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ShallowSeas · April 2016

Probably not flame-free.

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ShallowSeas · April 2016

Since H and I aren't having sex as much as normal these days, there's been a lot of flirting and sexual tension between us and its been kinda fun

It almost feels like before we started dating when we were "just friends that really wanted to be more than friends but weren't yet".

I don't want to vote for a presidential candidate this year. I don't care for any of the candidates and I don't feel comfortable voting for any of them, but at the same time I hate not voting. My due date is Election Day, 11/7, so I really hope I'm in the hospital then so I won't even be thinking about voting and miss it.

KilgraveMadeMeDoIt · April 2016

I ate an entire bag of sour cream and onion chips by myself over the course of two days because it was the only thing that sounded good.

ShallowSeas · April 2016

@KilgraveMadeMeDoIt
I did the same thing with a bag of Cool Ranch Doritos this week!! NO REGRETS.

Thewizardofrhythm · April 2016

I went to see a client yesterday for a meeting I thought would take at least an hour or two. It lasted 5 minutes and suddenly I had two hours before my next appointment. Two free hours for me?!!? I went and got a mani pedi. It was great.

mrs_hoyahoo · April 2016

My FFFC: I also love Cool Ranch Doritos. I've heard this can be a UO...

Unrelated - My 2.5 year old still has a pacifier and I have no intention of taking it away any time soon. We have a pretty strict "you only get it when you're sleeping policy." And we get easier bedtime transitions, longer sleeps, and a happier kid. As long as he doesn't start chewing off the ends and creating a choking hazard, he can have it as long as he wants. I'll be paying for serious orthodontia regardless.

I watched my friend get her two year old to give it up and she didn't have a good night's sleep for a year. No thank you, not with this LO on the way!

g8rmama_16 · April 2016

I think that I will win the lottery one day. I rarely ever play, so I don't know how it will happen, but I feel like it is my destiny.

Greencows4812 · April 2016

@mrs_hoyahoo my son turns 3 on the 15th and he still has a pacifier too. He only gets it when sleeping and he sleeps. I've thought about cutting the ends so they're "broken" but I probably won't worry about it for another 6 months to a year. No shame lol

FallenLeaves1990 · April 2016

FFFC: I told my husband my belly was too sensitive and it hurt to have his arm draped over me while we sleep so that I could avoid cuddling last night. I. Need. All. The. Space.

TinyAlligator · April 2016

@ShallowSeas you and me both. I honestly have zero clues what I'm going to do.

doraleigh35 · April 2016

I cried my way through the NFL Draft last night. I do it every year with just about any draft (CFL, NHL, NBA). It has nothing to do with the current status of my hormones. I just get all the feels watching those young men's dreams come true and all that hard work pay off. The human interest stories they do before the picks. Then the hugs for their mama and shaking their daddy's hand.....seriously gets me every.single.time.

grannysmith912 · April 2016

FFFC: I'm scared that I'm going to be bummed if I find out we're having a girl. I know it's dumb to be anxious about an emotional response to an event that hasn't happened yet, because who knows what I'll actually feel when the time comes—I may just be totally stoked either way to know a little bit more about who this baby is going to be. But anyway, I already feel guilty about my hopes that we'll be starting off our family with a boy; it makes me feel like a terrible representative of the female sex, especially since I personally love being a girl and having an older sister to look up to.

PurpleBrunette · April 2016

Don't feel bad @grannysmith912. We aren't finding out until baby is born, but I'm really worried it will be a girl. I just want a boy first for whatever reason. But everyone is pretty sure I'm having a girl (which of course means naught) and for a while I thought boy, but I'm now certain it's a girl and I really want my first to be a boy. Which is insane, because I'm the oldest of my siblings, as is my mom. But then so is my husband and my father. ¯\_(ツ)_/¯

TrulyBlessed22 · April 2016

@grannysmith912 and @purplebrunette I'm kinda in the same boat except this will be our 2nd and we both really want it to be a Boy since we have a Girl now. I HATE that I already feel like I may be bummed if they tell me it's a Girl because I know I will love this baby unconditionally no matter the sex but I can't help but feel like I'll be bummed. I almost wish that if it is another Girl I could hug her and tell her I LOVE YOU SO VERY MUCH just to make myself feel better LOL.

