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FFFC Anyone?

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edited June 2016 in February 2017 Moms


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  • I got out of jury duty at noon yesterday but then did stuff for a bridal shower I'm hosting tomorrow instead of going in to work. I'll make it up over the weekend. 
  • I made Hubby swear we wouldn't tell anyone about the pregnancy until 12 weeks.  I told my best friend three days ago.
    It is sooooo hard. My best friend knows our journey, but not about the BFP. But it's important to my SO that we wait until 12 weeks, so here I am, grinding my teeth when in reality I want to tell pretty much everyone.
    The original: Aug2013
    The remix: Feb2017
    The encore: coming Oct2019

     
  • We're potty training right now, so DD is without diapers before and after DC. I hightailed it out of the apartment right when she started showing signs of needing to poop. Her sitting on the potty sessions for pooping are 30 minute marathons of her wanting us sing to her, read to her, talk about stuff...everything except actually using the muscles to, well, poop. Sorry, SO, I got a ton of work to do today and I am not playing poop time entertainer this morning.
    The original: Aug2013
    The remix: Feb2017
    The encore: coming Oct2019

     
  • Last night, I puked so hard I peed myself..  :'(
    @fourPsinapod maybe my FFFC is that I did laugh at that....but I do feel bad that happened to you!

    my real FFFC is that I have been using nausea as an excuse to give poopy diaper changes of my 19 month old to DH to change (when he is home). In reality my nausea hasn't been that bad...

    Currently hiding in the bathroom under the guise of "feeling really off" while my husband gets the kids ready to go. So I will be able to just come out and get in the car. I'm milking it. Guilty.
  • fourPsinapodfourPsinapod member
    edited June 2016
    yogadevil said:
    I'm keeping a vomit tally to nonchalantly show DH when he gets home from 5 weeks away for no other reason but to prove I deserve the expensive diaper bag we saw awhile ago.

    I don't know how these things are related, but I'm going to milk it just in case
    I got a Timi and Leslie (Rachel) the last time around and I loved it. DH hated it the entire time. I will probably try to sneak buying another bag this time around. He might disown me.

    ETA: this is the one I got last time (link bc the pic is huge):
    https://cdn.shopify.com/s/files/1/0664/4021/products/timi_leslie_rachel_caramel_grande.jpg?v=1415770363
  • yogadevil said:
    I'm keeping a vomit tally to nonchalantly show DH when he gets home from 5 weeks away for no other reason but to prove I deserve the expensive diaper bag we saw awhile ago.

    I don't know how these things are related, but I'm going to milk it just in case
    I got a Timi and Leslie (Rachel) the last time around and I loved it. DH hated it the entire time. I will probably try to sneak buying another bag this time around. He might disown me.
    I had to google that and let out an audible "Ooooo." I have some serious research to do.

    DH is convinced we should use one of his tactical backpacks "because look at all the pockets! It can hold 50 lbs of gear!" He's so damn cute though, I don't have the heart to tell him it reeks of Iraq and still has toxic sand everywhere...perfect for diapers ;)
  • @yogadevil  - DH is also team backpack. We used one once on vacation and he is convinced that it was the best day ever. Haha!
  • I made Hubby swear we wouldn't tell anyone about the pregnancy until 12 weeks.  I told my best friend three days ago.
    It is sooooo hard. My best friend knows our journey, but not about the BFP. But it's important to my SO that we wait until 12 weeks, so here I am, grinding my teeth when in reality I want to tell pretty much everyone.
    We're waiting to tell everyone too and it's so hard. I really feel like I just need to tell 1 person and then I'll feel better. I may call or text one of my friends today if I just can't wait. I just haven't decided who yet... I know they'd all keep the secret but I don't know what any of their reactions are going to be since I haven't told anyone we're trying.

