How many weeks are you and what have you gained??

Septembermommy16 · June 2016

I'm just curious I know everyone's different. I'm a vary plus mommy and at 26 weeks have gained a total of 9

lovelylauren86 · June 2016

What exactly do you hope to get from knowing everyone's weight stats?

618mom22boys · June 2016

I don't see this post going over so well.

Everyone gains differently......

Ampip2270 · June 2016

I think we can all agree that it's never ok to ask a woman about her weight, and it's especially not ok to ask when she's pregnant ... I'll be surprised if you actually get numbers.

RG1 · June 2016

Yeah, even though I'm happy with my weight gain, I'm still not going to answer. Like you said, everyone is different so I don't think my answer will benefit anybody

asht · June 2016

At 28 weeks I had gained 10. Maybe she's asking because she did state she is plus sized and those of us that are are under tighter guidelines of what we are allowed to gain.

Ampip2270 · June 2016

Well that's something she should discuss with her doctor.

asht · June 2016

It's an open message board people can ask what they want and shouldnt be scolded. If people don't want to reply they don't have to

PSUBecky23 · June 2016

I don't pay attention to the number. When my doctor with the medical background tells me my weight gain is fine, I believe him.

RG1 · June 2016

I get that its an open forum and anyone can ask anything, I just feel like responses to this would set people up to feel badly when there is no medical reason to. We've all been pretty positive and supportive on this thread and we should keep it that way!

edit: this is a useful calculator if you're really curious between appointments and want to know if you're on track

https://www.calculator.net/pregnancy-weight-gain-calculator.html

AmMcc12 · June 2016

PSUBecky23 said:

I don't pay attention to the number. When my doctor with the medical background tells me my weight gain is fine, I believe him.

^^ this

tinypikachu · June 2016

Yes, it's an open forum and just like people can ask what they want, they cannot control people's responses.

There is no point to this question. Whether you want to know out of curiosity, or you're concerned if your gain is too much or too little, or maybe you just want to humble-brag, it is always rude to ask a pregnant woman about her number on the scale. Women worry both about gaining too much and not gaining enough and that worry should be addressed by the doctor, not Internet strangers.

Kimmy717 · June 2016

Ill play, ive never felt bad about my weight and i dont think anyone should no matter how much they weigh. Pre pregnancy i was between 139-141. Im 5'5. At my last apt may 19th, 25 weeks, i was 151. Im sure it will be higher this thursday at my "28w apt" i will be 30 weeks. But no one should feel bad about their weight, no matter what it may be. We are all different and thats what makes us unique

lovelylauren86 · June 2016

I'm almost positive this is MUD it doesn't look like OP has ever posted before

camichael84 · June 2016

As soon as I read the title of this thread, I thought MUD.

jas1982 · June 2016

Ha, I had to google MUD. I feel like such a... n00b?

AmMcc12 · June 2016

MUD = made up drama

jas1982 · June 2016

@AmMcc12 I also saw "multiple username disorder," which makes sense to me. Haha. I hope no one lets this crap make them feel bad. I have gained a LOT more than the previous posters, and I don't feel bad.

bunnymay · June 2016

I'm 27w4d and I've gained 27w4d worth of pregnancy weight that my body decided it needs.

ducks6 · June 2016

I'd like to add that this type of question can be a trigger for women with body image issues and/or those who struggle with eating disorders. This is something to be considered before asking a question purely for curiosity's sake.

Septembermommy16 · June 2016

Good to know there are mature people here.... I asked how much weight you have gained not actual weight leavening this Jr. High attitudes forum

tinypikachu · June 2016

Edit because it's worth keeping this board snark-free (somewhat) and I didn't want to leave without saying this: I think it's worth reading all the varied and very valid reasons up here. Not everyone is comfortable discussing weight gain, for whatever reason. I am fine with it but it can be a sensitive topic to many women and it has been one for me in the past. Also, another person's pregnancy experience will have no bearing on your own. If you'd like to stay, you'd find the dynamic on this board is great and we give each other tons of support.

SuperFudge00 · June 2016

Septembermommy16 said:

Good to know there are mature people here.... I asked how much weight you have gained not actual weight leavening this Jr. High attitudes forum

That definitely helps, good job!

RedMar · June 2016

K see ya again in 3 months

eightynine · June 2016

I don't know how anyone can say there's "no point" to someone's question. It's rude. from my view, this should be a safe place to ask whatever is on your mind. If someone finds a post offensive or irrelevant, why not just not respond?

