Omg PGAL brain is the worst!!! So glad you found the HB, @KilgraveMadeMeDoIt. Keep us updated.
**********Question************** Speaking of loss brain, is anyone else having issues pulling the trigger on maternity clothes? I ordered $200 worth of stuff from Gap and Old Navy last pregnancy only to have it arrive the day before my D&C. My work pants don't fit anymore and the belly band and hair band trick won't work with the kind of pants I wear. My plan was to transition to all dresses, but it's been too freaking cold. My office is kept at 60 degrees, do I'm freezing.
Im having a hard time even looking at things. Anyone else???
@chloe97 Yeah maternity clothes were hard for me to buy this time around. When I lost my son I had my best friend go through my closet and get rid of all of it. I even threw out the maternity outfit I had on at the hospital before leaving. Not a brilliant idea since nothing fit me post baby and 4 months later I was pregnant again.
This go around I took my mom with me to get clothes. The whole time I was there I was paranoid the sales woman would ask me if this was my first child. It was awful really and I just wanted to leave. I had previously tried shopping online and couldn't bite the bullet and actually order anything. It even took me a week to wash the clothes I bought because I thought I would jinx myself.
What I wish I had done is give my credit card info to my friend and just had her order some clothes for me online. Sometimes it's such odd things that can affect you so strongly. I was pratically having a panic attack over leggings and a Jessica Simpson maternity top.
PGAL is such a hard journey. Anything that upsets me I try pawn off on my friends or mother or atleast involve them for the support.
@chloe97 Yes! I have loaded up my online cart twice now just to delete the order at the last minute. I'm afraid Ill jinx myself by ordering anything, which is so stupid I know. I have another US this Friday and think I will break down and get some pants I can wear to work at a minimum if it goes well, because I'm literally holding my pants up with a rubber band now and its getting old fast. Plus its uncomfortable.
@chloe97 Yes, totally paranoid about buying maternity clothes. I could hardly bring myself to buy a Bella Band. Now I have 1 pair of pants, 1 dress, and 1 pair of shorts arriving soon, and I'm completely paranoid they will arrive right after I MC. The other thought on my mind is that DH and I said we were doing 3 IVFs max, and this was 2, so I feel like I'm running out of chances.
Age: 39 and holding Unexplained infertility NTNP: 10 years! TTC: Since 2014 5 IUI: BFN IVF 1: MC IVF 2: BFP! DD 11/20/16
@chloe97 I haven't even started shopping or thinking about it due to the same pgal fear. I got my snoogle right after I found out about my mmc and hid it away in a closet until this pregnancy. (Now I love my snoogle and am mid day napping/ bumping in it.) I guess I should start shopping now that my pants are mostly uncomfortable
@KilgraveMadeMeDoIt so happy you found the HB! I also hate that loss brain makes me freak out or unable to fully enjoy what should be a happy time.
@chloe97 and others, happy im not alone in my irrational fear of jinxing it. I finally got myself some clothes bc the gap sale was amazing and I ordered some clothes online from old navy. The clothes are still sitting in the bag in my closet bc im terrified to open them and hang them. Also just finished making signs for our mothers day gift announcement and im afraid to tell the world yet.
@chloe97 yes, I haven't bought a single thing yet. I invested in a bunch of looser tops when we were TTC and those definitely still work, and will work for a while, but they're just regular people clothes - not maternity. I've browsed the maternity section at target several times, but couldn't bring myself to buy anything yet. I don't really NEED to buy anything yet, but my jeans are definitely getting uncomfortable, even using the hair tie. I don't know when I'll be able to bite the bullet and buy real maternity clothes. PGAL brain is the worst.
@EmmieAnn22@rspalding001@sunbeam1@monkey41@honeybeewebb2424 Thank you all for reassuring me I'm not alone. I think I'm going to wait to get through 1 last loss milestone -10 wks, the day I started bleeding and found out the baby had died. Then I may start forcing myself to shop. Like a lot of these issues, I guess I'm just so sad about how robbed I feel of the joy of shopping for a whole new wardrobe. I was so excited to shop the week before my MC.
