TTCAL Check-In Week of 4/25

mylittleversailles · April 2016

1. Introduce yourself (if you're new)

2. Status (WTO, TWW, Benched, etc.)

3. Rants/raves:

4. GTKY: What is your most valued quality in another person? How about in yourself?

kns1988 · April 2016

1. Introduce yourself (if you're new) - been here for a week now

2. Status (WTO, TWW, Benched, etc.) - Benched for at least a month after D&E, waiting to talk to RE.

3. Rants/raves: I have the stomach flu! I went to a one-year-old's bday party on Saturday, which was kind of hard to get through, and the hosts had said they had food poisoning a few days ago. Well, it wasn't food poisoning. Everyone that was at that party is now puking their guts out. On top of that, today would have been 12 weeks. Keep piling on the shit, universe!

4. GTKY: What is your most valued quality in another person? How about in yourself? Kindness. Being nice to people goes a long way, and even though I'm a nice person, I admire those people that are just truly, genuinely nice. The people that never seem to get catty or lose their temper. I strive to be more like that.

I admire my reliability. I always come through on what I say I'm gonna do. My work ethic is a little nuts sometimes, though. I had my husband convinced to drive me into work to pick up my laptop this morning because I hate taking unplanned days off, but he finally got me to stay home once I lost my breakfast...

mylittleversailles · April 2016

Hey everyone, hope your weekend was great.

2. CD 23, 13 DPO. Waiting on a massive temp drop tomorrow followed by AF on Tuesday. I have no tests left, but I also have no hope for this cycle, so that's seems to align nicely. Had a sad time yesterday in the morning because I always spot exactly once just before my period comes and that happened right on track, but still generally OK. I am feeling a tremendous amount of anxiety that perhaps something isn't right and that we'll have to wait until November for them to start helping us.

3. Rant: There's one up there, I guess. I'm just scared. There wasn't enough water in my espresso machine this morning and I didn't see until it was too late and now my americano is not great. There's no end to the tragedy. I don't have a plan for this week yet, so I'm kind of blowing in the wind right now, which is very bad for my anxiety. I'll take requests for baking ideas - I've been running low on inspiration.

Rave: Had a really great weekend, despite my imminent AF. Found out we're due for a large tax return - we thought for sure we'd owe this year, so we can use our Air Canada credit and go to Winnipeg to see my Grandma. Cleaned up our deck, bought things for the garden, found a nice thrifted picture frame. We ate out a bit, so it was also restful. It was just DH and I in the neighbourhood, which are some of my favourite times.

*tw violence mentioned*
Found out my protege (she goes to Berkeley and may live with us for grad school though she's more than a protege, she sends me messages on Mother's Day) got an adviser to help her wade through grad school applications and help her find a funded program here, which is great news because she's been having serious problems after being sexually assaulted last November. She's unbelievably brilliant, but has had the hardest life and her depression and anxiety threaten her existence.

4. In other people, I value commitment to personal growth and the ability to be introspective without being self-absorbed. In myself, I hope that my hospitality and honesty helps those that surround me.

BornReady · April 2016

2. Status (WTO, TWW, Benched, etc.) WTO

3. Rants/raves:
Not much here really. I finish my first round of clomid tonight and go in for my monitoring on Thursday, CD10. I am guessing IUI will be Saturday, but who knows, this is all new to me. I alternately have high hopes and no hope for the month, but I"m trying to stay positive for my mental state. Due date is coming up in a month or so and I just feel so dejected every time I think of it.

4. GTKY: What is your most valued quality in another person? How about in yourself?
In another person: Kindness, it just makes everything so much more pleasant!
In me: adaptable

Spartanrd4 · April 2016

2. Status (WTO, TWW, Benched, etc.) WTO...I am CD2, finally started my first AF since my D&C. My OB told me to wait 3 cycles before TTC but I don't really feel like I need to wait that long. I might ask my regular OB her opinion because I don't see her until the end of May for my annual exam and most likely will O before then.

3. Rants/raves: Rave: I am happy that my AF came, I feel like I am now back on a clean slate and hopeful for the future. Still don't know what my cycles will be like- obviously this first cycle post MC was longer than normal because hcg took so long to fall but hopeful that they will be close to what they were previously so I can still accurately predict O by not starting OPKS too late or too early.

