May 2016 Moms

FFFC 4-15-16

It is Friday, right? Let's get this started! Flame Free Friday Confessions...not necessarily flame free. 

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Re: FFFC 4-15-16

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  • I really need to clean our home, but I keep putting it off because we want to hire someone to come clean. So I feel sorry for her because it's going to be gross. And I really don't care. 
  • vinerie said:
    Second FFFC: Need to get my allergy shot today. It's a block away from Dunkin' Donuts. All I've been thinking about this morning is getting my shot. J/K...all I've been thinking about is if I should drive the extra block and get a donut.
    My allergy shot place is right around the corner from DD too! And I normally treat myself to a donut or two afterwards ;) I actually used to live above the same DD. That was DANGEROUS!!!!

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  • mrstmoose said:
    I really need to clean our home, but I keep putting it off because we want to hire someone to come clean. So I feel sorry for her because it's going to be gross. And I really don't care. 
    I scheduled a maid service to come next week and do a good cleaning of the house. I haven't bothered cleaning in MONTHS because I knew they'd be coming. The house is disgusting, I'm embarrassed, but I want to get my money's worth!
  • yogahh said:
    I know I will get flamed for this, but I hope baby girl is pretty. Superficial I know, but lets face it, looks get girls far in this world. And I would hate for her to get mocked for her looks, because we all know how cruel kids can be. Yes, I want her to be healthy and smart as well (even more so that physically attractive) but I would be lying if I said I haven't wished for her to be a beautiful baby as well.
    My mom and I talk about this baby and future baby looks as well. I totally despise my MIL (most of you know the story as to why) and DH looks exactly like her. Because he wound up normal, somehow, I don't see her in him whatsoever..so we figure if we have a boy that turns out looking identical to DH, it's all good...but then my mom brought up us having a girl that looks exactly like DH, thus looking identical to his mom...and I'm so worried. I know I will think my babies are beautiful no matter what and I know I won't see his wretched mother every time I look at my daughter IF we happen to have one that looks like her...but still...we've been talking about it a lot and since we are team green I've thought a few times about the fact that I may have a MIL look alike in there. 
  • TXmamatobe  I feel the exact way! My mom is planning on staying with us for a week or 2 after birth and I'm dreading having the same conversation with her. If I ask she'll take it as a huge criticism and that I don't want her there, don't love her etc. and I'll never hear the end of it. 
  • Even considering everything that's happened this week, I still haven't packed my bag. Oh well. I am doing it this weekend though.

    Also, before this week I was constantly on DH to get the nursery done before baby got here, but I really don't care anymore. He's feeling the pressure now bc of everything that's happened and the potential for me to go into labor earlier, so honestly it will likely be pretty much done this weekend (he painted the entire room the day we found out little girl was a little boy - lol), but I just want baby to get here at this point. He won't be in the nursery for at least a few weeks anyway so I'm not too worried. We do have someone coming for baby pictures about a week after and the nursery was going to be the focus, but again... oh well.

    Also, my attitude is kinda sucking lately. DH keeps asking how I am and I know he's just worried, but my mindset right now is kinda just like 'Oh well... It is what it is'. I do feel a little bad that maybe I feel like I'm not as excited about the baby since we found out the initial anatomy scan was wrong. Everyone keeps telling me I'll get over it and once he's here I won't even think about it, but it's so hard to picture at this point. I think maybe once I get out this weekend and do some shopping for the new stuff we need then it might help with my attitude a little bit and get me more excited again. MIL is coming over tomorrow to help out with some of the exchanging and stuff and to get some new things so there isn't as big a burden. So I'm thinking once that stuff gets out of sight it will help too.
  • TXmamatobe  I feel the exact way! My mom is planning on staying with us for a week or 2 after birth and I'm dreading having the same conversation with her. If I ask she'll take it as a huge criticism and that I don't want her there, don't love her etc. and I'll never hear the end of it. 
    Yessssss. This is my exact situation. Everything is taken to mean something way more dramatic and insulting. I really just want to know when she's leaving! That's it. 
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  • I was originally planning to work 2 weeks until my DD.....but now I am just so f-ing over work on top of being in pain, I am throwing in the towel. I meet with my midwife on Monday and hoping she give me my off work orders ASAP. If I am going to be in miserable pain I would rather be at home in my giant moo-moo PJ's on the couch. I am so tired of wearing real clothes and having to be "on" at work. Eight straight months of powering through and now I am done. I have to listen to my body and take care of myself and this LO.
  • @Jparke2 glad you are able to escape work for awhile! Enjoy!

