Monday Bitchfest

mrsdaddario · April 2016

@linzrunz Girl I literally read that and said "Oh my god!" out loud. She sounds absolutely bat shit crazy. I thought my MIL was bad, but I'll take her passive aggressive underhanded badgering ANY DAY over a physical slap in the face. Did you imagine drop kicking her in the throat? I'm so sorry that happened! And in front of your kids nonetheless. That's crazy.

@lcsrva I really hope your luggage turns up! That is such epic bullshit!

@nwegman7878 You cannot catch a break can you?! I haven't investigated what you all are talking about (I will ASAP as now I'm curious) but damn, I hope you get that break soon because you deserve it!

linzrunz · April 2016

@sarah0985 @NamelessAria @Lecool @Dilynne Thank you for the support. I have had many disagreements with my MIL, but this HAS to take the cake. Not sure she can come back from this. I got a half-assed apology right after it happened but it sounded more like a "I didn't mean to slap you but you deserved it" kind of apology. How do you not mean to slap someone?? I'm still so mad I'm trying not to cry at work.

Neikoda · April 2016

mrsdaddario.Thanks. Today has been a hell of a day.

linzrunz · April 2016

@mrsdaddaio I totally imagined lots of things after I got home. None of them good but would have made me feel better. I will be avoiding her like the plague for a long time.

cjt121413 · April 2016

@linzrunz Wow! That's crazy! Good for you for not punching her in the face.

@lcsrva OMG I'm SO sorry that happened to you. I hope the airline makes it right.

@nwegman7878 WTF is up with that? A warning for nothing? Come on, BGs!

@BerkeBaby @NamelessAria @thj101 I'm another member of Team Hoarder Husband. It drives me so crazy....I have to really work on picking my battles because I need neatness to be calm and happy. We have a guest room that basically functions as DH's crap room. You can barely see the floor. Last week I organized a kitchen cabinet where he keeps his vitamins. He's always complaining that nothing fits in there, insinuating that it's somehow my doing. So, in addition to a ton of ridiculous random stuff, I found probably a year's worth of JUNK mail. Think credit card offers, coupons, "To so and so or current resident" type of junk mail. I'm always asking him not to leave that stuff on the counters so he just decided to file it all away for later use.

My MBF is my job. I try not to complain about it because I love what I do, but my boss is an extreme workaholic and it's hard not to be stressed out about it. He calls and emails late into the evening and on weekends without fail. It's exhausting.

canonmom413 · April 2016

I'm feeling shitty. Scratchy throat, chest congestion, headaches, sneezing , post nasal drip. Feeling sexy AF. Just kidding. Hot mess over here.

On another note, I just got my car washed because the crazy winds and rain Saturday night messed my new car up pretty bad. Tree and petal debri dried into it. Had to get it pretty again, just in time for the rain.

I keep analyzing my cycles too. Keep thinking maybe I didnt O when originally predicted. Flip flopping trying to figure out what's going on. Between psyching myself out thinking this months another dud, to maybe it's still too early. Trying to make every possibility make sense. Told you , Hot Mess Express.

Edited: mobile bumping sucks.

Liss_37 · April 2016

@linzrunz omg that is crazy!! are you okay?? talk about a relationship breaker for you and your mil

Aurora1973 · April 2016

@ladystinson, thought you'd like to know it's doing the same to me...the last post on this thread is just someone's signature with that gif, and it says unknown member. When I click on that, it takes me to my profile.

ladystinson · April 2016

@Aurora1973 good to know. the BG's are having some issues today. thanks for the info

canonmom413 · April 2016

@linzrunz omg! I hope you're okay! That is super scary for anyone let alone a child to see/hear. I'd be completely done with her now. Not answer any call any text. No amount of an apology is going to suffice. Whose to say if it werent you being slapped, it could have been your Child!

breaks my heart.

KristoKekerooni · April 2016

sarah0985 said:

Tw. Pregnancy. Not mine.

My best friend at work got pregnant in February and I've known since then and been super happy for her. She had been off bcp for quite awhile. She announced at work today and after everyone congratulated her; they pretty much all turned to me and were like "what about you?" (It's 100% normal in their culture. You get married to have babies so I Semi-understand but it doesn't make it any easier) what doesn't make it easier is tomorrow marks one month before it's been one year. I'm having a hard time anyway and then add 20 women asking why I'm not pregnant. I wanted to scream IM TRYING!