Rant: I am pretty 100% certain one of my co-workers is pregnant- I have suspected it for a couple weeks now, but pretty much confirmed it the day when she told me she was going after work to see one of my OB/GYN for her annual physical because I had raved at how nice the practice was....and I told her I was going there too (to follow up with my doctor after my D&C). Well my appointment was supposed to be after hers so thought we would miss each other but I actually got in earlier so when I left to go back to the waiting room after my appointment I saw her standing there....with her husband. I walked by awkwardly and just said Hi and left. Obviously she's KU, her husband wouldn't be going to her pap appointment. Now just anxiously awaiting her announcement, which is upsetting because she knows about my loss and wish she would just give me a heads up. She knows I know...I just don't want her to tell me in front of everyone. I am also just really upset because she will be due by my calculations 5 weeks after when I would be due. It's just a stab in the gut in general.

4. GTKY: What is your most valued quality in another person? How about in yourself? A most valued quality in a person is honesty and trustworthiness. I need to know I can trust someone or we can't have any relationship- either romantic or friendship.

I think I'm pretty loyal- If you are a good friend to me or mean a lot to me, I will be there for you no matter what. If you are against me and not on my side, you really don't want to be my enemy.

ceclarlinetlo · April 2016

1. Introduce yourself (if you're new)

Hi ladies - I was an active poster here over the last year but I had a pretty bad depression/anxiety spiral back In January that I am just climbing out of so we've taken a few months off ttc. A summary - DH and I have been married nearly 7 years. TTC since September 2014. I had a MMC (blighted ovum) January 2015 and a second MMC (stopped at 6w1d, never saw a heartbeat) in July 2015. Testing after the second MMC revealed PCOS and a small uterine septum which I had removed in December 2015. I'm taking a myo inositol supplement to help with the PCOS.

2. Status (WTO, TWW, Benched, etc.)
WTO

3. Rants/raves:
Rant: currently on my 9th day of ewcm so it seems I am having trouble ovulating this month

4. GTKY: What is your most valued quality in another person? How about in yourself?

valued in others: loyalty

valued in myself: compassion

dpjennifer · April 2016

@kns1988 sorry you have a rough weekend with the party and all. Hope you don’t get sick!

@reneeannemm Sorry about AF. Glad you had a good weekend though and hope your week goes well also!

@BornReady Good luck with the Clomid

@Spartanrd4 It’s kinda sucky when a coworker you have to see regularly is due around the time you were. Good luck with that!

@ceclarlinetlo Welcome back!

2. Status (WTO, TWW, Benched, etc.) WTO CD 11

3. Rants/raves: I've been struggling with some depression the last few cycles when AF arrived, especially with my due date and birthday coming up. So as an early birthday surprise, my husband suggested and got me a rough collie puppy. He's amazing and just what I needed to take my mind off ttcal and my depression. He is going to be the most spoiled little puppy ever!

4. GTKY: What is your most valued quality in another person? How about in yourself? I like trustworthiness and honesty. I don't like people (or myself) to beat around the bush. I just like to know how it is and what we can do to work through things or make things work out or what can be done so that everyone can benefit the best from every situation.

Wishilivedinflorida · April 2016

@Spartanrd4 Yay for AF!!!! I'm sorry about the awkwardness with your coworker. There's no easy way to deal with situations like that. It's so gut wrenching no matter what, especially when their EDD is timed so close to your EDD.

@ceclarlinetlo Welcome back and very glad to hear you are feeling better in regards to the anxiety and depression. Hope O comes soon!

@BornReady T&P for your IUI! Sending lots of positivity your way.

@reneeannemm I'm sorry about AF. It's ok to be sad, and I hope you won't be here in November either. Im so saddened to hear of your friends terrible struggles after assault. Nobody should have to go through that. I pray the grad school thing works out for her.

@kns1988 Stomach flu is so awful. I hope you feel better quickly.

2. Status (WTO, TWW, Benched, etc.) Benched, still waiting for AF after D&C. (Only on a loss board can you cheer for and boo for someone's AF coming....what a strange place loss puts you in...)

3. Rants/raves: I just want AF to get a move on here. I thought I was getting crampy this morning, turns out it was just gas. I met with my PCP to go over all my (normal) labs today and he added a prolactin level, so I just got another needle poke. I'm expecting this one to be normal, and if so, we will probably NTNP until June and then actively TTC again. I'm glad we have a plan, so long as AF decides to join the party in a timely fashion.

