@catiecatpI have no real insight to offer, but I would be hesitant to commit without a contract, for all the reasons you mentioned + this is the first offer, right? Do you have more places you've applied? Any word from anyone else?? I would tell them that moving without expenses paid and without a contract are deal breakers. (But, that's easy for me to say... perhaps not so easy to actually do!)
Me: 40, DH: 35 / Married: 2009; TTC #1: 2013
2013 - 2015: 5 pregnancies —> 5 miscarriages
TTCAL with RE (RPL specialist): February 2016
2016: 3 medicated TI cycles —> 3 medicated IUI cycles: All BFN
@catiecatp that sounds so stressful and I was really hoping you'd get a way better offer and make it an easy decision for you
This talk about jobs and benefits just made me remember a convo with DH. His work has him out of town a lot in the summers and he's been getting frustrated with it and has said he doesn't want to be away so much when he have a LO (last summer was a lot of 10 days away, 4 days home), and it's really sweet that he is saying that. But he's considering getting a new job because of it and said "we'll decide in September", which is when we're supposed to start TTC He has great benefits that we might need and now I'm just nervous he'll put off TTC if he decides to try to get a new job I really hope not, but can't say I'm not a bit more concerned now
Oh @catiecatp that's so frustrating! I'm so bummed for you as everything sounded so promising when you were there! I hope you and DH can find a solution that works best for the both of you, whether that means accepting the position or not. I know you are already stressed so this just absolutely pisses me off that this has happened to you. As PP have mentioned, I would entertain other offers or look into alternatives if possible. As my DH says, EVERYTHING is negotiable of an employer really wants you. Maybe they aren't willing to work with you unless you decline the offer based on your deal breakers.
Ugh, @catiecatp, so frustrating. I think you are right to be worried about the whole health insurance issue. It's a big adjustment from the Canadian system, which I'm sure is a financial shock. Our family plan costs us about $700 a month and that's with DH's institution paying over 75% of the total. It's great insurance, but it still stings. Anyways, I would hate for you to be here and be uninsured for any period of time, especially if you are pregnant and I have a feeling temporary insurance could be pretty expensive.
As far as the not honoring your past teaching experience, that stinks. Is this a tenure track position? I agree with PP I would be scared of moving at all, never mind to a new country without having a contract signed. It seems a little unreasonable to expect anyone to do that.
Yeah it stinks - it isn't tenure track because the college district took that off the table about 5 years ago. But it sounds like it is tenure in all but name. I really feel like we need to accept, and at this point it is about minimizing the risk. Because I've been applying for jobs since before I defended my thesis (August 2013) and I've had 4 interviews (2 were horrible, oh the stories I could tell) and this is the first offer. I don't expect other offers in the near future - and I don't know that I'll have any offers from within Canada in the next 1-3 years. This position might make me have more offers. I have adjunct work here in Calgary - so that is the alternative. 10 years of post secondary school and I have 4 month contracts and no benefits (beyond government healthcare that everyone has...)
@rainbowturtles - I hope your DH doesn't back out on TTC. DH has some IVF coverage right now that I hope we don't regret loosing. But right now we have no reason to believe that we'll need it and we have savings in case we need to pay for it on our own. In terms of your situation, my advisor maintains that there is never a "perfect" time, that there will be strengths and drawbacks at every point in time.
@dubcompanion - yeah - it sucks but it is a set procedure. I suppose in essence getting the job required that I have the experience. It is ridiculous - but it is a set procedure so they don't negotiate. I thought I'd ask for 3-4 and I'd get 1-2...
@fivetimesnoluck - I've started asking about how much risk there is with the various steps. I emailed 3 committee members and texted a 4th. I'll be talking to the 4th tomorrow morning - and she's been more forthright about things (and doesn't sugar coat) than the others so on some levels I'll trust her more.
