I'll start! I think it's tacky to have your u/s pic as your profile pic on social media. *TW* As someone who has been through a loss, the last thing I wanted to look at constantly (or every so often while scrolling through a newsfeed) was the inside of someone's uterus. I obviously realize that the women who do this are just excited, but it just seems obnoxious to me. However, I do love looking at all our lovely u/s here, where they are organized in one easy place!
Also, the dad humor in me thinks "Isn't that kid a little to young to have a Facebook page?" Har-dee-har-har.
I agree, but I will one up you. And I'm sure this will be really unpopular: I think ultrasound pictures on social media are tacky/weird in general. I tend to feel like most people overshare on social media to begin with, so for me, pictures of an acquaintance's innards goes way too far. I don't need that in my life. Save it for your friends and family. I will say, my opinion on this doesn't extend to TB because this community serves a different purpose.
@LoneStar21416 Completely agree. I never mind seeing them on the BMBs at all, but it drives me bonkers to see them on social media. In all reality, your immediate family are the only people who are actually interested in seeing that. (and of course women excited for you on your BMB, haha).
I'll start! I think it's tacky to have your u/s pic as your profile pic on social media. *TW* As someone who has been through a loss, the last thing I wanted to look at constantly (or every so often while scrolling through a newsfeed) was the inside of someone's uterus. I obviously realize that the women who do this are just excited, but it just seems obnoxious to me. However, I do love looking at all our lovely u/s here, where they are organized in one easy place!
Also, the dad humor in me thinks "Isn't that kid a little to young to have a Facebook page?" Har-dee-har-har.
Not to mention that it's actually posting part of your child's medical records online. Perhaps I'm overly cautious, but I'm a firm believer that my child, not me, should be the one to choose what pictures of her should be online when she's old enough to understand the repercussions of doing so. I have 0 pictures of DD online and it'll be the same for this one. Pretty sure my in-laws think I'm a nut for being so strict about this but oh well lol
@karaelaine1991 I completely agree with you on all of this. One of my really close friends has adopted this policy, and I've seen how unpopular it is with her in-laws, but I am totally following the same path. Since her family and my family are really close, all my in-laws have been introduced to the no social media pics policy through her, which I am so so thankful for (I should go update my Thankful Thursday answer), so it's just a matter of holding the line with this pregnancy.
@LastMango YES. Someone, somewhere used the term "preggly" the other day, and I totally threw up in my mouth a little bit.
Okay, now I want to know - how on earth would you use the word "Preggly" - like, is it an adverb? Is it "to do things in a pregnant manner"? What does that even MEAN???
I hate that people sell so much direct sales crap and fill up my Facebook feed with plexus this and oragami owl that. Good for you for providing for your family but maybe you need to make a private page because I get tired of people telling me that not only should I buy their products, I should take control of my life and sell it too. No. Just stop. Stop being such a pusher of a consumer society where we constantly are asked to spend our money. Stop making me feel like I "need" anything more than love, food, and shelter. I don't.
@cjs260 She did use it as an adjective! Though, since it ends in "ly", that makes very little sense, since "ly" endings are usually for adverbs. Either way, I absolutely agree that is a very, VERY annoying word.
I hate that people sell so much direct sales crap and fill up my Facebook feed with plexus this and oragami owl that. Good for you for providing for your family but maybe you need to make a private page because I get tired of people telling me that not only should I buy their products, I should take control of my life and sell it too. No. Just stop. Stop being such a pusher of a consumer society where we constantly are asked to spend our money. Stop making me feel like I "need" anything more than love, food, and shelter. I don't.
I totally agree. And to the part I bolded, isn't that just so insulting? Like, I'm sorry, I actually feel like I'm pretty in control of my life without buying into a multilevel marketing scheme, thankyouverymuch.
@emilyn2012 and @poetryandoceans I totally agree with you on the MLM schemes. It seems like that is half of my Facebook feed these days, and I've had to unfollow a lot of friends because I was so annoyed by it. I was added on Facebook by a friend I hadn't seen in a really long time, and she PM'ed me asking how I was, and if I wanted to meet for coffee. I replied that, sure, I'd love to see her and catch up. Then she was like, "Great, because I think you'd really love this product...". It's just really irritating that it seems like so many of them (though I'm sure not all) are taking advantage of friendships to sell stuff.
