I have loved reading all these stories - thank you!
My husband and I have been trying since our miscarriage 2.5 years ago, and we finally visited a fertility clinic this year. After the hCG trigger, I wasn't sure that the first positive HPTs or the first blood test was accurate, so we had to wait until a Monday (the day after his birthday) to feel sure based on the results of a second beta hCG test. I told him that I would meet him at his place of work for lunch and let him know the news either way. He works with aluminum dust all day, so usually, I don't like to touch him until he's showered after work. This time I ran and jumped into his arms - but he was already grinning before I started to run, because he had known the truth when he saw me standing there.
Because of events on Friday, I woke up early on a Saturday and had an inkling I should take a test. So I got up and poas. It turned positive immediately (which was great since I was still 5 days out from the expected start of my next period). I heard my husband getting up to let the dogs outside so I just left it on the counter and hopped in the shower. Once I heard him come back in the room, I just hollered at him from the shower to come look at the test and tell me what he thought it was saying. There was no doubt on the results but it still took him a few seconds to fully register what it was telling him.
ETA: I was still almost a whole week out from the start of my next cycle, so it was really odd that I had an inkling.
I finally scheduled to get my wisdom teeth removed, so just a few days before the procedure I poas to make sure I wasn't pregnant. Well, I got a positive. I came out of the bathroom and handed it to DH while he was still lying in bed and said "I have to make some phone calls." As I called my Dr to see if I could still get my wisdom removed (the answer was no) and the oral surgeon's office to cancel my appointment, DH was "what? what does this mean? are you sure?"
ETA: @NatashaSprout and @TinyAlligator lol I was super tempted to throw it at him. He's been in a hurry to have another and I really wanted to get my wisdom teeth extraction over with.
I woke up around 5am and decided to try POAS. I left it on the counter then went back to bed. 10min later I got anxious and went back in the bathroom and there was a super faint but obvious second line, while I was hyperventilating H called out "are you pregnant?" from bed so I brought it out and showed him and he goes "yeah I see it but until a doctor confirms it I don't know if I believe it". I emailed our doc that morning who wrote back that pee sticks are 99% accurate. I then went and got positives on a FRER, clearblue and digital and showed them to H along with the email. He believed it after that but it took a few weeks for him to really get invested and start asking questions and getting excited. Our trip to the ER at 6 weeks when he saw the baby and the heartbeat on the US was definitely a turning point and he got very weepy and emotional about it all.
I was a complete failure in surprising him haha! I had come home from work early (felt sick and exhausted) and looked in the bathroom trash can and there was a test from the morning that apparently turned positive after I had thrown it out. I texted him a pic of it going "????" (he was at a conference so i couldnt call, and i was legitimately confused). We texted back and forth a few times before i called in my sister and mom to look at a new test with me (which had a very faint line). eventually once it sank in i was pregnant, I layed out all the tests (like 5) for him to see when he got home.
So first baby I took the excitement right out when I poas and the lines were faint and I have PCOS so I didn't know if everything was safe. Told him " don't get excited" it makes me sad that I did that now. 2nd baby I was at the Dr and she told me... We had absolutely no clue. So I went to his job site with the ultraound in an envelope and told him it was important mail that couldn't wait. That was fun This time we were again not trying but we suspected because of our intuitive dog so when I took the test I taped it to a white board and then taped that to the bathroom mirror with the message " keep calm we're outnumbered baby!" he got home from work and loved it he was extremely excited.
I tested at my parents house. We were dropping off DD for them to babysit and I wanted to know if I could have a few drinks. We had been NTNP. I just told him...and then my parents...and then my friends who we went out with that night. I'm the worst at secrets.
He wanted to be there when I took the test so I peed on it when I woke up at my usual pee time of 4:30am and I called him in. He peed while we waited, it was very obviously positive, we hugged, and went back to sleep. I can't imagine hiding it long enough to order something off the Internet or do some kind of arts and crafts. That's cute but just not me.
I had been saying all day to H they I thought I was pregnant. We were all packed up for a long car trip at 8:00 at night. Kid was in the stroller, bags on Hs shoulders, dog all leashed up and jackets on. I said it one more time as were walking out the door. "Just go take a test then!" H exasperatedly said to me. Two mins later I shouted from the bathroom. "I was right!"
@AdmiralKitty My H wouldn't believe the pee stick either! He said he'd believe it more when a doctor confirmed it. So, on Monday, I went to our on-site doctor's office at work, and they told me they consider HPTs to be accurate enough to be considered official. I went home, he asked me if a doctor confirmed it, and I told him technically, yes. Haha! Our first u/s was on Monday and that DEFINITELY made it feel more real to both of us!
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Me: 35 | H: 40 Married Sept. 2013 DS1: Nov 11, 2016 MMC: 11/16/18 (9w6d) CP: 2/3/19 (5w3d) BFP! 8/24/19 DS2: May 10, 2020
Re: How did you tell your partner about your BFP?
My husband and I have been trying since our miscarriage 2.5 years ago, and we finally visited a fertility clinic this year. After the hCG trigger, I wasn't sure that the first positive HPTs or the first blood test was accurate, so we had to wait until a Monday (the day after his birthday) to feel sure based on the results of a second beta hCG test. I told him that I would meet him at his place of work for lunch and let him know the news either way. He works with aluminum dust all day, so usually, I don't like to touch him until he's showered after work. This time I ran and jumped into his arms - but he was already grinning before I started to run, because he had known the truth when he saw me standing there.
ETA: I was still almost a whole week out from the start of my next cycle, so it was really odd that I had an inkling.
ETA:
@NatashaSprout and @TinyAlligator lol I was super tempted to throw it at him.
He's been in a hurry to have another and I really wanted to get my wisdom teeth extraction over with.
He knew because I wasn't bawling my eyes out. After 9 medicated cycles of failure he knew what BFN looks like.
The whole IF experience has left DH and me both just kinda numb. I don't know if we'll really believe it until I have a baby in my arms.
Unexplained infertility
NTNP: 10 years!
TTC: Since 2014
5 IUI: BFN
IVF 1: MC
IVF 2: BFP! DD 11/20/16
2nd baby I was at the Dr and she told me... We had absolutely no clue. So I went to his job site with the ultraound in an envelope and told him it was important mail that couldn't wait. That was fun
This time we were again not trying but we suspected because of our intuitive dog
I can't imagine hiding it long enough to order something off the Internet or do some kind of arts and crafts. That's cute but just not me.
Married Sept. 2013
DS1: Nov 11, 2016
MMC: 11/16/18 (9w6d)
CP: 2/3/19 (5w3d)
BFP! 8/24/19
DS2: May 10, 2020