@bornready - the health insurance could be purchased here though so it might not be as bad. We'll dip into savings if we have to - but we're not going anywhere without coverage over those 60 days - and in fact I'll likely get 90-120 days worth because I'll want the peace of mind.
@Wishilivedinflorida - I really get the sense that this is take it or leave it. It is a state job and unionized but I think all of the things I'm asking about or asking for are board approved policies and procedures. My supervisor says it really sounds as if they are set up for someone who is already local, but that they want an international.
In other news, AF isn't here yet and I'm resisting POAS pretty well...
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1. I am back here after a loss this week at 5w5d. Previous loss was 6w1d in August. However, I just received a lab back discovering that during my normal cycle (non-pregnant) I have low progesterone and we are hopeful for next time. I will begin progesterone supplementation next cycle.
2. Benched for 2 cycles.
3. My birthday is next week and my husband wants to get me a puppy to cheer me up, but I honestly don't want the work of an animal haha...
4. Quinoa salad with black beans, hot sauce, cilantro and red onions.
I emailed some of the committee members and texted my new favourite person. One committee member has given me the standard response that I expected and that is useless (talk to HR) - the person I texted I'm now linked on FB with - and she called HR jackasses for calling the letter a "non-binding" contract. She says it is a formality and therefore a low risk. We'll exercise caution but we're going to go for it.
Current plan is to have a short term lease for an apartment that we can transition to a longer contract when I sign the job contract - we considered a hotel, but we'll have pets with us. DH will drive down with me (and the cats) at the start of August and fly home until after the contract is in place. That way he doesn't loose job security until I get mine. We've got to figure out immigration now so we don't delay more than we have to.
Fingers crossed I'm pregnant so that we're together for the first scans and he doesn't miss things. Plus we'll be benched if we aren't pregnant before that transition time
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Oh goodness@catiecatp, how stressful! This is a big move and they should be trying to woo you. It looks like things are moving ahead, so I wish you luck! Insurance here definitely is a mess. We actually have a very "good" plan from my DH's job, but things vary so much. Is there anything about moving that will offset this cost? Lower COL, maybe?
And fingers crossed for a BFP before you venture out!
@silentP - there will be a lower cost of living - and I'll have job security once I get the contract, which I don't have here. Right now I'm an adjunct so my income varies from semester to semester because I'm paid by the course and I teach between 2-4 courses per semester lately.
In other news I'm either 15 or 16 DPO and terrified to test. Were we not just saying that if it would line up with cool things it wouldn't happen... yeah my news that came about 23 hours ago seems to have made karma think this is a most excellent month. And don't get me wrong, it still is. But DH will be away for 2-4 weeks at least and I'll likely be alone for the original EDD and...
I'm feeling overwhelmed. Testing plans were to test tomorrow - I may wait another day or two.
---TW BFP and MC mentioned - scroll down past the Lilo and Stitch gif to avoid ---
@catiecatp!!!! How long are your typical cycles? Are you late yet?
And on the job, it sounds like you are doing all the necessary homework and you definitely have some safe guards in place. I am excited for you! Congratulations!
Me: 40, DH: 35 / Married: 2009; TTC #1: 2013
2013 - 2015: 5 pregnancies —> 5 miscarriages
TTCAL with RE (RPL specialist): February 2016
2016: 3 medicated TI cycles —> 3 medicated IUI cycles: All BFN
@fivetimesnoluck - the issue with my typical cycles is that I think I have a slow rise and FF hasn't caught that in the past - I think my LP is usually 13-14 days, but I don't have much reliable data for that. That means I think I'm likely 1-2 days late as of today. But I'm having a bit of cramping (very light relative to the past 3-4 cycles though) and so I'm trying to not get my hopes up.
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Your patience is astonishing @catiecatp !!! I'm so rooting for you (And as per your posts in TWW, I was a psych minor by accident because I took so many of the courses that when I finally met with my advisor he said I could declare it as my minor lol I loved it!)
