My husband is lending his car to his brother, since it was stolen over the weekend, and this leaves us with a slight issue for tomorrow, as he was planning on spending the evening with his friends to watch the NFL draft at a bar. I had planned weeks ago to go get a pedicure with my mom tomorrow, so I need the car for that, and he'll need the car for getting to/from the bar in the evening, and I don't think I'll be home before he was planning on meeting his friends.
His reaction? "Do you really think NOW is a good time for a pedicure? Aren't we trying to save money?"
SERIOUSLY? Yes, I'd say the week before my induction is a GREAT time for a pedicure. Considering the only other pedicures I've had in my life were before prom and before my wedding, its not like I indulge in this often. I haven't been able to reach my feet in months, I would like a little pampering since its been a pretty rough pregnancy, and we are going to a cheap place anyway. Besides, I'm 99% sure my mom is paying for it. Also, he is going to a freaking bar tomorrow! That is spending money! And I support it because he should go do something fun with his friends before the baby arrives, just like I deserve to do something nice for myself before the baby arrives.
I'm still so fuming mad at his ignorance that I don't even know what to do.
@Jparke2 - that's seriously ridiculous. He loaned his car out, you already has plans. Sounds like his loss. And just because this is what I would tell my DH:
My WTF is BBB - I changed my EDD to 5/8 so we could get the completion coupon early and we still haven't received it. Glad my DD isn't really until the end of the month, not like I need some things or anything like that...
WTF to my husband's work. He only gets 3 days off when the baby comes (he's a mining engineer and works 12-14 hour shifts 5-6 days a week, so I feel like he deserves better leave time, but mines tend to do this sort of thing) and I'm terrified that I'm going to be in labor for half that time period and then he'll only get a day with our LO before he has to go back to work. So now I'm trying desperately to induce labor naturally while at home because my EDD is in 6 days and I would like the baby to be here some time between now and Friday so that he can add on his weekend to the amount of leave he has off. So sex and exercise it is!!! Neither of us mind that part of the plan!
@mrstmoose I kind of rage-laughed in his face, and then told him all of the reasons why what he said was not ok. He is lucky I let him live! I made some attempts to figure out different transportation for myself, but if it doesn't work out, then OH WELL, he can wait until I get back from my unnecessary and extravagant pedicure! I might just take my damn time, too!
Last night I felt my biggest contraction to date and yelled out, "OH F***!" My husband says, "wow, for someone who doesn't like swearing, is that how you plan on talking while your giving birth?" (Side note: I don't like it when he swears AT me, I've never had much of a problem with swearing in general). I just told him that it probably is how I'll be talking/yelling, and when he gives birth he can say whatever he wants during labor too. But seriously, WTF? Bring preemptively censored on my labor language almost felt worse than the contractions.
My WTF (that I started like 3 hours ago) goes out to the lady who is supposed to be taking over my case load when I go on maternity leave...
Almost everyone who works for the drug courts is a contract worker so we're all technically self employed and make our own schedules (for the most part). I'm a clinical case manager, which you need a Masters in Social Work to do. This lady is currently a case aide so she does a lot of transportation for our drug court clients since we're in a rural area with terrible public transportation, and she's working on getting her MSW. Well we had talked back in March about her shadowing me a few times a week to familiarize herself with my case load and the basics of clinical case management, since she has no experience. So after talking with her two months ago, she has shadowed me less than 8 hours because she always has something else to go do or has taken on a new transport and needs to cut our time short.
I'm super frustrated because she is the one that told me she can shadow me from 12-5 on Wednesdays, which isn't that much to begin with but I understand she also needs to work, but has cut out on me early each time. I get that my job may not be rocket science, but it requires common sense, assertiveness/the ability to call clients out on their shit and hold them accountable for their actions, flexibility, a knowledge of case management in order to meet client needs, etc...ALL of which this lady is lacking at this point. I've told her the times I work are based on my clients availability/schedules and she can't shadow me for any other times because she always has something going on... So now I've started having to schedule appointments with my client that pull them out of work early, just so she can be available to shadow me...which is really unfair to my clients. I'm worried that my case load is going to fall apart in the 8 weeks that I'll be gone, and my clients can't risk that because they have prison on the line. Then my supervisor told me today that if things go well with this lady she'd like to possibly hire her in next grant period. Which kind of terrifies me at this point, but I don't feel like I can say anything to my supervisor yet about it all without first speaking to this lady - which I kinda did today. I told her I'm due in a month and this kid will come whenever she wants, and if she came tomorrow would you be ready to take over my case load? Her response: "No, I'd be screwed." Uhh, so get it together lady!
I just don't think this lady is going to make it. It's a tough job where you're dealing with Judges, defense & prosecuting attorneys, probation officers, jails in various counties, therapists, a bunch of other state agencies, addiction - so you need to have a general inderstanding on meds that are approved/unapproved, not to mention the clients all have criminal charges so you're dealing with both addict and criminal thinking which is super sneaky and manipulative. Plus you really need flexibily, which she's not budging on at all. Ugh.