**TW**
Ohhh I hate that. I've had people say that a million times and at first I was nice and laughed it off. Now I am brutally honest.
"Oh, you want to know why I don't have kids yet? You think it's because I don't like kids? Well actually I want a kid more than I want to breathe sometimes. My hubby and I have been trying for a year and a half, and congratulations to us, we've been pregnant! 3 times! Yet unfortunately we have had 3 miscarriages and have been told it will cost several (several!) thousand dollars for even a slight possibility for us to have children. Which may or may not work. But don't worry, if you're this interested in my reproduction, I'll be sure to inform you every step of the way!"
People get really uncomfortable, but they learn it's a pretty rude thing to ask.

picklesplease · April 2016

@linzrunz - You are a far better person than I am. If someone slapped me, I'd slap them right back and probably start a full-on fight.
I agree with the other people: 1) You do not touch me without my permission and 2) you especially do not do so in front of children.
If it were me, she would lose any and all privileges to be around me or my children. I'm sorry that happened to you, but good on you and your DH for both of your responses!

ChaoticWolf · April 2016

@linzrunz you must be my sister because we have the same MIL. I'm so sorry you have to deal with the crazy.

Also, @BerkeBaby @thj101 @NamelessAria @cjt121413 I am your husband. I'm sorry, I have a problem.

However I've noticed that a lot of my problem stems from my DH never doing his one and only chore of taking out the garbage. Things I'd otherwise throw away tend to pile up in other places when the garbage can is full. I do the dishes, the laundry, make his lunches for work, take care of the dogs and constantly whip out the garbage bags to go through the fast food bags he leaves laying around, but he can't take out the garbage...

At least I only hoard working material things and not trash?

KristoKekerooni · April 2016

My Monday BF (I don't know if this really applies, but...)-
I went home for lunch so I could let the pups in for a bit and check on them. I checked the mail. I received 3 Babies R Us Magazines and a package. The package turned out to be from Babies R Us and was 4 containers of formula. I don't have a baby. I do not have a Babies R Us account. I haven't even been to Babies R Us in several years because I actively avoid it. It isn't the previous resident's mail, because it has my name on it. Seriously? I cried (of course). I know it's expensive, so I hate to toss it so I asked around looking for someone who wants it. Last thing I wanted to see.

Image: https://media.giphy.com/media/AijFPBjodgely/giphy.gif

picklesplease · April 2016

Okay...I have to add one more thing. It's totally a first world problem, but it's irritating me.
My second MBF is that there's a teacher in my building who "handles" our recycling program. I've been a part of another school that also has a recycling program but this stupid woman here cannot handle it at all. It's completely disorganized and she never tells us when the kids are coming around to collect. It's ridiculous. She pulled this whole, "the kids won't knock on your doors to collect your recycling because I don't want them to interrupt your class," but the kids NEVER collect our recycling, so now mine is overflowing in my room. I don't want that crap in my room when I have subs. It makes it look like I don't take care of my classroom. I've emailed her numerous times but she never responds. The only way I can get a response is if I email her supervisor and her at the same time. It's annoying. Whenever she finally does email us to let us know the kids are coming around, it's in the middle of class and I never get those emails because I'm...you know...doing my freaking job! Ugh...okay...I'm done. Sorry...

Steelerfan78 · April 2016

@MommyForTheFirstTime - OMG! That just happened to me last week. And of course I cried as well. Totally feel your pain with that, and sorry you are dealing it. It makes for a really tough TTC day!

sammajane19 · April 2016

@linzrunz i feel like i don't have much to bitch about today after reading your story! i'm glad DH stood up for you though. i hope you feel better and i hope that crazy lady gives you a REAL apology.

my bitchfest is that i overslept this morning and woke up about an hour later than normal. i had to fly out of bed and jump in the shower and be on my way in like 30 minutes (a feat for me! normally i take over an hour to get ready in the mornings.) anyway, i've been tired and "off" all day because of it. waking up like that is just a bad way to start the day. i never quite catch up. plus. it's monday.

plus, on the bright side, i had my first RE appt. today, where i was *officially* diagnosed with PCOS and given Femera, to start TODAY. also, it just dawned me on that i'll have to inject the Ovidrel shot (to trigger the egg release) myself?! aahh!! whatttt. i'm not good with needles. i'll have to talk my DH into doing it. i keep reminding myself that hey, i want a baby right? this is just part of the territory. i can't bitch and whine about not getting pregnant and then bitch and whine about the fertility treatments, even if they are uncomfortable.

