What? We are still months away from giving birth. Most people don't join until after. That's what I was planning to do. Not gonna lie, I kind of thought it was strange a "knottie" was in charge of it anyways. In honor of Game of Thrones...which I have not seen so no one spoil it for me! I'm hoping Jon Snow rolled under a dumpster or something last season...
It is strange that the Facebook group is off the charts active and here the board is ... Crickets...
Maybe another fb group can be made towards the end of the third trimester and only be open for a few weeks to weed out the randoms.
edited: because middle of the night insomnia spelling is hard.
*TW Spoiler*
DD: Aug '16
10/2017: Twins confirmed with TTTS at 22 weeks. 10/10/17 Twin B passed after in utero placenta surgery 11/2/17 Twin A & B born 11/26/17: Twin A passed after 24 days fighting in the NICU Benched 6 months BFP: 6/28/18 MC:7/16/18 BO BFP: 10/2/18 EDD 6/15/18
Confession: I don't have Facebook, but I do have Instagram and Twitter! I think most of you are wonderful ladies and I am really not that great about being a "regular" so I appreciate the patience and honest answers when I do post. I just wanted to share this article with you and feel free to ignore it, but as nice as you all are--I do believe there is some crazy hiding out and even if I had Facebook, I would think twice before really putting myself into such a vulnerable situation.
ATTENTION: DUE TO A MAJORITY VOTE IN OUR FACEBOOK. EFFECTIVE IMMEDIATELY OUR GROUP WILL BE CLOSED. THANK YOU.
That's pretty rude in my opinion not letting everyone be a part of the group who is in the August birth month club but if that's how you want to roll then whatever.
It is strange that the Facebook group is off the charts active and here the board is ... Crickets...
Maybe another fb group can be made towards the end of the third trimester and only be open for a few weeks to weed out the randoms.
edited: because middle of the night insomnia spelling is hard.
In my last BMB there were multiple FB spin offs. I'd be open to joining one later but I thought it was odd people were so willing to join so soon, and then I honestly had no desire to join a bunch of people I had no clue who they were because they never even participated here. (shrug)
Most FB groups close at some point, women there get close, and since its their real life out there they would rather keep it small-ish.
2 groups came after we had our babies, and immediate one that closed. And the one I chose to join later that accepts those who can be "vouched" for (they are remembered by other group members and were active posters on tb before the group started.)
As I've said before, I'm not going to join one until after the babies, if I feel comfortable with how its run and the people in it. Internets are scary y'all.
So as an admin to the Facebook group, I can say this. We have a little 100 members who have started to become close and opted to keep the group fairly small. This wasn't the decision of one or two people and as an admin, i respect this request. There have been different threads about this group since the beginning of January when the group was created, so it has been open for anyone to join for a while now.
I remember in my O12 group, there was an early group that closed about half way through and a new one was created closer to birth so people who wanted to wait could join. So for those who did not join in time to join this group, there will most likely be another down the road. As a member of a previous bmb fb spinoff, I know that drama goes down with all groups, but there hasn't been any so far and I feel very fortunate to know this fantastic group of ladies. I, myself, wish nothing but the best for all of you and hope you all have a fantastic day.
I finally figured out the ticker thing! (I was so excited I thought I'd tell you all) LOL
I personally don't care about this FB group but I wanted to mention as PP have said, my previous BMB had multiple FB groups and I joined one shortly after our babies were born. I am still close with so many of those women. Let a little more time go by for randos and crazies to be weeded out here anyway
I am sorry you all think it's rude of myself taking into consideration what the group majority wanted. As @MaryDoesHair85 Said it was a group decision made by over 100 people, a team of people who have grown close with each other. So I see nothing wrong with closing the group. Maybe members will decide later on to re open.
this post and many other posts have been floating around for months. Many of which the bump users said they wouldn't want to join. I'm sure there will be tons of spin off Facebook groups shortly.
i happen to like my bump user name, sorry you think it's weird!
@Knottie1454621357 your username is a generic name given to anyone who doesn't come up with their own. Normally, these usernames are drivebys, or trolls. Anytime I see a post by a username such as yours It shows me that your dgaf about thebump. Just my 2 cents.
Confession: I don't have Facebook, but I do have Instagram and Twitter! I think most of you are wonderful ladies and I am really not that great about being a "regular" so I appreciate the patience and honest answers when I do post. I just wanted to share this article with you and feel free to ignore it, but as nice as you all are--I do believe there is some crazy hiding out and even if I had Facebook, I would think twice before really putting myself into such a vulnerable situation.
