I have a hard time showing support to women on here who never participate except to post their special snowflake threads about how they need support. I'll support those who participate but I have a hard time offering support to those whom I've never even seen their screen name.
Another FFFC is I forget to love tit posts most of the time, I try to remind myself but nope. Sorry guys.
I have been that person who would say it like it is and if a baby I see isn't cute, I would say nothing at all to the moms. However, there were times I would tell DH how ugly someone's baby is...and I have to admit, I am now in fear that our baby will be the ugliest baby I know based on all the shit I said about everyone else's babies who, quite frankly, were not cute.
My friend thinks all babies are cute no matter what but I totally think she's full of shit. Sure, I can see how some can be so ugly that they are cute but if a baby isn't cute, I won't lie to the mom or dad saying that the baby is cute...ugh, karma is going to bite me in the ass.
I was actually coming here to make the same FFFC. I want to be supportive to those in need, but when women show up out of nowhere with a woe-is-me story... This is a community, not a place for drive-bys. Maybe a "New and Need Support" thread would at least consolidate them? Or would they ignore that thread as well?
My other FFFC: I've pretty much given up on dressing like an actual professional in the office. Today I'm wearing a long tank top, leggings and sandals. No shame.
Confession: I just can't get excited about breastfeeding. I am going to give it a good try 100% because my husband thinks its so important, but if it doesn't work well, I can't say I'll be disappointed. I know all about the benefits, etc., but am frankly just not enthused.
@AliKay20 i totally agree.. My older sister was supposedly hideous as a newborn and my mom told my dad "stop showing people pictures, they don't know what to say!" Haha
My FFFC I eat deli meat. All the listeria alerts I've seen have come from something else. I am on baby number 3 and have never even had a doctor mention deli meats . If I'm feeling really daring. I even lick the spoon if I'm making cookie dough....
@kwilliams3402 I feel you there. I did BF my son for a year and it went fine for us, but I was never excited about it. I loved that he was getting the best food he could get and that we were saving money by not buying formula, but I was relieved to be done.
My confession is I have an internet problem since I got pregnant. Maybe I am just checked out when it comes to work. I get to work and it's like I must scroll through everything new in my Facebook feed and then thoroughly review anything new happening on this board. THEN I can finally get to work. Between that and chatting with co-workers, it was easily 10:30 this morning before I really got started on any substantive work. I am a bad employee these days.
@snaps816 That is me today. I justify it by the fact that I didn't get home from a business trip until about midnight last night, so technically I really shouldn't have to do anything today.
I'm hoping to be able to pump. I don't know why but breastfeeding weirds me out. I get it s natural and if it works for you, good stuff, I just can't picture myself doing it. Hoping it may change when the times comes. Also pumping= H doing some of the feeding duties as well. FX it works out that way but I am staying open minded to BF and Formula.
That's all my exhausted mind can come up with... I can't think of anything to add to the threads lately.
My FFFC I eat deli meat. All the listeria alerts I've seen have come from something else. I am on baby number 3 and have never even had a doctor mention deli meats . If I'm feeling really daring. I even lick the spoon if I'm making cookie dough....
This! I have eaten deli meat with all of my pregnancies. Plus, I'm probably addicted to Jimmy Johns.
My FFFC is that I really hate all of the new guidelines/ recommendations that have come out since my last pregnancy 6 years ago. I don't have a problem with the recommendations themselves, just that it's all new stuff that I need to learn/ research/ worry about.
ETA: I have no idea what is up with my username.... that is not what is normally up there.... Perhaps because I am on my lap top rather than my phone??
Confession: I'm feeling super lazy today, so I just calculated how many points I can miss and still receive an A in my class that finishes this week. Looks like I will be skipping the homework assignment. 95% is good enough.
Me: 25 DH: 28
Hubby's little boy - my wonderful step-son - born 5/23/10
BFP#1: 06/2010...my beautiful baby girl born 3/7/2011
BFP #2: 10/24/15...mc on 10/31/15
BFP #3: 11/27/15. EDD 8/6/16
"Success is going from failure to failure without loss of enthusiasm." -Winston Churchill
I was actually coming here to make the same FFFC. I want to be supportive to those in need, but when women show up out of nowhere with a woe-is-me story... This is a community, not a place for drive-bys. Maybe a "New and Need Support" thread would at least consolidate them? Or would they ignore that thread as well?
