How did you tell your partner about your BFP?

shevaCC · April 2016

I've seen lots of mentions of announcements for family, FB, etc., but I want to know how you told your partner!

shevaCC · April 2016

This pregnancy was unintentional and though I've never felt "done" DH had been talking more and more lately about how nice it will be to start doing more things now that our kids are getting older.

I tested on a Monday night and wasn't surprised to see a positive since I felt pregnant. I couldn't decide whether to tell him right away or wait, but by the time I went upstairs he was asleep. I tested again in the morning with the one remaining "real" (non wondfo cheapie) test I had. After we dropped the kids off at daycare, I pulled out the positive tests to show him. He asked me what they were, then was pretty speechless on the ride to work. It took him about a week to get used to the idea and now a month+ later is somewhat excited about it.

Roxell · April 2016

I poas and left it in the bathroom, DH went in to use the bathroom and came out with my pee stick. So he knew before I did.

ETA this is a fun topic, can't wait to hear other ladies stories!

jstinkz · April 2016

I took a test on a Thursday morning and told DH the following Monday. DD handed him one box at a time.

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Knottie1458416769 · April 2016

I wasn't that creative - I poas before work on a Thursday morning - then I proceeded to wake up and tell sleeping DH - that was 4am local time. He turned, blew me an air kiss and went back to sleep. I knew exactly when to poas bc we did the trigger shot.

EmmieAnn22 · April 2016

@jstinkz That is so adorable! I can't believe you could keep a secret so long. Also I've been craving those blue gummy sharks all day. Even sent my husband out to find them and he couldn't.

Little+Tiny · April 2016

I went into the bathroom to poas and he came running in when he heard me crying. He immediately saw the positive and we just cried in each others arms.

shevaCC · April 2016

@jstinkz, you win Pinterest! That's totally adorable and very creative.

NatashaSprout · April 2016

At 6 am while he was in bed, I threw a digi at his head and said looks like you got the baby you wanted then promptly left for work.
#romantic

msu_gal · April 2016

We were trying and when I poas my H was napping on the couch. So I put a card on top of him that I had gotten congratulating him that he was going to be a daddy. Unfortunately, my hubby is a little goofy and he thought it was his valentine's day card he had left laying on the counter for a month and I probably wanted it moved. So he didn't even open it. He came down the hallway and I jumped on him all excited but he had no idea why. So....cute idea ruined, but whatever we're excited!

g8rmama_16 · April 2016

I was in California and he was back in Florida. I had a squinter and tried to plan a surprise with my sisters help. I couldn't stand keeping the secret. When I woke up the next morning at 2 am and got a clear positive I called him and woke him up and told him. It wasn't very romantic or creative, but I knew I couldn't keep it from him long enough to coordinate a surprise.

DunkinDecaf · April 2016

I POAS on a Thursday morning, and came downstairs and told him while he was doing dishes and DD was screaming.
I had a cute idea all lined up for when we got our BFP too. I'd bought a onesie that says "big sister" and was planning to change DD into it and then send her over to give him a hug. I was so excited and kinda shaky when I found out that I couldn't even keep the secret for the 3 minutes it would've taken me to take the baby in the other room and put the onesie on her.

mamahazey · April 2016

I was surprised it happened the cycle it did... So I set this up for when he got home...

chloe97 · April 2016

I had gotten what I thought was an evap line on my FRER the day that we went to go meet with an RE the first time. I came home crying and upset about the idea of doing IUI (I wasn't ready for that yet). The next night I woke up at 2 am and took a test and got a squinter. I woke DH to verify. He agreed, patted me on the butt and went back to bed.

kmmnocal · April 2016

My husband and I were away at a conference and after a year of trying I was doubtful it was our month (don't ask me how much wine I had while we were away.) The morning of our flight home, we sat outside for breakfast and a bird pooped on me. This actually happens to me once every two years or so, and I've never believed "it's good luck" like people tell you when they feel sorry that you are covered in bird poop. But instead of laughing, I started, like, weeping — even though I thought it was hilarious. That was my first inkling something was up, and when we got home that evening, I took a test. I was 13dpo and it was a fast positive. I came out of the bathroom and told him that the bird poop was, in fact, good luck. It was cute.

