I hate the idea of a dream feed, why am I risking waking a sleeping baby??
p.s this is coming from baby wise, thanks to some helpful suggestions on this board we started on Monday. I just can't wrap my head around that part after spending an hr getting him to sleep!
I hate the idea of a dream feed, why am I risking waking a sleeping baby??
p.s this is coming from baby wise, thanks to some helpful suggestions on this board we started on Monday. I just can't wrap my head around that part after spending an hr getting him to sleep!
I feed my LO for the last time at 815 and he sleeps till 6. No way I'm waking up a sleeping baby to feed him. Ever.
I don't see a problem feeding my baby on demand or using my boob as a pacifier. I mean...breastmilk has seratonin and if he's fussy and tired but fighting sleep, it calms him down and sometimes knocks him out instantly. Why wouldn't I use that to my advantage?
It sure has saved me a lot of time. I used to try and keep him on a 2-3 hour schedule between feedings and tried not to soothe him with breastfeeding if it wasn't "time," and I'd sometimes spend over an hour soothing him when breastfeeding would solve the issue in under 5 min!
There are a few family members and family friends who clearly disagree. I mean, they're not rude about it or forceful, but I get a sort of disapproving look paired with comments like, "didn't he just eat?" and "you're feeding him again?"
I don't see a problem feeding my baby on demand or using my boob as a pacifier. I mean...breastmilk has seratonin and if he's fussy and tired but fighting sleep, it calms him down and sometimes knocks him out instantly. Why wouldn't I use that to my advantage?
It sure has saved me a lot of time. I used to try and keep him on a 2-3 hour schedule between feedings and tried not to soothe him with breastfeeding if it wasn't "time," and I'd sometimes spend over an hour soothing him when breastfeeding would solve the issue in under 5 min!
There are a few family members and family friends who clearly disagree. I mean, they're not rude about it or forceful, but I get a sort of disapproving look paired with comments like, "didn't he just eat?" and "you're feeding him again?"
Yes. I am.
This!! I had a week away with my extended family and all I heard was 'is she still hungry?!' Or 'are you feeding again?!' Constantly!
My favourite comment was the combo from my dad of...'I don't remember you being this hungry in the evening' (whilst my LO was doing her daily evening cluster feed)..then he said....'You did scream all evening and nothing would console you!' Hmnm...perhaps I was hungry lol! is cluster feeding a new thing unknown to our parents' generation?!
Unrelated to babies, but have y'all seen these prom "dresses" that are in two pieces? There is a top and a skirt and lots of midriff. That's not a dress and it looks dumb...
I cringe whenever I see them pop up in my newsfeed now that it's prom season.
@katieashley13 RIGHT?! This is a picture of my friend's 16 yo daughters prom dress. Are we kidding me?!? DD will never leave my house dressed like that. This isn't Hollywood!?!?
I hate the idea of a dream feed, why am I risking waking a sleeping baby??
p.s this is coming from baby wise, thanks to some helpful suggestions on this board we started on Monday. I just can't wrap my head around that part after spending an hr getting him to sleep!
My baby won't dream feed or nurse to sleep before her first put down of the night. She always goes to sleep after a wake time. I've tried to nurse her to bed and dream feed once and I'll never do it again. She woke up 3 hours later both times. Makes no sense!
My UO is that I don't understand the Victoria's Secret argument with the whole "normalize breastfeeding" movement. Showing that breasts are sexualized is exactly why people say they're uncomfortable with them being out in public. And let's be serious, if a woman walked down the street in lingerie people would definitely flip out.
Let me clarify that breastfeeding in public doesn't bother me (it did slightly before I had a baby). I'm all for doing what you gotta/wanna do with how you feed your baby. Especially after the hospital birth stay, I didn't even feel like I had "private" parts after that experience! Haha! So I'm really not an advocate either way. If I need to feed her, I'm going to. I could care less what people think. But I'm also not running around whipping out boobies to prove a point.
@=caenis= yes!!! Times a million!! It irritates the hell out of me. I now just say something about the frequent feedings during the day being the reason why she sleeps at least 5 hours in the first stretch at night (and usually closer to 6-7hrs). Which shuts people up. And I totally agree with @srecupido most of our family says stuff like that because no one breastfed. They have adjusted a bit though which is nice.
@srecupido I have tried on multiple occasions to "dream feed" DS2 around midnight after I stayed up too late sewing or watching a movie and was too uncomfortable to sleep without emptying the boobs first. He will certainly eat without waking but it did not extend his usual 4-6 am wake up any longer. Really just caused irritation for me bc then I was all "whaaaat, you ate 4 hours ago, go back to sleep" when he woke up at 4 am.