    My FFFC is that I read an article that said among other things having sex can cause pain/bleeding and now I'm terrified that if I have sex I'll miscarry (irrational I know). I feel bad for DH but luckily the weather is pretty warm this week (high 70s-80s) so he's been too hot to be interested the last couple days... 
    Me: 33 | DH: 34
    Married: October, 19, 2015
    EDD 2/22/17 <3 DS1 born on 3/2/17
    EDD 3/8/20 <3 DS2 born on 3/10/20
    EDD 11/24/23
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  • I made Hubby swear we wouldn't tell anyone about the pregnancy until 12 weeks.  I told my best friend three days ago.
    It is sooooo hard. My best friend knows our journey, but not about the BFP. But it's important to my SO that we wait until 12 weeks, so here I am, grinding my teeth when in reality I want to tell pretty much everyone.
    We're waiting to tell everyone too and it's so hard. I really feel like I just need to tell 1 person and then I'll feel better. I may call or text one of my friends today if I just can't wait. I just haven't decided who yet... I know they'd all keep the secret but I don't know what any of their reactions are going to be since I haven't told anyone we're trying.

    My FFFC is that I read an article that said among other things having sex can cause pain/bleeding and now I'm terrified that if I have sex I'll miscarry (irrational I know). I feel bad for DH but luckily the weather is pretty warm this week (high 70s-80s) so he's been too hot to be interested the last couple days... 
    I'm officially so over hiding it.  I didn't realize how much it would bother me.  If we see a heartbeat this afternoon, I'm done.  I just told my supervisor without planning first since something urgent came up that conflicted with my ultrasound.  I knew anything short of pregnancy or serious illness wouldn't be considered an appropriate excuse. We're pretty close though and have  a very friendly relationship, so I knew she'd be happy.  
  • @CoonMom I think that's a great reason to tell early, especially to people who are your support system. I think our plan is to tell family after our first US but it's not for a few more weeks :( I did blab to my friend today though... Also I've taken 6 tests already too! Probably gonna keep taking them every few days just to see the line keep darkening. It'd be sad to let them all expire!
    Me: 33 | DH: 34
    Married: October, 19, 2015
    EDD 2/22/17 <3 DS1 born on 3/2/17
    EDD 3/8/20 <3 DS2 born on 3/10/20
    EDD 11/24/23
    (Formerly Marriedhamstermom Feb ‘17)


  • My FFFC is that my SIL and brother are coming to visit - and I'm happy but I'm also dreading it. We have to clean better (which is really a good thing) but this SIL has told me over email that she thinks I have Asperger's - that was nearly 2 years ago - I never replied. Now there is nothing wrong with having ASD but the woman has a f*#king bachelors of fine arts and an accounting degree - she never even took intro psychology (not that it would help the diagnosis but still...) because she "doesn't believe labels help". Then why on Earth is she labelling me. She says it is helpful like my unofficial diagnosis of Celiac - I disagree - knowing I have Celiac changes my behaviour day to day - saying I have ASD doesn't. Plus you'd think the 4 psychiatrists and the psychologist that I've seen would have said something in the past 15 years? I have depression and anxiety - plus I don't get most sarcastic comments - that isn't ASD...

    I don't think she'll bring it up, she's not that stupid - but a part of me would rather not see her - or if I have to see her, not have her stay at our place.
    ---TW BFP and MC mentioned - scroll down past the Lilo and Stitch gif to avoid ---




    Me: 33 & DH: 33
    Married: 07/2006
    TTC: 10/2015
    BFP #1: 11/2015, MC 12/2015 (7 weeks)
    BFP #2: 06/2016, EDD 2/15/2017



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  • catiecatp said:
    My FFFC is that my SIL and brother are coming to visit - and I'm happy but I'm also dreading it. We have to clean better (which is really a good thing) but this SIL has told me over email that she thinks I have Asperger's - that was nearly 2 years ago - I never replied. Now there is nothing wrong with having ASD but the woman has a f*#king bachelors of fine arts and an accounting degree - she never even took intro psychology (not that it would help the diagnosis but still...) because she "doesn't believe labels help". Then why on Earth is she labelling me. She says it is helpful like my unofficial diagnosis of Celiac - I disagree - knowing I have Celiac changes my behaviour day to day - saying I have ASD doesn't. Plus you'd think the 4 psychiatrists and the psychologist that I've seen would have said something in the past 15 years? I have depression and anxiety - plus I don't get most sarcastic comments - that isn't ASD...

    I don't think she'll bring it up, she's not that stupid - but a part of me would rather not see her - or if I have to see her, not have her stay at our place.