4. GTKY: What is your most valued quality in another person? How about in yourself?

In others and myself I value loyalty and selflessness. I think this world would be such a better place if everyone stopped making things all about themselves and really lived for others. I do not by any means think I'm great at this, but I strive to be better each day.

Edit: Mobile bump changed my words.

cooaladolly · April 2016

@kns1988 ugh! Sorry bout the flu, that's never a fun way to start off the week.

@reneeannemm sorry about impending AF, but at least your body has a regularity that it seems to be returning to if nothing else. I think one of the great qualities I see in you is empathy. That's rare and a treasure.

@BornReady fx for a lucky cycle for you with the clomid and IUI!

@Spartanrd4 oh how awkward! I'm sorry, I hope your co-worker will find a way to be delicate and humble in her announcement. I don't have any co-workers currently pregnant, but they are ALL mothers of multiple children, so there is constant child chatter around me. I feel your pain.

@ceclarlinetlo hello and glad taking a break gave you the respite you needed.

@dpjennifer your DH is awesome, what a fantastic surprise! Your puppy is totally adorable!

As for me:
1. Introduce yourself: (Since I've been away a bit) I'm on my 3rd cycle post MMC at 6 1/2 weeks. My fiance and I have/had been trying since the beginning of last year. We've put off, or downgraded, our wedding plans to focus on TTC as I'm getting a little long in my years (but I'm a bit of a cougar, DF is 5 years behind me

lol).

2. Status: TWW 12dpo, and as I mentioned in a previous posting, hitting myself over the head for testing too early. Waiting at leeeeast until... well, tomorrow to disappoint myself again.

3. Rants/Raves: Not exactly a rant, but I've been starting to wonder how long is too long. I was really somewhat optimistic about those supposedly fertile few months after MC and now am getting more anxious about the 'what do I do' and 'how long do I wait' if it continues not to happen. I suspect I may have an easier time than some getting an RE referral due to my age, but I just don't know where to start in looking, am desperately hoping not to need it, and agitated over not knowing when I should bother my OB or start seriously doing some research on my own. I know I'm being quite passive aggressive here.
Rave: Actually joined in a TTC/pregnancy discussion on FB this morning because someone else raved about my same OB/GYN who I just adore! It even opened up the opportunity to break the news to another close friend I hadn't told yet since she didn't even know I was trying. It blew her mind I even jumped in on that conversation so she texted me and I was able to be ok with discussing the loss. I've found that here and there I've been able to be more communicative about it with those I trust.

4 . GTKY: My most valued quality in other people is a sense of humor. I find it extremely healthy to be able to laugh at yourself, or at the irony that the world hands you at times. To me it means you know how to roll with life's punches and then get back up on the horse. If you're witty, I probably want to be around you always.
Me: I'm one of those 'outgoing introverts' so I suppose my best quality is that I'm good at making others feel comfortable and setting a light easy vibe that fits the environment. Interestingly, when my friends are asked, I think they usually say it's that I'm funny, lol ^ see above, though I would call it quirky

cooaladolly · April 2016

@Wishilivedinflorida oops, I hit post to soon! Glad to hear your have a plan going forward. It sometimes help with the waiting if you at least know how long you're waiting and what your next step is.

MWoodside · April 2016

@dpjennifer, oh my goodness! What a sweet face on that pup of yours.

2. Status (WTO, TWW, Benched, etc.) 2DPO. I thought I had O'd Friday, but OPKs confirmed Saturday morning first thing. We managed to get in BD on -3 & -2. So I am not thrilled, but it could have been worse. We shall see. I am not feeling very optimistic for this cycle.

3. Rants/raves:

Rant: After reading a post on this board last week about "pressure peen" I felt smug for a sec thinking wow I am glad we haven't dealt with that. Then that same night, literally, we did deal with that. Exactly 12 hours before I ovulated. Damn it all to hell.

Rave: I went to the most AMAZING (that word doesn't even do it justice, honestly) gathering Saturday night! I am still reeling from it in a great way. My mind is still trying to process everything I learned that night. The focus was homeopathics and parenting crystal children and rainbow children. The speaker was a local ND I'd never met before and she was just phenomenal and I feel so incredibly lucky to have been invited to this wonderful gathering. I am clearly still on a high from the night! Also, I got to connect with her a bit after the presentation and talk about how the whole TTC and pregnancy in general are completely anxiety-inducing for me at this point and she suggested 2 homeopathics for me to take to work through the grief and anxiety, which will help me be open to another pregnancy. I feel hopeful again!