DH is home today and he said he has good news but will tell me in person. I feel like such a nutbar because the only news I feel I'll be excited about is if he's suddenly ready to TTC immediately I feel like anything other than that will be disappointing and yet I know it won't be that lol Argghhh I wish I could get it off my brain sometimes!!!! That said, I really can't think of what it could be that he wouldn't want to tell me on the phone and then he qualified it as "not THAT good" Not fair!
Just a quick drive by hi from me. I see I have a tonne of reading to catch up on! Still WTO, still in crappy Winnipeg. Obvs you all know I love food and recipes - since I develop them. I'm the Leafy Cauldron on all social media and they're all my favourite recipes. Want to go home and hug my cats and tomato plants.
Renee, 34 + Devon, 29 married 08/13 TTC 09/15 *TW Loss mentioned* BFP 12/15/15 EDD: 08/26/16 MMC discovered 1/25/16 at 9 +3 TTCAL 3/2016 Acupuncture 11/16 Dx December 2016: unexplained January 2017: 50 mg Clomid + TI = BFP #2 01/30/17 Please be a sticky baby! EDD: 10/15/17 Measuring ahead! 10/12/17 Ambrose born on his due date!
@fivetimesnoluck - thanks for the reassurance. I don't remember this part, though I do remember that around 10-11DPO last time I was convinced AF was on her way for several days, this is later so I wasn't sure.
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Dear @catiecatp do you temp?? 18 high temps will tell you for sure. Fingers crossed for you!
I feel your pain about the job situation. I am in academia too but just as adjunct professor and assistant researcher. So really struggling with low paying job thad I really enjoy to do. I have to work part time in another area of architecture that pays better but is not as rewarding for me.
I hope everything works out for the best for you and your family.
hugs _Y
Married 06.21.14 / TTC since 11.15 / BFP 01.03.2016 / MMC 6w5d D&C 02.2016 // BFP 05.06.16 / natural MC 05.12.16 Benched 06.2016-08.2016 / TTC again 09.2016! On a diet. Cranky. BFP 10.02.2016 / NT scan at 12w looked normal / Anatomy scan at 20w everything ok Team blue! / EDD June 11th 2017 DAVID ROGER was born on May 23rd at 37 weeks.
Architect, Peruvian living in Chile. I love art, opera and good chocolate. Started PhD studies in Architecture on 2017. Fur mom of a rescued miniature poodle called Luke Skywalker.
@yolandamunoz - I've got 15 days of high temps (though only 14 measurements). So things are looking good but not completely sure yet.
I'm currently an adjunct - and there just haven't been jobs that I want in Canada. I strongly prefer teaching over research - it makes me happy, it is my passion. So I think we'll go but the situation is less ideal than we were hoping.
---TW BFP and MC mentioned - scroll down past the Lilo and Stitch gif to avoid ---
I can't believe I missed weekly checkin, and now that I read it it involved food! My favorite, especially this Oreo cake business..my god!
@catiecatp first I'm very sorry about your difficult job situation, how annoying! I also made a cross country move to take a job at a college (as a coach, not a teacher) and didn't get any relocation either. So ridiculous! But more importantly how in the world do you resist the urge....I feel like I need to POAS for you and I'm only on CD6! Lol
AFM..I'm hoping that im WTO. Temping for the first time this month so we'll see!!
Raves - weighed in this morning, officially down 4.2 lbs since 6/1! Woohoo!
Recipe - I seriously love everything...baking, crockpots, grilling. Hmm...most frequently requested by my team would have to be chili, pulled pork and pumpkin chocolate chip cookies
DH - 34, Me - 32 Married 7/13 TTC #1 since 10/13 BFP 2/4/15, MC twin boys at 18w3d 5/15 IUI #1 2/25/16
@SoonToBeMommaHowe - what do you coach? I resist because I have no tests in the house and I think that a BFN would be devastating (I've never had one because I've only ever tested on 18DPO...). I'm planning to buy a test today and test tomorrow...
