I had Chick-fil-A for lunch and am loving every bit of it. I don't understand why people feel the need to make excuses for eating fast food or feel the need to shame themselves on boards about eating fast food. It's not the healthiest option all the the time, but it certainly isn't the end of the world. I won't shun you for eating fast food because you want it, are hungry, crave it, etc.
I agree. I have fast food more times per week than I should probably admit, but have never posted about it on here.
Here's another FFFC... even though I am pregnant, I still prefer to see fur baby pictures over human baby pictures. Maybe it'll change when my LO gets here.. I used to blame this on my long IF battle, but yea, I can't use that excuse anymore.
A member came to our branch AFTER we closed yesterday, like lights off past the time closed. I was working on the computer and she saw me, then called our call center and complained that we didn't help her. So now one of my bosses is going to yell at me for not helping her and I couldn't care less. Closed is closed.
Also I'm in the boat of not feeling pregnancy is magical, but I'm glad it's not going faster because I love being able to sleep for as long as I want.
My FFFC - I haaaaate seeing sonogram picture on social media, even now that I'm pregnant, and like them on Facebook even if I'm happy for the person expecting. I think a huge part of it is that I struggled with infertility and seeing the sonogram pics were a particularly hard thing for me. Not pregnancy announcements in general, just the ultrasounds. They just seem like something to keep private for some reason.
Another FFFC: I don't know if I wanna babywear ALL the time. I mean, yes I would like to babywear sometimes (for convenience), but I don't know if I want to do it all the time. I know there are benefits, and I feel like an a**hole for saying this, but I feel like I'll need the space. I've heard breastfeeding which I plan to do, is already going to make me feel like I don't own my body.... so I don't want to pair both breastfeeding and babywearing together. Just thinking about it makes me feel like I'm already losing myself.
Another FFFC: I don't know if I wanna babywear ALL the time. I mean, yes I would like to babywear sometimes (for convenience), but I don't know if I want to do it all the time. I know there are benefits, and I feel like an a**hole for saying this, but I feel like I'll need the space. I've heard breastfeeding which I plan to do, is already going to make me feel like I don't own my body.... so I don't want to pair both breastfeeding and babywearing together. Just thinking about it makes me feel like I'm already losing myself.
Maybe I'm naive, but what is baby wearing other than when you do it for convenienve. Like out at the grocery store or going somewhere where a stroller would be cumbersome? I thought that's what baby wearing meant but maybe I'm missing a whole movement that I didn't know about?
Me: 32 & DH: 37
Married: November 2014
TTC #1 Since: October 2015
BFP #1: 11/18/15 - CP BFP #2: 2/8/16 - EDD 10/20/16 IT'S A BOY!!!! DS Born 10/16/16
Our doc had given us the go ahead to have sex again in the second trimester, but I kept putting it off. Yesterday our specialist put me on pelvic rest... my FFFC is that I am TOTALLY ok with that. I mean, I DO feel bad for DH, but I just don't have any drive right now.
Babywearing can also be super convenient at home. It allows you to do things with your hands while also comforting/"holding" baby. I did a ton of babywearing at home and when we went out (still do, just not quite as much now that DD is 15 months). BUT I have a chronic illness that made it impossible for me to exclusively BF and I think part of the reason why I loved babywearing so much was that it allowed me to feel the bond/connectedness that I felt like I had lost from not being able to breastfeed. I should be able to breastfeed this time around (post surgery) so it's entirely possible that I will get touched out and not wear as much, but I kind of doubt it. We'll see. I also can't decide if babywearing is more or less convenient with a second child. On the one hand, you have free arms/hands for play and such, but on the other hand, if you are babywearing in the front you can't pick up your other child, really.
Honestly I think having a baby/having to hold a baby all the time/now having a toddler that demands my lap/crawls all over me/begs to be picked up all the time makes me feel like I don't own my time or body a lot more than my struggle with breastfeeding/constant pumping did. Breastfeeding is a very different experience for everyone. I totally own that I get a little irked by the "I've heards" and "everyone says" about a lot of parenting experiences, so I guess that's my FFFC. I think sharing negative generalities is a waste of time and creates undue anxiety about experiences and feelings about those experiences that are going to be vastly different from woman to woman.