Also, WTF to my mom for being an asshole about getting the TDAP vaccine AND my husband for questioning why I want the police department to check that we've installed the car seats correctly. Does it matter? It's for our child's goddamn safety, just do it.
WTF to my cats, who are being real assholes to my mom (who is terrified of cats) today. And my dogs. None of the pets want to leave me alone right now. Either this is a sign that I'm going into labor soon, or they just really don't like my mom.
I didn't get a chance to post this yesterday, but WTF to my dog who peed on a stack of brand new books in the nursery! He is 12 years old, is normally so well-behaved, and hasn't had an accident in forever. Maybe he senses something is about to change or wanted to "mark" the new items in the house as his (which he has never done with anything else, though). All I know is that I had to have MH deal with the situation because I was afraid that if I went near the damn dog I was going to kill him! Luckily, a lot of the books had glossy dust jackets, so MH was able to either wipe them clean or throw away the dust jacket and just keep the book itself, but some of the books had to be thrown out, too. It made me so sad because they were shower gifts with personal messages written inside. We've been keeping the nursery door closed now, and I really hope it was a one-time thing because I have neither the time nor the patience to deal with behavioral problems just a couple of weeks before my DD. I love my dog, but I was still so angry with him that I couldn't bring myself to even pat his head before I left for work this morning, and I feel kind of bad about it now. We hadn't planned on getting a baby gate since we have a one-story house, but I may go buy one this evening for the nursery doorway to keep the dog out without having to keep the door closed all the time. I know there are some dog trainers on this board. Any suggestions or advice?
@valerie4786 all of that would make me mad. I'm a LMSW as well and you have to be really careful because you don't want to do anything to mess up your license either! Luckily, she will be under your supervisor when you are on ML so it's on your sup to make sure she does her job right. I would make sure your sup knows how often she has shadowed you and what you've gone over. I would also document when she come and goes and when she bails on you. Just to cover yourself.
I'm also frustrated about the TDAP shot and our families. Just get the damn shot for crying out loud.
I didn't get a chance to post this yesterday, but WTF to my dog who peed on a stack of brand new books in the nursery! He is 12 years old, is normally so well-behaved, and hasn't had an accident in forever. Maybe he senses something is about to change or wanted to "mark" the new items in the house as his (which he has never done with anything else, though). All I know is that I had to have MH deal with the situation because I was afraid that if I went near the damn dog I was going to kill him! Luckily, a lot of the books had glossy dust jackets, so MH was able to either wipe them clean or throw away the dust jacket and just keep the book itself, but some of the books had to be thrown out, too. It made me so sad because they were shower gifts with personal messages written inside. We've been keeping the nursery door closed now, and I really hope it was a one-time thing because I have neither the time nor the patience to deal with behavioral problems just a couple of weeks before my DD. I love my dog, but I was still so angry with him that I couldn't bring myself to even pat his head before I left for work this morning, and I feel kind of bad about it now. We hadn't planned on getting a baby gate since we have a one-story house, but I may go buy one this evening for the nursery doorway to keep the dog out without having to keep the door closed all the time. I know there are some dog trainers on this board. Any suggestions or advice?
Ugh that sucks! I have to commend you on having the self-awareness and control to have your hubby handle the situation, not many people are capable of that!
A baby gate is exactly what I'd recommend to a client in this situation. Now that the peeing behavior has started, you want to do everything you can to prevent it from happening again and becoming a persistent problem or habit. Plus I'm not a fan of letting dogs have access to nurseries anyway. Be sure to get a gate that'll be easy for you to operate after giving birth, some are a pain.
@TheThornBird Thanks for the advice! I'll definitely update you if it continues. Hopefully, it was just a one-time thing.
I second baby gates! They were really helpful when our dog was a baby (ha!) and basically using our entire house as a personal poop den. In my experience, they get "used to" going in certain spots and if you cut that off they're more likely to ask to go outside.
@mrstmoose I ended up talking with another coworker about the situation today and she recommended the same thing as you! She said it's not MY responsibility to make sure this lady shadows me and to definitely talk to my supervisor about how long she's shadowed and my concerns. Looks like i'll definitely be having a conversation with my supervisor about her.
WTF to my cats, who are being real assholes to my mom (who is terrified of cats) today. And my dogs. None of the pets want to leave me alone right now. Either this is a sign that I'm going into labor soon, or they just really don't like my mom.
I really really hope that all the pets not wanting to leave me alone are a sign of labor. Same thing is happening over here!
WTF to my cats, who are being real assholes to my mom (who is terrified of cats) today. And my dogs. None of the pets want to leave me alone right now. Either this is a sign that I'm going into labor soon, or they just really don't like my mom.
I really really hope that all the pets not wanting to leave me alone are a sign of labor. Same thing is happening over here!