The truth is though that I think many of us feel this way when our hope is on a specific gender and we shouldn't beat ourselves up over it though I know first hand that's easier said than done. With our first, DH wanted a Boy soooooo bad and was literally bummed when we found it was a Girl....to make it a bit more visual for you I cried when I saw his reaction and they weren't happy tears. I KNEW he'd love her but I couldn't help but feel a special way about his deep want for a boy when it wasn't going to be one. Anyway, he got over it and our Baby Girl was born and now he can't picture having had a boy. They are sooooo close, in fact I'd venture to say closer than she and I are.

Last night I read something on Pinterest titled "5 things I wish I'd known before I had my second child" and the very 1st thing was this: "You're not a terrible person if you're disappointed when you find out the gender". It went on from there but honestly it's the truth.

Lets be kind to ourselves

Edit: Sp is hard

DunkinDecaf · April 2016

I'm also kind of nervous to find out the sex. I'm hoping for a boy, even though I personally would kinda prefer a second girl. My husband definitely wants a boy, so I have my fingers crossed for his sake.
I feel so silly admitting that I care even a little bit whether it's a girl or a boy, since I obviously love this child enormously regardless of how he/she is going to pee, but there ya go.

LikeICantEven · April 2016

I steal probably more than half the marshmallows out of my son's Lucky Charms before he gets the bowl.

He's in for a shock when he pours his first bowl himself and realizes Mom has been skimming off the top for years.

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GreenEyedUnicorn · April 2016

grannysmith912 said:

FFFC: I'm scared that I'm going to be bummed if I find out we're having a girl. I know it's dumb to be anxious about an emotional response to an event that hasn't happened yet, because who knows what I'll actually feel when the time comes—I may just be totally stoked either way to know a little bit more about who this baby is going to be. But anyway, I already feel guilty about my hopes that we'll be starting off our family with a boy; it makes me feel like a terrible representative of the female sex, especially since I personally love being a girl and having an older sister to look up to.

I will be bummed if we have a girl. My BF wants one, I'd rather just have another boy. I hate when people get all bullshit when people have a preference, and pull the, "who cares as long as it's healthy...." Card. No shit. We all want healthy babies. That should absolutely go without saying. We should also be allowed to have a preference, and feel how ever we feel about it.

LikeICantEven · April 2016

GreenEyedUnicorn said:

grannysmith912 said:

FFFC: I'm scared that I'm going to be bummed if I find out we're having a girl. I know it's dumb to be anxious about an emotional response to an event that hasn't happened yet, because who knows what I'll actually feel when the time comes—I may just be totally stoked either way to know a little bit more about who this baby is going to be. But anyway, I already feel guilty about my hopes that we'll be starting off our family with a boy; it makes me feel like a terrible representative of the female sex, especially since I personally love being a girl and having an older sister to look up to.

I will be bummed if we have a girl. My BF wants one, I'd rather just have another boy. I hate when people get all bullshit when people have a preference, and pull the, "who cares as long as it's healthy...." Card. No shit. We all want healthy babies. That should absolutely go without saying. We should also be allowed to have a preference, and feel how ever we feel about it.

Yeah, this is something that has instigated a total witchhunt in the past on the site and I don't get it. As women, we are naturally inclined towards bonding as soon as possible to our babies, this helps us nurture them better. And in doing that we end up picturing them a certain way, seeing them in a light that will complement our life. Sometimes that manifests in a way where we prefer boy or girl.