EDIT: and congrats on the weight loss I know you've been working hard at that
---TW BFP and MC mentioned - scroll down past the Lilo and Stitch gif to avoid ---
Hey @catiecatp! I've been looking for your update on TWW all morning! I guess I'll have to check in tomorrow I know what you mean about seeing BFNs...it sucks so much, even if you're sorta expecting it. I've got everything crossed that tomorrow will be a good day for you!
I coached college basketball for the past three years (moved from FL to ME) until DH and I decided a 1-2 year retirement was a good idea for this TTC business. And thank you for the congrats..my wedding weight was 137, I have 14 lbs left to get there! That's the by-September-goal!! Or a BFP and weight gain before then would be just fine with me as well
DH - 34, Me - 32 Married 7/13 TTC #1 since 10/13 BFP 2/4/15, MC twin boys at 18w3d 5/15 IUI #1 2/25/16
Status: Finally WTO. AF showed this morning after a 39 day cycle, which explains why I haven't been in the mood to participate here this week. I feel so much better now that I'm back in business again.
Rave: CD 1! I'm finally ready to start trying again! It feels like I've turned the page on this chapter and am ready for a fresh start. I'm already getting way ahead of myself, too. I checked what my due date would be if I were to get KU (St. Patrick's Day). Not crazy at all. Nope.
Rant: WTF was going on with my cycle? I had a MMC in February, followed by a 45 day cycle, 25 day cycle, then 39 days. I started taking Spironolactone again in April for acne/skin issues, and I just read that it can mess with your period. I was on BC the first time I took it, so it never dawned on me. I stopped taking it Wednesday (much to the chagrin of my skin), but hopefully that was the culprit.
GTKY: I make a mean baked mac 'n cheese. It's 6 layers of elbow noodles, creamy white cheese sauce, and sharp cheddar, and I usually add grilled onions and diced tomatoes. It's the only thing I can really cook well.
@iceandsnowflakes29 good to know! It's funny, before I seriously considered having children, I always thought that when the time came, I would just stop preventing and see what happens. So not the case now that I'm living through it. I need a plan!
Talk about planning. My last cycle I ttc (January), I had just started bullet Journaling (it's like a planner / journal combined) there's a cult following to it if you're not familiar Google it.
Anyway, I got so crazy I charted in FF but then took extensive notes in my bullet journal (everything from timing, moods, and my symptoms by dpo) I also recorded my betas and progesterone level. I wrote everything down.
I haven't done that this cycle but, maybe I should. Writing down what I thought were pregnancy symptoms kept the BSC at bay and got them out of my head.
Think Monica Gellar ' s "wedding book" but TTC version. I don't know if you're a FRIENDS fan?
ETA some of that info is also color coded with a 12 pack of my husband's sharpie highlighters.
Just count this as my Flame Free Friday confession.
Sounds like something I would do @iceandsnowflakes29 lol I said to my therapist that it's like I'm back in school and I'm doing everything I can to prepare for and study for an exam.
@rainbowturtles I did it because I'm a bad symptom spotter. So I told myself "okay, just write it down and then when you don't get pregnant you can look back next month and see that craving mcdonalds sweet tea at 7dpo does not mean you're KU"
@SoonToBeMommaHowe - that is an achievable goal - though I hope you have a reason for weight gain.
Well after gaining 18 lbs with my 4.5 month twin pregnancy I gave up exercise (for an entire year) and picked up an outrageous ice cream habit
*definitely an emotional eater right here, sugar was my cure for bad days. And after a MC and 10 unsuccessful months TTC there have been a few too many bad days. But that is behind me now...time to get healthy, hit the gym and make a freakin baby! (Hopefully)