4. GTKY: What is your most valued quality in another person? How about in yourself?

In another person- easygoing, letting go of the small stuff, patience.

In myself- patience, kindness.

fivetimesnoluck · April 2016

1. Introduce yourself (if you're new)

2. Status (WTO, TWW, Benched, etc.): CD 4, waiting for plan for this month's cycle from RE. Should get a call today. He mentioned he may add Clomid, but we may not change anything.

3. Rants/raves:
Rave: Since I got the BFN, I called my tattoo shop and asked if they could fit me in this weekend. They had a cancellation, so I got to finish my piece on Saturday! Grateful for it to be done. I love it! (It's a memorial piece - birth month flowers for our five losses: Marigold, Morning Glory, Cherokee rose, Sweet Pea, & Holly.)

Rant: My cycles post loss have gotten weirder and weirder. They have gotten very short (this one was like barely 2 days) but very painful. I had significant lower back pain that lasted the entire weekend this time and I have never really suffered from back pain associated with my cycles before. I just wish my body wasn't such a freakshow.

4. GTKY: What is your most valued quality in another person? How about in yourself?

Other people: Honesty & Sincerity

Me: Sincerity & Consideration (I try very hard to give thought to where the other side is coming from...)

Wishilivedinflorida · April 2016

@cooaladolll I'm an outgoing introvert as well. It's a very adaptable thing to be. However, I am most in my element when I'm alone. I hope you can find some direction about what your next steps are and if/when to involve the RE. Don't worry about "bothering" your OB. Their job is to provide you counsel with this type of thing. I am glad you are finding support in places you didn't expect. I have found that to be a huge blessing in my own life...opening up to those I necessarily wouldn't choose to, but it has helped. If and when I am ever able to have a child, I plan on going "full disclosure" to anyone that will hear it. Loss needs to be more understood and talked about. I just want to keep the chatter down now because I don't want too many people scrutinizing whether I'm pregnant or not at any given time (I already do plenty of that myself!)

BornReady · April 2016

@ceclarlinetlo I hear you about the long bouts of EWCM. My first few cycles after loss I had a week or so of EWCM, it made me crazy. I never thought of it as my body trying to O, but that makes sense. Hopefully your body does it's thing soon!

@Wishilivedinflorida Thanks for the T&P! You are so right in regards to the strange place loss puts us, so many conflicting demands on my body and varied emotional reactions. Good luck in AF showing up soon and giving you a fresh start!

@reneeannem I am sorry you are worried that something isn't right. I understand the limits they put on time TTC due to insurance etc., but sometimes that lingering feeling is hard to ignore. I've been there.

fivetimesnoluck · April 2016

Wishilivedinflorida · April 2016

@fivetimesnoluck That's so beautiful! I myself have never been one to want a tattoo but I admire other people's. Yours makes me want to get one too!

SnobunnieMel · April 2016

2. Benched

still temping and tracking to see what my body is doing after back to back losses

3. Rave: has a really good weekend. Took some me time Friday to get my nails done and my memorial tattoo. Had a blast at a charity even Saturday. Fun to get dressed up occasionally.

Has my first acupuncture appointment this weekend and I think it went well as an initial. He did a general de-stress and then after seeing how much tension I carry in my low back and neck, added trigger points that related to well after 5 minutes I got muscle twitching from everything relaxing. I had felt oddly serene ever since. Looking forward to going back

4. I think the quality I admire most in people is dependability. Saying what you mean and following through. I feel like it makes someone more trust worthy then.

In in myself I think it's the same thing. I know people come to me because I can be counted on and trusted.

MooFish2364 · April 2016

2. Status (WTO, TWW, Benched, etc.) WTO - CD 13 so I should ovulate any time in the next day or so.

3. Rants/raves: I'm hoping that with all the stress at work and the stress with my dying kitty that I actually am able to ovulate this month. I just keep trying to calm myself.