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@Lecool Exactly! I mean, I think some of the products seem neat; I know I've seen enough people raving about those leggings to know that there must be something there. I'm not knocking people opening side businesses or whathaveyou. I just hate it when people seem like they're exploiting their friendships for monetary gain.
@Lecool@poetryandoceans yes exactly. And I called direct sales people out in a Facebook post not too long ago and a girl who had privately messaged me a month before (but hadn't talked to me since high school) was all like ohhhh I would never do that stuff!!! And also what kills me is I'm religious and someone I know is also very religious and sells these supplements and she practically uses religion as her basis for selling this stuff. It lets her stay in the home where God wants her and is natural just like God would want and it makes my blood boil. No, what God would want is for you to stop using his name for your own personal gain
@poetryandoceans Totally agree. I want to be able to buy things because I actually want them, not because I feel pressured by a friend, and I want to use Facebook to see what friends are up to in their lives, not to see post after post about a product. And yes, the leggings actually ARE amazing, you should try them!
Me: 28 | DH: 31 Together since 2006 | Married May 2015 TTC #1 since November 2015 BFP 5/17/16 | EDD 1/27/17 | Born 2/4/17
I'm in a particularly bad mood today. I never eat out and decided I needed some chili cheese tots from sonic for lunch. A dude cut me off and stared me down BC I was annoyed at his driving, then the sonic lady got my order wrong and delivered my tots an entire ten minutes after my burger, plus the sprite was out of carbonation. Anyway, I don't know if I'm so annoyed BC of the baby or just from worrying about the baby. Normally i wouldn't participate in UO, but why not?
I do not like how our while society can't handle others opinions. I see it on here so much and it ticks me off. What happened to "if you can't say anything nice, don't say anything at all?" There are so many smart comments on here that didn't need to be written. If you see a thread you don't like, what compels you to start an argument about it, rather then move on???
Also I hate when people think less of stay at home moms. Like we don't work. You'd pay someone to watch your kid right? That's their job isn't it? And everybody complains about how expensive childcare is, so they probably make alot. How is it different if it's my kid that I'm watching?
@karaelaine1991 I completely agree with you on all of this. One of my really close friends has adopted this policy, and I've seen how unpopular it is with her in-laws, but I am totally following the same path. Since her family and my family are really close, all my in-laws have been introduced to the no social media pics policy through her, which I am so so thankful for (I should go update my Thankful Thursday answer), so it's just a matter of holding the line with this pregnancy.
Thank you! Haha I'm used to getting the side eye for it. I have no problem with other people doing it with their kids -totally an individual parenting choice - but when I was in grad school I learned all about children's autonomy on the Internet and possible risks of over posting. I'll be the first to admit that it's made me paranoid but I feel pretty strongly about it so I'm ok with people thinking I'm being too strict. My kids' safety comes first! Plus, like I said, I want it to be their choice. If they want to be tech hermits and shun the Internet they should be able to (though I highly doubt that will happen lol)
I hate that people sell so much direct sales crap and fill up my Facebook feed with plexus this and oragami owl that. Good for you for providing for your family but maybe you need to make a private page because I get tired of people telling me that not only should I buy their products, I should take control of my life and sell it too. No. Just stop. Stop being such a pusher of a consumer society where we constantly are asked to spend our money. Stop making me feel like I "need" anything more than love, food, and shelter. I don't.
Ugh YES!!! also those online parties are complete bull. If you want me to buy something, then throw a real party and feed me, darn it! Lol
@karaelaine1991 Lol. I agree with you on all the internet privacy and autonomy stuff, but (this might be more appropriate for Friday confessions) the main reason I want to adopt this policy is because my MIL is just batshit insane when it comes to Facebook posts. Like, posting updates every 10 minutes with absolutely no filter insane. So, while philosophically I agree that children should have the autonomy to choose how they interact with the digital world, I get the most visceral satisfaction from knowing that this policy will prevent my child from being grist for my MIL's Facebook famewhoring...
@karaelaine1991 Lol. I agree with you on all the internet privacy and autonomy stuff, but (this might be more appropriate for Friday confessions) the main reason I want to adopt this policy is because my MIL is just batshit insane when it comes to Facebook posts. Like, posting updates every 10 minutes with absolutely no filter insane. So, while philosophically I agree that children should have the autonomy to choose how they interact with the digital world, I get the most visceral satisfaction from knowing that this policy will prevent my child from being grist for my MIL's Facebook famewhoring...
