to incorporate some of the bedtime routine she has at her mom's house at yours?

I hope things get better soon!

mamafox14 · June 2016

There's no coffee. Why would someone finish off the coffee and not go buy more? Do you not understand how important it is for my SURVIVAL that there be coffee? So now I have to put clothes on, which I was not planning on doing for at least another hour, to drag my uncaffeinated ass to the store.

Fuck.

rnyland1 · June 2016

@LadyFleck @jwittwer I do actually get along fine with her mother, all things considered. She already calls her mom every night as part of her bedtime routine. She's allowed to call/text her mother at any time during the day too so long as it's not during dinner/meals or other family activities (like playing a game together or something...that's just a house rule that applies to everyone). We've also tried to implement as much of her "normal" bedtime routine as possible: this includes making sure she has the right lighting such as nightlight and an alarm clock, saying her prayers with her just like she does at her mom's, and leaving her door cracked open, etc. So, I'm just kind of at a loss with it and I get that her ear hurting is not helping either. I just figured by 2 weeks in she'd be getting the hang of it more. Maybe I can ask her if there's something else she'd like us to do, like creating something unique to bedtime at Daddy's house.

kgrgreen · June 2016

All of the women who have 20+ yo children and feel the need to tell me I won't be able to EBF, I won't make it without a bassinet, and I won't make it to my due date: suck it.

HenchBytch · June 2016

Currently waiting on my monthly call from the nurse with my insurance. I have to talk to her in order to get my breast pump free and discounts on shit. I loathe this phone call every month because she asks the SAME questions every time and I never answer them any differently.

joleri23 · June 2016

First bitch goes to RLP. Holy cow, go away already! I hope this means baby is descending lower at least.

Second bitch goes to my MIL. She just mailed a package addressed to our LO (used her full name and everything) and wrote this note inside that goes, "Please, please, please send lots of photos!" Umm... well, since you sent the package to our daughter and not us, who are you talking to? Also, no. You have never taken interest in our lives at all until this moment. You get no special treatment from me, and guess who is the photo taker? Not your son, MIL. I'm just all sorts of ragey and irritated with her. You don't get to just suddenly show up and think you're "gramma." Nope.

samantha1206 · June 2016

My bitch is that every time I go somewhere, I get stares. Yes, I'm pregnant. Yes, I look young. No, that does not give you the right to stare as I order my food. Also, I'm soooo sick of hearing "ya hanging in there?" (like i have a choice) or, "Not much longer now!" (oh, great, you can count too!) and Especially "How are you feeling?" (Like ass, thanks, everything hurts, I'm tired and your face is pissing me off).

Human interaction is my my friend today. Plus, my husband and I aren't exactly speaking at the moment, so I've no one to vent my thoughts too.

PootsDragon · June 2016

I want to b!tch about working. This is f**king ridiculous. I am too pregnant to be here. I have to get up to pee every 30 minutes and then I have to waddle to the kitchen to get more ice water. I am accomplishing nothing today. And then to have ANYONE come to my desk and expect me to give a flying rats f**king a$$ about anything going on... I really don't care. Please go away and leave me alone. I am a week and a half from my due date. I just want my baby and I want to be done here!

allthingscozy · June 2016

@rnyland1i think another thing to consider is her feelings regarding the impending birth. Especially if you are expecting a girl sorry don't remember which team you are. But any baby is another big transition for her and she be experiencing worry about her dad's level of care for her with another new baby coming as well. Just a thought

HoneyBear40 · June 2016

This headache that has been lingering since Saturday...it can feel free to leave at ANY time now! Looking like a rockstar at work staring at the computer with my sunglasses on.

samantha1206 · June 2016

Oh, I have one more. The fact that I have to actually wear shoes at work. They hurt my fat feet. When i'm behind my desk they come off but I can't just walk around the lobby barefoot.

Who's awesome idea was it for me to work until I went into labor???

rnyland1 · June 2016

@Backbypopulardemand could be that. We are having another boy though. She's very maternal and great with DS also she likes babies in general. I could see her having some trouble adjusting once the baby is born though. Right now I think it's more homesickness than anything. I hope she grows out of it in a couple of years.

brandiK · June 2016

My father passed away unexpectedly in 2012. I've had 2-3 people ask if I got to see my dad this weekend or if my parents were going to be helping when the baby comes. There's definitely more tactful ways to phrase those questions.

joleri23 · June 2016

@brandiK I'm sorry about your dad. I come at this from a different angle: I don't have a relationship with my father. Yes, my parents are still married. Yes, I speak with my mom. Yes, she's coming to help. No, my dad is not coming and no, I don't want him to come. I don't like to see him, I don't talk to him. He's not a nice person. People just don't know how to deal when I say, "We don't have a relationship." They immediately start asking questions and it's frustrating AF.