Greencows4812 · April 2016

I came out of the bathroom and said, so I took a test and it's positive. It was very romantic

grannysmith912 · April 2016

After my first positive HPT, I held off for a week--until I'd passed both of my CP milestones, and until I'd seen several days worth of test lines getting darker--before I told H. He knew my cycle well enough to know that I was supposed to my on my period that week, so I made some vague statements about "lady issues" that weren't *technically* lies, but that did lead him to believe that I was menstruating. He was all "sorry babe, hopefully next month," and it was so hard to keep a straight face!!
A month prior, I had secretly ordered a onsie from his college's fan apparel shop (he's huge into college football) to have on hand whenever I was ready to announce. At the end of my week of waiting, I wrapped it up along with my positive HPTs and wrote a card that said something along the lines of "Looks like we'll be gaining a new team member this November!" I left it for him when he came home from a day of studying, and he was totally shocked. I think his PGAL brain is even more operative than mine, so it took a couple weeks for him to let himself get really excited, but he has definitely come around and is the most enthusiastic baby daddy I could ask for.

kms456 · April 2016

So we were an off month and were prepping for IVF. Had just gotten back from a Disney trip and were unpacking and everything. I realized that I was supposed to get my period that day but hadn't had the usual cramps the day before and thought weird. I asked my hubs if we had an HPT lying around just for shits and giggles. Since we had been through multiple IUIs with no luck there was no way this was going to be positive (3% chance of conceiving naturally). We went in to look together and we both immediately burst into tears. Like no way this is possible. Had to do 3 more tests before it was "real".

msu_gal · April 2016

@grannysmith912 Wow, that's impressive! I wanted to shake my husband and wake him up from the nap I couldn't keep the secret for two seconds. And the next day even my BFF new my cycle enough to ask if "we" were having a baby. I guess maybe I was talking about it too much...but I'm 34 and this clock was tickin!

BmcD2016 · April 2016

I figured I'd take a test just to rule it out because I had no reason to believe I was pregnant. But my period hadn't arrived and I had no symptoms of it coming. I went to the bathroom and he can't stand to let me surprise him so he was a few minutes behind me. I opened the door and went to pick it up, I was going to say "well here's a negative" but I was like WTF?! And he just laughed and gave me a hug.

We we weren't going to try until April!

jstinkz · April 2016

@EmmieAnn22 it was hard to keep it a secret, but I had to order the pink fish off amazon so I had to wait and I needed to buy and paint the boxes.

The first time I was pregnant I poas and just started crying and DH asked what was wrong. I was really sick so the thought of being sick semi permanently got the best of me. So I felt like I needed to make it a positive thing this time.

@shevaCC my first idea was to bake cookies and make them look like the fish. But then the more I thought about it the more I knew it wouldn't turn out like my vision. I can't even frost a cake nicely!

angelz429 · April 2016

Gave this to hubby

grannysmith912 · April 2016

@msu_gal The only reason I planned what I did was that with our previous two conceptions (the ones that ended in CPs) I just told him while sitting on the sofa amid normal conversation, the same day I'd taken each test, and he joked that next time this happened I needed to work on my announcement strategy. Typically I have no patience for planning surprises!

hollowway · April 2016

This pregnancy wasn't planned. After 3 miscarriages, we were waiting for me to have surgery to repair my septate uterus to avoid further losses... The sex was pretty infrequent, trying to avoid fertile days. Literaly, cycle day 10 and cycle day 19. When my period was late, I didn't really think anything of it, I was just irregular... I didn't test til 6 weeks, and was shocked. I took a few days to process it myself. We had a lot planned, individually and together this uear, that the pregnancy has put on hold. After 3 das, I left the positive tests on the bathroom counter for him to find when he woke up. He came in, asked if i was pregnant, and I could have cried. We were/are both worried about miscarriage. He gave me a hug and told me he loves me. We agreed to keep it between us until we got through the first tri. So we're announcing on Mothers Day.

AmandaR417 · April 2016

I was on bc.... It was a pill that I took continuously, so I only had my period a couple times a year. I spotted one morning, so I let DH know I was going off the pill so that AF could come... A week later, still no period, so I chalked it up to a false alarm. Stopped at the pharmacy on my way home to buy a test so I could be sure before I started the pills back up. No joke, I was 99% sure it would be negative and only POAS as an afterthought. Anyways, the positive line showed up before I had time to set it down. Literally an instant result.

