@sldp123 My dad called us Thing 1 and 2... it makes me happy. My brother went to Universal and brought me back a Thing 1 coffee cup - he got my mom one that said "Mother of all things." It was awesome. I don't feel like I can reuse that though... sad. I have no idea what I'll call our kids. We call our animals our 'monsters.' It may be an extension of that.
It is unexpected im not afraid to tell him. He will be thrilled. After our 2nd was born he wanted to know when we are having our 3rd. I just want to surprise him this time. Make it special.
@brittneybea Then I would absolutely do it a separate day. Then there's nothing else but this great news for him to be thrilled about all day. And he can have a ton of great days... win win all around
@lindsladle15 im not keeping anything from him. He has been away for work the past couple weeks and only comes home once or twice a week. I have an official doctors appointment tomorrow to confirm pregnancy
. I admire women who's husbands are gone a lot traveling for work or in the military, etc. This is my DH's busy season in our business, and I get sad when he leaves at 6:30am and comes home at 8-9 every night, but I'm thankful he comes home every night! That makes more sense, @brittneybea
We told our parents and siblings this last weekend (we found out Tuesday). But we want to wait until at least after our first appointment to tell close friends and family, and then even later to actually announce it to everyone. The only other person who knows is my boss, because I work at a college and I wont see her again until I'm already 12-14 weeks. haha.
Biggest reason I want to wait until our appointment is because this is our first, and I don't even "feel" pregnant (aside from mild cramps that are slightly different from AF cramps). I almost feel like I'm going to go into my appointment and find out it was all a joke. Ha! After taking 5 different pregnancy tests over the span of 4 days.... lol
We weren't planning to tell anyone for a while, at least after 12 weeks and maybe longer if I wasn't showing. However, I left the pee stick on the back of the toilet and my BFF came over for an emergency and her and my other BFF both saw it. In a way it is great because they are super supportive. I am nervous to tell anyone else because I am not sure how they will handle it. SO passed the very next evening so I am really wanting to let people know but I don't want to get bombarded either because I am still dealing with his loss.
We weren't planning to tell anyone for a while, at least after 12 weeks and maybe longer if I wasn't showing. However, I left the pee stick on the back of the toilet and my BFF came over for an emergency and her and my other BFF both saw it. In a way it is great because they are super supportive. I am nervous to tell anyone else because I am not sure how they will handle it. SO passed the very next evening so I am really wanting to let people know but I don't want to get bombarded either because I am still dealing with his loss.
Am I reading this correctly? Your SO passed away? If so, I am terribly sorry and will be praying for you!!
Yes, it was completely unexpected and traumatic (heart attack). He actually wanted more babies, I was okay with two! However, we were both really really happy and he was so excited for #3. He had already had conversations with this baby each night multiple times, we had talked about names and all kinds of stuff. I am hoping that getting back on here will help me embrace this pregnancy. With my first I really enjoyed the comradery on the BMB. Oddly, I feel more comfortable talking about it here that with actual people. Thank you so much, it has been difficult but I am focusing on my babies and the positive.
edit - let's not jack the thread. I will tell them all eventually LOL or they will just notice me waddling.
@CoUnTryBB1 I can't help but hijack the thread! I am SO sorry for this happening. You are a strong woman; I love your attitude at this point. What a blessing this (and your other two) baby is. I'll definitely be praying. *big hugs*
Thank you ladies, I appreciate all of the support. I am sure I will have bad days and even worse days but I don't want to live my life sad and grumpy. Big Hugs back.
As of right now, only DH and one of my other mom friends from a previous BMB knows. My sister is getting married in June and my SIL had 3 miscarriages last year so we are waiting awhile to tell family. It is going to be a complete shock to everyone because we were done after having our last baby. We will probably tell around the end of the first trimester if I can make it that long without showing. I really want to think up a cute way to announce it since this is Baby #5.
Apparently my father just "cant hold it in." (this is his first grandbabby) He has already spilled the beans to my grandfather and "warned" me he cant control who else he tells.... So I guess our announcement plans will have to change.... (we wanted to wait a few weeks... at least after our first OB appointment....)
I really don't feel comfortable sharing before 12 weeks (personal preference), however, my parents will be in town this week and we saw baby's heartbeat on Friday. I know they will suspect something if I don't enjoy a glass of wine at some point during the week. I ordered these cards for our close family after the ultrasound on Friday. I cut the text off since it has all of our names but it basically says Happy New Years! Love our family + Baby #3 due 1/4. We will share with my parents this week and send the others next week when I will be close to 10 weeks. It is scary for me to share this early but I am going to do my best to have faith! We won't share with anyone outside of close family and friends until 12+ weeks just to be safe.
@keifekm that's cute!! I like that idea....I wonder if I could do something like that even though my edd is Jan. 24... In regards to sharing, obviously personal preference, history, etc play a role in your decision, but I think there is a certain amount of faith involved at any point in the pregnancy, as something could always "go wrong." Have fun sharing, whenever you do!