My other FFFC: I've pretty much given up on dressing like an actual professional in the office. Today I'm wearing a long tank top, leggings and sandals. No shame.
A "New and Need Support?" thread is a good idea! We'd have to get it pinned to the top. I just assume a lot of these women aren't big internet people, but then they have a scare of some kind and end up here seeking support or information. They seem to treat it like those Yahoo or ask.com boards that are full of randos. I feel like snark or shutting them down is inappropriate in those situations, given the sensitive nature of pregnancy issues and whatnot. But on the other hand, you get the sense that they'll never be back once the crisis dies down. I just ignore. Eventually those threads will be bumped down from the top of the page and into obscurity.
@Snaps816 I have the same problem at work! I find myself in between things at work checking The Bump for updates. I hate it when we have a slow day on the board lol.
@alikay20 not all babies are cute. When I first had mine they were perfect in my eyes. When I look back at their pics, my first dd looked like an alien and my ds looked like a round butterball turkey. I try really hard not to comment on what other people's babies look like because I have the same fear about karma as you.
@michelle_shelle I feel the exact same way!! I am an extremely modest person. The whole time I was pregnant with DD I said I was going to give breastfeeding a try but when it came down to it I was way too intimidated and decided to formula feed.
Now that I'm pregnant again I am thinking about formula feeding again because I can't imagine trying to figure out how to breast feed with a 2 year old at home. Plus it still kind of freaks me out!
I felt weirded out by breast feeding too, and then when I did it with DD, it became the most natural thing in the world and we nursed for 20 months. That said, it isn't for everyone, but I encourage everyone to try it before giving up.
I'm overwhelmed at work today so I am doing nothing. Very productive. :P
This may be super tacky of me but whatever. My FFFC is that I regift kids toys all the time for birthday parties. DD received a ridiculous amount of toys for her birthday and Christmas from family members, most of them big toys that take up a ton of room and are similar to other things in her room. Seriously... How many ball ramp and push toys does one kid need?? I save those gifts for her little friends' birthdays so I don't have to go out and buy one later on.
I have a great memory so it's not like I'm giving it back to the same person and running into an "Old School" situation. I also make sure the item is not discontinued so they can return it somewhere if they want.
So that I don't sound like a total brat, I want to add that I'm totally grateful of all the love that family shares with the gift giving. DH and I aren't big gift people. We like giving but don't care about receiving gifts. Plus DD's room is small-ish so we legitimately don't have the room. Don't get me started on the stuffed animal situation lol
This may be super tacky of me but whatever. My FFFC is that I regift kids toys all the time for birthday parties. DD received a ridiculous amount of toys for her birthday and Christmas from family members, most of them big toys that take up a ton of room and are similar to other things in her room. Seriously... How many ball ramp and push toys does one kid need?? I save those gifts for her little friends' birthdays so I don't have to go out and buy one later on.
I have a great memory so it's not like I'm giving it back to the same person and running into an "Old School" situation. I also make sure the item is not discontinued so they can return it somewhere if they want.
So that I don't sound like a total brat, I want to add that I'm totally grateful of all the love that family shares with the gift giving. DH and I aren't big gift people. We like giving but don't care about receiving gifts. Plus DD's room is small-ish so we legitimately don't have the room. Don't get me started on the stuffed animal situation lol
Ditto! DS has a November birthday so he gets birthday and Christmas presents back to back. I have no problem regifting half of them, since he is only two and he won't know the difference! And oh, the stuffed animals. DS couldn't care less about them and it's crazy how quickly they accumulate. Most of those get Goodwilled or regifted as well. I could have written your post myself.
@jamiesc58 haha I was going to say the same thing about DS. At the time, I thought he was the most beautiful baby on earth, but then, 3 or 4 months out, when he actually got cute, I looked back and realized he definitely resembled an alien.
