@jlea05I totally agree! I got ONE thing off my registry. And a bunch of useless things I already had or didn't have a need for with no receipts so I spent a ton of time hunting down where things came from and maxing out returns on my ID and then trying to use store credits to get what I actually did need. Why did I spend all that time and effort building a registry if nobody is gonna even bother looking at it?
We typically get something off the registry plus an additional gift, outfit, or blanket etc or a toy or something, but usually always try to get 1 thing off the list
I always try to buy something off peoples registries, along with something I think it cute/useful. I recieved two Boppy pillows at my shower - one from the registry (and I know it was listed as purchased because I watched that registry list like a demented hawk, haha) and one that was completely different and not on the registry at all. The woman who bought the one off-registry was pissed and bitchy about the other Boppy being purchased because hers was more expensive and 'better'. Joke was on everyone though because my son hated the Boppy and I found it awkward and uncomfortable so we almost never used it anyway. (I ended up giving the 2nd one to my cousin and both of her kids have used it so at least it found a happy home).
I'll be the odd man out, I really loved my off-registry gifts. As a FTM there were some things that I just didn't really know enough about or that I thought weren't as necessary as they really were. Everyone seemed to purchase us things that they personally found really useful (if they didn't go off the registry). My RnP was one of those things that a family friend bought for us because her granddaughter loved it so much. I was so thankful in the end to have it because it was the only thing DS2 would nap in at first. I also really loved being surprised because that clearly wasn't the case with the gifts I put on my registry. I was really happy to have the bottles someone purchased (not the ones I chose) because it turned out my first son HATED the ones I actually picked out at the store!
I have purchased Merlin Magic Suits for several friends because we personally found them invaluable with our sons. I always add in something from their registry as well though. I do think for big items it can be frustrating though. I know I do a lot of research for my strollers and car seats for example based on our cars and weight, ease of use etc.
I agree with others. It would be ok if it was a different sex and depending how far apart they are. We also did a meet and greet the baby after the baby was born. We got a few necessities before hand. The party was 3 weeks after the baby was born. We will probably do that again this time around since we don't need much stuff. Unless the baby is a girl then we will need clothes.
I voted doing another shower. My reasoning is what most have been saying. Children further apart or a different gender. In my case mine is 5 years apart and we got rid of literally everything. Now the reason being is because my husband told me NO more kiddies for years now and I finally convinced him. Now we have nothing so we will likely do a second shower whether its the same sex or not. Now we will be buying the more expensive things ourselves as I don't expect people to buy us the pricier items again.
In my opinion, a shower is not always a selfish thing. Most people WANT you to have a shower, I know for myself, when I have a friend or family member get pregnant I look forward to the shower. It is fun to buy little baby things and know that I'm helping out. Even if it is the parents responsibility to provide for their child, I enjoy giving gifts and celebrating!
So if you want to have a shower, go for it! If you don't want to feel uncomfortable about gifts, don't include a registry or you can state on the invite "no gifts necessary", but then the people who want to help out will do it anyway!
I used to think it was tacky, so I kept my second pregnancy super low key. I so wish I would have celebrated now! We will do some kind of celebration this time and people will be more than welcome to bring a gift or not bring a gift, totally optional.
@cjs260 I don't know if my fruit pizza is anything like @mommywesley fruit pizza but in my world it's a sugar cookie crust, cream cheese "sauce" and fruit all over it. And now I can't stop thinking about it. 8:30 isn't too early for cookies right?
Ha! Yes, we buy a roll of sugar cookies and bake them top with the fruit dip (cream cheese and a jar of marshmallow fluff) then whatever fruit you like! They are Aaaaaaamazing!!
I have twin 13 year old girls. I am thinking this one is a boy just a feeling I have. But anyway for these two things combined I feel like it is totally appropriate. If they just had a baby within the last couple years then maybe a sprinkle for some small stuff or a sip and see. But I love celebrating babies. This is just my humble opinion though.
@karaelaine1991 was that August 2014 by any chance?? Sounds very similar to my last experience on the Bump! I was/am mostly a lurker but the drama was unreal!
@karaelaine1991 was that August 2014 by any chance?? Sounds very similar to my last experience on the Bump! I was/am mostly a lurker but the drama was unreal!
My BMB last time was June 2015 so probably after you were gone but from what I remember I think I remember some STMs in that group saying that they'd had similar experiences in the past too. I get the impression that it's a cyclical behavior for some reason? I also get the impression that pregnancy can give some people an excessively "IDGAF" attitude and they sometimes are cattier on the Internet than I would hope they'd be in real life. I haven't seen that in this group so far though! And to be clear, I got really close with the members of my BMB who stuck around after the mass exodus. Sometimes we could be a bit harsher to random drop ins who treated us like yahoo answers than we probably should've been, but when there was a mama in a crisis, you couldn't ask for a more supportive group of women. I dropped off after DD was born but I'm so glad I had the opportunity to know them during that first pregnancy!
When I had dd1 my best friend had just moved cross country. My own family lives over seas. They just send gifts. None of my in laws through me a party. They all kept asking when my baby shower was gonna be and I replied idk. So for dd2 me friend and coworker through me an awesome surprise baby shower at work after hours with the whole work up, cake, food, gifts, games and decoration. I was very touched. I work with some ppl that literally makes $12 per hour and they would give me $100 gift cards. I was shocked and can't wait to return the favor one day. My coworkers took pics and videos and posted it all on Facebook. my inlaws were all pissed that they weren't invited, go figure. If my coworkers throws me another baby shower this time around, I'll be just as happy as last time. In my opinion ppl can have 1 or 10 baby shower if that's what they want.
I don't know. I just had a baby last june so don't think it'a appropriate to have another shower. But a lot of people do Sprinkle parties for people that have had kids already. They are doing one for my bosses's boss because it's her third and she is due in September. I think the sprinkle party is a good idea
Re: Baby showers for squish #2+?
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I have purchased Merlin Magic Suits for several friends because we personally found them invaluable with our sons. I always add in something from their registry as well though. I do think for big items it can be frustrating though. I know I do a lot of research for my strollers and car seats for example based on our cars and weight, ease of use etc.
In my opinion, a shower is not always a selfish thing. Most people WANT you to have a shower, I know for myself, when I have a friend or family member get pregnant I look forward to the shower. It is fun to buy little baby things and know that I'm helping out. Even if it is the parents responsibility to provide for their child, I enjoy giving gifts and celebrating!
So if you want to have a shower, go for it! If you don't want to feel uncomfortable about gifts, don't include a registry or you can state on the invite "no gifts necessary", but then the people who want to help out will do it anyway!
My thoughts.
My mom always plans a shower and that's just what I tell her, have my fruit Pizza and I'll be there lololol
DS1 - 03/31/2006
DS2 - 12/31/2008
DS3 - 06/26/2012
DS4 - 08/07/2014
DS1 - 03/31/2006
DS2 - 12/31/2008
DS3 - 06/26/2012
DS4 - 08/07/2014
Due 1/21/17