It's looking forward to a certain dynamic. It's asinine and useless to me to hear women say, "JUST BE HAPPY WITH WHATEVER YOU GET, RARW. DON'T IMPOSE YOUR GENDER PREFERENCE ON YOUR CHILD RARW" I mean, really? That's such a straw man mentality. Oh, it must mean you will love your child less if they don't have a penis. Get over yourself. And for that matter, who cares if I want to put my son in airplane pjs and my daughter in unicorn pjs. It's none of your business if I choose to dress them gender specific. Does the absence of gender neutral mean that I won't accept a possible trans or homosexual child? Absofreakinglutely not. But I'm their parent and I'll put my 2 week old daughter in a tutu if I want to and anyone having a problem with that, well...that's your problem.

I just think it's one more thing for women to tear each other down about and get judgey with.

banfrog · April 2016

FFFC: I bought colored underwear for DH because I hated having to wash a load of just his underwear (his underwear were the only whites anyone wore in my family).

KilgraveMadeMeDoIt · April 2016

I definitely want another girl. My son is autistic and while I would not change him for the world, he faces challenges other kids do not and I hate that the world is not as accepting of him as it should be and that he has to work so much harder than other kids to do the same sorts of things. The siblings of autistic children are at increased risk of themselves being autistic (obviously) and boys are at a higher risk than girls. While I realize having another girl is no guarantee the child won't have autism or face other challenges (our daughter has had some language delays which are common in siblings of ASD kids) the risk is lower and that matters to me. I'll still be super happy with another boy - we tried for two years. I really am just glad to be pregnant - but I know I'll worry more.

ShallowSeas · April 2016

It's hard for me to remain professional and be as non-judgmental as possible when I have to see pregnant female inmates who are still using heroin, meth, and cocaine. I can't even handle it and have to bite my tongue. As hard as I try to be professional, I'm sure I come across more bitchy and rude to them than I do with the typical inmate.

grannysmith912 · April 2016

GreenEyedUnicorn said:
I will be bummed if we have a girl. My BF wants one, I'd rather just have another boy. I hate when people get all bullshit when people have a preference, and pull the, "who cares as long as it's healthy...." Card. No shit. We all want healthy babies. That should absolutely go without saying. We should also be allowed to have a preference, and feel how ever we feel about it.

I honestly despise the "as long as it's healthy" argument in any context. First, I hate how often it becomes a means by which to either judge or silence women's voices, whether regarding something relatively inconsequential like a preference in sex, or regarding things as serious as avoiding or coping after a traumatic L&D experience. It also really bugs me that it more often than not comes with this hero-complex air, like "Wow, look how loving and open I am, only caring that the baby is healthy," when in real life we all know that the true heroes are the mamas who's children aren't born healthy, and who have to pour out every bit of love they've got, usually without recognition.

Anyways, end of rant...

sweetlyuntied · April 2016

For lunch on Wednesday I had both cold cuts and soft cheese. Definitely second baby.

(FWIW, it was pasteurized goat cheese. But I definitely ate cold cuts).

mrs_hoyahoo · April 2016

It's 2pm and I decided it was finally time to shower and get dressed for my day. Why? I want to walk down to Whole Foods and get a cookie #motivation

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PurpleBrunette · April 2016

mrs_hoyahoo said:

It's 2pm and I decided it was finally time to shower and get dressed for my day. Why? I want to walk down to Whole Foods and get a cookie #motivation

I like the way you operate. I totally went to a coworker's birthday celebration at work yesterday simply because there was cake. I'm not a fan of that coworker but #cakeicing

doraleigh35 · April 2016

HomeyDontPlayThat said:

GreenEyedUnicorn said:

grannysmith912 said:

FFFC: I'm scared that I'm going to be bummed if I find out we're having a girl. I know it's dumb to be anxious about an emotional response to an event that hasn't happened yet, because who knows what I'll actually feel when the time comes—I may just be totally stoked either way to know a little bit more about who this baby is going to be. But anyway, I already feel guilty about my hopes that we'll be starting off our family with a boy; it makes me feel like a terrible representative of the female sex, especially since I personally love being a girl and having an older sister to look up to.

