I'm losing my patience with DH and his startup. I know it's really crappy to not support your partner when they are trying to make things better financially. I don't think he or his 24 year old biz partner(rolling my eyes) have the chops. Honestly, I think it's an excuse to get away. I'm at the end of my rope with this. Feeling really frustrated.
I had planned to do my long run first thing this AM to get it done and it was POURING. Not in 45 degree weather, nu-uh. So it's 10am now and I'm finally going, but I could have been done by now. UGH.
Also, my adorable cat was being a psycho, as per usual. She makes me insane. It's Monday, cat. Why can't you be like Garfield?
The cat that lives with my sister (because she refuses to say it's her cat) called 911 last weekend at 6:30 in the morning. Because they didn't answer/hear their house phone, the cops showed up at their front door and were banging on it and then were calling her fiance's cell until they answered. Turns out, the cat stepped on her mother in law's med-alert button (Her MIL is in the hospital/rehab and the cat is hers.). Definitely didn't help their relationship.
I'm so damned angry. My MW called with my lab results from last week and she thinks either my gall bladder is crapping out on me or something is up with my liver. This means I've won myself a trip to maternal fetal medicine and an ultrasound on those two organs. Worst case scenario, I can live without my gall bladder but my liver is kind of important. If I'm really "lucky" I'll get to see MFM regularly for the duration of the pregnancy and be induced at 38 weeks. Yee-fucking-haw.
We have had no water since Good Friday at our rental house. We've bought 8 gallons of drinking water and have been refilling our three 4-5 gallon containers at the hotels we've been staying at every other night since then. We don't sleep well at the hotels at all. I finally broke down and spent 2.5 hours at the laundromat today washing a bazillion loads of laundry. Cooking is a nightmare because using any dishes takes so much water to hand wash. We've switched to paper plates/bowls and plastic cups/utensils. Flushing the toilet is a huge hassle. I just want our water back on! The pump pro technician who was supposed to work on the pump last week has been sick and so nothing got done at all. I'm sorry, but if one company can't send out a technician to make a repair, you should get another company. 10 days is too long to be without water.
Don't ever post an UO on the UO board, even if you aren't being a total ignorant jerk about it and just giving an "opinion" because you will suddenly be shunned and have everyone coming at you with snarky comments. Everyone MUST think and feel exactly the same thing at all times!
Don't ever post an UO on the UO board, even if you aren't being a total ignorant jerk about it and just giving an "opinion" because you will suddenly be shunned and have everyone coming at you with snarky comments. Everyone MUST think and feel exactly the same thing at all times!
UOs aren't flame free. If you're going to post a true UO, be prepared for some backlash. If you can't take it, or don't want to, don't post a potentially controversial UO.
ETA: That's especially true if you're going to sound pretty judgmental in your post, which you did.
This whole weekend I just wanted to poop and I couldn't. And today *while I'm teaching* suddenly the cramps and diarrhea. So glad I teach college and can actually leave the room (and that today's plans happened to include built-in times for stepping out).
@emmaaa and @rozANDbenSINCE2001, my MIL, trying to commiserate after I said I'd be happy when I was a little bigger so it was obvious I'm pregnant, said "yeah, you're at that point where it's not clear if you're pregnant or just gaining weight." Thank you for trying to communicate, but ouch.
Sounding judge mental would be point blank saying "You are a horrible person if you do such and such". I repeatedly said they aren't for me and I wouldn't use one, apparently people can't read. The only people who were rude or snarky were those responding. It doesn't phase me if people do or don't agree with me, I just have this crazy belief that people should act like adults.
Regarding the dog issue, I highly recommend trying a Gentle Leader. It takes some getting used to by the pet but it is the only thing has completely solved my Lab's walking issue. She was also a big puller but it seems impossible with the Gentle Leader.
I took her to a training at our vet's office. I can tell you that I hated the trainer--but my dog is AMAZING. It is more about training the human and being consistent for sure. She also gets a lot of exercise with walks, dog beach, and doggie day care.
Sounding judge mental would be point blank saying "You are a horrible person if you do such and such". I repeatedly said they aren't for me and I wouldn't use one, apparently people can't read. The only people who were rude or snarky were those responding. It doesn't phase me if people do or don't agree with me, I just have this crazy belief that people should act like adults.
Ugh my full reply didn't post! I can manage six kids of all different ages without leashes, if you can't manage one without putting a leash on him/her then get a dog instead! And if your kid runs off all the time then teach them not to! Putting a cute animal and making it a "backpack" doesn't make it cute!
You're saying people who use leashes can't manage their children and shouldn't have them. That's really judgmental and rude. And you're making the assumption that a kid who runs has a parent who hasn't taught them not to. You don't know that. Maybe they have tried and it's not working. Maybe the child has special needs and needs a leash to keep him or her safe. And you're also humble bragging about your ability to manage children, which has me, for one saying:
I've had people disagree with me on a UO before. It's cool. It happens. Disagreeing =/= rude. Again, don't post it if you can't handle the potential backlash.