I am also so annoyed with the drive-by posts, and I don't want to be snarky, but I don't want to encourage it either, so I'm just ignoring. I feel like if we make a new and in need of support thread, it's not going to get used and it will just be one more announcement thread to scroll through. If drive-boy's don't even notice the GD and mental health threads directly below their post, there's no way they're going to open any up before posting.
I'm also on the "not all babies are cute" train. DS has some adorable shots from his first month, but looking back at photos, he definitely has his fair share of "awkward alien" in there before he hit 2 months. Now he's just friggin adorable, though.
To all those worried about breastfeeding, my other confession is that part of the reason I breastfeed is because I'm lazy. Baby wakes up at 3 a.m.? Pop them on a boob and doze in the rocker!
PS one of the best memes I ever saw said, 'I breastfed some of my kids, I bottle-fed some of my kids, and now they all eat french fries off the floor of my van'.
I agree about the random people posing their own need support threads. I understand worrying about something that's happening and needing immediate support, but I love the give and take community we've established. It's very supportive.
I also agree about the ugly baby thing! I've made fun of a couple babies on my Facebook to DH before. They've all grown to be adorable toddlers but some weren't very cute as a newborn. I keep asking DH what are we going to do if our baby is ugly. We just decided to embrace it and show her off anyway. I'm sure she'll be the most beautiful thing in the world to us no matter what.
My confession: just like in another thread that was started, I can't see to shave anymore. I decided to wing it and go for it anyway today. Huge mistake! Ouch.
Well my confession today is that I been having plenty of sugar today and baby girl is having a ball in my belly kicking away, this morning I had breakfast sandwich with strawberry jelly lots of it and cinnamon rolls with lots of icing on them and had a Dr pepper
To all those worried about breastfeeding, my other confession is that part of the reason I breastfeed is because I'm lazy. Baby wakes up at 3 a.m.? Pop them on a boob and doze in the rocker!
PS one of the best memes I ever saw said, 'I breastfed some of my kids, I bottle-fed some of my kids, and now they all eat french fries off the floor of my van'.
Do what works for you and your baby.
Also, breastfeeding is so much cheaper than formula That was a big factor for me.
But yeah, in the end - a well fed baby is a happy baby so however you need to get there, that's on you. (FTR I had to supplement with formula for the first 6 weeks for various reasons, so I have no judgement either way).
I know this is supposed to be confessions, but I just want to come and agree with a lot of you! @Lynnlove281. I am terrible for either reading posts and going love tit crazy and then an hour later I read some and think..ehh should have liked that. @alikay20 2. I thought that DS looked like a drowned mouse when he was born and I even told a couple nurses to stop lying to me when they said he was cute. Eventually he lost the swollen birth face and looked adorable, but that first day was--special. @michelle_shelle 3. I did try BF with DS and ended up exclusively pumping. I loved it. I started with a pretty rigorous schedule of pumping every hour and a half and each week I would extend that until I was at every 4 hours. I felt a bit like a cow, because I could get between 8-10 oz on each side, but DS never had formula and I was skinnier than I was pre-pregnancy. I am certainly not in the uber modest side, but because DS is older and he usually has a lot of friends over or we are at his sporting events--I am going to pump.
@jamiesc58 haha I was going to say the same thing about DS. At the time, I thought he was the most beautiful baby on earth, but then, 3 or 4 months out, when he actually got cute, I looked back and realized he definitely resembled an alien.
I am also so annoyed with the drive-by posts, and I don't want to be snarky, but I don't want to encourage it either, so I'm just ignoring. I feel like if we make a new and in need of support thread, it's not going to get used and it will just be one more announcement thread to scroll through. If drive-boy's don't even notice the GD and mental health threads directly below their post, there's no way they're going to open any up before posting.
Negative to new & need support thread. They can use the search function and add to existing threads. Same guidelines should be followed whether you're new or not. If they know how to create new threads, they're more than capable of lurking on at least the first page or two to see how they can relate and add to the existing threads. I bet they lurked on more than the first page (& who knows for how long) yet decided to create threads anyway.