*****I'm an idiot! And get what you mean now...I hope I have a good reason for weight gain too!!!!
DH - 34, Me - 32 Married 7/13 TTC #1 since 10/13 BFP 2/4/15, MC twin boys at 18w3d 5/15 IUI #1 2/25/16
Seriously, why is Ikea baby bump central??!! Is it like some secret meeting place for pregnant ladies? I wish I had a bump
I'm so cranky and fatigued and annoyed with renos. Ikea plumbing isn't standard plumbing? Frustrating. Still don't have a sink and might have to use an ugly one, though I don't quite understand why since we're not covering the costs anyways but DH is planning it strangely so it's irritating lol
If only this crap distracted my brain from wanting to TTC but it really really doesn't
@SoonToBeMommaHowe - that is an achievable goal - though I hope you have a reason for weight gain.
Well after gaining 18 lbs with my 4.5 month twin pregnancy I gave up exercise (for an entire year) and picked up an outrageous ice cream habit
*definitely an emotional eater right here, sugar was my cure for bad days. And after a MC and 10 unsuccessful months TTC there have been a few too many bad days. But that is behind me now...time to get healthy, hit the gym and make a freakin baby! (Hopefully)
*****I'm an idiot! And get what you mean now...I hope I have a good reason for weight gain too!!!!
Lol! I read the weight comment the same way at first and was like "hmm what an interesting comment by @catiecatp I wonder why she said that?". Then it made perfect sense after a second reading!
@iceandsnowflakes29 ha! Yes, I'm a huge Friends fan. I just had a flashback to high school. I used to keep a journal of every single outfit I wore so that I would never wear the same thing twice in the same month. It was ridiculous, and I remember my sister discovering it one day and looking me in the eye, saying, "You. Are. Crazy."
I guess some things don't change. Believe it or not, I'm usually a type-B personality. I don't even want to find out the sex when I eventually get pregnant. ¯\_(ツ)_/¯
Re: TTCAL Check in : Week of June 6th
Me: 40, DH: 35 / Married: 2009; TTC #1: 2013
2013 - 2015: 5 pregnancies —> 5 miscarriages
TTCAL with RE (RPL specialist): February 2016
2016: 3 medicated TI cycles —> 3 medicated IUI cycles: All BFN
Donor Egg IVF Transfer: May 1, 2017
May 11, 2017: BFP!! Beta #1: 449.1, Beta #2: 844, Beta #3: 1714
EDD: 1/17/18, it's a GIRL!
E. L. A. born 12/7/2017
This talk about jobs and benefits just made me remember a convo with DH. His work has him out of town a lot in the summers and he's been getting frustrated with it and has said he doesn't want to be away so much when he have a LO (last summer was a lot of 10 days away, 4 days home), and it's really sweet that he is saying that. But he's considering getting a new job because of it and said "we'll decide in September", which is when we're supposed to start TTC
As far as the not honoring your past teaching experience, that stinks. Is this a tenure track position? I agree with PP I would be scared of moving at all, never mind to a new country without having a contract signed. It seems a little unreasonable to expect anyone to do that.
Good luck, I'm sure it's super stressful.
Yeah it stinks - it isn't tenure track because the college district took that off the table about 5 years ago. But it sounds like it is tenure in all but name. I really feel like we need to accept, and at this point it is about minimizing the risk. Because I've been applying for jobs since before I defended my thesis (August 2013) and I've had 4 interviews (2 were horrible, oh the stories I could tell) and this is the first offer. I don't expect other offers in the near future - and I don't know that I'll have any offers from within Canada in the next 1-3 years. This position might make me have more offers. I have adjunct work here in Calgary - so that is the alternative. 10 years of post secondary school and I have 4 month contracts and no benefits (beyond government healthcare that everyone has...)
@rainbowturtles - I hope your DH doesn't back out on TTC. DH has some IVF coverage right now that I hope we don't regret loosing. But right now we have no reason to believe that we'll need it and we have savings in case we need to pay for it on our own. In terms of your situation, my advisor maintains that there is never a "perfect" time, that there will be strengths and drawbacks at every point in time.