I took a second to get my head on straight and walked out to the kitchen to tell DH. I had this little speech prepared about how even though this wasn't planned, we had always joked that we'd be great parents if only we had kids... Yeah, instead I just started bawling and only managed to say, "we have a problem" Not my finest moment.

grannysmith912 · April 2016

These stories are making me cry!! Thanks, hormones.

MrsBigTime · April 2016

I was bummed, thinking we missed another cycle when I checked my calendar and realized I was on day 29 and I and I am a very dependable day 27 start. So, I stopped at the store on my way home and got a test.

With my daughter, my test was VERY positive right away, and this time, I peed, saw nothing and got in the shower. Well, after having a little prayer/crying time in the shower, I got out to see the tiniest little line! I confirmed with a digital I had been savings and then nearly made myself sick keeping it from DH.

We were going out for my birthday dinner that night (DH had planned every detail - all of which included drinking) and at the restaurant, when the waiter came to take our drink order, DH ordered and then I asked the waiter "I'd really like something like this (pointing to a drink on the menu), but could you possibly make it virgin because my husband doesn't even know, but il pregnant!" The waiter (a younger guy) turned 50 shades of red and my husband nearly spit out his water and turned pretty red himself.

BLyn627 · April 2016

We had done IUI, so obviously we were both hoping for the best. I had been sick with a cold for a few days. My test day was on Thursday and the Tuesday before I decided to test bc I really wanted to take some cold meds. I was going with the "drink until you see pink" thing thinking it would be okay to take meds if no positive. I was completely shocked when I looked at the test a few minutes later bc it was a few days early and an evening test. DH called a few minutes later. He could tell right away that I tested and obviously I couldn't hide that it was positive.

CCrane22 · April 2016

I tested on a Saturday morning and got a negative, then when I didn't start I tested the next Saturday and it, to my surprise was positive. This, of course, was the first time I have ever used a test other than first response and in my half awake, shocked state, I didn't know if I was reading it right so I called him in the bathroom to look at it and tell me what it said.

Side note, my bff was in town and staying at our house so I showed her a picture of the test (she knew we had been trying for a long time and that I was I clomid) and she got excited and said, 'you're pregnant!?'...I said I don't know, is that what it says!?

shamrocandroll · April 2016

I came off the pill in December, with plans to start trying in the fall time frame of this year. I wanted to be off the pill for a while to get the hang of my cycle after 13 years of being on BC. I was using the TCOYF method, but kind of slacked on charting while I was away on a work trip during my 2nd cycle. I was super stressed from traveling and we were in the midst of redoing our master bedroom (we were sleeping in the guest room and living out of suitcases for a month), and after an unexpected lustful Friday night, realized I was smack in the middle of my cycle.

I bought an HPT the next day, which DH thought I was nuts for, but I knew I'd be going nuts the days leading up to my next expected cycle start. Well, I POAS at exactly 4 weeks after LMP, and my first reaction was disbelief and terror. I went downstairs and asked DH if he could turn off the TV for a minute, and showed him. It took a couple days to really sink in, and now we're pretty excited (but also still a little scared). So, a surprise, but ultimately a happy one.

ficbot · April 2016

We had IVF and I was instructed to go for blood work on a certain day. He was home when they called me for the results the next day so he found out when I did :-)

mrsjlang · April 2016

We had our blood work after IVF transfer in. Monday morning. I worked nights, so after came home and went right to bed. Hubby's phone is the contact for the fertility clinic, so he got the phone call mid afternoon. He was cute and let me sleep. He went out and got groceries and cleaned the kitchen - until he heard me get up for the bathroom. Then he came upstairs and told me he was turning on the light...I clearly protested that it was two hours early and I just wanted to cuddle. Aha. Apparently my half sleepy face was worth the light.

KilgraveMadeMeDoIt · April 2016

Backstory: We've been trying for two years and we finally moved somewhere that has fertility clinics so I finally got in to see an RE in January. I have PCOS and don't ovulate on my own a lot and I've had eight first trimester losses so I really needed a specialist. So we decided that I'd undergo a combined treatment/assessment cycle. He put me on femara to see how I'd respond (and to give us the possibility, however slim, of conceiving that cycle.) Mid-February, we found out through my assessment that I have intrauterine adhesions due to my difficult obstetric history, and possibly a small septum (though could just be fused from the Asherman's, it was hard to tell.)