@katieashley13 I haaaate the two piece prom "dresses" too! Maybe I'm becoming an old lady, but that bandeau bra and giant fluffy skirt look ridiculous together and do not constitute a "dress"
I think everyone that wants to come see my baby should come to me - and come at the time I say is best (since he is on an every 4 hour eating scheduling and after eating he is awake for less than 2 hours before napping then eating again). If you come right when he gets down for a nap you will have to wait until he sleeps (up to 2.5 hours), then I have to feed him (30 min) before to can see him awake. And then I have to entertain you that entire time. No thanks
Also I have travelled to see family (not super far but 1.5 hours away), and it throws off our day and my poor baby gets so over tired. People (who have not had infants in a while) think babies are easy to travel with since they mostly eat and sleep. I strongly disagree and am refusing to do it anymore
I'm not sure if this is a UO or a FFFC, but I kind of want a minivan. I swore I'd never get one, but when this car wears out (5+ years), I'm seriously considering it. They're just so dang convenient with kids!
@VitaLuna omg I have totally been thinking the same thing about minivans! I grew up with them but DH didn't. And he's super opposed to be having anything without 4wd/AWD.
@smn14 it's definitely a generation/culture thing. Both DHs mom and grandmas didn't breastfeed. So they don't understand the logistics behind it, how they can't feed them, and cluster feeding. However my whole family breastfed. My mom breastfed me for 18months(some of which she was pregnant with my sister). My mom and dad also both did baby wearing so they just must have been ahead of their time lol.
I bought a suburban cause I couldn't stand the thought of a mini van plus I live in the sticks down miles of gravel roads so I do need 4WD. It fits everything with 3 kids, pulls tailors, and I can go in the 3rd row to BF and lay baby down for diaper chang while kids watch DVD player in 2nd row. Lovin my suburban If I lived in town, I may have considered a mini van as they are so convenient with kids and really nice.
I had to borrow my SIL minivan the other day and I totally loved it. So roomy and comfortable! Haha if/when kid #3 arrives on the scene- I'm going to want one. From the previous comments it seems like you can't get a minivan with 4 wheel drive? I guess that'd be a reason to not get one as we can get some serious snow by me. What a bummer!
Re: UO Thursday
p.s this is coming from baby wise, thanks to some helpful suggestions on this board we started on Monday. I just can't wrap my head around that part after spending an hr getting him to sleep!
We have been married since September 28, 2013.
We had our first child, Zoey, February 7, 2016.
It sure has saved me a lot of time. I used to try and keep him on a 2-3 hour schedule between feedings and tried not to soothe him with breastfeeding if it wasn't "time," and I'd sometimes spend over an hour soothing him when breastfeeding would solve the issue in under 5 min!
There are a few family members and family friends who clearly disagree. I mean, they're not rude about it or forceful, but I get a sort of disapproving look paired with comments like, "didn't he just eat?" and "you're feeding him again?"
Yes. I am.
My favourite comment was the combo from my dad of...'I don't remember you being this hungry in the evening' (whilst my LO was doing her daily evening cluster feed)..then he said....'You did scream all evening and nothing would console you!'
Hmnm...perhaps I was hungry lol!
is cluster feeding a new thing unknown to our parents' generation?!
I cringe whenever I see them pop up in my newsfeed now that it's prom season.
My UO is that I don't understand the Victoria's Secret argument with the whole "normalize breastfeeding" movement. Showing that breasts are sexualized is exactly why people say they're uncomfortable with them being out in public. And let's be serious, if a woman walked down the street in lingerie people would definitely flip out.
Let me clarify that breastfeeding in public doesn't bother me (it did slightly before I had a baby). I'm all for doing what you gotta/wanna do with how you feed your baby. Especially after the hospital birth stay, I didn't even feel like I had "private" parts after that experience! Haha! So I'm really not an advocate either way. If I need to feed her, I'm going to. I could care less what people think. But I'm also not running around whipping out boobies to prove a point.
@katieashley13 I haaaate the two piece prom "dresses" too! Maybe I'm becoming an old lady, but that bandeau bra and giant fluffy skirt look ridiculous together and do not constitute a "dress"
Also I have travelled to see family (not super far but 1.5 hours away), and it throws off our day and my poor baby gets so over tired. People (who have not had infants in a while) think babies are easy to travel with since they mostly eat and sleep. I strongly disagree and am refusing to do it anymore
@smn14 it's definitely a generation/culture thing. Both DHs mom and grandmas didn't breastfeed. So they don't understand the logistics behind it, how they can't feed them, and cluster feeding. However my whole family breastfed. My mom breastfed me for 18months(some of which she was pregnant with my sister). My mom and dad also both did baby wearing so they just must have been ahead of their time lol.