KristoKekerooni · April 2016

Can I add a second MBF? I hate that I have to deal with outside people at my job. I work in the chemical field- research and development. Part of my job is to answer analytical questions from people who buy our APIs. I hate when people tell their customer service to ask me the question instead of the researcher asking me. The customer service rep is normally not analytically & chemically trained so they don't understand the question they are asking and they certainly don't understand the answer. If I just spoke to the researcher I can explain it much easier than having to go through other people who aren't informed! It takes a week to explain the simple concept of "duh! you forgot to XXX, so of course it's gonna XXX" Come on people. If you can't ask the question yourself, hire someone that has a background in chemistry.

picklesplease · April 2016

@sammajane19 - So sorry to hear about the PCOS dx, but it sounds like your RE is being pretty active in helping you out.

GL with the shots, I don't know if I would be able to do it. If I end up having to give myself a shot after my appointment with the RE, I may have to ask you for tips.

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virginiaham · April 2016

@lcsrva not that you mentioned a specific airline (but I lived in Italy for a few years and I'd play the "bash on Alitalia" game, just sayin), but whoever it was I hope your luggage finds its way home safely and intact. That's so frustrating.

@linzrunz I am so sorry you were physically assaulted for preventing her from possibly physically assaulting your child. I wanted to cry reading that and ETA I completely understand you keeping your distance. There is serious abuse in part of my family that comes out exactly the way it did in your MIL ("well-deserved" discipline goes too far and don't tell them they are wrong) and it breaks my heart to know my young little relatives live with that every day. They want to visit me this year and I'm seriously considering offering to take the kids while the parents stay elsewhere.

furbabymom2007 · April 2016

I was going to bitch about wedding dress shopping for my sister this weekend... Because it was crazy full of drama...

TW.... Dog death talked about in detail.

But it I just got a text from my sister (the self centered one getting married) about the puppy she just got. (Because she needs an expensive puppy (from a breeder no less) when she is planning a wedding and already had a 70 lb dog with no manners and two cats in a tiny condo)

Anyways, she named the puppy Mattie.

Almost a year ago I lost a beloved dog named Maggie. I can talk about her without crying now but I still can't think about her actual death without crying. I wake every now and again in tears with nightmares about how she suffocated to death on my lap in the car on the way to the vet to give her the shot to put her to sleep. We'd been at the vets earlier that morning and had had no indication that her airway was that compromised by the tumor so we went home to make the decision. After we made the decision we drove to the vets. About 2 minutes from the turn in to the office she started choking. I am screaming at my husband to drive faster. He peels into the parking lot and I leap out of the car and sprint inside holding Maggie out begging them to help her get some air. They took her back and put us in a room. Then they bring her in wrapped in a blanket and tell me she was gone when I brought her in. It took me about 6 months before I even felt remotely like myself again. My marriage took a hit, as did my work and my health. Only in the last 6 months have I felt normal again.

And the fucking little twat names her new puppy Mattie (after some Olympic lifter who is her new idol of the month) without a thought.

Wasnt planning to go into the detail, but it feels good to vent

virginiaham · April 2016

@furbabymom2007 love tit=*hugs*

sammajane19 · April 2016

BerkeBaby ha thanks, it's OK though, my OB (though she never gave me an official diagnoses) more or less said i had PCOS. my RE said some doctors don't like to slap a label onto it, but i think label's help (in this case anyway.)

and yeah, my RE never even mentioned that i'd have to give myself this shot, but he did say it was something i'd have to pick up. i didn't put 2 and 2 together until i got back to my office and read their directions. yikes! good luck with your RE, too, though. if you haven't already, i hope you get started on the right path/treatments for you!

MonaLisaRalphio · April 2016

@virginiaham @cjt121413 @mrsdaddario @Lecool @thj101 @sarah0985 MY BAGS ARE HERE!!! I just basically got to the point where I started making phone calls until someone would tell me something. Finally I reached a sweet woman at the regular lost and found (like, I lost my wallet at the airport, did someone turn it in?) and she was like "weeeeeellllllll here's the only number I'm supposed to give you..." and I was like "does that mean there's another number you're NOT supposed to give me?" and she said, "you didn't hear this from me." And then she proceeded to give me allllllllll of the phone numbers for the actual baggage handlers at the actual airports. So then I just started calling them. And it turns out that my bags just came into my local airport! I'm on my way to pick them up right now!

As to their condition (and the condition of the wine inside...), I can't say yet. But they're motherf'ing here. Updates on the condition of the wine later. Thanks for being so sweet, yall.

For the record, @virginiaham, this was Lufthansa, operated by Air Dolomiti. I would LOVE to hear Alitalia stories, because I have heard nothing but drama about them thus far.

PepperAT · April 2016

@linzrunz omg!!! I can't believe that happened to you! I have never been slapped by anyone, so I can only imagine how you feel. Thank goodness your H was there.