Im hoping that getting past this one last milestone and (knock on wood) a great 12 week ultrasound and panorama result that my PGAL symptoms will start to subside a little bit. These last few weeks have been tough!
I am sick having to post this, but my appointment didn't go well today. I go back to confirm next steps Sunday, but am expecting D&E with genetic testing on Monday.
I doubt I will post again unless there is some crazy miracle.
Best of luck to all of you! If all goes as I expect I will head back to TTC & the loss board.
@MrsBinPA oh no, I am so so sorry you are going through this. Ugh, I wish there was something I could say to help you feel better. Please take care of yourself. Huge hugs to you.
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**********Question**************
Speaking of loss brain, is anyone else having issues pulling the trigger on maternity clothes? I ordered $200 worth of stuff from Gap and Old Navy last pregnancy only to have it arrive the day before my D&C. My work pants don't fit anymore and the belly band and hair band trick won't work with the kind of pants I wear. My plan was to transition to all dresses, but it's been too freaking cold. My office is kept at 60 degrees, do I'm freezing.
Im having a hard time even looking at things. Anyone else???
This go around I took my mom with me to get clothes. The whole time I was there I was paranoid the sales woman would ask me if this was my first child. It was awful really and I just wanted to leave. I had previously tried shopping online and couldn't bite the bullet and actually order anything. It even took me a week to wash the clothes I bought because I thought I would jinx myself.
What I wish I had done is give my credit card info to my friend and just had her order some clothes for me online. Sometimes it's such odd things that can affect you so strongly. I was pratically having a panic attack over leggings and a Jessica Simpson maternity top.
PGAL is such a hard journey. Anything that upsets me I try pawn off on my friends or mother or atleast involve them for the support.
Yes, totally paranoid about buying maternity clothes. I could hardly bring myself to buy a Bella Band. Now I have 1 pair of pants, 1 dress, and 1 pair of shorts arriving soon, and I'm completely paranoid they will arrive right after I MC.
The other thought on my mind is that DH and I said we were doing 3 IVFs max, and this was 2, so I feel like I'm running out of chances.
Unexplained infertility
NTNP: 10 years!
TTC: Since 2014
5 IUI: BFN
IVF 1: MC
IVF 2: BFP! DD 11/20/16
I guess I should start shopping now that my pants are mostly uncomfortable
BFP #1 11/06/15 - EDD 7/14/16 - MMC 12/14/15 - D&C 12/22/15
BFP #2 03/13/16 - EDD 11/26/16
@chloe97 and others, happy im not alone in my irrational fear of jinxing it. I finally got myself some clothes bc the gap sale was amazing and I ordered some clothes online from old navy. The clothes are still sitting in the bag in my closet bc im terrified to open them and hang them. Also just finished making signs for our mothers day gift announcement and im afraid to tell the world yet.
Im hoping that getting past this one last milestone and (knock on wood) a great 12 week ultrasound and panorama result that my PGAL symptoms will start to subside a little bit. These last few weeks have been tough!
I doubt I will post again unless there is some crazy miracle.
Best of luck to all of you! If all goes as I expect I will head back to TTC & the loss board.
I truly appreciate your support!
Me: 39 DH: 40
Married: 12/6/2014
BFP#2: 10/28/15 MC: 11/24/15
BFP#3: 3/20/16 MC: 4/26/16
BFP#4: 7/15/16 DD: 3/18/17
BFP#5: 5/1/18 EDD: 1/12/19
- BFP: 3/10/16 — Baby Girl born 11/20/16
TTC#2 April 2019Son, K, 9 | Daughter, C, 5 | Daughter, M, expected November 7, 2016
BFP 3.8.16 EDD 11.20.16
BFP #1 11/06/15 - EDD 7/14/16 - MMC 12/14/15 - D&C 12/22/15
BFP #2 03/13/16 - EDD 11/26/16
Married: September 2012
Began TTC: September 2015
BFP #1: 10/12/16, EDD: 06/23/15,
(pPROM, 16 wks + emergency D&E 12/31/15)
BFP #2: 03/09/16, EDD: 11/16/16