@dubcompanion - yeah - it sucks but it is a set procedure. I suppose in essence getting the job required that I have the experience. It is ridiculous - but it is a set procedure so they don't negotiate. I thought I'd ask for 3-4 and I'd get 1-2...
@fivetimesnoluck - I've started asking about how much risk there is with the various steps. I emailed 3 committee members and texted a 4th. I'll be talking to the 4th tomorrow morning - and she's been more forthright about things (and doesn't sugar coat) than the others so on some levels I'll trust her more.
@bornready - the health insurance could be purchased here though so it might not be as bad. We'll dip into savings if we have to - but we're not going anywhere without coverage over those 60 days - and in fact I'll likely get 90-120 days worth because I'll want the peace of mind.
@Wishilivedinflorida - I really get the sense that this is take it or leave it. It is a state job and unionized but I think all of the things I'm asking about or asking for are board approved policies and procedures. My supervisor says it really sounds as if they are set up for someone who is already local, but that they want an international.
In other news, AF isn't here yet and I'm resisting POAS pretty well...
Me: 33 & DH: 33
Married: 07/2006
TTC: 10/2015
BFP #1: 11/2015, MC 12/2015 (7 weeks)
BFP #2: 06/2016, EDD 2/15/2017
2. Benched for 2 cycles.
3. My birthday is next week and my husband wants to get me a puppy to cheer me up, but I honestly don't want the work of an animal haha...
4. Quinoa salad with black beans, hot sauce, cilantro and red onions.
Current plan is to have a short term lease for an apartment that we can transition to a longer contract when I sign the job contract - we considered a hotel, but we'll have pets with us. DH will drive down with me (and the cats) at the start of August and fly home until after the contract is in place. That way he doesn't loose job security until I get mine. We've got to figure out immigration now so we don't delay more than we have to.
Fingers crossed I'm pregnant so that we're together for the first scans and he doesn't miss things. Plus we'll be benched if we aren't pregnant before that transition time
Me: 33 & DH: 33
Married: 07/2006
TTC: 10/2015
BFP #1: 11/2015, MC 12/2015 (7 weeks)
BFP #2: 06/2016, EDD 2/15/2017
And fingers crossed for a BFP before you venture out!
In other news I'm either 15 or 16 DPO and terrified to test. Were we not just saying that if it would line up with cool things it wouldn't happen... yeah my news that came about 23 hours ago seems to have made karma think this is a most excellent month. And don't get me wrong, it still is. But DH will be away for 2-4 weeks at least and I'll likely be alone for the original EDD and...
I'm feeling overwhelmed. Testing plans were to test tomorrow - I may wait another day or two.
Me: 33 & DH: 33
Married: 07/2006
TTC: 10/2015
BFP #1: 11/2015, MC 12/2015 (7 weeks)
BFP #2: 06/2016, EDD 2/15/2017
And on the job, it sounds like you are doing all the necessary homework and you definitely have some safe guards in place. I am excited for you! Congratulations!
Me: 40, DH: 35 / Married: 2009; TTC #1: 2013
2013 - 2015: 5 pregnancies —> 5 miscarriages
TTCAL with RE (RPL specialist): February 2016
2016: 3 medicated TI cycles —> 3 medicated IUI cycles: All BFN
Donor Egg IVF Transfer: May 1, 2017
May 11, 2017: BFP!! Beta #1: 449.1, Beta #2: 844, Beta #3: 1714
EDD: 1/17/18, it's a GIRL!
E. L. A. born 12/7/2017
Me: 33 & DH: 33
Married: 07/2006
TTC: 10/2015
BFP #1: 11/2015, MC 12/2015 (7 weeks)
BFP #2: 06/2016, EDD 2/15/2017
DH is home today and he said he has good news but will tell me in person. I feel like such a nutbar because the only news I feel I'll be excited about is if he's suddenly ready to TTC immediately
TTC 09/15
*TW Loss mentioned*
BFP 12/15/15 EDD: 08/26/16
MMC discovered 1/25/16 at 9 +3
TTCAL 3/2016
Acupuncture 11/16
Dx December 2016: unexplained
January 2017: 50 mg Clomid + TI =
BFP #2 01/30/17 Please be a sticky baby!