And, er, yeah @MRSCORKER there is a whole other side of things beyond what you referenced and what I mentioned, too. If you're curious, look up Babywearing International or some babywearing groups on Facebook. I'm really quite tame by comparison! But babywearing is pretty nifty, if it suits your fancy.
My FFFC - I haaaaate seeing sonogram picture on social media, even now that I'm pregnant, and like them on Facebook even if I'm happy for the person expecting. I think a huge part of it is that I struggled with infertility and seeing the sonogram pics were a particularly hard thing for me. Not pregnancy announcements in general, just the ultrasounds. They just seem like something to keep private for some reason.
Totally agree with this. I never experienced a loss, but I don't like ultrasound pictures on social media. I'll show a friend if she asks, but the dude I was friends with in high school, that I haven't seen in 5 years probably doesn't care.
My grandpa wanted a cheese dog and a banana milkshake from a local ice cream shop (this sounds so midwestern). So, I told him I'd bring him just that. Of course, I had one of each, too. (Would be rude not to, right?). This was at 5 p.m. yesterday, so I vowed that was my dinner, instead of the planned tacos I was making for DS and DH.
Cut to getting LO in bed at 8, then proceeding to heat up the leftover tacos. Because, delicious.
@nlane0723 I'm getting them in maybe 4 days a week. I feel like I eat a fairly balanced diet so I feel good enough with that. My last OB was on the side of get them in when you can and try to remember a few times a week unless all you are eating is fast food.
@MrsCorker I feel like I enjoyed my last pregnancy between 22 and 34 weeks and the rest of it bounced between medicare and total crap. This time physically I'm mostly okay, but emotionally I'm a hot mess. I keep waiting to hit 20 weeks and feel like I'm glowing before I get huge and feel like a whale. I'm not rushing October because I've got a tantrum throwing almost 2 year old who refuses to talk or sleep through the night.
@zuzu87 have you tried gummy vitamins before bed? They don't have iron in them which tends to be what makes people feel gross.
@msBlackandGold I mobile bump 60% of the time and don't get notifications or those pop ups next to the thread that say there are new replies so it's nice to only click 3 or 4 threads to keep up and I'm sure a lot of people who are permi-mobile feel the same. My 2014 group had an uproar int he beginning about the organization and I thought it was dumb until everyone fell into the organization and the lurkers fell off so the SS posts were names we knew. I do stop clicking if things end up really long though.
My FFFC - I haaaaate seeing sonogram picture on social media, even now that I'm pregnant, and like them on Facebook even if I'm happy for the person expecting. I think a huge part of it is that I struggled with infertility and seeing the sonogram pics were a particularly hard thing for me. Not pregnancy announcements in general, just the ultrasounds. They just seem like something to keep private for some reason.
Me too! All I can think of is "eww that's the inside of your body/uterus." I feel awkward showing family my ultrasounds so posting on social media is a big NOPE from me.
I tend to have really unhealthy snacks, such as cookies or cake, have too much (because I have no willpower these days) and then finish off with applesauce or a piece of fruit so that I "feel" healthy. So then I'm way too full & feel even more gross. This makes no sense at all, yet I keep doing it...
I'm in the same boat as the not-a-fan-of-pregnancy moms. I shouldn't complain because I've had it "easy" for being my first go around. Since high school I've said I want to go from conception to waking up with a baby lol But some side effects just throw me out of whack some days! I've said more than once "I just want to be normal again" ... I want to poop regularly, be able to eat whatever I want whenever I want without worrying about taste or smell aversions or digestion all discomfort, I want to be able to work full steam ahead and get shit done on my weekends, I DON'T want to be full blown pregnant in the southern summer, I want to not get weird looks from strangers about "is she pregnant or just letting it all hang out?!", I want to not almost pass out from gas or constipation cramps, I want to sleep comfortably on my stomach, and I want my nipples to go back down to pink nickels not purpleish-brownish silver dollars!
But these are just complaints I have on shitty days. I know once baby girl is here and we fall in love, I'll totally be game to put my body on the chopping block again for the next one!
I try to eat semi healthy but definitely splurge more times than I should. Then about 4-5 days before my doctors appointment, I eat extremely clean to get rid of water weight.
I continue to sin so back to confession....I had Diet Coke for lunch even though I usually stick to water or no-caffeine soda, and now I'm def getting a Thai iced tea on my way to the sushi place to pick up dinner....I guess at least the sushi is cooked?