4. GTKY: What is your most valued quality in another person? How about in yourself? Integrity. I was going to say honesty but I feel that is part of integrity. I like it when people are honest, stand by what they say, and follow through. As far as myself...I'm a work in progress. I've really been working on putting myself out emotionally to close friends and family. This is not something that comes easy for me.

brooklyngirl18 · April 2016

2. Status: benched- waiting on 2nd AF post ectopic, i will have an HSG day 5-9 of my next cycle. If my tubes are clear then I will be cleared ttc right away, if not, then we need to determine a course of action to fix any damage. I am so excited and so scared for the HSG since it will either be great or terrible news.
3. Rants/Raves: while I am chomping at the bit ttc again I am so scared of having another ectopic. I went for my annual last week and my dr informed me that the odds of having another ectopic is 30%. i knew I had an increased chance but that hit me hard. I'm trying to stay optimistic but i'm scared.
4. GTKY:most valued quality in another person is sense of humor. i think it's so important to be able to laugh and unwind and that's really important to me in friendships/other relationships. in myself...i think i am a good listener and try to be the person my friends/family can lean on in trying times.

catiecatp · April 2016

Status - WTO, CD12

Rant/Rave - I usually ovulate on CD18, which for once hits on a weekend, and even better on a Sunday! I feel like we have good odds at getting excellent timing this month, assuming my ovaries cooperate... And DH has next week off so we'll head out to Banff for a night or two.

GTKY: this is a hard one to put a finger on - in others I value dependability and integrity. In myself, I trust people readily - it bites me in the arse, but I like to think that it reflects that I try to see the best in people.

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Question for the Americans... so I know not to give out my SIN or SSN over the phone etc - but could a scammer figure something out about me from the last 4 digits of my SSN? DH was saying that with only a few digits from your SIN (Canadian SSN) they can get additional info. I had a strange call in my office today - luckily I don't know my SSN because I literally just declared citizenship last month. In other news - I have an appointment to get off my arse and get a SSN so I can file taxes. I only got the passport and official recognition of citizenship about 7 days before taxes were due - so there was no time to figure that out before the deadline.

mylittleversailles · April 2016

@kns1988 Blah, hope you feel better soon. Stomach bugs are so totally crummy.

@BornReady FX for you, friend. I'll be positive for you! It's not exactly an insurance thing in Canada - but my doctor is very optimistic. I've always imagined this would be difficult, from when we first decided we wanted to try to make babies a couple years ago. I don't know why, but I suppose some of that worry makes this all feel harder than it is.

@Spartanrd4 Ugh, I'm sorry about your coworker, that's so awkward. And hopefully your cycles bounce back to a comfortable place. Mine have been a little weird coming from a very regular 28 day cycle pre-loss (33 days with ovulation on day 18 and looking like 24 with ovulation on 10) but nothing too frustrating yet.

@ceclarlinetlo Hello, welcome back. Anxiety is killer I've struggled with it all my life. Depression is no stranger to me, either. I'm very sorry for your losses but glad to hear you're starting to feel better.

@dpjennifer A PUPPY!! One of our long term goals is to rescue dogs, but not while our precious cats are alive. I'm such a dog person but have never had the life circumstances to have one grace my life with its presence.

@Wishilivedinflorida Aw, thanks. I think she'll be OK in the end. I'm a survivor of multiple assaults myself and I'm OK, so I have hope for her. We'd love to have the chance to try to help keep her safe and she loves Toronto.

@cooaladolll Thank you from the bottom of my heart. I work really hard at that and making people feel cared for and understood is extremely important to me. Least harm is my singular philosophy and that's surprisingly difficult in this cold, cruel, messed-up world. I want to create a world - even if it's just my inner circle - where things are closer to the way they should be. DH is also five years younger than me! He was 23 when we got engaged and sometimes I laugh to myself about how young he is. I don't have any advice on how long is too long, but I wish you luck and admire your grace and am always thrilled when you're posting.

@MWoodside Oh no! We had some trouble with peen pressure in the beginning, but he's benefited from being more involved in the process, which is a funny, seemingly opposite reaction than I've heard here most of the time.

@fivetimesnoluck It's so freaking gorgeous.

@SnobunnieMel Good, let the serenity carry through this bullsh-t time. Take care.

@MooFish2364 Oh, again I'm so sorry. Try to let the people you love take care of you right now. Hugs.

@brooklyngirl18 It's scary. All of it. Best of luck to you.