My husband would like to share after the first ultrasound. After my loss, I would be OK with not telling anyone until the baby is born! But, I know I need the positive vibes and support, so after my first ultrasound at 10 or 12 weeks. We haven't told anyone yet.
So we haven't told everyone but we told my brother and sil yesterday because they won't be in town for the big announcement. I sent sil this text:
Sister to sister I have something to say Keep it to yourself, don't give it away Happy to announce something we found We're going to have another Wesley running around!
It was great lol, then she said my brother asked if we were Catholic now LOL
We haven't told anyone yet, we will wait until 12-13 weeks to make sure everything is ok. My mother had two difficult pregnancies, and she was 10 years younger than I am when she started having kids, so I'm a little nervous and would rather wait until the most dangerous period has passed. we're also dealing with some unfortunate timing: I'm due on the same weekend that my sister is getting married. She and I are very close and I'm really hoping she won't be upset, but I'd rather wait as long as possible to tell our family to avoid "hijacking" the fun time they're all having with the wedding planning.
I'm kind of torn between wanting to announce and wanting to keep it a secret. For one thing, I'm not the squealing/jumping up and down type when I'm excited, so I don't really know how to react to that (some family and friends are that way). And secondly, I've kind of been enjoying not having people asking me uncomfortable questions and telling me their horror stories all the time, I like having this peaceful pregnancy time. One of my really good friends has said before, "whenever you get pregnant, I want to hear EVERY DETAIL." But I definitely don't want to be telling her every single detail. We're waiting until after a heartbeat, but I've considered waiting a little longer than that for these reasons.
@Dinozaur I totally understand the peaceful pregnancy time. My DH would tell everyone right now, which is fine on some fronts, but I like our little secret right now and the energy I'm saving by not talking about it all the time!
We were going to wait till after the first ultrasound, but my big mouth couldn't stay shut, and I told my mom and sister. So of course, dh had to tell his mother and dad, and then I told his sister and my dad. So now our immediate family knows and we're just telling other people if the conversation leads to it.
We'll tell our parents on Father's Day (will have had first ultrasound by then too). Will wait to tell work at 12 weeks (unless I'm showing before since it's my second). Once work knows, then Facebook!
After my first ultrasound to confirm heartbeat, which will be around week 12-- so mid-July. This is our second try so our friends are aware that we're trying. I just want to wait and know there's life before I confirm the news! I don't think we'll announce on FB. Maybe when we find out gender? DH is excited we'll prob just call his parents and he'll prob text his siblings. One of them in particular had the worst attitude when we told her so I'm not wasting my time taking her out to dinner again.
This will be our second, but we'll wait to tell our parents until after our 1st ultrasound to see/hear heartbeat. After that, we'll tell our siblings and then I'll wait till 12+ weeks (unless I'm obviously showing) to tell my work.
Re: When are you planning on sharing the news?
@brittney
That makes more sense, @brittneybea
We told our parents and siblings this last weekend (we found out Tuesday). But we want to wait until at least after our first appointment to tell close friends and family, and then even later to actually announce it to everyone. The only other person who knows is my boss, because I work at a college and I wont see her again until I'm already 12-14 weeks. haha.
Biggest reason I want to wait until our appointment is because this is our first, and I don't even "feel" pregnant (aside from mild cramps that are slightly different from AF cramps). I almost feel like I'm going to go into my appointment and find out it was all a joke. Ha! After taking 5 different pregnancy tests over the span of 4 days.... lol
If so, I am terribly sorry and will be praying for you!!
edit - let's not jack the thread.
Me: 37, DH: 36
Started TTC #1: 9/2015
Preliminary labs/testing @ 6 months: TSH, A1c, progesterone, prolactin, SA, HSG all normal
BFP: 5/19/2016, M/C: 5/29/2016
BFP: 6/22/2016 EDD 3//6/2017
BFP#5 5/22/17 EDD:1/27/17 It's a GIRL!!!!
In regards to sharing, obviously personal preference, history, etc play a role in your decision, but I think there is a certain amount of faith involved at any point in the pregnancy, as something could always "go wrong." Have fun sharing, whenever you do!
Sister to sister I have something to say
Keep it to yourself, don't give it away
Happy to announce something we found
We're going to have another Wesley running around!
It was great lol, then she said my brother asked if we were Catholic now LOL
DS1 - 03/31/2006
DS2 - 12/31/2008
DS3 - 06/26/2012
DS4 - 08/07/2014
we're also dealing with some unfortunate timing: I'm due on the same weekend that my sister is getting married. She and I are very close and I'm really hoping she won't be upset, but I'd rather wait as long as possible to tell our family to avoid "hijacking" the fun time they're all having with the wedding planning.
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