Ooh yes. That's how my SIL is (I personally think she's a narcissist) and yeah this has been awesome protection against her using DD for attention on social media, which she absolutely would do.
Ultrasound photos don't bother me. If someone wants to show them off I'm all for it. I love posting pictures of my boys. My sister lives across the country and the photos make us feel like we can keep closer tabs on each other's lives. It's ten times quicker and easier to post an Easter album than it is to text or email her 20 different photos.
Direct sales on facebook drive me crazy as well. I can't tell you how many times I've gotten messages shortly after I HAD MY BABIES about weight loss and work out crap. Seriously? First of all, ouch and second, don't you think I'm kind of busy...and poor since I just had a baby. These things aren't cheap.
@karaelaine1991 I don't blame you. There was recently a spot on this disgusting subset of the Internet, I believe on Instagram, where people steal photos of random children off the internet and role play and comment about the baby/child. It was really horrific. I forget what it was called, but there was a specific hashtag for it.
If I see one more person post something on Facebook about how that gorilla was protecting the boy or the mom was neglectful I will delete my account. I'm so glad that all of these people who have never worked with animals, have never had children, and were not there are experts on the whole situation. Can we please move on?! I have been so frustrated by this today!
@karaelaine1991 I don't blame you. There was recently a spot on this disgusting subset of the Internet, I believe on Instagram, where people steal photos of random children off the internet and role play and comment about the baby/child. It was really horrific. I forget what it was called, but there was a specific hashtag for it.
That's awful. I hope they're facing some sort of legal consequences for that!
I'll start! I think it's tacky to have your u/s pic as your profile pic on social media. *TW* As someone who has been through a loss, the last thing I wanted to look at constantly (or every so often while scrolling through a newsfeed) was the inside of someone's uterus. I obviously realize that the women who do this are just excited, but it just seems obnoxious to me. However, I do love looking at all our lovely u/s here, where they are organized in one easy place!
Also, the dad humor in me thinks "Isn't that kid a little to young to have a Facebook page?" Har-dee-har-har.
Not to mention that it's actually posting part of your child's medical records online. Perhaps I'm overly cautious, but I'm a firm believer that my child, not me, should be the one to choose what pictures of her should be online when she's old enough to understand the repercussions of doing so. I have 0 pictures of DD online and it'll be the same for this one. Pretty sure my in-laws think I'm a nut for being so strict about this but oh well lol
Yes! This! I am going to agree with all of you ladies on this issue. And we don't have any pictures of our dd online either, and I'm incredibly vigilant about making sure that I tell everyone at family gatherings/parties/etc...to not post pictures of our dd on their facebook/instagram/whatever other outlet they have. My SIL took it upon herself to post pictures of my dh and I, as well as our dd, on her Facebook and instagram, and it literally made me see red. To me that is incredibly inconsiderate and rude. I would never dream of posting pictures on the internet of anyone, especially a child, without asking permission first. It makes me feel very creepy crawly thinking about my dd's little face out there on the interwebs, where literally ANYONE can get their hands on it and do Lord knows what with it. As far as Facebook goes, my (probably unpopular) opinion is that it's a mostly obnoxious tool that narcissists use to overshare way, way too much. Nothing is sacred anymore. I had an account, but I found myself just looking at my newsfeed with a "WTF?!" expression on my face half the time, so I deleted it.
One more UO. This one is in regards to the name Luna, which I suspect will become more popular since Chrissy Tiegen named her daughter that. The first thing that comes to mind is: Lunatic. Luna the lunatic.
If I see one more person post something on Facebook about how that gorilla was protecting the boy or the mom was neglectful I will delete my account. I'm so glad that all of these people who have never worked with animals, have never had children, and were not there are experts on the whole situation. Can we please move on?! I have been so frustrated by this today!
This. This so much. I was a large animal vet for a long time and am intimately familiar with how tranquilizers work. A lot of my friends are zoo vets. The armchair activists have been making me RAGE. the zoo made such a heartbreaking but CORRECT decision and give me a break with everyone's fake outrage when no one can be bothered to give a damn about true animal conservation, which is heartbreaking, underfunded and a thorny complicated and very political problem. But, please, random internet commentators, tell me all about how much you know about this subject.
Here's my apparently UO. I actually like the words preggers and ALMOST used it here but have known that others hate so refrained. That's how much I love you guys.