@catiecatp Banff is such a romantic place to make a baby

kns1988 · April 2016

catiecatp said:

Question for the Americans... so I know not to give out my SIN or SSN over the phone etc - but could a scammer figure something out about me from the last 4 digits of my SSN? DH was saying that with only a few digits from your SIN (Canadian SSN) they can get additional info. I had a strange call in my office today - luckily I don't know my SSN because I literally just declared citizenship last month. In other news - I have an appointment to get off my arse and get a SSN so I can file taxes. I only got the passport and official recognition of citizenship about 7 days before taxes were due - so there was no time to figure that out before the deadline.

It's pretty common to give out the last 4 digits for verification purposes. I wouldn't give it out of the blue to someone if the purpose of the call were sketchy because they could pretend to be you in order to call your bank or something, but it is really common to have that info out there in the world. I work in healthcare and anyone that accesses the medical record - nurses, schedulers, IT people - can see the last 4 digits (not the whole SSN, though).

MrsDramaK · April 2016

1. Introduce yourself (if you're new) I had a natural miscarriage three weeks ago and the doctor cleared DH and I to start trying again, though he suggested waiting til after AF comes for dating purposes.

2. Status (WTO, TWW, Benched, etc.) I guess Benched until I get AF

3. Rants/raves: I was charting post-miscarriage and FF gave me CH, I was thrilled. Then my temp significantly dropped three days ago and it took them away, so who know what's going on with my body. It is very frustrating to say the least. DH and I want to start again so I am not patiently waiting.

4. GTKY: What is your most valued quality in another person? How about in yourself? Loyalty. I am loyal to a fault and I respect that in others. I am not very forgiving as a result of this, but I find I am happier with life if I don't keep people who betray me in it.

CoonMom · April 2016

1. Introduce yourself (if you're new) Not new but rebranded. Formerly dogmomwantinghuman

2. Status (WTO, TWW, Benched, etc.) WTO CD 10

3. Rants/raves: I had a great weekend. We took the coons on a mini road trip an hour away to get them ready for our vacation in May. They did fairly well. Then I went to a dog stunt show with my MIL. It was really cute. Sunday I cleaned our grill and took an hour nap.

4. GTKY: What is your most valued quality in another person? How about in yourself?

other people: trust worthiness
myself: compassion

Knottie1459524222 · April 2016

2. Status (WTO, TWW, Benched, etc.)
TWW- currently CD25, not sure if/when I even ovulated this month. Per OPKs possibly CD16?

3. Rants/raves:
Rant- I currently have light cramping, but zero other pregnancy symptoms. It's making me lose hope for this month

I plan on testing Friday if AF hasn't arrived by then.
Rave- I have some amazing friends who really know how to cheer me up on my down days! They are the best!

4. GTKY: What is your most valued quality in another person? How about in yourself?
another person- someone who can really listen to you and provide you with good conversation.
Myself- I am a good friend, and dependable.

mylittleversailles · April 2016

@Knottie1459524222 Sometimes you come up for me under this endless knottie name, but others it's your real screen name - which I cannot for my life recall right now. Refresh my memory so I can keep that in my brain for next time, please?

cooaladolly · April 2016

@MWoodside that gathering does sound really interesting and insightful. How did you find out about it? So glad it has given you renewed hope.

@fivetimesnoluck that has turned out so very beautiful! Such a touching tribute.

@Wishilivedinflorida definitely adaptable, but sometimes under duress. I find the downside for me is that I succeed so well in the outgoing part, that some people are still hurt or put off (or just surprised I guess) as the majority of the time I do want to be home by myself. For every few hours I'm social, I need to have a day or two of just being in my own head. Sometimes I hate being the life of the party one day and then disappearing for 3 weeks

Hoping that you are able to manage the idiosyncrasies a little better than me. On the upside though, I agree that the more I find myself able to open up about loss, the freer I feel. As you said, there are limitations to when is the right time, but trying to take the stigma away and educating when we can could hopefully help erase the stigma of MC, and perhaps let other women feel more prepared for the possibilities of loss. I plan to do some insurance research today and I'll definitely give the doc's office a call this week to find out where I should look next.

@SnobunnieMel I'm so sorry for your losses! That sounds like it was a great weekend of relaxing and fun activities to keep your mind occupied and in a good place.

@MooFish2364 I'm sorry about your kitty. As much as we all want our rainbow children, everyone with pets feels they are our children too, just with less back talk, so those losses can be just as hard.

@brooklyngirl18 statistics can be terrifying! Hopefully all testing will come back with good news.