Newbies, it's a two-way street. Let's support each other and follow some rules & guidelines.
@allisun85 I want a pedicure so bad, but by the end of the day my feet are like fat sausages and I know they will be talking about me while working on them. I need to go in the morning right after I wake up!
@Lynnlove28 I stole it from July--they have some entertaining threads, but usually pretty good responses. I am all for listening and offering support, but it seems like a lot of these are started and everyone gives their suggestions and support, but the OP doesn't even come back to reply or participate anywhere else.
My FFFC is that I have stopped giving physical presents to my cousins' kids. They get so much stuff for their birthdays and Christmas since we have a large family. I only give gift cards, hoping that the parents' use it for whatever they want/need for the kid versus another toy.
Plus, I'm lazy and would have had to pick out four different toys/gifts in just the next month alone.
I also don't think creating a new support thread would do any good. Because clearly these posters didn't even bother to look at the GD and Symptoms threads already started.
I like an organized board too so that the REALLY important posts like @bananers posted doesn't get lost in a sea of "I have stretch marks, anyone else?"
*TW Spoiler*
DD: Aug '16
10/2017: Twins confirmed with TTTS at 22 weeks. 10/10/17 Twin B passed after in utero placenta surgery 11/2/17 Twin A & B born 11/26/17: Twin A passed after 24 days fighting in the NICU Benched 6 months BFP: 6/28/18 MC:7/16/18 BO BFP: 10/2/18 EDD 6/15/18
My FFFC is I love the idea of the labor buddies, but I can't get over the sharing of personal information (I.E. phone number). So I won't be participating But I look forward to all of you posting about your buddies when we get closer to our due dates.
*TW Spoiler*
DD: Aug '16
10/2017: Twins confirmed with TTTS at 22 weeks. 10/10/17 Twin B passed after in utero placenta surgery 11/2/17 Twin A & B born 11/26/17: Twin A passed after 24 days fighting in the NICU Benched 6 months BFP: 6/28/18 MC:7/16/18 BO BFP: 10/2/18 EDD 6/15/18
Yeah, you guys are right, a Newbies board wouldn't do any good. It's just crazy to me that people will wait the designated period (24 hours, or whatever it is) and STILL not take any time to lurk and get familiar. I'm the opposite, I take forever to lurk anywhere before I feel comfortable posting.
@midwestbaby@rikopy I planned on giving my email address instead of my phone number, I check my email plenty plus phone numbers can give a lot away because of the area code.
Re: FFFC
Another FFFC is I forget to love tit posts most of the time, I try to remind myself but nope. Sorry guys.
My friend thinks all babies are cute no matter what but I totally think she's full of shit. Sure, I can see how some can be so ugly that they are cute but if a baby isn't cute, I won't lie to the mom or dad saying that the baby is cute...ugh, karma is going to bite me in the ass.
My other FFFC: I've pretty much given up on dressing like an actual professional in the office. Today I'm wearing a long tank top, leggings and sandals. No shame.
If I'm feeling really daring. I even lick the spoon if I'm making cookie dough....
That's all my exhausted mind can come up with... I can't think of anything to add to the threads lately.
This! I have eaten deli meat with all of my pregnancies. Plus, I'm probably addicted to Jimmy Johns.
My FFFC is that I really hate all of the new guidelines/ recommendations that have come out since my last pregnancy 6 years ago. I don't have a problem with the recommendations themselves, just that it's all new stuff that I need to learn/ research/ worry about.
ETA: I have no idea what is up with my username.... that is not what is normally up there.... Perhaps because I am on my lap top rather than my phone??
@alikay20 not all babies are cute. When I first had mine they were perfect in my eyes. When I look back at their pics, my first dd looked like an alien and my ds looked like a round butterball turkey. I try really hard not to comment on what other people's babies look like because I have the same fear about karma as you.
Now that I'm pregnant again I am thinking about formula feeding again because I can't imagine trying to figure out how to breast feed with a 2 year old at home. Plus it still kind of freaks me out!
