On a slightly different subject but still having to do with parents who already have kids...
My son and I are incredibly close. We have our own little world and a very strong bond. I am incredibly excited for a new baby and it's something we really wanted, and I hated the idea of my son being an only child. But at the same time there's a little (er maybe it isn't all that little) part in me that stings and gets me teary eyed when I think that someone new is coming into our lives and that he has to share my affection and I have to share his. It's so odd because it's a mix of the same thrill and excitement we had the first time around, but at the same time I feel a little sad that what I have with my son is going to shift.
Am I the only one who feels this way? Did anyone else at some point? If so, how was it introducing a new person into the mix?
Am I crazy?
Nope. I am so close with my almost two year old, and while I'm so excited to give him a sibling the fear of losing the bond we have is almost debilitating to me. He is his mamas boy through and through.
With th that said, my son also watches more tv than normal since he's a freaking early riser and we are attempting to slee train so he's not up before six every day. Not working. I spend the first few hours after we get up attempting to eat food and lying on the couch snuggling/nursing him while he watches curious George on repeat. I literally can't function on crap sleep and super nausea.
Hey there! This is my 4th. My others are 7, 4 next month, and 21 months. I was already guilty of too much tv before I got pregnant. I don't function well in the winter! Thanks to hormones the mom guilt is in full swing so I've actually done a little better but I think it's also thanks to nice weather! Working out really helps! I'm just forcing myself to get up and move. But I still need my quiet time! I'm pretty useless from about 1:30-4 but I'm okay with that. You will get through it! I'm a little worried about the nausea though. It's started earlier for my every pregnancy. Last night it got so bad I couldn't keep my head up at a certain point and I just went to bed!
I have a 15 month old who is big (just shy of 3 feet already) and heavy and high needs. I'm having severe morning sickness plus the normal fatigue and aches and pains. It's kicking my ass! I'm incredibly blessed that my husband is so supportive and goes above and beyond to step up. I'm a stay at home mom and he takes off half an hour early every day to relieve me so I can rest. We don't have any family support for us to lean on so I'm so grateful for all he does to make this easier.
You are definitely not crazy! Every night as I rock my one year old as we read, I feel big guilt pains that I am somehow screwing her mommy time by adding another little one. My husband and I are thrilled, but I love the bond my daughter and I share and am constantly worried how she'll react when she has to share me.
I haven't felt any guilt yet, but Friday when I had to pick L up early (teething fever). He was eating a bottle, so we snuggled into one of their rocking chairs and another little boy ~2ish crawled onto my lap as well. He and L were about the age that L and #2 will be. It was super sweet to imagine my 2 LOs curled up on my lap for snuggles and a nap.
Formerly known as Kate08young August '18 Siggy April Showers:
Me: 28 H: 24 Married: 7/22/14 Baby L: 8/4/2015 August 2015 Moms Baby E: 11/18/2016 December 2016 Moms TTC #3 08/2017 BFP 11/27/2017. Twin B lost 11/22/2017, Twin A doing well.
Man tonight the feeling of my DD not being my sole focus hit me hard. She's cuddly from not feeling well and I just can't imagine dividing my attention. Oh the hormones
I'm in agreement with so much of what's been said here! My DS just turned 2 and I'm a stay at home mom. I love hanging out with my guy and hope our relationship doesn't get strained when this little one arrives.
I agree with everyone. I have a 15 month old and yesterday was melt down central and I was tired and just wanted to sleep. I couldn't wait for dh to get home and wrangle the werecat that I was holding. At that moment in was like "What the hell where you thinking..another one of these." I think everyone may go through some o this. Fear of the unknown..am I strong enough. As mommies I think we don't realize what we are capable of till its presented to us.
Its a little more challenging this time with a 14 mo old. Last time my dominant first tri symptom was exhaustion. This time same thing. Except now naps are not so easy to come by! I do feel pretty exhausted by the end of the day but its somehow different. I think that since I've been operating in a tired (sleep deprived) state for over a year my body is somewhat used to be tired and I function but than I did the first time. Anyway, good luck to us all when we have toddlers plus a newborn!
I have 7 kids but only my baby who is 10.5 months lives with me.Others with ex hubby.Anyways this ba you is very active soon be walking it tires me out.I am 5 weeks pregnant now.
I have a 2 year old and a 4 year old. I dream of the days where I could just lay down whenever I wanted, when I was pregnant with my first. It's not easy all the time, but there is a lot more tv watching in this house.
I have a 2 year old and a 4 year old. I dream of the days where I could just lay down whenever I wanted, when I was pregnant with my first. It's not easy all the time, but there is a lot more tv watching in this house.
So. Much. TV. The exhaustion I feel each afternoon is debilitating and I'm essentially useless from 3:00 on. Thank God my kids are easily distracted by Mickey Mouse and PJ Masks.
Me: 35 | Him: 35 G born 10/25/12 | H born 3/25/14 TTC#3 since 7/2015 Early loss 12/2015 most likely due to low progesterone Began medicated cycles (Femara/Ovidrel/Endometrin) with TI 1/2016 BFP 3/22, EDD 12/4/16 ~ It's a GIRL!
I have a 2 year old but so far so good. I'm nauseous in the morning but my energy hasn't dropped that much which is much different than when I was pregnant with DS and felt like I would fall asleep standing. Luckily I have a very helpful 7 year old and a great DH that both step in when I'm feeling sick to my stomach.
Re: Mommas with toddlers
With th that said, my son also watches more tv than normal since he's a freaking early riser and we are attempting to slee train so he's not up before six every day. Not working. I spend the first few hours after we get up attempting to eat food and lying on the couch snuggling/nursing him while he watches curious George on repeat. I literally can't function on crap sleep and super nausea.
I have a 15 month old who is big (just shy of 3 feet already) and heavy and high needs. I'm having severe morning sickness plus the normal fatigue and aches and pains. It's kicking my ass! I'm incredibly blessed that my husband is so supportive and goes above and beyond to step up. I'm a stay at home mom and he takes off half an hour early every day to relieve me so I can rest. We don't have any family support for us to lean on so I'm so grateful for all he does to make this easier.
Baby G born 6/6/14, 37 weeks 1 day due to preeclampsia. 5lb12oz 19"
#2 due Christmas 2016.
He and L were about the age that L and #2 will be. It was super sweet to imagine my 2 LOs curled up on my lap for snuggles and a nap.
Formerly known as Kate08young
August '18 Siggy April Showers:
Married: 7/22/14
Baby L: 8/4/2015 August 2015 Moms
Baby E: 11/18/2016 December 2016 Moms
TTC #3 08/2017 BFP 11/27/2017.
Twin B lost 11/22/2017, Twin A doing well.
Emma & Amelia
G born 10/25/12 | H born 3/25/14
TTC#3 since 7/2015
Early loss 12/2015 most likely due to low progesterone
Began medicated cycles (Femara/Ovidrel/Endometrin) with TI 1/2016
BFP 3/22, EDD 12/4/16 ~ It's a GIRL!
BFP #1 5.26.08 DD born 1.4.09
BFP #2 3.11.12 m/c 3.26.12
BFP #3 10.7.12 m/c 10.27.12
BFP #4 2.24.13 ectopic MTX 3.13.13 Right tube removed 3.29.13
BFP #5 5.27.13 DS born 1.22.14
BFP #6 4.14.16