Kellyj103 · June 2016

My bitch is that I'm ready to go back to bed. The good news is that it is my last week of work (yay) the bad news is I am so tired it's hard pushing through this last week.

I too also wake up multiple times to pee. Always at the same time 1:30 am, 3am, and 5 am. Drives me crazy!

babycakesday · June 2016

My MIL is driving me crazy. She has to constantly tell us that I'm irresponsible for keeping my pets despite the fact the I am having a baby. Or yelling at us at fathers day brunch because we didnt call her when I went in to the ER for some major discomfort. (We did, twice.) Or that she has to remind us to make sure our deductible is paid, or that I listen to everything the doctor says, or that she thinks my choice to breastfeed, stay at home and have am unmedicated childbirth are things I am going to regret. Just say something positive for once or keep your opinions to yourself since we have heard them all through out the pregnancy.

deuxbouledogues · June 2016

Postpartum hormones are raging. I burst into tears for no reason at least once a day now. It's annoying because I feel just fine emotionally and I know it's freaking out hubby who is on the lookout for PPD. Reading all our posts today just makes me reflect how really weird this whole pregnancy/birthing thing is!

mandyjulie · June 2016

@brandiK That sucks. Everyone in my world knows my dad's gone (it's been 10+ years), but every now and then someone new says "your parents" and I tend to just say "yeah, my mom blah blah..." if I just don't want to get into it, and then it passes or they figure out something's up. Or if it's someone I don't like much, or they're just being annoying with the parents/dad line of questioning, I'll tell them that he's passed away and watch them feel shitty about it

You're at a tough place now though so I really feel for you. Just a few years with him gone and a baby on the way. That is not easy.

Funny thing though, just a couple weeks ago DH asked something about "your parents" and I was like um what...and I replied "Yeah...my mom and her husband" with a dirty look. He was like, oops sorry! It was totally innocent on his part, he met my dad and we were together when he died, etc., but honestly it was kind of fun giving him shit about saying the wrong thing.

brandiK · June 2016

@joleri23 I'm like that with my mom. We really don't have much of a relationship anymore and she lives in another state anyways. She told me she'd try her hardest to be here and I was like, no thank you?

randishane011804 · June 2016

So I have this Aunt and there's really a laundry list of reasons why I don't really like her, but she she decided to wear on my last nerve yesterday. We had a big family get together yesterday and of course baby being due in 2 weeks was basically the conversation anybody wanted to have with me yesterday. I'm usually fine with this and I was doing pretty well until the subject of my medication choice for birth or rather the choice of lack of medication. She decides to go on this whole tirade about how "Oh you say that now, you'll be begging for them after the 1st contraction" and so on and so forth. Then I made the mistake of saying that I was choosing to go along the lines of hypnobirthing. Good lord you'd think I was talking about the most ridiculous thing in the world! No I don't expect it to not hurt or be sunshine and rainbows with some unicorn farts! A little support wouldn't kill you! She added the cherry on top when she felt the need to tell me "when all of us (her, my mom and other aunt) were pregnant we always measured to see if any of us could get bigger than dad (my grandfather) and I think you may have done it!" I'm sorry what? You think it's a nice, funny, and smart thing to say to the now very cranky, hot, and miserable pregnant lady that you've harassed all day, to basically call her fat and huge? My grandfather used to be a very big guy, but due to health problems has had to lose a bunch of weight. So I just gave her the best f*ck off smile I could give her and walked off. I was, and honestly still am, pretty close to violence.

brandiK · June 2016

@mandyjulie it's definitely tough, but I guess you just have to sit and realize that you're living a life they'd be proud of. I'm also at a point where I can talk about it without getting emotional, and you're right that when someone snooty asks about it, they at least feel like an asshat when you reply.