I will be bummed if we have a girl. My BF wants one, I'd rather just have another boy. I hate when people get all bullshit when people have a preference, and pull the, "who cares as long as it's healthy...." Card. No shit. We all want healthy babies. That should absolutely go without saying. We should also be allowed to have a preference, and feel how ever we feel about it.

Yeah, this is something that has instigated a total witchhunt in the past on the site and I don't get it. As women, we are naturally inclined towards bonding as soon as possible to our babies, this helps us nurture them better. And in doing that we end up picturing them a certain way, seeing them in a light that will complement our life. Sometimes that manifests in a way where we prefer boy or girl.

It's looking forward to a certain dynamic. It's asinine and useless to me to hear women say, "JUST BE HAPPY WITH WHATEVER YOU GET, RARW. DON'T IMPOSE YOUR GENDER PREFERENCE ON YOUR CHILD RARW" I mean, really? That's such a straw man mentality. Oh, it must mean you will love your child less if they don't have a penis. Get over yourself. And for that matter, who cares if I want to put my son in airplane pjs and my daughter in unicorn pjs. It's none of your business if I choose to dress them gender specific. Does the absence of gender neutral mean that I won't accept a possible trans or homosexual child? Absofreakinglutely not. But I'm their parent and I'll put my 2 week old daughter in a tutu if I want to and anyone having a problem with that, well...that's your problem.

I just think it's one more thing for women to tear each other down about and get judgey with.

Yet again @HomeyDontPlayThat you've taken the words right out of my mouth! Perfectly stated. I swear I nod my head yes at everything you say!

We are hoping for a boy. Doesn't mean that we're not going to love a little girl any less. I feel like we have so much pressure from people IRL to have a boy, because DH is a professional athlete. No, actually all of my kids will be put into sports regardless if they are male or female. I once played sports too. They will also be introduced to music, language and any other hobbies that they choose. DH constantly says that he hopes our kids are wildly successful in professions other than sports. It's a hard freaking lifestyle.

Mksbc · April 2016

I've been telling everyone I really don't care if this one is a boy or a girl - I really wanted a boy and I have my son, so it doesn't matter. The truth is I will be kind of disappointed if we don't have a girl. This is very likely our last and, if I'm honest, part of me would be sad to never experience the things that come with being a mom of a girl.

rspalding001 · April 2016

I had pizza for lunch even though we usually do pizza for dinner on Friday's. I don't plan on telling my husband what I ate so I may end up having pizza twice today :-)

aquasocks · April 2016

KilgraveMadeMeDoIt said:

I ate an entire bag of sour cream and onion chips by myself over the course of two days because it was the only thing that sounded good.

Go girl. I put away a bag of salt and vinegar before noon today. My mouth is going to peel.

NatashaSprout · April 2016

I upped my weights on leg day, that was 2 days ago and I'm still walking funny. I really miss ibuprofen. And whiskey.

DunkinDecaf · April 2016

NatashaSprout said:

I upped my weights on leg day, that was 2 days ago and I'm still walking funny. I really miss ibuprofen. And whiskey.

Soooo with you. I would never have guessed that what I'd miss most this pregnancy are just all the things that help with headaches. Advil and bourbon most of all.

g8rmama_16 · April 2016

I give serious side eye to lurkers who chime in on posts with sage "advice". I mean, you are like four weeks ahead of us and I think there are plenty of BTDT moms on our board to handle it, but thanks.

mom2fallbabies · April 2016

@sweetlyuntied - at my intake appointment the nurse was going over the food do's and don't's and made a point to specifically say that cold cuts were totally fine and didn't need to be heated up. Of course for every doctor/nurse who says it's fine is another doctor/nurse saying it's the devil. So. Grain of salt but I say feed that baby whatever it wants!