@emmaaa I can totally relate! My ten month old puppy pulls like crazy on walks. Fortunately he's only 35ish pounds, but it's so frustrating! Walking my other dog is so relaxing and enjoyable, but both of them, not so much.
We have a trainer coming in a few weeks to work with both the dogs and I'm SO EXCITED!! They are great dogs overall but there are just so many little things I have no idea how to address. I can't wait to see how the dogs respond to training.
I love that only certain things are quoted that I said even though there were a few back and forth conversations about it, where I said I can see it at a place like Disney, two year olds are crazy, etc.
I've already found that there are certain HBIC's on this board and if you don't follow along with them then it turns into a HS clique and you are on the outs if you dare go against them.
I love that only certain things are quoted that I said even though there were a few back and forth conversations about it, where I said I can see it at a place like Disney, two year olds are crazy, etc.
I've already found that there are certain HBIC's on this board and if you don't follow along with them then it turns into a HS clique and you are on the outs if you dare go against them.
I only quoted your original post because I think that's what pissed people off. I don't think you were even flamed that badly, but lots of people have had a UO not go over well (the Sea World UO a few weeks ago, for one) and they've put their big girl panties on, not bitched about it and stuck around.
Ugh. This morning, I tried to kill a nasty looking bug that was crawling on the bedroom wall. Instead of dying right away, it tracked blood across the wall. Not only do I feel like a cruel human being, my wall looks like a crime scene. REALLY hoping a magic eraser will work on the crappy builder grade paint that's still in there...
Really? Leashes? That's the hot button item? That's the thing that gets dragged into multiple threads? That seriously was like the lamest "flaming" of all time.
FFS I never thought I'd miss bitching about sub sandwiches.
I love that only certain things are quoted that I said even though there were a few back and forth conversations about it, where I said I can see it at a place like Disney, two year olds are crazy, etc.
I've already found that there are certain HBIC's on this board and if you don't follow along with them then it turns into a HS clique and you are on the outs if you dare go against them.
You are overthinking things a bit there, buddy. Your one unpopular opinion doesn't instantly make you a social leper through the means of some magical Bump conspiracy. The members who give the most support tend to get the most support. That's how online communities function. And your opinion didn't "dare go against" much of anything.
However, you are kinda doing it to yourself through continued passive aggression and calling other women bitches. Take a breather. Nobody is out to get you. I hope you can get past this soon, because this group is pretty supportive and you should not lose out by continuing to fan the flames on a disagreement that has no beneficial outcome.
@DarthFuriosa I'm not w conspiracy theorist, I am a person who doesn't like being misunderstood however. I've been a supportive member of this BM since the day I got my BFP, I've given and received the support. The second you say something nobody likes, you are very clearly on the outs, plain and simple.
@jillianpardo I'm glad you said that as I've enjoyed chatting with you on various things here. I do apologize if I offended you or anyone really, it was not my intent in any way because well I'm just not a jerk! Lol
@jillianpardo I'm glad you said that as I've enjoyed chatting with you on various things here. I do apologize if I offended you or anyone really, it was not my intent in any way because well I'm just not a jerk! Lol
Your initial response was a little hair raising but we had a dialog about it. In general, I dislike blanket statements/judgements that may or may not consider all the variables. I've said it several times: Do what works for you as a parent. I hate the mommy wars so much. Parenting is personal. I can't expect others to live and raise their family with my values. There is nothing wrong with talking about individual choices and why they would make them. I'm not going to judge someone for bf or not, CIO or cosleeping, etc. I don't need to call names or insult their parenting either. I feel that is below the belt and uncalled for.
With so many opinions and thoughts going back and forth I lose track of who said what sometimes. The really thorny comments tend to stick out. I'm sure your concessions were lost in the feed. I wouldn't sweat it. you seem like a nice lady who really doesn't like kid leashes.
Edited to add this: I missed the HBIC thing earlier. I felt like I needed to publicly claim the title and poke fun at it.
@DarthFuriosa I'm not w conspiracy theorist, I am a person who doesn't like being misunderstood however. I've been a supportive member of this BM since the day I got my BFP, I've given and received the support. The second you say something nobody likes, you are very clearly on the outs, plain and simple.
FFS, really?
Look, whenever you make blanket statements ("I will NEVER do XYZ") or say that certain people shouldn't have kids, you're demonstrating a complete lack of empathy and you're going to raise some hackles.
You did both of those things in your original statement, and you pissed some people off.
Instead of blaming other ladies for calling you out on some very poor word choices, own it, apologize, and LET IT GO. I swear, there is no "this lady is a secret crazypants" list, there is no Global Post-It Conspiracy (TM), and no one has banished you.
