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November 2016 Moms
grannysmith912
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UO Thursday, 4.14
grannysmith912
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Not sure if I'm stealing this from someone else... but I'm bored and I wanna hear some opinions. Bring 'em on!!
Re: UO Thursday, 4.14
Awesome Kid #2: Due November 2016!
Unknown pain is a terrifying thing.
(Those things being said, I'll be thrilled with however my take-home baby comes.)
Married: September 2012
Began TTC: September 2015
BFP #1: 10/12/16, EDD: 06/23/15,
(pPROM, 16 wks + emergency D&E 12/31/15)
BFP #2: 03/09/16, EDD: 11/16/16
I don't like the Walking Dead or Game of Thrones...
Also, I'm with @GreenEyedUnicorn. @lilwonder I've never done an unmedicated birth, but... just why? I had about 40 minutes of non-medicated labor before my epidural kicked in last time and it was no fun. Epidurals are the best.
What is happening in this picture? She has paid a man $240 to smear vaseline from her breastbone to her upper thighs.
Edit: more words
IUI #1 Feb 2012= DS1 born 11/2012
Unmedicated BFP (first post-weaning cycle)=DS2 born 9/2014
Unmedicated BFP (first post-weaning cycle again)= EDD 11/2016
I do not nor will I ever understand why people eat melons, much less enjoy them. Watermelon, cantaloupe, honeydew--they all taste to me like chunks of styrofoam that have been soaked in cleaning fluids for several years. Yuck, yuck, yuck.
I'm finishing up nursing my 20 month old, there are other ways to remember my time with him. Encapsulating my bodily fluids in metal to commemorate this, escapes my understanding. To each their own, I suppose.
Funny story- med free births are so uncommon at my hospital that I had a dozen or so nurses peeking in on me and following my case during labor. Several came by to say "we were so curious and we were rooting for you." Another nurse came in to say that she was now inspired to go med free during her delivery. I was amused, because a couple of generations ago, I wouldn't have been such a spectacle.
IUI #1 Feb 2012= DS1 born 11/2012
Unmedicated BFP (first post-weaning cycle)=DS2 born 9/2014
Unmedicated BFP (first post-weaning cycle again)= EDD 11/2016
No one moralizes pain relief for a broken bone or a guy dealing with a torsioned testicle. But when it comes to womens' pain, it's turned into this competition, this way of judging how good a mom she is. Women are told that they should suffer extraordinary pain because that's how women used to do it so they should want to do things the same way. Terminology like "drugging your baby" is thrown around to make women recoil from the thought of using medications. Women call themselves 'failures' for 'giving in' and requesting pain relief for quite possibly the most painful thing most human beings will ever face. (I used to be of this mentality myself.)
There are literally centuries old anthropological roots for the moralizing of childbirth pain as a way of controlling women. Since the dawn of our species women have dreaded the pain of childbirth; it's so horrible that many cultures independently came to the conclusion that the only explanation for the extreme pain was divine vengeance or the mischief of demons! That this more modern mythology has been built up around the moralizing of childbirth choices is just a rehashing of the same sort of nonsense that's been used to oppress women throughout history.
Just because childbirth is a normal physiological process doesn't make the pain any less real or any less severe. If someone WANTS to go through that pain, good for her, it's important to have choices, but it shouldn't be painted as some superwoman achievement. Women should not feel like they have to want to do things in a certain way to be good mothers.
If if you are in pain and don't want to be, you shouldn't feel like you need to force yourself to suffer because modern parenting has developed a collective martyr complex. You do you.
/end rant
Son, K, 9 | Daughter, C, 5 | Daughter, M, expected November 7, 2016
I'd love to see the look on a man's face when he's told to go pain free for a kidney stone because it's a natural thing....
IUI #1 Feb 2012= DS1 born 11/2012
Unmedicated BFP (first post-weaning cycle)=DS2 born 9/2014
Unmedicated BFP (first post-weaning cycle again)= EDD 11/2016
@muybueno yeah agreed. I have no judgement for wanting a med-free birth. I still don't understand why anyone would want do that, but I also don't understand why people would run marathons. It looks exhausting. Live and let live! To quote a wonderful ginger pilot from Firefly, "some people juggle geese!"
Married: September 2012
Began TTC: September 2015
BFP #1: 10/12/16, EDD: 06/23/15,
(pPROM, 16 wks + emergency D&E 12/31/15)
BFP #2: 03/09/16, EDD: 11/16/16
I don't mean it was like, 1 or 2 women, like there were quite a few that raved about this. I don't want to offend anyone who has done this, like I said, to each their own but it completely freaks me the fcuk out. I'd rather take a selfie of my kid nursing and cherish that. I don't need physical proof of it around my neck the rest of my life. Can you imagine my future DIL or SIL seeing this necklace and asking about it? And I'm all, "hey yeah, it's 30 year old breastmilk...."
Sweet DD born at 41 weeks Feb 2015
*Diagnosed with lean PCOS*
TWINS due 11/22/2016
Never heard of it @Kimmykins143 but of course I just went and looked it up lol. Yeah, I literally only found 1 thing I liked on the site LOL.
That's just asking for your kid to get beat up at school.
I do love bandana bibs though...
Married: September 2012
Began TTC: September 2015
BFP #1: 10/12/16, EDD: 06/23/15,
(pPROM, 16 wks + emergency D&E 12/31/15)
BFP #2: 03/09/16, EDD: 11/16/16
For all you lovelies mentioning previous birth experiences, I'm already team drugs, and I don't have a past experience to draw on. I just know I have the lowest pain tolerance of the entire human race and I already feel remorseful for the poor people who will have to deal with me prior to the happy juice.
Sweet DD born at 41 weeks Feb 2015
*Diagnosed with lean PCOS*
TWINS due 11/22/2016
@kilgravemademedoit Yaaaaassss. I have very strong feelings about the moralization of birth, breastfeeding, parenting etc. I can fully apprectiate that from the mid century until the 80s/90s there was a compete disconnect between the medical field and a woman's choice, desires and needs in child birth and rearing. But amazing women have spent a long time advocating for change and it has arrived. If you don't have the choice to breastfeed or choose a birtt plan then that is fucked. But most of us do now and it is incredibly counter productive to the original mission of bringing options, empowerment and access to women to judge a persons choice. I personally desire an unmedicated birth and to breastfeed. But that certainly doesn't not means my choice is superior. We have so many fantastic options in this day and age. It's actually quite beautiful and it makes me feel grateful.
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