I'm overwhelmed at work today so I am doing nothing. Very productive. :P
BFP #1: 08/17/2012 DD1 born 05/01/2013
BFP #2: 07/31/2015 M/C 09/23/2015 (11.5 weeks)
I have a great memory so it's not like I'm giving it back to the same person and running into an "Old School" situation. I also make sure the item is not discontinued so they can return it somewhere if they want.
So that I don't sound like a total brat, I want to add that I'm totally grateful of all the love that family shares with the gift giving. DH and I aren't big gift people. We like giving but don't care about receiving gifts. Plus DD's room is small-ish so we legitimately don't have the room. Don't get me started on the stuffed animal situation lol
Baby #2: Emmeline Grey - August 2016
Baby #3: BFP 9/7/18 | EDD 05/24/19
I am also so annoyed with the drive-by posts, and I don't want to be snarky, but I don't want to encourage it either, so I'm just ignoring. I feel like if we make a new and in need of support thread, it's not going to get used and it will just be one more announcement thread to scroll through. If drive-boy's don't even notice the GD and mental health threads directly below their post, there's no way they're going to open any up before posting.
PS one of the best memes I ever saw said, 'I breastfed some of my kids, I bottle-fed some of my kids, and now they all eat french fries off the floor of my van'.
Do what works for you and your baby.
I also agree about the ugly baby thing! I've made fun of a couple babies on my Facebook to DH before. They've all grown to be adorable toddlers but some weren't very cute as a newborn. I keep asking DH what are we going to do if our baby is ugly. We just decided to embrace it and show her off anyway. I'm sure she'll be the most beautiful thing in the world to us no matter what.
My confession: just like in another thread that was started, I can't see to shave anymore. I decided to wing it and go for it anyway today. Huge mistake! Ouch.
But yeah, in the end - a well fed baby is a happy baby so however you need to get there, that's on you. (FTR I had to supplement with formula for the first 6 weeks for various reasons, so I have no judgement either way).
@Lynnlove281. I am terrible for either reading posts and going love tit crazy and then an hour later I read some and think..ehh should have liked that.
@alikay20 2. I thought that DS looked like a drowned mouse when he was born and I even told a couple nurses to stop lying to me when they said he was cute. Eventually he lost the swollen birth face and looked adorable, but that first day was--special.
@michelle_shelle 3. I did try BF with DS and ended up exclusively pumping. I loved it. I started with a pretty rigorous schedule of pumping every hour and a half and each week I would extend that until I was at every 4 hours. I felt a bit like a cow, because I could get between 8-10 oz on each side, but DS never had formula and I was skinnier than I was pre-pregnancy. I am certainly not in the uber modest side, but because DS is older and he usually has a lot of friends over or we are at his sporting events--I am going to pump.
Newbies, it's a two-way street. Let's support each other and follow some rules & guidelines.
My FFFC I an going to get a pedicure after work because I can't reach my damn toes to trim the nails. Obviously, this is the ONLY solution.
Plus, I'm lazy and would have had to pick out four different toys/gifts in just the next month alone.
I also don't think creating a new support thread would do any good. Because clearly these posters didn't even bother to look at the GD and Symptoms threads already started.
I like an organized board too so that the REALLY important posts like @bananers posted doesn't get lost in a sea of "I have stretch marks, anyone else?"
DD: Aug '16
10/2017: Twins confirmed with TTTS at 22 weeks.
10/10/17 Twin B passed after in utero placenta surgery
11/2/17 Twin A & B born
11/26/17: Twin A passed after 24 days fighting in the NICU
Benched 6 months
BFP: 6/28/18 MC:7/16/18 BO
BFP: 10/2/18 EDD 6/15/18
DD: Aug '16
10/2017: Twins confirmed with TTTS at 22 weeks.
10/10/17 Twin B passed after in utero placenta surgery
11/2/17 Twin A & B born
11/26/17: Twin A passed after 24 days fighting in the NICU
Benched 6 months
BFP: 6/28/18 MC:7/16/18 BO
BFP: 10/2/18 EDD 6/15/18