    @yogahh nothing wrong with wanting your baby to be pretty! 

    @TheThornBird you're awesome. I'm sure the baristas appreciated someone standing up for them for once!
  • Another thing... I loved my birth center pretty much up till today. They just uploaded the notes from my scans at the hospital the other day. They kept telling me the head was up to 2 weeks off in size from the body... Try closer to a week. The person who reviewed the scans also said there was normal interval growth since the last scan. Meaning the head did not look too big for them in proportion to the abdomen or legs. It essentially just said I have a big baby. I hope they get laughed in the face when they try to call in the referral for my next scan. If I end up being considered high risk then I can't have the baby at the birth center and DH said he kinda feels like they may be trying to give us the boot this late in the game. Honestly I kinda agree with him and it makes me upset. I've kinda had this feeling since my glucose test a few weeks ago. Part of me hopes I get kicked out though... I don't want to deal with it anymore. Another part of me wants to prove them wrong however.
  • I am a person who really enjoys personal space. I love when people come visit but don't like them staying at my house - even my parents. I feel like I want them to come hang out during the day but then I want my own space in the evening and a little time to wake up in the morning before I have to be "on". Of course, I have them stay at my house when they come but the whole time I'm wishing for my space.  :s I feel selfish but I can't help it. 

    There is really no good way to tell people you're ready for their visit to end either. My mom sometimes says she is coming to visit but never says how long she plans to stay. I can't ask when she's leaving because then I feel like it sounds like I want her leave soon (and I might  :#). 
    This is me too! My FFFC is that the older I get, the less I enjoy entertaining people at my home. Dont get me wrong,  I enjoy company from time to time, but I am very particular about who I want in my home. There are 2 camps: the people who could give a crap if the house is spotless, and the people who come to judge. My MIL for example evaluates every decorating decision, how I clean, what cleaning products I use, and where things should be placed in my home. I seldom invite her, or people like her to visit because I. JUST. CAN'T.

     I guess I'm saying that there are gracious guests, and not so gracious guests and the ungracious guests ruin entertaining for me. 

    I think the bottom line is that I always prefer to go to other people's homes because we can choose when we leave :)
  • I am a person who really enjoys personal space. I love when people come visit but don't like them staying at my house - even my parents. I feel like I want them to come hang out during the day but then I want my own space in the evening and a little time to wake up in the morning before I have to be "on". Of course, I have them stay at my house when they come but the whole time I'm wishing for my space.  :s I feel selfish but I can't help it. 

    There is really no good way to tell people you're ready for their visit to end either. My mom sometimes says she is coming to visit but never says how long she plans to stay. I can't ask when she's leaving because then I feel like it sounds like I want her leave soon (and I might  :#). 
    Also a person who enjoys personal space, like a lot. You pretty much said exactly how I feel about visitors, even my dear friends/family. Most people love hosting people at their home, but I am one of those selfish weirdo's that is just not down. Like you said I am all about visiting during the day and evening, but at night/waking up I want my home to myself. DH gets so irritated with me over this, it's one of the only things we consistently disagree on. I am glad I am not alone here, thanks for sharing!
  • I never really had or noticed any BH until this week and have had lots the past two days. It's making me think a lot about labor and while I am so ready not to be pregnant I still don't quite feel ready to be a mom. 
  • @txmamatobe Same! My house is my sanctuary...and I'm not comfortable with it being invaded very often, especially overnight.  

    Luckily, the only person who will regularly drop in for overnight visits is my SIL...so I just made a point to ask her before she comes/as soon as she arrives how long she's going to be in town. The first time I asked, she gave me a weird look and asked if I had a problem with her staying. I said no, just that I had work/plans/etc and I was trying to figure out what I could reschedule so as to spend more time with her. Then she started talking about her own plans, and it turned out that there was only one night that we could actually hang out. I kept this habit of asking about it, and now it's so ingrained that she always gives me a firm leaving date when she announces that she'll be in town, even though I'm not working anymore. 