@catiecatp having a cycle like that to look forward to is awesome, and relaxing romantic BD'ing just puts the icing on the cake! Hope it all works out just right!

@reneeannemm certainly an earned compliment but you're welcome! It's obvious the work you put in to make others feel comforted. In this world, all we can control is our own karma (and you've got a butt load!) but surrounding yourself with the right energies is such a good place to be. And thank you right back, doll!

@MrsDramaK I'm sorry for your loss. FF and those darn disappearing crosshairs! Every month I fear that happening.

@CoonMom very cute rebranding! I didn't realize that was what kind of dogs you had. This may sound cheesy but I've always thought they were awesome ever since I bawled my eyes out in 7th grade over Where the Red Fern Grows.

@Knottie1459524222 sorry you think you're out but hurrah for good supportive friends. I don't know what I would've done without mine. And I had a similar issue with being two different people on here accidentally. I had apparently made two different accounts and didn't realize that from my phone I was one person but from my laptop another. Perhaps the Knottie name is a similar issue for you?

cjs260 · April 2016

@MWoodside I'm sorry we jinxed you

@catiecatp I wouldn't be too concerned. I try to live by the "not giving out your social" rule, but I'm not sure what could be done with just the last four digits, unless they were running them through an algorithm to try to find a match for the other numbers. Unlikely, I believe. We use the last four digits all the time - to verify bank accounts, doctor's office, etc. Also (if you remember), there was a hack on the US government, and a ton of people's SSN were stolen. My SSN was one of those, and I haven't seen any harm from that yet (knock on wood), and they my whole number

2. Status (WTO, TWW, Benched, etc.) - TWW, 7DPO

3. Rants/raves: Rant - I'm just at that awkward TWW time where "everything" is a pregnancy symptom, right? Like I had gas yesterday, and I got excited - Are you kidding me brain? Ugh. Stop.

Rave - Today is my BFF's birthday, so we are going to a "Paint your Pet" class! I'm really looking forward to it, though it is really likely that my painting will look absolutely terrible.

4. GTKY: What is your most valued quality in another person? How about in yourself?
Others - Trustworthiness, I think it's the true foundation of any relationship
Myself - Forgiveness, I forgive to a fault

Knottie1459524222 · April 2016

Yes! @cooaladoll I had a name and it disappeared! It won't let me change it back! Or maybe I just don't know how?

Knottie1459524222 · April 2016

@reneeannemm it was Kmac1210, it keeps disappearing and I don't know how to get it back

cooaladolly · April 2016

Knottie1459524222 said:

@reneeannemm it was Kmac1210, it keeps disappearing and I don't know how to get it back

I had to go to theknot.com (the parent site) to be able to do any name or picture change but maybe that's just me since I typically use the mobile site. The hardest part for me was I couldn't remember which email I logged into on which. If you have two emails try logging out and then re-logging in with your other. If you forgot the password it should be able to resend it to you or reset it. Hopefully that helps some!
Eta: PS- I also had the same problem with the name being taken... because I had taken it! It was frustrating! I gave up trying to change my name in the beginning and just added an extra letter (there's 2 cooaladolls but both are me, just one has 3 l's) and went forward using the one did that let me update it.

mylittleversailles · April 2016

I did exactly the same thing as @cooaladolll, just added an extra letter to my old screen name because the email letting me change my password would never show up. I had only used the old name on my BMB a few times so it wasn't a big loss for me.

Aera11 · April 2016

2. Status (WTO, TWW, Benched, etc.) I am CD27 (usually 33-36 day cycles) and have no idea if I O'd since there hasn't really been a temp spike yet. I am not surprised because this round was unmedicated and generally do not O on my own, but I still temped, got positive OPK's, BD and felt some ovary twinges. I have zero expectations for this cycle though and am ready to get AF in a week and start back up on my Clomid.

3. Rants/raves: Not much happening right now. I got a manicure yesterday and the woman doing my nails thought I was someone else and asked if I had a baby girl. Uh nope but thanks for rubbing that one in...ugh.

