ok so H, DS and I live with my grandma in her house to take care of her bc she's in a wheelchair. Well she decided since we pay the bills and care for her she was going to put her property into our name. This will all be taking place within the next two weeks. Everyone in my family is on board bc we'd still be giving her a place to live unless she gets to a point where we can no longer give her the care she needs. So the problem is she has 5 acres that my uncle and his son have DESTROYED! They have trash laying around everywhere, an old boat, 2 old vans, a snowmobile and this weird mobile shed thing. So H and I have been cleaning up the yard slowly but surely. We plan to in the near future build a new house and knock hers down (it's old and repairs would cost more than new). Well they refuse to get rid of their shit! They think it's all staying and we can just hide behind the house where no one can see it. I'm beyond annoyed! I don't want to cause a family fued and stress my grandma out about it. But at the same time this shit has been sitting here for 5+ years, the snowmobile at least 10 that no one has touched it. What do I do? Is it wrong for me to want the yard cleaned up and am I being too controlling over the situation? Do I just let them keep it all here for another decade? How would you ladies go about this?
Sorry for the post being something probably none of you could give a crap about but you always have great advice!! TIA
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ETA: If you decide to go the notarized letter route I would send the letter certified so they have to sign that they received it and I would also have a second copy notarized for your personal records.
Also, I have learned the hard way through dealing with my own parents who I've had to take in due to memory issues, desicions and choices about family stuff like this is NOT a democracy. Those who pay the costs, get to be the boss. After the property is in your name do what the PP said to do with a lovely notarized letter and if they squawk and bitch about it kindly reply if they'd like the burden of caring for an elder on top of their own lives and their own obligations, they are free to come take care of grandma among all their rusty garbage. Guaranteed they pass on that offer
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@Trinirican3ondway that's what I don't want is to put her in the middle but how long am I supposed to keep this stuff? It's already been here for years. There's really no hidden corners. And they don't have any money or even a home to take any of it. We have a small shed but not big enough for really any of it once we have the lawn mower and our own outdoor things in it. If we had a place to tuck them away I'd have no problem with but its just so open
@mebaby333 that'd be the best option bc I really don't need 5 acres BUT the county will not allow the land to be "basterized" (that's the county's word) and they have no money and awful credit to pay for anything.