Anyway, I was told it was almost certain that the cycle wouldn't be successful and that after that cycle - we found this out within days of when I ovulated so it was too late to avoid sex for the cycle - I'd have to avoid pregnancy for a while because I probably wouldn't be able to maintain a pregnancy without having surgery first. I was scheduled for a hysteroscopy with adhesiolysis and septoplasty for early May. So, we were bummed, but since we knew I most likely would not be able to even really seriously attempt to conceive again until June, we started really seriously planning our tenth anniversary trip, which was going to be ten days in the UK.

February 26th, I sort of despondently took First Response test and it had the absolute faintest 'squinter' line. I went downstairs and told my husband "We're not going to England."

He couldn't see it, haha. I was annoyed because it was perfectly clear to me! The one the next morning was much more clear and he finally believed me.

doraleigh35 · April 2016

We started trying in 2012 and had two losses. We had planned to take a 6 month break from TTC which turned into 3 years. We started trying again in March 2015. We missed a few cycles because of opposite travel schedules.

On our 8th cycle of trying this time around I decided to take a FRER at 13dpo. I thought for sure it would be a BFN. DH had already left for work so I tested when I woke up. I was half paying attention and saw out of the corner of my eye a second line appear almost right away. I started shaking and had no idea what to do. I called poor DH and blurted it out on the phone. His response was that he knew I was pregnant, he had a feeling this was the cycle. I was still in disbelief and had no clue. He asked me to meet him for lunch and to bring the test. I felt bad that I hadn't told him in a better way, but I was in total shock. We confirmed that night with a digital.

RaeJ004 · April 2016

I texted DH and told him he would be needing some time off in November. Ha!

whitneyf1 · April 2016

We did IVF so I had my blood drawn on a Friday morning, 9 days after the transfer. I took a half day that day because I didn't want to be at work and find out the news, good or bad. I went to my husband's office, he works for his parents, and just laid on their couch and waited for the call. When the nurse called I barely said two words to her. I think all I said was okay, okay. Immediately when I hung up I started hysterically crying. Somehow my DH knew it was positive, even through my tears. My mother in law walked in and saw me crying and assumed the worst and started saying how sorry she was. So many people knew we were doing IVF - I can't keep something a secret when I'm nervous and anxious about it - so we ended up telling a lot of people that day as well.

ShallowSeas · April 2016

I ran downstairs with the positive test in my hand and handed him a onesie I had made that said "My dad's beard is better than your dad's". He didn't quite get it and said, "Aw thanks babe, I love that". So I showed him the test and he said, "Is this real?!?" Then hugged me.

Roxell · April 2016

@ShallowSeas I need a picture of that onsie! And possible one my for LO...

ShallowSeas · April 2016

@Roxell
Its similar to this only different font. I ordered it from Etsy.

2amgoodbyes · April 2016

DH was leaving for a 4-day work trip on a Tuesday, but I would have liked to start testing Thursday morning. I figured why not try that Monday night before he left. I didn't say I was going to because I was doubtful it would be a BFP at all, especially that early.

Well, a very obvious second line showed up on the little strip. I called him upstairs to the bathroom, pointed at the stick and showed him that there were two lines. He had a shocked looked on his face for a second, then joked that he thought I was calling him up to kill a bug or something!

A little later I took a ClearBlue digital test to confirm. A quick positive again. His trip was already stressful, but then he had to deal with this new fact too!

jrussell16 · April 2016

We have a pair of champagne flutes that we bought as toasting flutes for our wedding. They're pretty fancy so we don't use them often. When we got married we decided that we would use them on our anniversary and then pull them out to celebrate big moments (new job, big promotion, babies, etc.) but never for a normal occasion. I took a test one evening and didn't want to say anything until I had a chance to take a second one to confirm. Two days later when he was at work I pulled out the champagne flutes and set them on the end of the counter. When he came home from work he saw them and stopped dead in his tracks. We've only used them three times since our wedding so he knew it was something big. I told him to turn around and I had written "Baby XXX Nov. 2016" on the white board behind him. Then we both cried and kept saying "is this real!?!"

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