EDD: 10/15/17 Measuring ahead! 10/12/17
Ambrose born on his due date!
Me: 40, DH: 35 / Married: 2009; TTC #1: 2013
2013 - 2015: 5 pregnancies —> 5 miscarriages
TTCAL with RE (RPL specialist): February 2016
2016: 3 medicated TI cycles —> 3 medicated IUI cycles: All BFN
Donor Egg IVF Transfer: May 1, 2017
May 11, 2017: BFP!! Beta #1: 449.1, Beta #2: 844, Beta #3: 1714
EDD: 1/17/18, it's a GIRL!
E. L. A. born 12/7/2017
Me: 40, DH: 35 / Married: 2009; TTC #1: 2013
2013 - 2015: 5 pregnancies —> 5 miscarriages
TTCAL with RE (RPL specialist): February 2016
2016: 3 medicated TI cycles —> 3 medicated IUI cycles: All BFN
Donor Egg IVF Transfer: May 1, 2017
May 11, 2017: BFP!! Beta #1: 449.1, Beta #2: 844, Beta #3: 1714
EDD: 1/17/18, it's a GIRL!
E. L. A. born 12/7/2017
Me: 33 & DH: 33
Married: 07/2006
TTC: 10/2015
BFP #1: 11/2015, MC 12/2015 (7 weeks)
BFP #2: 06/2016, EDD 2/15/2017
Fingers crossed for you!
I feel your pain about the job situation.
I am in academia too but just as adjunct professor and assistant researcher. So really struggling with low paying job thad I really enjoy to do. I have to work part time in another area of architecture that pays better but is not as rewarding for me.
I hope everything works out for the best for you and your family.
hugs
_Y
BFP 01.03.2016 / MMC 6w5d D&C 02.2016 // BFP 05.06.16 / natural MC 05.12.16
Benched 06.2016-08.2016 / TTC again 09.2016! On a diet. Cranky.
BFP 10.02.2016 / NT scan at 12w looked normal / Anatomy scan at 20w everything ok
Team blue! / EDD June 11th 2017
DAVID ROGER was born on May 23rd at 37 weeks.
Architect, Peruvian living in Chile. I love art, opera and good chocolate.
Started PhD studies in Architecture on 2017.
Fur mom of a rescued miniature poodle called Luke Skywalker.
I'm currently an adjunct - and there just haven't been jobs that I want in Canada. I strongly prefer teaching over research - it makes me happy, it is my passion. So I think we'll go but the situation is less ideal than we were hoping.
Me: 33 & DH: 33
Married: 07/2006
TTC: 10/2015
BFP #1: 11/2015, MC 12/2015 (7 weeks)
BFP #2: 06/2016, EDD 2/15/2017
Me: 33 & DH: 33
Married: 07/2006
TTC: 10/2015
BFP #1: 11/2015, MC 12/2015 (7 weeks)
BFP #2: 06/2016, EDD 2/15/2017
@catiecatp first I'm very sorry about your difficult job situation, how annoying! I also made a cross country move to take a job at a college (as a coach, not a teacher) and didn't get any relocation either. So ridiculous! But more importantly how in the world do you resist the urge....I feel like I need to POAS for you and I'm only on CD6! Lol
AFM..I'm hoping that im WTO. Temping for the first time this month so we'll see!!
Raves - weighed in this morning, officially down 4.2 lbs since 6/1! Woohoo!
