February 2016 Moms
Kimbarbour08
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Just need to vent
Kimbarbour08
member
So I need to preface this post with that I love my DH so much and appreciate what a great father he is. But a couple things are just really getting on my nerves. Prepare for a looong post! Wary ones, turn back now!
I am EBF, and since LO was born I've pretty much taken all the night shifts because it didn't make sense to me for DH to also get up when I needed to anyway for feedings. DH used to take the mornings after LO was fed so I could get some sleep, but since I've been back to work it hasn't made sense since I would have to be up for work anyway. Plus LO is now sleeping through the night. I work full time and DH more or less does too (he works outdoors so weather sometimes dictates his schedule), however we agreed he will take Friday's off to watch LO since he has a more flexible schedule than I do. That's been fine, but since we're both working I've been pulling baby duty just about every second I'm home from when I wake up and feed him to when I get home from work to when I put him to bed. It feels like DH almost always only takes him when I need to make dinner, which I find really annoying because that's not giving me a break, I'm still working. Meanwhile, the majority of the time DH is home after work or in the morning is spent playing video games, his guitar, or watching TV. That kind of bugs me, but this weekend really ticked me off. Our LO has had his first cold over the last week (no fever or fussing thank goodness, but coughing and congested) and after I fed him Saturday morning after he woke up around 6:30, I brought him into our bed for some snuggles and a little rest. DH asked me to take him downstairs because LO's breathing was loud and keeping him awake and he wanted to rest and, as he put it, "he takes him in the morning for me." Yeah, a month ago you did, but not lately. So I go downstairs and after breakfast decide to go for a walk. After that, I wound up going to our nephew's basketball game with LO because I thought that would give DH a break. While I was gone, he played his guitar all day because he had nothing to do and did one load of dishes. OK, that's fine. But the next morning he gives me attitude because I haven't done any housework over the weekend yet. To which I point out that I clean all the bottles, my pumping stuff, do laundry, make dinner, and do everything for our baby (feed, dress, bathe, most diapers, arranging child care) to which he says "but that's not housework" (which clearly means scrubbing or vacuuming something). Ummm...no. He literally had the entire day before baby free and did one thing. He doesn't get to complain. Needless to say there was an argument. Grrrr. Anyhoo, just wanted to vent.
I am EBF, and since LO was born I've pretty much taken all the night shifts because it didn't make sense to me for DH to also get up when I needed to anyway for feedings. DH used to take the mornings after LO was fed so I could get some sleep, but since I've been back to work it hasn't made sense since I would have to be up for work anyway. Plus LO is now sleeping through the night. I work full time and DH more or less does too (he works outdoors so weather sometimes dictates his schedule), however we agreed he will take Friday's off to watch LO since he has a more flexible schedule than I do. That's been fine, but since we're both working I've been pulling baby duty just about every second I'm home from when I wake up and feed him to when I get home from work to when I put him to bed. It feels like DH almost always only takes him when I need to make dinner, which I find really annoying because that's not giving me a break, I'm still working. Meanwhile, the majority of the time DH is home after work or in the morning is spent playing video games, his guitar, or watching TV. That kind of bugs me, but this weekend really ticked me off. Our LO has had his first cold over the last week (no fever or fussing thank goodness, but coughing and congested) and after I fed him Saturday morning after he woke up around 6:30, I brought him into our bed for some snuggles and a little rest. DH asked me to take him downstairs because LO's breathing was loud and keeping him awake and he wanted to rest and, as he put it, "he takes him in the morning for me." Yeah, a month ago you did, but not lately. So I go downstairs and after breakfast decide to go for a walk. After that, I wound up going to our nephew's basketball game with LO because I thought that would give DH a break. While I was gone, he played his guitar all day because he had nothing to do and did one load of dishes. OK, that's fine. But the next morning he gives me attitude because I haven't done any housework over the weekend yet. To which I point out that I clean all the bottles, my pumping stuff, do laundry, make dinner, and do everything for our baby (feed, dress, bathe, most diapers, arranging child care) to which he says "but that's not housework" (which clearly means scrubbing or vacuuming something). Ummm...no. He literally had the entire day before baby free and did one thing. He doesn't get to complain. Needless to say there was an argument. Grrrr. Anyhoo, just wanted to vent.
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