I found this post a really interesting read with some points I never thought about. I can't believe some women would actually report people to child services over an Internet dispute. Mind baffling. I like a good occasional snark every once and a while. For example; when someone clearly is bragging about their "non weight gain" pregnancy or something silly like that. I do not like to get into huge argumentative debates where a bunch of members attack one person over something like vaccinations. That's a little crazy and I feel like once a tone of a board is established whether it's good or bad, it can totally take over.
I remember being on theknot about 6ish years ago and a bunch of members would call out this one member who actually has a very cute blog. I am not sure if any of you have ever read it, Veronikas Blushing. I never saw Veronika openly be mean to anyone, but it seemed the popularity of her blog made a huge divide with those who mostly seemed to hate on her out of jealousy. It was ugly in my opinion.
And then I have seen my fair share of catfishing here at there. That is why I will never post a photo of my child or ultrasound. I don't care as much if someone steals a photo of me, but one of my unborn child...yeah creepy. And I have seen it done.
I am interested in joining a later Facebook group that maybe limits the amount of users. I removed myself from the one that has been started already because it almost seemed too active if that makes sense. I wish there was a happy medium between this slower moving board and the current Facebook group. although the atmosphere thus far has been friendly on both.
*TW Spoiler*
DD: Aug '16
10/2017: Twins confirmed with TTTS at 22 weeks. 10/10/17 Twin B passed after in utero placenta surgery 11/2/17 Twin A & B born 11/26/17: Twin A passed after 24 days fighting in the NICU Benched 6 months BFP: 6/28/18 MC:7/16/18 BO BFP: 10/2/18 EDD 6/15/18
when the time comes that we all feel comfortable joining a FB group I hope we don't have more than one. I think we should wait until everyone is ready and then do one for the regs. This is kind of off topic from the original post and more a selfish plug for what I want in the future:)
I would be open to joining a fb group but there aren't many regular posters from the bump who are in that group. And, as PP have said it is too early on for me to feel comfortable joining. I don't want a bunch of people whom I've never even seen a post from seeing all of my personal information. I'm not upset over the group closing I probably wouldn't have joined anyway. No offense to anyone intended.
Just a question, this has kind of bugged me from the start.... I keep hearing about the "randos, weirdos and crazies" and how people avoid bmb spin off groups because of them in favor of the anonymous boards where i think it would be easier to string people along. I joined the fb group right away... does that make me weird or crazy? Is that what you think of the fb Group?
My reason for joining so soon was because I loved my O12 group which and joined right away. Also, I can't stand the bump app. It is slower than the line to meet princesses at DisneyWorld and it's also a bit buggy. I am not crazy, I don't think I'm too weird,(but I am a hairstylist, so I am a little weird at times) and of course I'm random....we are on a public forum. But I am not a scary person out to get you. Just another pregnant Lady looking to connect with others going through the same thing and someone who doest have a ton of time to waste on a slow and buggy system. With this post, I am probably signing off of the bump for a while. Again, I wish you all nothing but the best and super healthy and happy pregnancies.
I finally figured out the ticker thing! (I was so excited I thought I'd tell you all) LOL
Just a question, this has kind of bugged me from the start.... I keep hearing about the "randos, weirdos and crazies" and how people avoid bmb spin off groups because of them in favor of the anonymous boards where i think it would be easier to string people along. I joined the fb group right away... does that make me weird or crazy? Is that what you think of the fb Group?
My reason for joining so soon was because I loved my O12 group which and joined right away. Also, I can't stand the bump app. It is slower than the line to meet princesses at DisneyWorld and it's also a bit buggy. I am not crazy, I don't think I'm too weird,(but I am a hairstylist, so I am a little weird at times) and of course I'm random....we are on a public forum. But I am not a scary person out to get you. Just another pregnant Lady looking to connect with others going through the same thing and someone who doest have a ton of time to waste on a slow and buggy system. With this post, I am probably signing off of the bump for a while. Again, I wish you all nothing but the best and super healthy and happy pregnancies.
I think you might be taking this a little too personally. I don't think anyone was implying that people that join the FB group early are crazy or weird. I think what was meant was that there were a lot who joined FB from this BMB who never posted here and that is what seems odd.
I think this thread is just pointing out there are those who are comfortable joining right away and those who would like a closer tight knit group so there is a better connection and trust as we approach our due dates. Especially in light of some of the previous mentioned scary situations such as personal information being leaked.
If if you are the type who is comfortable joining early, good for you. If you aren't comfortable joining early then that's ok too. It is all about your own preference. Neither one is wrong in my opinion. Although I do think it is "random" that some would not contribute to this board, but jump right on the fb train.
