Sex life on hold?

fionnualajane · June 2016

What with bloating, sore boobs, exhaustion and morning sickness, I am just not in the mood. Poor husband. He has taken himself off fishing today.
Anyone else in the same boat?

hjmorgan-2 · June 2016

I am more worried about the cramp/contractions afterwards.... I can get past the bloat, and he's careful with my soreness. But after this last time, I was in so much pain afterwards.... I can't bring myself to try again...

BAJDesigns · June 2016

I hear you. The morning sickness is killing the mood. Especially considering that I have been losing my dinner every night. Nothing like holding back my hair while retching. I feel so bad because my DH has been so sweet and so attentive, but he spends all the time he's not at work taking care of me.

LCartee2016 · June 2016

MS is definitely a mood killer for us. And these sore books... Ugh. Our sex life has taken a bit of a hit for now, but I'm hopeful for more energy by the second tri.

ThePax89 · June 2016

I have had sex twice in 12 weeks. Twice. Both times were cut short because my pelvis hurts. Sooooo....

oh and my toddler doesn't sleep anymore.

Smiley-1980 · June 2016

Definitely no interest here. We only did it 2-3 times when I was pregnant with my daughter so probably the same this time.

susykat77 · June 2016

Even if I had the energy to have sex, the vaginal suppositories 3x/day make me feel anything but sexy. And I can't imagine how bad my boobs would hurt being bounced all around. My doc put me on pelvic rest so for now it's officially off limits. I'm hoping to feel spunky in the 2nd tri.

TinaBelcher · June 2016

My RE requires abstinence (progesterone suppositories) for almost 10 weeks

We're cleared for sex after this weekend but now I can't turn around without barfing sooo.... Sorry H!

christac1010 · June 2016

I'm not in the mood at all. There are so many weird things going on with my body (MS, discharge, insanely painful boobs, back pain) that I have NO desire to have sex. I feel so bad for DH. He's being so patient. Also I spotted over a week ago when I had a migraine and the doctor said no sex for two weeks. I'm so close to the second trimester and I keep hoping my desire for sex will come back soon!

mjolk · June 2016

opposite. I want it but SO doesn't seem to now. oh and hospital put me on pelvic rest and I'm not sure how long that is supposed to last.

moonlady-2 · June 2016

What is RE? I keep seeing this acronym, but I checked on the bumps list of acronyms and it's not on there.

hayhay2501 · June 2016

I have absolutely no interest and the three times we have had it since I found out it hasn't been very comfortable for me. DH is being totally great about it but I hope it changes in my second trimester. Also were supposed to go on our substitute honeymoon in a few weeks (had to cancel the first bc of my mom's illness) so I really hope I'm a bit in the mood then!

LoneStar21416 · June 2016

@moonlady it's Reproductive Endocrinologist

Emma61210 · June 2016

We haven't had sex since we got our BFP! I've finally stopped spotting and I'm so nervous that sex will trigger it again. Lol!! I'm like "at 12 weeks I will have sex with you again".. I know in my head sex won't hurt the baby at all but I'm just nervous all around. But DH is super sweet and isn't pushing it. (Probably after 4 1/2 years of trying he's liking the break! Hahahaha!)

canavara · June 2016

We had sex once like... 2 weeks ago? Despite the morning sickness and otherwise feeling crappy, I sometimes wake up in the middle of the night feeling all fidgety and aroused so I finally had enough of it and told OH, "Just do me and get it over with." Very romantic, right? Of course, it had been 4 weeks since we had done it so it was over in literally a minute. Even though everything was fine, I'm still terrified to do it again until we have our first U/S this coming week

Vivi20 · June 2016

Zero motivation or desire. Poor dh. He jokes and says that I got what I wanted, so I don't need him anymore

Briala · June 2016

We are on pelvic rest too so no sex here, I will probably ask after my next appointment to see if I'm clear but I don't know... Honestly I don't really like sex to begin with and it is quite uncomfortable for me so we probably won't have it much while I'm pregnant sorry DH

we didn't have sex last time either.

Jkp7749 · June 2016

Ughhh. Last pregnancy I had a friable cervix, so I bled everytime we did anything. I didn't have a good ultrasound so until we go next week and hopefully see that everything is OK, I do not want to have sex. I can't handle bleeding right now. But, my poor husband WILL NOT drop it. He's making me feel so bad, and I already feel bad, but I am not in the mood one bit.

Nini422 · June 2016

Definitely not in the mood plus DH doesn't want he says it will be strange lol.. I think I will push him after 12 weeks

jlinke926 · June 2016

I have no desire, on top of the sore boobs, MS, dry heaving, extreme fatigue and progesterone suppositories twice a day, my RE said pelvic rest until 12 weeks. Sorry hubs!

xinran · June 2016

@Jkp7749 Oh no feeling pressured is going to do anything but help. Have you tried talking to him and explaining your not saying you'll never want it. From what I can see you are saying is you don't want it until you know the baby is ok and it's not going to make you worry?

Jkp7749 · June 2016

Yeah, I've tried to explain, and he already knows that I'll be interested after that appointment. We had a healthy sex life up until 40 weeks pregnant last time, he just doesn't want to wait

sweetyjenj · June 2016

DH has been great, but I feel bad we've only had sex twice since BFP. First time ended early bc we both were constantly worried it could trigger cramping & bleeding and hurt the baby, and it was somewhat uncomfortable. Second time was a success and started slowly so we both could get comfortable and make sure didn't hurt. Doesn't help that we're temporarily living with my sister until we find a house. So thankful DH is very supportive and not pushing.