    Wait, whaaat?

  • @yogadevil  - DH is also team backpack. We used one once on vacation and he is convinced that it was the best day ever. Haha!
    Heck, I'm team backpack. I got this really nice backpack/diaper bag at my baby shower for DS (back in 2010) I still use that thing today! the only thing wrong with it is the zipper is stuck up on the spot where you store bottles (it's a thermal pocket to keep them cool) Best darn thing ever! I will probably be using it with this little one too, or find a newer version of it. 
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  • edited June 2016
    catiecatp said:
    My FFFC is that my SIL and brother are coming to visit - and I'm happy but I'm also dreading it. We have to clean better (which is really a good thing) but this SIL has told me over email that she thinks I have Asperger's - that was nearly 2 years ago - I never replied. Now there is nothing wrong with having ASD but the woman has a f*#king bachelors of fine arts and an accounting degree - she never even took intro psychology (not that it would help the diagnosis but still...) because she "doesn't believe labels help". Then why on Earth is she labelling me. She says it is helpful like my unofficial diagnosis of Celiac - I disagree - knowing I have Celiac changes my behaviour day to day - saying I have ASD doesn't. Plus you'd think the 4 psychiatrists and the psychologist that I've seen would have said something in the past 15 years? I have depression and anxiety - plus I don't get most sarcastic comments - that isn't ASD...

    I don't think she'll bring it up, she's not that stupid - but a part of me would rather not see her - or if I have to see her, not have her stay at our place.

    who DOES that?
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    Mama to Mason (7) and Asher the Crasher (3).
    Married to Topher (10 years). 32 years young in Oklahoma.


  • FFFC - My boss #2 is about to leave for the day, I'm going to finish the filing and then I'm taking a nap!!
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    Mama to Mason (7) and Asher the Crasher (3).
    Married to Topher (10 years). 32 years young in Oklahoma.


  • Heck, I'm team backpack. I got this really nice backpack/diaper bag at my baby shower for DS (back in 2010) I still use that thing today! the only thing wrong with it is the zipper is stuck up on the spot where you store bottles (it's a thermal pocket to keep them cool) Best darn thing ever! I will probably be using it with this little one too, or find a newer version of it. 
    I had one that was a backpack too, and one slightly larger. Mine wasn't designer and it couldn't pass for a purse but the whole point was to carry diapers, clothes, snacks etc. And it was amazing. I was taking it to the park, library, beach, picnics, mommy and me classes. I don't need a bag that costs over $300 or $400 just so people might not know it's a diaper bag. 

    I am not suggesting people here want a special one for that reason, this is left over annoyance from a relative of mine. I don't care what she spends  her money on but it doesn't make you a better person or mom. 
  • @catiecatp I don't understand someone like that. It just seems like such an odd thing to say. You are kind to allow her to come over. Perhaps you could read a few online articles and come up with a diagnoses for her.
  • Speaking of diaper backpacks , I found the perfect one that is both backpack and shoulder bag. I keep bringing it up to my mom... maybe she'll get the hint and buy it so I don't have to? These are my confessions. 
  • @CallMeLauraJane - You and I are kindred spirits :)


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  • @wineo929 - No shame in that! It is your choice for when you are ready to tell. If you are ready now, you are ready now! We've told our church group, close friends, and my Zumba instructor. We plan to announce the 4th, but I may bump that up because I am anxious. Keeping it from DD1 has been the hardest. 


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  • FFFC #2 - I am seriously considering letting my toddler go past her 30 minutes of tv today in order to join the afternoon nap crew. And I swore I would never let the tv, iPad, etc "babysit" my child....
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  • I'm absolutely unproductive at work this week. I keep drifting off into spacy pregnancy thoughts. 

    I need to focus better next week or someone's going to notice!
  • FishyMom said:

    Let me also say this... if you had a miscarriage who would you tell?  the answer to that question is the answer to who (IMO) I think its safe to tell now... I waited on my first positive test to tell my family and then I miscarried, and then I had to tell them that I was pregnant and now I have lost the baby.  I felt like I robbed them the joy of me being pregnant, so now I tell my family almost immediately.  Just some food for thought since it is a common topic on FFFC today.