Edited: spelling
*TW Spoiler*
DD: Aug '16
10/2017: Twins confirmed with TTTS at 22 weeks. 10/10/17 Twin B passed after in utero placenta surgery 11/2/17 Twin A & B born 11/26/17: Twin A passed after 24 days fighting in the NICU Benched 6 months BFP: 6/28/18 MC:7/16/18 BO BFP: 10/2/18 EDD 6/15/18
Just a question, this has kind of bugged me from the start.... I keep hearing about the "randos, weirdos and crazies" and how people avoid bmb spin off groups because of them in favor of the anonymous boards where i think it would be easier to string people along. I joined the fb group right away... does that make me weird or crazy? Is that what you think of the fb Group?
My reason for joining so soon was because I loved my O12 group which and joined right away. Also, I can't stand the bump app. It is slower than the line to meet princesses at DisneyWorld and it's also a bit buggy. I am not crazy, I don't think I'm too weird,(but I am a hairstylist, so I am a little weird at times) and of course I'm random....we are on a public forum. But I am not a scary person out to get you. Just another pregnant Lady looking to connect with others going through the same thing and someone who doest have a ton of time to waste on a slow and buggy system. With this post, I am probably signing off of the bump for a while. Again, I wish you all nothing but the best and super healthy and happy pregnancies.
Just a question, this has kind of bugged me from the start.... I keep hearing about the "randos, weirdos and crazies" and how people avoid bmb spin off groups because of them in favor of the anonymous boards where i think it would be easier to string people along. I joined the fb group right away... does that make me weird or crazy? Is that what you think of the fb Group?
My reason for joining so soon was because I loved my O12 group which and joined right away. Also, I can't stand the bump app. It is slower than the line to meet princesses at DisneyWorld and it's also a bit buggy. I am not crazy, I don't think I'm too weird,(but I am a hairstylist, so I am a little weird at times) and of course I'm random....we are on a public forum. But I am not a scary person out to get you. Just another pregnant Lady looking to connect with others going through the same thing and someone who doest have a ton of time to waste on a slow and buggy system. With this post, I am probably signing off of the bump for a while. Again, I wish you all nothing but the best and super healthy and happy pregnancies.
Honestly just from personal experience as our pregnancies went on some ladies showed some super crazy sides. So I personally prefer to wait it out to be in a fb group where so many people have access to my personal info.
I dont think you're crazy for joining one now. I just prefer to wait until we "know" each other here a bit more before going on to FB.
That being said, we also had one or two ladies go crazy on us once in the fb group so you never really know who is out there lol.
I'm interested in joining a FB group with the regulars if one happens later. I'd feel more comfortable with a later one since that would probably include those I've been talking to on here anyway.
I just realized my bump name is not the same I was mireland89... When I look at it that's how it shows up but when you guys tag me it shows up as knottie. I can tell you I'm not a troll, and that's fine if you think I dgaf about bump, I've been a member since the summer of 2013, I was in the May14 forum, had to leave because suffered a loss, joined N14 and have met some amazing women and now I am part of August 2016,
i still check the bump regularly and post/comment when i can or see something I can relate to.
I'm sorry you think I'm a troll, but I can tell you I am 100% not a troll and I do care.
I think of myself as a regular here (definitely not a troll or a drive-by-poster), but I joined the early fb group because the board goes through some slow days and I need constant entertainment and stimulation! I've enjoyed participating in both. For the record, I was out of town all weekend and missed the whole discussion about whether or not to close the group. I pretty much defer to the moderators of any group because they step up and take on the leadership role, and I don't. I just hope that the creation of multiple fb groups doesn't hurt participation here! Some of us have been on here for 5 months and I don't want to see everyone go their separate ways.
I will probably join one after the babies come but not until then and definitely not as early as this one opened up. I keep my fb pretty secure and don't like the idea of letting internet strangers into my world. Especially since most of my posts pertain to my dd.
Re: Facebook group
In honor of Game of Thrones...which I have not seen so no one spoil it for me!
I'm hoping Jon Snow rolled under a dumpster or something last season...
Maybe another fb group can be made towards the end of the third trimester and only be open for a few weeks to weed out the randoms.
edited: because middle of the night insomnia spelling is hard.
DD: Aug '16
10/2017: Twins confirmed with TTTS at 22 weeks.