Recipe - I seriously love everything...baking, crockpots, grilling. Hmm...most frequently requested by my team would have to be chili, pulled pork and pumpkin chocolate chip cookies
Married 7/13
TTC #1 since 10/13
BFP 2/4/15, MC twin boys at 18w3d 5/15
IUI #1 2/25/16
EDIT: and congrats on the weight loss I know you've been working hard at that
Me: 33 & DH: 33
Married: 07/2006
TTC: 10/2015
BFP #1: 11/2015, MC 12/2015 (7 weeks)
BFP #2: 06/2016, EDD 2/15/2017
I coached college basketball for the past three years (moved from FL to ME) until DH and I decided a 1-2 year retirement was a good idea for this TTC business. And thank you for the congrats..my wedding weight was 137, I have 14 lbs left to get there! That's the by-September-goal!! Or a BFP and weight gain before then would be just fine with me as well
Married 7/13
TTC #1 since 10/13
BFP 2/4/15, MC twin boys at 18w3d 5/15
IUI #1 2/25/16
Me: 33 & DH: 33
Married: 07/2006
TTC: 10/2015
BFP #1: 11/2015, MC 12/2015 (7 weeks)
BFP #2: 06/2016, EDD 2/15/2017
Rave: CD 1! I'm finally ready to start trying again! It feels like I've turned the page on this chapter and am ready for a fresh start. I'm already getting way ahead of myself, too. I checked what my due date would be if I were to get KU (St. Patrick's Day). Not crazy at all. Nope.
Rant: WTF was going on with my cycle? I had a MMC in February, followed by a 45 day cycle, 25 day cycle, then 39 days. I started taking Spironolactone again in April for acne/skin issues, and I just read that it can mess with your period. I was on BC the first time I took it, so it never dawned on me. I stopped taking it Wednesday (much to the chagrin of my skin), but hopefully that was the culprit.
GTKY: I make a mean baked mac 'n cheese. It's 6 layers of elbow noodles, creamy white cheese sauce, and sharp cheddar, and I usually add grilled onions and diced tomatoes. It's the only thing I can really cook well.
Me: 29, DH: 34
Me: 29, DH: 34
Okay. If you wanna hear crazy, I'll confess this:
Talk about planning. My last cycle I ttc (January), I had just started bullet Journaling (it's like a planner / journal combined) there's a cult following to it if you're not familiar Google it.
Anyway, I got so crazy I charted in FF but then took extensive notes in my bullet journal (everything from timing, moods, and my symptoms by dpo) I also recorded my betas and progesterone level. I wrote everything down.
I haven't done that this cycle but, maybe I should. Writing down what I thought were pregnancy symptoms kept the BSC at bay and got them out of my head.
Think Monica Gellar ' s "wedding book" but TTC version. I don't know if you're a FRIENDS fan?
ETA some of that info is also color coded with a 12 pack of my husband's sharpie highlighters.
Just count this as my Flame Free Friday confession.
*definitely an emotional eater right here, sugar was my cure for bad days. And after a MC and 10 unsuccessful months TTC there have been a few too many bad days. But that is behind me now...time to get healthy, hit the gym and make a freakin baby! (Hopefully)
*****I'm an idiot! And get what you mean now...I hope I have a good reason for weight gain too!!!!
Married 7/13
TTC #1 since 10/13
BFP 2/4/15, MC twin boys at 18w3d 5/15
IUI #1 2/25/16
I'm so cranky and fatigued and annoyed with renos. Ikea plumbing isn't standard plumbing? Frustrating. Still don't have a sink and might have to use an ugly one, though I don't quite understand why since we're not covering the costs anyways but DH is planning it strangely so it's irritating lol
If only this crap distracted my brain from wanting to TTC but it really really doesn't
Me: 33 & DH: 33
Married: 07/2006
TTC: 10/2015
BFP #1: 11/2015, MC 12/2015 (7 weeks)
BFP #2: 06/2016, EDD 2/15/2017
I guess some things don't change. Believe it or not, I'm usually a type-B personality. I don't even want to find out the sex when I eventually get pregnant. ¯\_(ツ)_/¯
Me: 29, DH: 34