LF93 · June 2016

People who can't send me a simple message to see how I'm doing but can ask my mother, what the hell? I've made the effort to keep in contact with numerous people and they haven't bothered to even reply to messages but then can talk to my mother and ask how I am and tell her they're so excited. Umm what? I'm trying my best to not message them and tell them to ask me directly if they want to know how I am. It's crazy, the people who I thought would be there to support me most haven't spoken to me since I've announced while those who I didn't think cared have been a massive support!
To those false friends:

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@randishane011804 I think there's always one family member who thinks like that and doesn't know when to keep quiet, good for you for not letting it get to you. I know it's very hard to hold your tongue right now with all the hormones flying. My mother thought it was a good idea to tell me I was going to be so fat after the baby was born, um thanks I guess! *Eye Rolls*

HenchBytch · June 2016

I just witnessed a mother screaming at her son because he accidentally peed his pants. She yelled at him at the top of her lungs and told him to shut the hell up.

I feel like I might throw up.

LF93 · June 2016

@HenchBytch Her screaming at the child is going to make the situation a whole let better and not traumatize the child......riiiiiiight

Those kind of parents drive me crazy, there is absolutely no reason to ever to raise your voice to a child. The poor kid probably didn't know what was going on!

allthingscozy · June 2016

@HenchBytch that makes me feel sick. I don't know if I could have held my tongue!

randishane011804 · June 2016

@HenchBytch I'm not sure I have words right now. Definitely not sure that I could have kept my mouth shut much less not stared at her like she had 5 heads. Some women are just biatchs. Poor kid!

thepen15ismighty · June 2016

@HenchBytch I would have not been able to be quiet. No no no.

HenchBytch · June 2016

This was outside my 7th floor window. I heard someone screaming and took a peek outside. They were on the sidewalk below. There was nothing I could have done but I wish I had never looked..

adough27 · June 2016

I am tired of my grandmother and mother. My grandmother is always trying to put me and my husband down. We just bought a condo in a city (where we have lived for the past 7 years), and she always has to bring up how it is going to be impossible to raise a child without a backyard. Also she keeps bringing up how we would have tons of babysitters if we moved home. Hello! We live 6 hours away because this is where jobs are and we do not want to move back to the northeast, stop trying to guilt trip us, because you will not see your great granddaughter.

My mom made a big stink about how she had to have a separate baby shower and she needed to have it first, because DH family would buy all the gifts and she really wanted to get the crib. She has brought it up every time I have seen her, brags about it to DH's family and my friends. Her shower was over a month ago and she has still not ordered the crib. I told her DH and I could get it if she could not afford it (my mom is horrible at managing money), and she freaked out about that money wasn't a problem, and that the baby doesn't need the crib right away. Hello, I want to set up the crib before our LO is born, just let us buy the crib!

Weville · June 2016

@adough27 I would just buy it at this point and tell her you did. If she wants to gift it to you she can send you the money but at least you'd know you have the crib

LF93 · June 2016

@adough27 My mother is the exact same, she insisted on buying the bassinet but wouldn't tell me when she was going to buy it. Eventually I told her I'd buy it myself, she borrowed some money off my aunt because she to is awful with money and bought it for us. That was a month ago and I thought that was cutting it close but if I was you I'd probably just buy it myself at this stage, by the time its bought, delivered and set up. It could be another two weeks. Plus it's probably driving you crazy not having the nursery completely finished because you're waiting on it. Like @Weville said if she really wants to gift it to you she can just give the money to you or else buy something else!

blissylissy86 · June 2016

@randishane011804 what the actual fuck?!? I don't know how you didn't just explode at her. She sounds awful.

AshGee18 · June 2016

My Monday b!tchfest is my MIL ... she lost her job in December and is horrible at managing money ... HORRIBLE. She's remortgaged her house 5 times. She refuses to sell the house that is a 4 bedroom 3 story when just her and her boyfriend live there because she's emotionally attached to it because my husband grew up in it. Anyways she asked to borrow $300 from us on Thursday for bills to which I was skeptical about because how is she planning on paying us back. Then she calls me from her mother's cottage saying she went up for the weekend to relax ... the cottage is 1.5 hrs away. So ..... did the $300 go towards your gas and booze and food to enjoy while your there?

so glad we lent you $300 .... *insert eye roll and middle finger*

DachshundMomma · June 2016

As I'm waddling my big ol self out of the changing rooms at Target today, the lady behind the counter asked me how much longer I had to go, I politely told her about 5 weeks. Her reply "oh! You look like you're about ready to go now". I'm grouchy, sad, and uncomfortable. Now is not the time for your uncompliment, lady.

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