10/10/17 Twin B passed after in utero placenta surgery
11/2/17 Twin A & B born
11/26/17: Twin A passed after 24 days fighting in the NICU
Benched 6 months
BFP: 6/28/18 MC:7/16/18 BO
BFP: 10/2/18 EDD 6/15/18
https://thesanctimommy.com/2016/03/group-warfare/
ETA: Credit where credit is due- I found this on the Sep16 board and they had a pretty interesting discussion in the thread.
https://forums.thebump.com/discussion/12670047/group-warfare-sanctimommy-post
BFP #2 8/22/12 | EDD 5/5/13 | DS1 born 5/9/13
BFP #3 4/25/15 | EDD 1/7/16 | MMC 7/2/15 @ 13w1d | D&E 7/8/15
BFP #4 12/9/15 | EDD 8/22/16 | DS2 born 5/18/16 at 26w2d
Just keep swimming.
2 groups came after we had our babies, and immediate one that closed. And the one I chose to join later that accepts those who can be "vouched" for (they are remembered by other group members and were active posters on tb before the group started.)
As I've said before, I'm not going to join one until after the babies, if I feel comfortable with how its run and the people in it. Internets are scary y'all.
I remember in my O12 group, there was an early group that closed about half way through and a new one was created closer to birth so people who wanted to wait could join. So for those who did not join in time to join this group, there will most likely be another down the road. As a member of a previous bmb fb spinoff, I know that drama goes down with all groups, but there hasn't been any so far and I feel very fortunate to know this fantastic group of ladies. I, myself, wish nothing but the best for all of you and hope you all have a fantastic day.
this post and many other posts have been floating around for months. Many of which the bump users said they wouldn't want to join. I'm sure there will be tons of spin off Facebook groups shortly.
i happen to like my bump user name, sorry you think it's weird!
I remember being on theknot about 6ish years ago and a bunch of members would call out this one member who actually has a very cute blog. I am not sure if any of you have ever read it, Veronikas Blushing. I never saw Veronika openly be mean to anyone, but it seemed the popularity of her blog made a huge divide with those who mostly seemed to hate on her out of jealousy. It was ugly in my opinion.
And then I have seen my fair share of catfishing here at there. That is why I will never post a photo of my child or ultrasound. I don't care as much if someone steals a photo of me, but one of my unborn child...yeah creepy. And I have seen it done.
I am interested in joining a later Facebook group that maybe limits the amount of users. I removed myself from the one that has been started already because it almost seemed too active if that makes sense. I wish there was a happy medium between this slower moving board and the current Facebook group. although the atmosphere thus far has been friendly on both.
DD: Aug '16
10/2017: Twins confirmed with TTTS at 22 weeks.
10/10/17 Twin B passed after in utero placenta surgery
11/2/17 Twin A & B born
11/26/17: Twin A passed after 24 days fighting in the NICU
Benched 6 months
BFP: 6/28/18 MC:7/16/18 BO
BFP: 10/2/18 EDD 6/15/18
My reason for joining so soon was because I loved my O12 group which and joined right away. Also, I can't stand the bump app. It is slower than the line to meet princesses at DisneyWorld and it's also a bit buggy. I am not crazy, I don't think I'm too weird,(but I am a hairstylist, so I am a little weird at times) and of course I'm random....we are on a public forum. But I am not a scary person out to get you. Just another pregnant Lady looking to connect with others going through the same thing and someone who doest have a ton of time to waste on a slow and buggy system. With this post, I am probably signing off of the bump for a while. Again, I wish you all nothing but the best and super healthy and happy pregnancies.
I think this thread is just pointing out there are those who are comfortable joining right away and those who would like a closer tight knit group so there is a better connection and trust as we approach our due dates. Especially in light of some of the previous mentioned scary situations such as personal information being leaked.
If if you are the type who is comfortable joining early, good for you. If you aren't comfortable joining early then that's ok too. It is all about your own preference. Neither one is wrong in my opinion. Although I do think it is "random" that some would not contribute to this board, but jump right on the fb train.
Edited: spelling
DD: Aug '16
10/2017: Twins confirmed with TTTS at 22 weeks.
10/10/17 Twin B passed after in utero placenta surgery
11/2/17 Twin A & B born
11/26/17: Twin A passed after 24 days fighting in the NICU
Benched 6 months
BFP: 6/28/18 MC:7/16/18 BO
BFP: 10/2/18 EDD 6/15/18
I dont think you're crazy for joining one now. I just prefer to wait until we "know" each other here a bit more before going on to FB.
That being said, we also had one or two ladies go crazy on us once in the fb group so you never really know who is out there lol.
But I am not calling YOU a rando or crazy.
i still check the bump regularly and post/comment when i can or see something I can relate to.
I'm sorry you think I'm a troll, but I can tell you I am 100% not a troll and I do care.
Having said that, I'm with you @texasmama2014 - open to joining later after baby is born.
I personally would feel more comfortable joining a FB group where a bunch of us were active on TB throughout our pregnancies.