Many, if not most, posts involve issues that should be discussed with a doctor. That does not mean this isn't also a place to discuss such issues.

kosmo86 · June 2016

@lissvarna yes this should be a safe place to ask question. But this wasn't really a question. This was a let's compare weight gain and see who has done well (or not so well). If the question was "I'm concerned with my weight gain" I think it would have been better received. Just because we are pregnant does not mean weight is no longer a touchy subject. From a young age we are taught to compare bodies that switch does not flip just because we are growing a human. OP is a not a frequent poster so coming in guns a blazing with a sensitive subject will never be taken well by a regular.

rn1stbae · June 2016

I would have been more understanding if it were a "I weighed this much to begin with and have gained this much and have been struggling with (...), help!" But agree that the presentation was tacky. I've complained about my weight and have also posted my weight on here, but it was in conversation, not just "how much have you gained"? Because that's simply irrelevant.

vampirina · June 2016

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TheTamedShrew · June 2016

Septembermommy16 said:

Good to know there are mature people here.... I asked how much weight you have gained not actual weight leavening this Jr. High attitudes forum

I don't see any immature responses to your question. If you were to pull up your big girl panties and stick around you would find that this is a lovely supportive group of women. Also, speaking of "Junior High", you might want to revisit 6th grade english and learn how to spell/punctuate. Sorry we won't miss you.

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mom2adoodle · June 2016

What the hell just happened here.

CRich15 · June 2016

Well that certainly made the day more interesting...

eightynine · June 2016

nevermind. the jist of what I'm saying is just be kind. it's not so hard.

camichael84 · June 2016

@TheTamedShrew I cannot get over your gif. I can't stop watching it and cracking up. (I love Patrick Stewart and grew up watching STNG with my Trekkie dad).

ducks6 · June 2016

lissvarna said:

nevermind. the jist of what I'm saying is just be kind. it's not so hard.

I don't think anyone here (except OP) was trying to be unkind. OP tried to start a discussion in a way that came off as potentially triggering to some women (like myself). It also had the potential to turn into a body shaming and/or mean girl situation. I think the group responded in an appropriate and thoughtful way.

0SeaMonkey0 · June 2016

Well... Two appointments ago my midwife was giving me a bit of a hard time for not gaining enough. In the last 6 weeks I've gained 7 lbs and 5 of those were in the last 2 weeks. Yikes. She is happy but that was really hard to see yesterday. With all that new weight I'm now up 13 lbs at 29 weeks.

0SeaMonkey0 · June 2016

OMG you guys I just read the whole thread and I think this seals it for me. I can't stand this board any more. I left for a few weeks and came back recently but I'm done. No one is open to a discussion that doesn't fit into one of your stupid overcrowded "regular threads". If you don't like someone's question don't answer. I belong to so many mommy groups and forums and people ask the weight question ALL THE TIME! It's about comparing and sharing the experience, not body shaming. You are all seriously uptight and over sensitive. I'm out. Enjoy not learning a thing from each other because you're all too afraid to ask the question you really want to talk about. GBCB

camichael84 · June 2016

0SeaMonkey0 said:

OMG you guys I just read the whole thread and I think this seals it for me. I can't stand this board any more. I left for a few weeks and came back recently but I'm done. No one is open to a discussion that doesn't fit into one of your stupid overcrowded "regular threads". If you don't like someone's question don't answer. I belong to so many mommy groups and forums and people ask the weight question ALL THE TIME! It's about comparing and sharing the experience, not body shaming. You are all seriously uptight and over sensitive. I'm out. Enjoy not learning a thing from each other because you're all too afraid to ask the question you really want to talk about. GBCB

That escalated quickly...

I didn't think we'd see a GBCB on this board, but I guess I was wrong. My first BMB would have been all over this post like hounds on a fresh bone. We were pretty kind in comparison. Never on my time on TB has weight sharing in this manner been looked on as acceptable.

AnnaS930 · June 2016

@camichael84- glad you QFP'd. I'm sitting here thinking "Is she serious? or is this a joke?" because it's so word-for-word typical GBCB which is usually made fun of, even though she embraced the term? I don't know, if it's humor it's lost on me. I wasn't offended by the original question but I know it never goes over well. What an odd reaction...

camichael84 · June 2016

@AnnaS930 Exactly. And it wasn't a question that offended me personally either or that I would even refuse to answer in a different situation, but I know that these types of posts have never been tolerated on TB. Maybe other forums, but not here. Because what is there to learn from one another by knowing everyone's weight gain statuses?

Now I'm off to watch @TheTamedShrew 's Patrick Stewart gif again now. That's been my favorite part of this thread.

AnnaS930 · June 2016

@camichael84 - I'm just all, If you want to leave the bump, just go. Nobody here is going to beg you to stay. That's why I find GBCB's so ridiculous.

vampirina · June 2016

@Camichael84 @AnnaS930 - she shit all over the TTGP board for similar reasons (no one wants to talk about anything except what they want to talk about and everyone is sooooo sensitive) and left a super insulting post when she got her BFP, too. So I think she was being serious, unfortunately.

Personally, I think this group talks about our weight all the time - in Bitchfests, confessions, randoms, other posts and we've all been supportive of it when someone is feeling insecure or wants to know if they are in the "norm." But this particular thread, from a completely new person without really having a question/concern to go with it felt more being nosy for the sake of nosiness - which I'm not a huge fan of.

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