You made a mistake. Learn from it and move on. Everyone else has (or had, until you brought it up *again* four days later). Sheesh.
You should probably learn to scroll up as you are the only person who decided to again bring it up L adyshark311 said:
@jillianpardo I'm glad you said that as I've enjoyed chatting with you on various things here. I do apologize if I offended you or anyone really, it was not my intent in any way because well I'm just not a jerk! Lol
But hey as long as you feel better when you get to randomly come on here just to flame people.
Just wanted to thank everyone who recommended the gentle leader. DH and I bought one last night and are going to work on it. Our 100 lb lab (who thinks he is still a puppy) has a long ways to go, lol.
@FemShep I brought up the general topic again on the UO thread after getting updated on the newest comments. I like to check in everyday but my daughter turned 2 and I hadn't been on much. I think(?) @ladyshark311 was reacting to what I had to say.
Re: Monday Bitchfest 4/4
Me: 32 & DH: 37
BFP #2: 2/8/16 - EDD 10/20/16
IT'S A BOY!!!!
DS Born 10/16/16
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The cat that lives with my sister (because she refuses to say it's her cat) called 911 last weekend at 6:30 in the morning. Because they didn't answer/hear their house phone, the cops showed up at their front door and were banging on it and then were calling her fiance's cell until they answered. Turns out, the cat stepped on her mother in law's med-alert button (Her MIL is in the hospital/rehab and the cat is hers.). Definitely didn't help their relationship.
The pump pro technician who was supposed to work on the pump last week has been sick and so nothing got done at all. I'm sorry, but if one company can't send out a technician to make a repair, you should get another company. 10 days is too long to be without water.
Sorry.
ETA: That's especially true if you're going to sound pretty judgmental in your post, which you did.
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BFP #4 1/2016, DD born 10/2016
I took her to a training at our vet's office. I can tell you that I hated the trainer--but my dog is AMAZING. It is more about training the human and being consistent for sure. She also gets a lot of exercise with walks, dog beach, and doggie day care.
You're saying people who use leashes can't manage their children and shouldn't have them. That's really judgmental and rude. And you're making the assumption that a kid who runs has a parent who hasn't taught them not to. You don't know that. Maybe they have tried and it's not working. Maybe the child has special needs and needs a leash to keep him or her safe. And you're also humble bragging about your ability to manage children, which has me, for one saying:
I've had people disagree with me on a UO before. It's cool. It happens. Disagreeing =/= rude. Again, don't post it if you can't handle the potential backlash.
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BFP #4 1/2016, DD born 10/2016
TTC #1 - Nov '14
DS born 10/18
We have a trainer coming in a few weeks to work with both the dogs and I'm SO EXCITED!! They are great dogs overall but there are just so many little things I have no idea how to address. I can't wait to see how the dogs respond to training.
It's a boy!
I've already found that there are certain HBIC's on this board and if you don't follow along with them then it turns into a HS clique and you are on the outs if you dare go against them.
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BFP #4 1/2016, DD born 10/2016
FFS I never thought I'd miss bitching about sub sandwiches.
However, you are kinda doing it to yourself through continued passive aggression and calling other women bitches. Take a breather. Nobody is out to get you. I hope you can get past this soon, because this group is pretty supportive and you should not lose out by continuing to fan the flames on a disagreement that has no beneficial outcome.
All the best.
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With so many opinions and thoughts going back and forth I lose track of who said what sometimes. The really thorny comments tend to stick out. I'm sure your concessions were lost in the feed. I wouldn't sweat it. you seem like a nice lady who really doesn't like kid leashes.
Edited to add this:
I missed the HBIC thing earlier. I felt like I needed to publicly claim the title and poke fun at it.
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Look, whenever you make blanket statements ("I will NEVER do XYZ") or say that certain people shouldn't have kids, you're demonstrating a complete lack of empathy and you're going to raise some hackles.
You did both of those things in your original statement, and you pissed some people off.
Instead of blaming other ladies for calling you out on some very poor word choices, own it, apologize, and LET IT GO. I swear, there is no "this lady is a secret crazypants" list, there is no Global Post-It Conspiracy (TM), and no one has banished you.
You made a mistake. Learn from it and move on. Everyone else has (or had, until you brought it up *again* four days later). Sheesh.
There are so many people that don't contribute to threads but come on just to yell at people.
In completely unrelated news, I'm going to bitch about the number of amazing #eyeroll gifs out there. It's so hard to choose!!!!!
Dating: 10/3/08 | Married: 12/27/14
TTC #1: August 2015 | BFP: 2/3/16 | EDD: 10/7/16
DD: 10/5/16
TTC #2: September 2017 | BFP: 4/28/18 | EDD: 1/7/19
DS: 1/9/19
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