    Not sure how that'll translate to when LO is here, though. Completely different situation...hopefully the request I made for no overnight visitors those first two weeks will be taken seriously. 
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  • @laurenmdrn16 I don't know why but a bag full of sliced apples is hilarious. I'm dying to know who ordered them. 

    @wsgjmw1 I was so done with work earlier this week, I called them said my Dr. told me to take it easy and not go in anymore. Today was supposed to be my last day, anyway. Hanging out on the couch in my pjs all week has been so, so wonderful. 
  • I'm mentally checked out of work. I'll be 37 weeks tomorrow so I can technically go on maternity leave now but I chose to work up until my c section. I am getting stuff done and it's good that I'm here to put out fires. But considering it's Friday and I'm having a c section 2 weeks from Monday, i'm not doing jack shit today at work. And it's only 9:42am. 
  • I can't stand people who can't take a hint. There are a couple of situations that just irritate me. I keep telling DH that I'm tired of dealing with all the neighbors. I can't fence in my whole yard because the way it's set up. I'll lock up my gate and instead of being able to knock on my front door they will knock on my house (and they do). Seriously, if my gate is locked and you can't enter the yard take the hint that I don't want you knocking on my house/windows at any time of day/night. Another one is a lady and her son who went to preschool with my boys LAST school year. I straight up ignore her calls and attempts to hang out. She still calls and will drive by my house to see if I'm home. They are exhausting people. She will ask if I can watch her kid and I'm not even kidding, watching her one son is harder than watching all 3 of my boys during a natural disaster. Can you tell I don't like confrontation much?
    DS #1 2010
    DS #2 2011
    DS #3 2014
    DS #4 2016
  • I can be stingy with my Love It's. I mentally called myself out Wednesday because I only clicked a Love It for board regulars. It just feels weird clicking it for those who only post on HDBD. 

    I also need to confess that after recognizing the above confession on Wednesday I made note of it in my phone so I could remember to confess it here today. I would've never remembered what I wanted to confess if I hadn't written it down. 
    Me: 31 | DH: 33
    DD: 05/14/16
    Baby #2 EDD: 12/23/19
  • @thismakes4 I hear you on the neighbors. We have neighbors behind us who are very nice to hang out with, but they just let their kid run around all the time...and often he ends up at my house wanting to play with my toddler (this kid is 6yrs older than him). I spent so much time last summer sending this kid home after he'd overstay his welcome (after showing up unannounced), annoy me, play too hard with my son, ring our doorbell a gazillion times during naptime, etc. If it happens this year when I have a toddler and a newborn, I'm just going to call his mom and tell her to set up a play date if she wants, but otherwise explain that I'm not watching her son along with mine and he needs to not bug us. I don't think I'll be able to be nice about it.
  • @thismakes4That would bother me so much! I guess my FFFC is that what you just described is one of the main reasons I am so set on finding a house in the country. I don't want a ton of neighbours, and I don't want it to be convenient for people to just drive by and see if we're home. I like my space, I like the quiet. Sometimes I like my apartment just because people don't like visiting us there.

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    Me: 30 DH: 32
    BFP #1: 9/12/2015
    DD: 6/1/2016
    BFP #2: 1/16/2018 MC 2/2/2018
  • Listening to the customer service stories make me feel so ragey. Because we are behind the counter we just have to put up with some incredible BS because we have to be "professional", yet some of the crap people have to put up with, you would NEVER put up with if you weren't behind the counter. 

    I've had a few  incredibly rude patients that I've just wanted to give a piece of my mind to, but never do because I'm a professional. Doesn't mean that I don't rant about them to a colleague later of. 
    Angel baby June 2013, DD born 22 April 2014, BFP 10 Sept 2015 - Due 22 May 2016
  • While we're on the subject my confession is that I can't stand most of my neighbors, and I hide from all of them, even the ones I don't mind.  And I'm so tired of giving money to the local high school sports teams that come around seriously every couple of weeks that I've stopped answering my door, too.  
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