4. GTKY: What is your most valued quality in another person? How about in yourself? I value honesty and kindness, both of those go a long way in my book. Those are probably some of my better qualities, that and being really organized

@bornready I totally hear you about the impending due date

I seriously TRY not to think about it, but I can't help it. My first due date was in May and right now all my brain is telling me is that in a month I'd have a baby, which is ridiculous but I can't help it. My other due date would have been July and that one will be the hardest. Sending you hugs!

dpjennifer · April 2016

@reneeannemm I love the puppy! My family are more dog people too, but our house is about a mile from a shelter where people go to drop off pets they no longer want or animals they’ve found. They then find out there’s a fee to drop off the animal, so sometimes they drive away and dump the animals out at the stop sign near our house. So, my parent’s house has several stray cats we’ve adopted.

@catiecatp It is definitely common to give out the last 4 of your SSN. I definitely make sure I know who I’m giving it to (my bank, credit card, etc. and NOT some random place that calls me that I’m unsure of) first though. If I understand it correctly the numbers do mean something, or sometimes do. Like, the first 3 can mean an area you’re born in, especially if you were born overseas. So a friend of mine from England has a few numbers in her social that apparently are the code for being born over there. But the rest are random I think.

@cjs260 Yeah, the government was definitely hacked and I was involved in that too. I think that’s going to become the whole new norm now. Everyone wants your SSN anymore and everyone is being hacked.

@BornReady and @Aera11 Yeah, the due date thing sucks. I thought I'd be pg again before I hit mine and that's not looking like the case and it's hit me really hard (hence the puppy). Good luck to you guys with coping!!!

catiecatp · April 2016

@baldwinbaby17 - this would be a great thread to lurk and then introduce yourself when you're ready. A new one is started each Monday if you'd like to lurk a bit more before posting.

JDMRS · April 2016

1. Introduce yourself (if you're new) DH and I started trying 1/1/16 for #1. BFP on 2/11 and then I had a MMC at 6w6d and and D&E on 3/23 (not-so-Good Friday). AF arrived right on schedule 28 days after the D&E and has been 100% normal for me- heavy and crampy. Had my f/u with my doc this morning and we are cleared to start trying when we are emotionally ready.

2. Status (WTO, TWW, Benched, etc.) WTO- this is my first AF post- D&E. We are going to not track anything for the first 2 months and see what happens then I will break out the wondfos and dixie cups.

3. Rants/raves: I have to work on not checking out pregnant women. I am seriously as bad a creepy dude in the summer. I see "cute little I just popped" bumps, "Not totally uncomfortable but nearing the end of the 2nd tri" bumps and "big as a house" bumps EVERYWHERE. I swear 90% of the women I see are pregnant.

4. GTKY: What is your most valued quality in another person? How about in yourself? Kindness is the trait I value most on others. In myself-loyalty even though my BFF says I am loyal to a fault.

And I am so happy to ready to be here- I lurked a bit over the last week and I love the support I see here.

MWoodside · April 2016

**TW: children mentioned**

@cooladolll, a new-ish friend (that I've connected deeply with from day 1) invited me to a gathering of mom friends to learn how to treat children with homeopathics. Which was the case, however, she had hand-picked friends with children that fit into the crystal child and rainbow child descriptions, so the gathering went much deeper than how it was originally framed.

mylittleversailles · April 2016

@JDMRS Hello, welcome. I'm sorry to hear about your loss and I hope you find participating in this community helpful and healing.

cooaladolly · April 2016

@Aera11 sorry bout the weird cycle and the misidentification. So very not helpful!

@JDMRS welcome to the board. I'm sorry for your loss but hopefully you will find a lot of support on this board going forward.

@MWoodside what a wonderful opportunity! That sounds like a wonderful friend to have thought of you specifically for it, and definitely a person that is looking out for you.

cjs260 · April 2016

***TW: possible BFP***

I had an extremely bad case of the BSC yesterday - testing was all I could think about. I had some stuff I needed to get done, but I couldn't focus with the POAS monkey on my back. So, I bought a FRER test after work just knowing that a negative would shut the monkey up for a day or so.....and it was faint, but positive. Since the FRERs are bad about false positives, I purchased another brand to use with today's FMU, and another positive. I'm cautiously skeptical, and I don't know that I can really believe it just yet. I'm going in to have a blood test and to get my quants, so I suppose we'll see. I'm only 9 dpo (maybe 10, at the absolute latest), so I'm very nervous. I think I'm going to lurk around here for a while longer before moving to my BMB. I'm so thankful for this community and everyone here. Each one of you are in my thoughts, and I hope to see you all on the other side.

mylittleversailles · April 2016

@cjs260 Congratulations! Best of luck to you for a H & H pregnancy and your rainbow.

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