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Tawny87
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My hubby needs a junk punch!
Tawny87
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So we are getting new flooring this week that my dad and brother are going to install for us. We have been talking about this since the beginning of the year and have decided that it was best to get it done before new baby. My dad told us in March that he would have time to do it beginning/middle of May and now my hubby is being a baby about it all saying it was forced upon him. He was there when the flooring was picked out, measured for, and ordered plus the original idea to do all laminate was his. This is just a fat 36 week Preggo lady rant. Anyone else's hubby being a wiener lately?
Re: My hubby needs a junk punch!
Mine got a man cold and then was giving me guilt because I wasn't being considerate ... Because I wanted to go for a walk and he didn't want to wait in the car.
And the one thing I've asked him to do for baby prep is read one specific book, which I got for him about 6 weeks ago. and each time I ask him about it he's pissy and has an excuse.
Sorry bud but I don't give a single f*ck .... Not one. Read the book or you aren't going to want to know me when I go into labor and the one thing I asked you for isn't done.
Ps - I think I'm getting his cold just in time for my baby shower.
double dick punch.
Jump to 2016 and our second baby, and I was really really hoping for a much more peaceful delivery and a stricter visiting policy for family and friends. But no, mother-in-law is planning on coming and being up in the hospital room with us ALL DAY "to help out" while my parents stay at our house and watch our 2 year old. When my husband broke the news to me, I went full pregnant lady crazy and burst into tears. Is it so wrong that I would want a little time to heal and feel like myself again after surgery? And, call me crazy, but could I maybe have a teeny tiny bit of alone time with the new baby before being bombarded with a 24/7 visitor that won't leave and will expect to be treated as a guest??
Deep breath. End rant. Thanks for listening.
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yes you can have 24 hours.
My suggestion - talk to the nurses privately and let them know the circumstances. They may be able to impose "visiting hours" due to your recovery. birth partner/spouse only outside of visiting hours.
Good luck and enjoy your new baby
We have my sister and mother coming to visit the week the baby is born....due on the 20th they already have flights for the 25th (there were some great deals) and my H is pissed he wanted no one to visit for a month BUT this is also his second baby and his family is somewhat dysfunctional, he goes a year without talking to his mother....where on my side this is my mothers first grandchild like I could keep her at bay for a hole month. ....so best case I go on time or early and we have a week before they descend on our little home or baby comes late and they are in my personal space while trying to deliver...... not a hubby complaint but a comment related to the visiting relatives.
for the Hubby part, he was supposed to be out of town for 4 days this week, so I talked to him on the drive home from work yesterday he confirmed it may be extended so I walk in the front door and he is already home, great right don't have to spend too many nights alone, NOT!!!! he hid on the stairs and I screamed and almost peed my pants, how is that a smart move to do to a 34 week pregnant lady.....this is the second time in a week he has scared the crap out of me....I swear he's trying to make the baby arrive early. ..... in all seriousness he is doing it a joke, he's not being mean just stupid.
She starts in on the bolded, you say NO! Is she incapable of making her own damn coffee?
I told my husband people can come to see the baby, but I am not hosting them, and he may have to kick them out if they stay too long. Someone wants a snack or a drink, help yourself. Go into the fridge and have anything you want, but I am not waiting on you after I just had a baby, and anyone who thinks you should is absolutely crazy and deserves to be kicked out.
Disclaimer: I don't want anyone to think my husband is a total pile of crap. He actually is a wonderful husband and father. He is just incapable of telling his mother no and I don't know why, especially in this circumstance. His family has a very odd dynamic and they aren't close at all - which makes it more confusing. If they were super tight, I could see somewhat where the momma's boy stuff comes from. But we maybe see her three times per year so I don't get where the catering to her every wish comes to play.
me: if this is anything like labour, I quit.
him: my dad gave me some advice once: stop being a baby and grow a pair.
me: I'm going to cut your pair off if you don't watch your damn mouth.
BFP #1 June 2011 m/c@6wks
BFP #2 December 2011, EDD 8/21/12, born 7/21/12 at 35w4d
BFP #3 October 6, 2015. WHAT???
He has recently been laid off from the oilfield which it has been lovely having him around more instead of only every other week but having him home so much now and only wanting to play his video games instead of picking up the slack around the house and with our 5 yr old is really about to piss me the f*** off!!
Agh! This makes me mad for you!
The hospital I'm delivering at has "visiting hours" that mothers can use at their discretion in order to recover and bond with their new baby. I would definitely suggest checking if this is an option in your situation.
The fact that you were reduced to tears by the mere thought of seeing your MIL should tell your husband it isn't appropriate for her to be in your recovery room all day. If at all possible, I would ask him to talk to her about sticking to a more reasonable amount of time spent in your room. Assure her that there will be nurses to help you out if you have a question, and you would like her role to be that of a visiting grandmother, as opposed to someone who is there to help out.
However, I get the impression that If your MIL does end up showing up with the intent to stay all day, she might be the type of the person who gets bored sitting in one place for too long and will leave to mill around the gift shop or grab lunch. As a last resort, you can always have the nurses ask her to leave if you and your DH ask and she refuses.
So you know what the idiot did? He took off a week starting before the baby will even be here!!!! I meant a week starting when baby is born, obviously. So I'm making him watch the kids while I relax, since the whole purpose of the week was supposed to be to spend time with the kids. And he'd better do it without complaining!
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Although, his record so far for finishing a project is the baseboards when we put in our flooring. That one took about 4 years until he eventually just hired a guy to do them.
I wish he would cut me some slack sometimes! I feel like crap and I still cooked for the family! If you don't like it go eat a PbJ sandwich or something. Argh
BFP #1 June 2011 m/c@6wks
BFP #2 December 2011, EDD 8/21/12, born 7/21/12 at 35w4d
BFP #3 October 6, 2015. WHAT???