My FFFC: I switched to a new OB since my regular one couldn't see me for weeks. Well, my LMP and blood work don't match up at all and there's a lot of question about my actual due date so they're having me come in for a dating ultrasound. Normally they only do two - one for anatomy scan at 20 weeks and another at 36 weeks. So even though I'm not thrilled that there could be a problem, I'm psyched about getting an "extra" ultrasound.

talkthewholetime · April 2016

I knowingly fed my daughter pizza 2x in one day because I wanted it and I knew she wouldn't complain. (Wednesday is pizza day at daycare)

60% of why I announced my pregnancy at work was so that people would be nicer to me.

@HeyBooHey I hate that. Go back to October. I'm glad you're literally 4 days more pregnant than me. With your first. Didn't know how I would make it through without you.

aquasocks · April 2016

My FFFC is that I've been having alllllll the sexy dreams lately. Sleeping me is a huge hornball.

Roxell · April 2016

@aquasocks me too! I wish my awake self wanted as much sex as my asleep self

shevaCC · April 2016

I hope after this next baby is here that DS continues to be a momma's boy. It took a long time after DS was born to rebuild my relationship with DD to the place it was before he arrived. She's very close to DH, but was less close to me for a long while. DS has always preferred me and, as much as I love my DH, I'm afraid DS will prefer him over me too once baby gets here.

pinnerk · April 2016

I hate hate hate fake emotional girls. You know the type. The ones who whine for whatever they want and the type who fake cry to get out of something they don't want.

Well ladies, I just taught myself how to burst into tears to avoid a speeding ticket. And it worked.

So I won't go into it all again but these last few days have been the hardest I may have ever had. My bf is very sick, crazy MIL in town and just feeling sleep deprived and gross.
So I was coming home from a horrible day of work and was going 7kms over the limit.
Such a bad ass.
So he caught me. I was totally in the wrong. But something just came over me and before I knew it he was studdering and telling me that it was OK. I had a melt down and maybe the tears were the cherry on top but I didn't get a ticket

whaat · April 2016

TrulyBlessed22 said:

@grannysmith912 and @PurpleBrunette I'm kinda in the same boat except this will be our 2nd and we both really want it to be a Boy since we have a Girl now. I HATE that I already feel like I may be bummed if they tell me it's a Girl because I know I will love this baby unconditionally no matter the sex but I can't help but feel like I'll be bummed. I almost wish that if it is another Girl I could hug her and tell her I LOVE YOU SO VERY MUCH just to make myself feel better LOL.
The truth is though that I think many of us feel this way when our hope is on a specific gender and we shouldn't beat ourselves up over it though I know first hand that's easier said than done. With our first, DH wanted a Boy soooooo bad and was literally bummed when we found it was a Girl....to make it a bit more visual for you I cried when I saw his reaction and they weren't happy tears. I KNEW he'd love her but I couldn't help but feel a special way about his deep want for a boy when it wasn't going to be one. Anyway, he got over it and our Baby Girl was born and now he can't picture having had a boy. They are sooooo close, in fact I'd venture to say closer than she and I are.
Last night I read something on Pinterest titled "5 things I wish I'd known before I had my second child" and the very 1st thing was this: "You're not a terrible person if you're disappointed when you find out the gender". It went on from there but honestly it's the truth.
Lets be kind to ourselves
Edit: Sp is hard

All of the babies and kids in my husband's family right now are girls, so I know it would be more exciting for everyone (ugh) if I had a boy, and I'm definitely worried about my feelings on this issue, as a woman who grew up with a sister, and as a feminist. What does it meeeeaaaan?

campbaby76 · April 2016

Late to the party as usual. Dh and I have been vegan for over a year. We started for health reasons and it's been great. But I literally wake up thinking about cheesesteaks and BBQ sandwiches and broccoli beef stir fry.
yesterday we gave in and had BBQ. It was so salty and good and I should have quit w half a sandwich because I was ill the rest of the day.

Roxell · April 2016

@pinnerk sorry your H is still stick, hope he gets better soon! And good for you not getting a ticket. I was having an asthma attack when I got pulled over once so I couldn't breathe and I was crying on top of it and I still got a speeding ticket

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