I just gave 2.5yo DS Lucky Charms. Like, a lot if it. I poured him one small (1/3C) bowl and he finished it and asked for more so I gave him a little more. He finished that bowl and asked for more. He's working on his 3rd small bowl now. Kid is FUNGRY.
@krzyriver we may not see eye to eye on baby showers but I agree with your view of bridal showers. I did have one, but H and I married the weekend before graduating from grad school and though we had lived together for almost a year at that point, we only had our crappy college stuff and very little of what would be needed for an actual home. Even then, I felt uncomfortable about it.
Lurking from December 2015 i feel like this is acceptable. My FI and I moved in together when we got pregnant, but it's a tiny trailer and everything in it (except for baby's things) came from my old room at my parents house or was given to us second hand. Nothing is new. I also refused a housewarming simply so that no one can complain when it's time for a bridal shower. I use dollar store utensils and towels and such and a lot of things came from Dirt Cheap. On the other hand...I have a relative getting married who has had TWO housewarming parties and then a wedding shower! How greedy can you be?! That is unacceptable.
I think I feel guilty eating fast food because of years of being a little larger than everyone else, and basically training myself to not eat it, especially in front of people, so as not to give them any ammo to accuse me of being fat, cuz look what I was eating (hope you follow this crazy logic!). Basically low self esteem... And despite caring less and less as I get older, the fact that my weight is one of the reasons I'm considered high risk (along with age and thyroid), I can't help but still feel a little guilty that I'm already being a terrible mother by eating junk. It's just my own vicious little circle!
Here's another FFFC... even though I am pregnant, I still prefer to see fur baby pictures over human baby pictures. Maybe it'll change when my LO gets here.. I used to blame this on my long IF battle, but yea, I can't use that excuse anymore.
It doesn't change, FYI (except for pictures of your own baby, obvi).
Another FFFC: I don't know if I wanna babywear ALL the time. I mean, yes I would like to babywear sometimes (for convenience), but I don't know if I want to do it all the time. I know there are benefits, and I feel like an a**hole for saying this, but I feel like I'll need the space. I've heard breastfeeding which I plan to do, is already going to make me feel like I don't own my body.... so I don't want to pair both breastfeeding and babywearing together. Just thinking about it makes me feel like I'm already losing myself.
Being pregnant for 9 mos and then BFing for 13 mos (my experience) is like some inhumane experiment in not owning your own body. Of course there are other moms that couldn't disagree with me more about this. But as far as BW'ing goes, I think it's something that becomes more convenient when you have a second, can't put it down (because holy shit THE CRYING) but you also have a toddler to run around after who you can't leave alone for more than 5 seconds. At least this is the scenario I'm counting on. I have an ergo but I only wore DS at the grocery store, on walks, or while vacuuming.
My FFFC (there's still an hour left): Last pregnancy I counted down like: "Four months, 3 weeks and 6 days until I get to meet him!!!" This pregnancy I'm counting down like "Five months until wine. ugh."
I try to eat semi healthy but definitely splurge more times than I should. Then about 4-5 days before my doctors appointment, I eat extremely clean to get rid of water weight.
I wish I had an appointment every week.
I do this too! I think the weekly appointments are why I stopped gaining in 3rd tri last time. Dr weigh in makes me super conscious of what I eat.
I smoked two cigarettes this week. One with my brother-in-law, one with a friend. And I asked for them, like some addict vermin because they were smoking in front of me and I couldn't deal.
@AllyTheKid no judgements here. A few weeks ago when I was maybe 10ish weeks, I tried to smoke one too because I just "couldn't even" with the day. I got one puff in and threw it away and almost threw up. Cured me again, but I still miss it a lot. I enjoyed smoking, so it's not like I quit because I hated it.
@sjo&thetwins They don't make me immediately unbearably nauseous anymore and I'm weak! I loved my smokes. Every single carcinogen. But as long as they aren't around me I'm golden. I'd like to say I'm quitting for good this time for all the health benefits and what not, but realistically, chances are I'll start right back up after I'm done breastfeeding, like always. I also just genuinely enjoyed smoking, and never fully get over it. Even seeing people smoke on TV drives me insane haha
Here's my confession - we're those people that celebrate our pup's birthday, complete with (doggie friendly, of course) cake, cookies and presents. I can't help it! He's my baby boy! And he turned 1!