Same! My dog is usually cuddly anyway but he escorted me to the bathroom today!
WTF to my cats, who are being real assholes to my mom (who is terrified of cats) today. And my dogs. None of the pets want to leave me alone right now. Either this is a sign that I'm going into labor soon, or they just really don't like my mom.
I really really hope that all the pets not wanting to leave me alone are a sign of labor. Same thing is happening over here!
Same! My dog is usually cuddly anyway but he escorted me to the bathroom today!
my toddlers escort me to the bathroom, and then proceed to try to sit on my ever-decreasing lap space. Now try to wipe...
Mama to Three Girls: Twins born March 2014 at 26 weeks due to preterm labor and our 37weeker born May 9th, 2016!
@JennyS86 That happens to me too! Though, I'm sure one is easier to fend of than two. We've taken to keeping a ball in the bathroom so that I can get him a few feet away and I play catch with one hand and wipe with the other. Otherwise, he's climbing all over me.
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Re: WTF Wednesday
His reaction? "Do you really think NOW is a good time for a pedicure? Aren't we trying to save money?"
SERIOUSLY? Yes, I'd say the week before my induction is a GREAT time for a pedicure. Considering the only other pedicures I've had in my life were before prom and before my wedding, its not like I indulge in this often. I haven't been able to reach my feet in months, I would like a little pampering since its been a pretty rough pregnancy, and we are going to a cheap place anyway. Besides, I'm 99% sure my mom is paying for it. Also, he is going to a freaking bar tomorrow! That is spending money! And I support it because he should go do something fun with his friends before the baby arrives, just like I deserve to do something nice for myself before the baby arrives.
I'm still so fuming mad at his ignorance that I don't even know what to do.
My WTF is BBB - I changed my EDD to 5/8 so we could get the completion coupon early and we still haven't received it. Glad my DD isn't really until the end of the month, not like I need some things or anything like that...
Almost everyone who works for the drug courts is a contract worker so we're all technically self employed and make our own schedules (for the most part). I'm a clinical case manager, which you need a Masters in Social Work to do. This lady is currently a case aide so she does a lot of transportation for our drug court clients since we're in a rural area with terrible public transportation, and she's working on getting her MSW. Well we had talked back in March about her shadowing me a few times a week to familiarize herself with my case load and the basics of clinical case management, since she has no experience. So after talking with her two months ago, she has shadowed me less than 8 hours because she always has something else to go do or has taken on a new transport and needs to cut our time short.
I'm super frustrated because she is the one that told me she can shadow me from 12-5 on Wednesdays, which isn't that much to begin with but I understand she also needs to work, but has cut out on me early each time. I get that my job may not be rocket science, but it requires common sense, assertiveness/the ability to call clients out on their shit and hold them accountable for their actions, flexibility, a knowledge of case management in order to meet client needs, etc...ALL of which this lady is lacking at this point. I've told her the times I work are based on my clients availability/schedules and she can't shadow me for any other times because she always has something going on... So now I've started having to schedule appointments with my client that pull them out of work early, just so she can be available to shadow me...which is really unfair to my clients. I'm worried that my case load is going to fall apart in the 8 weeks that I'll be gone, and my clients can't risk that because they have prison on the line. Then my supervisor told me today that if things go well with this lady she'd like to possibly hire her in next grant period. Which kind of terrifies me at this point, but I don't feel like I can say anything to my supervisor yet about it all without first speaking to this lady - which I kinda did today. I told her I'm due in a month and this kid will come whenever she wants, and if she came tomorrow would you be ready to take over my case load? Her response: "No, I'd be screwed." Uhh, so get it together lady!
I just don't think this lady is going to make it. It's a tough job where you're dealing with Judges, defense & prosecuting attorneys, probation officers, jails in various counties, therapists, a bunch of other state agencies, addiction - so you need to have a general inderstanding on meds that are approved/unapproved, not to mention the clients all have criminal charges so you're dealing with both addict and criminal thinking which is super sneaky and manipulative. Plus you really need flexibily, which she's not budging on at all. Ugh.
Also, WTF to my mom for being an asshole about getting the TDAP vaccine AND my husband for questioning why I want the police department to check that we've installed the car seats correctly. Does it matter? It's for our child's goddamn safety, just do it.
/end rant.
I'm also frustrated about the TDAP shot and our families. Just get the damn shot for crying out loud.
A baby gate is exactly what I'd recommend to a client in this situation. Now that the peeing behavior has started, you want to do everything you can to prevent it from happening again and becoming a persistent problem or habit. Plus I'm not a fan of letting dogs have access to nurseries anyway. Be sure to get a gate that'll be easy for you to operate after giving birth, some are a pain.
Update me if the peeing continues!
my toddlers escort me to the bathroom, and then proceed to try to sit on my ever-decreasing lap space. Now try to wipe...
Mama to Three Girls:
Twins born March 2014 at 26 weeks due to preterm labor
and our 37weeker born May 9th, 2016!