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May 2016 Moms
Chappy_jr
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39 weeks and no dilation - why is my family freaking out?
Chappy_jr
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My official due date is next week but for some reason, my family has it in their heads that I'm late. It doesn't help, I suppose, that MIL dreamed LO would be born on April 28 so there is nothing i can do to convince her that I am only just now full-term. "The baby should have been here by now!"
I just left the OB and although baby is very low and engaged, my cervix is still high and tight with no changes to discharge or sign of mucus plug. When I told my husband he asked why we didn't schedule a c-section today since LO is late. "Why wait", he asked. Uh ...
So I gave him about 5 good reasons, the last of which was "because I'm not even DUE yet".
With my first, I was induced at 41.5 weeks with no prior dilation and ended up with a c-section 29 hours later due to minor heart rate issues for me and LO. My OB agreed on a VBAC and I've been a good candidate for one but we also agree that if I go well beyond my due date with no dilation that we'll just schedule a RCS instead of a medical induction. I realize that for DH my labor last time was scary, much scarier than it was for me because I had a better sense of what was happening with my body, and he just felt overwhelmed and helpless. So, I know that is what is making him anxious this time - that and because he is listening to his mom and older women at his workplace who are telling him outdated things.
I guess "crotch-watch" has begun in full. Anyone else dealing with others totally freaking out while you're just sitting here, patiently waiting?
I just left the OB and although baby is very low and engaged, my cervix is still high and tight with no changes to discharge or sign of mucus plug. When I told my husband he asked why we didn't schedule a c-section today since LO is late. "Why wait", he asked. Uh ...
So I gave him about 5 good reasons, the last of which was "because I'm not even DUE yet".
With my first, I was induced at 41.5 weeks with no prior dilation and ended up with a c-section 29 hours later due to minor heart rate issues for me and LO. My OB agreed on a VBAC and I've been a good candidate for one but we also agree that if I go well beyond my due date with no dilation that we'll just schedule a RCS instead of a medical induction. I realize that for DH my labor last time was scary, much scarier than it was for me because I had a better sense of what was happening with my body, and he just felt overwhelmed and helpless. So, I know that is what is making him anxious this time - that and because he is listening to his mom and older women at his workplace who are telling him outdated things.
I guess "crotch-watch" has begun in full. Anyone else dealing with others totally freaking out while you're just sitting here, patiently waiting?
Re: 39 weeks and no dilation - why is my family freaking out?
She he should have no influence over your healthcare and it sucks your husband is being stressed out and manipulated by her.
Good luck.
My mom started asking about dilation last week, but my Dr and I agreed that there's no real reason to check at this point. She called me this morning before my appointment to tell me I should have my Dr check today. I told her no and it doesn't mean anything. She's the only one mentioning it to me and I'm already annoyed. That would make me ragey if my MIL made comments like that!
DD: 05/14/16
I'm seriously tired of people telling me they're surprised LO hasn't arrived yet, or worse, not wanting to meet up because they're sure my water will break any second.
I'm not super patient (EDD is next Tuesday), but I don't feel like everyone else has the right to be so impatient and put me on edge when they're not the ones dealing with all the physical pains of late pregnancy.
DH almost got me to commit to inducing at 41 weeks, but his parents have been so obnoxious that I'm strongly considering waiting to 41 1/2 weeks.
Lol...
I have been really big for a few months now, and so everyone thinks I'll go early, but I've been measuring as normal the entire time!!
At work, people have started saying "Still pregnant?!" when I walk by. I am inclined to slap them.... And say Nope! I had my baby and grew another one in a day and just love my job so much that I'm still here! Yes I'm effing still pregnant! The only comment I want to hear right now is "You look great!" .... Or just STFU and don't say anything!
Whew... Rant over.
You sound like you're doing the right thing keeping your wits about you, you haven't even hit your due date! Your baby and body know what to do and I'm sure your OB is taking good care of you. Tell you're DH to listen to the OB and not other peoples opinions with no medical background.
The end is near! Try to avoid annoying people as much as you can for your own sanity. Good luck ladies!
Hang in there, and stay strong!
And yes, most FTMs deliver past their due date. I was over with both of mine so I'm not holding my breath with #3.
my SO is just as sick of being asked questions by co-workers. Today he wrote a note on their task board that said "You no longer need to ask Josh when his baby will be here. You will know when he arrives by the absence of your mechanic!" Haha!
Church people are the worst, I think. I was complaining to my wife about it after another round of comments last Sunday. Her thought was that church member are always "all up in each other's business" because in some ways it's kind of like a family--you see these people once a week. Plus, since there are pretty much no other young families in our church, "they're all just so excited." Clearly, my wife is a much more patient person than I am.
However! One teacher at my daughter's preschool drives me effing crazy. "How are you feeling?" "I never got sick...I wonder why you are so sick" "Oh you look so cute"
I'm NOT sick! I haven't puked in oh, 5 months? She holds on to one conversation we had when I was 10 weeks or so . Not to mention she has no adult communication skills...