Mylitta · June 2016

H isn't pushing anything. But it's been like 2 weeks. I feel like I should initiate so he knows it's ok. But he likes morning... I'm more interested at night. And my interest has dropped recently. And morning is when I don't feel ok yet... We'll see how it goes I guess

julianna88-2 · June 2016

I have no motivation plus he's being very understanding.

mudderbear · June 2016

Attempted it today after about 3 weeks of no interest....couldn't do much, had massive cramping which kind of killed his mood.
last pregnancy I made a vow to do it at least once a month, struggled with that. Everytime it was a new month I was like "cmon how has it been a month already?"

aishmc · June 2016

My husband has been so sweet about not getting any for the past 3 weeks. I'm on pelvic rest and feel bad, but he says he wants me and baby to be healthy so he's ok.

KarliQ88 · June 2016

Are you not supposed to? We still do as much as we did before.

aishmc · June 2016

@KarliQ88 it's totally fine if you're feeling up to it as long as you aren't bleeding. Unfortunately, I've been spotting frequently and bled a lot the other day so I can't.

KarliQ88 · June 2016

aishmc said:

@KarliQ88 it's totally fine if you're feeling up to it as long as you aren't bleeding. Unfortunately, I've been spotting frequently and bled a lot the other day so I can't.

Nope. No bleeding. Maybe no as much as before (before we were trying to get pregnant so it was alot)just due to feeling a little bloated at times but not bad.

Qbanrican84 · June 2016

Emma61210 said:

We haven't had sex since we got our BFP! I've finally stopped spotting and I'm so nervous that sex will trigger it again. Lol!! I'm like "at 12 weeks I will have sex with you again".. I know in my head sex won't hurt the baby at all but I'm just nervous all around. But DH is super sweet and isn't pushing it. (Probably after 4 1/2 years of trying he's liking the break! Hahahaha!)

Same here! I said the exact same thing to him last night..."just a couple more weeks babe, hang in there" Lol poor thing, and poor me too! Lol I'm starting to have crazy dreams, and my hormones are raging, but I'm just soooo scared of the cramping afterwards. We've already had a mc, and any little cramp completely freaks me out. Good thing hubby is super supportive and humorous about it

Glad yours is too...

BriannaE129129 · June 2016

I have had no desire!! I've felt gassy or constipated or just weird and I don't feel like it. My poor husband wanted it yesterday morning and I told him no but promised later that day. One hour later I was doing dishes and sliced my hand terribly on a broken glass, went to the ER and got 10 stitches.... guess who still held me up to my earlier promise!!! UGH! haha but I do feel bad for him it was almost 2 weeks

emerald24-2 · June 2016

My libido is actually the same as before (pretty high), but we haven't been able to have sex as often as we'd like because of cramping, bloating, morning sickness, migraines. However, the few times I've physically felt up to it, I O'd like I never have before! Maybe it's extra blood or something that has enhanced the sensation but it was awesome.

ajmcarroll · June 2016

I'm the exact opposite of most you ladies. Sex almost every day. Damn those pregnancy hormones. Lol

ChaoticWolf · June 2016

Yeah we've had sex maybe once or twice a week since our bfp 3 weeks ago. Its a little lower average than normal because the sore boobs and nausea, but its not a bad average overall. I've just been telling dh that "We're still having more sex than most married couples (statistically) who aren't pregnant!" and he gets a kick out of it and drops the subject.

SunsetSky · June 2016

We had a pretty nice sex life even after the BFP up until about a week ago. Then I spotted after sex... not one time, but two times. I've told him it worries me and he gets it. We've been less frequent and I've asked that he tone it down a bit. IDK. I would feel bad just to cut him off. I like to say that it's not always about me and what I want, so I guess we will just continue to be careful. I've only spotted those two times throughout my entire pregnancy, so maybe it's nothing to stress over.

bren9019 · June 2016

YES! My poor fiance. I have absolutely no desire what so ever for sex. I feel so bad for him. He tries so hard and is so supportive and amazing he definitely deserves it. He's great about it, though and never tries to pressure me or make me feel bad. We did try twice and it hurt so had to stop. I am hoping my sex drive will pick up a little soon.

clichedemorgy · June 2016

I feel so bad for DH! Before our BFP, we averaged about 5-6 times a week. We've had sex twice since and I spotted both times afterwards. OB put me on pelvic rest and it's been two weeks. This is the LONGEST time we've gone without. Luckily, I haven't really been feeling up to it anyway with the bloating, ms, and soreness but I know he's hurting for it even though he's very sweet and not pressuring me. I hope that once we get that 12wk okay, everything can go back to semi-normal.

AlabamaRedhead · June 2016

We've had sex once since our BFP. It was amazing. It was great. But I'm so damn tired at the end of the day I don't care. I'm sure once I get over this it will be more often, but I just want to sleep. DH is fine with it, we've been together a long time, he knows the drill.

rosannahhh · June 2016

We've had sex once since the BFP. Thankfully DH has been really inderstanding. I don't have a good excuse like pelvic rest, I'm just not in the mood. Ever. And every time he touches my boobs, I have to resist smacking him because they are so sore!

mppatty01 · June 2016

@HJ.Morgan
I feel ya with the cramps. OB said it would be okay and that some cramping is normal, and even some spotting can be normal. But HOLY cow, it hurts. Now I'm afraid to even attempt.

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