*lurking*
This is the best picture of a dog ever and made my day.
I lurk. I snark. I offer sound advice if you're not BSC. You may not like me. I'm okay with it.
Here's another FFFC... even though I am pregnant, I still prefer to see fur baby pictures over human baby pictures. Maybe it'll change when my LO gets here.. I used to blame this on my long IF battle, but yea, I can't use that excuse anymore.
I am that way about holding puppies vs. human babies. Unless I am super close to the parents I probably will not ask to hold your newborn and decline of you offer, but will totally squeal and ohh and ahh and snuggle your pup!
Re: FFFC (5/6)
I agree. I have fast food more times per week than I should probably admit, but have never posted about it on here.
Also I'm in the boat of not feeling pregnancy is magical, but I'm glad it's not going faster because I love being able to sleep for as long as I want.
Me: 32 & DH: 37
BFP #2: 2/8/16 - EDD 10/20/16
IT'S A BOY!!!!
DS Born 10/16/16
BFP #1: 7/15/15, SB: 11/14/15
Rainbow baby DS born 9/29/16!!
BFP #3 3/26/18 | Due 12/3/18
Honestly I think having a baby/having to hold a baby all the time/now having a toddler that demands my lap/crawls all over me/begs to be picked up all the time makes me feel like I don't own my time or body a lot more than my struggle with breastfeeding/constant pumping did. Breastfeeding is a very different experience for everyone. I totally own that I get a little irked by the "I've heards" and "everyone says" about a lot of parenting experiences, so I guess that's my FFFC. I think sharing negative generalities is a waste of time and creates undue anxiety about experiences and feelings about those experiences that are going to be vastly different from woman to woman.
Cut to getting LO in bed at 8, then proceeding to heat up the leftover tacos. Because, delicious.
eta: please read that with no snark or malice...
@MrsCorker I feel like I enjoyed my last pregnancy between 22 and 34 weeks and the rest of it bounced between medicare and total crap. This time physically I'm mostly okay, but emotionally I'm a hot mess. I keep waiting to hit 20 weeks and feel like I'm glowing before I get huge and feel like a whale. I'm not rushing October because I've got a tantrum throwing almost 2 year old who refuses to talk or sleep through the night.
@zuzu87 have you tried gummy vitamins before bed? They don't have iron in them which tends to be what makes people feel gross.
@msBlackandGold I mobile bump 60% of the time and don't get notifications or those pop ups next to the thread that say there are new replies so it's nice to only click 3 or 4 threads to keep up and I'm sure a lot of people who are permi-mobile feel the same. My 2014 group had an uproar int he beginning about the organization and I thought it was dumb until everyone fell into the organization and the lurkers fell off so the SS posts were names we knew. I do stop clicking if things end up really long though.
BFP: February 2016 EDD: October 17, 2016
But these are just complaints I have on shitty days. I know once baby girl is here and we fall in love, I'll totally be game to put my body on the chopping block again for the next one!
I wish I had an appointment every week.
i feel like this is acceptable. My FI and I moved in together when we got pregnant, but it's a tiny trailer and everything in it (except for baby's things) came from my old room at my parents house or was given to us second hand. Nothing is new. I also refused a housewarming simply so that no one can complain when it's time for a bridal shower. I use dollar store utensils and towels and such and a lot of things came from Dirt Cheap.
On the other hand...I have a relative getting married who has had TWO housewarming parties and then a wedding shower! How greedy can you be?! That is unacceptable.
Being pregnant for 9 mos and then BFing for 13 mos (my experience) is like some inhumane experiment in not owning your own body. Of course there are other moms that couldn't disagree with me more about this. But as far as BW'ing goes, I think it's something that becomes more convenient when you have a second, can't put it down (because holy shit THE CRYING) but you also have a toddler to run around after who you can't leave alone for more than 5 seconds. At least this is the scenario I'm counting on. I have an ergo but I only wore DS at the grocery store, on walks, or while vacuuming.
Last pregnancy I counted down like: "Four months, 3 weeks and 6 days until I get to meet him!!!"
This pregnancy I'm counting down like "Five months until wine. ugh."
This is the best picture of a dog ever and made my day.
I lurk. I snark. I offer sound advice if you're not BSC. You may not like me. I'm okay with it.