For some reason, however, Preggo and preggly are not ok. #fickle #preggers #trueconfessions
@emilyn2012 I. LOATHE. PLEXUS. Those people are the absolute worst.
I don't know if this is a UO or if I just happen to know a lot of people who do it, but I think it's really tacky to post pictures on social media of you like, right after delivery with the hospital gown hanging halfway off and looking all exhausted while holding your baby...I completely understand taking the pictures to have as memories and all but I feel like those should just be for family and close friends. And anyone who tries to post any pictures like that of me will get slapped, I don't care if they are family.
Here's my apparently UO. I actually like the words preggers and ALMOST used it here but have known that others hate so refrained. That's how much I love you guys.
For some reason, however, Preggo and preggly are not ok. #fickle #preggers #trueconfessions
Use it all you want @Josie3=5! You know I still love ya!
Seriously, the gorilla thing has gotten your blood boiling so much! One of my cousins was adamant on using a tranq and I wanted to strangle her! Unbelievable. Yes, let's ignore and discount multiple EXPERTS and seriously drag out this whole thing. Insanity.
Piggy backing off of the hate of the words "prego" and "preggers", I can't stand almost all abbreviated words that are popular: totes, obvi, adorbs, etc. UGH. Also, enough with phrases like, "I love happy hour. Because, wine". Maybe it's the speech language pathologist in me or maybe it's because I'm old. I don't know but I cringe when I read things like this.
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Re: UO Thursday 6.2.16
Also, the dad humor in me thinks "Isn't that kid a little to young to have a Facebook page?" Har-dee-har-har.
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My UO: I hate the terms prego and preggers. Makes my skin crawl. Alternately, I love the term knocked up.
Edit: Ew to the term preggly
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And also what kills me is I'm religious and someone I know is also very religious and sells these supplements and she practically uses religion as her basis for selling this stuff. It lets her stay in the home where God wants her and is natural just like God would want and it makes my blood boil. No, what God would want is for you to stop using his name for your own personal gain
Me: 28 | DH: 31
Together since 2006 | Married May 2015
TTC #1 since November 2015
BFP 5/17/16 | EDD 1/27/17 | Born 2/4/17
I do not like how our while society can't handle others opinions. I see it on here so much and it ticks me off. What happened to "if you can't say anything nice, don't say anything at all?" There are so many smart comments on here that didn't need to be written. If you see a thread you don't like, what compels you to start an argument about it, rather then move on???
Also I hate when people think less of stay at home moms. Like we don't work. You'd pay someone to watch your kid right? That's their job isn't it? And everybody complains about how expensive childcare is, so they probably make alot. How is it different if it's my kid that I'm watching?
Direct sales on facebook drive me crazy as well. I can't tell you how many times I've gotten messages shortly after I HAD MY BABIES about weight loss and work out crap. Seriously? First of all, ouch and second, don't you think I'm kind of busy...and poor since I just had a baby. These things aren't cheap.
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As far as Facebook goes, my (probably unpopular) opinion is that it's a mostly obnoxious tool that narcissists use to overshare way, way too much. Nothing is sacred anymore. I had an account, but I found myself just looking at my newsfeed with a "WTF?!" expression on my face half the time, so I deleted it.
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The first thing that comes to mind is: Lunatic.
Luna the lunatic.
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This. This so much. I was a large animal vet for a long time and am intimately familiar with how tranquilizers work. A lot of my friends are zoo vets. The armchair activists have been making me RAGE. the zoo made such a heartbreaking but CORRECT decision and give me a break with everyone's fake outrage when no one can be bothered to give a damn about true animal conservation, which is heartbreaking, underfunded and a thorny complicated and very political problem. But, please, random internet commentators, tell me all about how much you know about this subject.
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For some reason, however, Preggo and preggly are not ok. #fickle #preggers #trueconfessions
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37 yr old mama with 4yr old DD and 2 yr old DS
I don't know if this is a UO or if I just happen to know a lot of people who do it, but I think it's really tacky to post pictures on social media of you like, right after delivery with the hospital gown hanging halfway off and looking all exhausted while holding your baby...I completely understand taking the pictures to have as memories and all but I feel like those should just be for family and close friends. And anyone who tries to post any pictures like that of me will get slapped, I don't care if they are family.
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BFP 5/11/16 EDD 1/19/17
DS born 4/06/14
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BFP 5/11/16 EDD 1/19/17