    My first loss was also my first pregnancy back in 2008. I had only told my husband and my two coworkers that were on a vacation with me four weeks after we got our BFP (because they'd question me not drinking, etc). Well, I m/c while on vacation with the coworkers halfway across the country from my home and my husband. I couldn't even call my mom because I hadn't told her I was PG yet.

    That was tough. I felt so isolated and alone for weeks afterwards because I also had guilt for needing sympathy for the m/c while I hadn't even told anyone I was PG to being with. It was a whirlwind of emotions, really.

    Everyone experiences it differently and people heal and recover differently. I needed my village. THUS, the reason I've already told my close friends and coworkers.
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    Mama to Mason (7) and Asher the Crasher (3).
    Married to Topher (10 years). 32 years young in Oklahoma.


  • Since it's a common topic, a good rule of thumb I've heard for telling people your pregnant before the 13th week (which is when the rate of miscarriage significantly drops) is don't tell anyone you wouldn't feel comfortable "untelling" so to speak.  Because I'd want the emotional support of my parents I told them the first time I saw them in person after my positive test.  DH doesn't want to have to untell his parents if anything happens so my ILs don't know yet.  Just thought I'd share.
     Me: 27 | DH: 28
    TTC since January 2016

    BFP - 3/12/16 - MC 4/5/16
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  • We told our families immediately with the last two BFPs. The last one ended in a MC and it was devastating for our families so this time around, we've only told our moms. I think we might hold out until our scan on the 27th but I would like to wait even longer. My immense sickness will probably tip them off though. We won't go FB official for a while. 
  • FishyMom said:

    Let me also say this... if you had a miscarriage who would you tell?  the answer to that question is the answer to who (IMO) I think its safe to tell now... I waited on my first positive test to tell my family and then I miscarried, and then I had to tell them that I was pregnant and now I have lost the baby.  I felt like I robbed them the joy of me being pregnant, so now I tell my family almost immediately.  Just some food for thought since it is a common topic on FFFC today.

    All of this! I am an open book. People knew we were TTC #2 because it took us 8 months and the only way I process things is to talk about it to anyone who will listen. For better or for worse




  • CRAP - help me think fast - SIL and brother are coming tomorrow and SIL just told me she's got a bottle of fabulous red wine to share. Normally I'm all over at least a glass... They know about our MC and that we're trying but I don't want to announce to them right now - and certainly not before my mom. DH is useless - he's not up for telling people but his response was just "well there isn't much else you can say" - and I can't play the "diet" card because I'm not overweight and SIL is sensitive about her weight. 

    I suppose I could go with "I've discovered red wine upsets my stomach" or "I've had issues with the tannins in red wine"... "heartburn"... 

    I can always recant when I eventually tell them I'm pregnant - they know about the MC - and they've had one themselves, if they don't understand a little white lie then too bad for them... right?
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    Me: 33 & DH: 33
    Married: 07/2006
    TTC: 10/2015
    BFP #1: 11/2015, MC 12/2015 (7 weeks)
    BFP #2: 06/2016, EDD 2/15/2017



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  • FFFC #2 - I am seriously considering letting my toddler go past her 30 minutes of tv today in order to join the afternoon nap crew. And I swore I would never let the tv, iPad, etc "babysit" my child....
     

    My official FFFC is that I don't care about screen time limits as long as my children remain decent humans.

    ::does eye-winky finger pointy thing::

    I'm right there with you.  As long as tv time is balanced out with other activities, I don't give a flip. 
    @CallMeLauraJane and @BumpasaurusRex a lot of our screen time rules are relative to the amount of time we get with our kids since me and DH both work full time. I see my dd 30 minutes before work and about 2 hours after work, then she is in bed. So if we allow more than 30 minutes of screen time in that window then we barely spend time with our own kid.

    i do have Friday's - Sunday's off so we just try to keep the rules the same for consistency sake. 
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  • @catiecatp Just tell them you have a little bit of a headache so you popped some meds and are going to stick with water for dinner.
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    Mama to Mason (7) and Asher the Crasher (3).
    Married to Topher (10 years). 32 years young in Oklahoma.


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