Lol @ladystinson and @Sparty18 I'm still here. Don't know why that happened! Is it fixed now? I'm on mobile now.

ladystinson · April 2016

@PepperAT it is fixed now and ironically you are the last post (until now lol)

Sparty18 · April 2016

@PepperAT Fixed! I think you have special bump powers.

PepperAT · April 2016

@furbabymom2007 I am so very sorry that you had to experience that. Hugs to you. That was very insensitive of your sister to do that. I was tearing up while reading that. Vent away anytime you need!

@Sparty18 lol I don't know about that. When I open my app it shows I'm an unknown member

it just doesn't want to recognize me today. Maybe I almost crashed the bump! Sorry about that haha

linzrunz · April 2016

Thank you to everyone who offered support today. You ladies are awesome. I'm doing better now. Physically, I am fine. Emotionally, still having a hard time but I'll be ok. I talked to my older brother today and that always makes me feel better. DH and I talked more at lunch and we will be distancing ourselves from her for a while. Eventually we will need to hash it out, but for now I've got the support I need.

@PaukMeKiande If your MIL is as bad as mine, I am so sorry!!!

@sammajane19 My MBF certainly does not cancel out yours. You b*tch away as much as you need to. I'm sorry about your PCOS dx. I would be nervous about the needles too! But you've got this!

PennStateCait · April 2016

@linzrunz HOLY shiiiiiiiiiiit! I can't believe your MIL slapped you. I can't believe she got physical with your son. I can't believe she slapped you IN FRONT of your son. I would not ever be returning to her house if it were me. JEEZUS.

@lcsrva I'm really glad you got your bags!! I hope everything is in okay condition.

mrsdaddario · April 2016

@sammajane19 @BerkeBaby

Keeping this in mind when I eventually see an RE myself! After the ultrasound Thursday with the OB, I'm going to ask what her game plan is and then ask for a referral to an RE. Side note, I've mentioned this a few times on TB so far but I have MS, and my medication (that I am off for TTC) was a daily injectable for the first two years and then the pharmacy gods developed a three-day a week dose of it that I took up until September when we decided to start trying. I'm not sure how you have to "shoot yourself" with the meds your talking about, but all I'll say is it's mind over matter! Once I stopped giving myself anxiety about it, and just did it, all was well lol.

@lcsrva YAY!!!!!

stardust317 · April 2016

@furbabymom2007 I'm so sorry you had that experience.

@linzrunz I feel like I probably would have slapped her back.

linzrunz · April 2016

@PennStateCait Those were pretty much the exact words that went through my head.

@stardust317 I wanted to so bad. Still do.

wintersong · April 2016

thj101 said:

My MBF is consistently coming home to a cluttered house. DH is a pack rat, and I am not. If I have not worn, used or even thought about it in 6 months, I'm going to get rid of it. Our house is embarrassingly cluttered, mainly because we are in the process of constructing a walk in closet, and our mud room is our temporary closet. I try very hard to be patient with DH about this, but some days I just want to sit in the floor and cry because our house is so messy and there's nothing we can do. Prior to moving in with DH, I kept a very neat place. Not only neat, but clean. And because he just can't part with stuff, we have to live in what feels like hoarders paradise to me. I'm so over it.

QBF

Why arein you in my head right now? This is exactly me and my husband. The other day he literally sad to me that we just need to accept that we are "not clean people." Wut. "We" are not anything. If it were up to me, all the mail would be sorted and thrown away and not piled up on every available surface! A box full of bottle caps for ber bottles that you don't want to throw away because you might want them for "something" would not be taking up space on the counter. I would not have come home from the church silent auction with THREE BOXES full of other people's junk. Sigh. He literally has a piece of dirt that he will not throw away. Because it is dirt from Israel. Israeli dirt, so, sentimental, obviously. He even kept our sons umbilical cord stub. Yes, the scab that once covered his umbilical cord. I could go on. He just attaches all this weird sentiment to things, even things that are essentially worthless like bottle caps.

No I feel better. That was cathartic!

wintersong · April 2016

linzrunz said:

.DS#2 came up to me right before bed last night and said “Mommy, I’m really super sad that you got slapped.” Broke my heart. I still can’t believe she did that. And my face still stings this morning.

Please feel free to ignore this if it is too raw to discuss. I would love to learn from your wisdom about this because of similar concerns about family members. How did you explain the event to your son? How would you have approached it if he was a toddler?

On a side note, your sins reacting is so beautiful. Sad that he had to see it, but nice that he is empathizing with you and realzing that putting your hands on someone that way makes people feel bad. He seems like a sweetheart. I also love how your husband stood up for you. Even after years it is still hard for my husband to stand up to his mom, and she is a super sweet lady with just minor boundary crossing times.

Lecool · April 2016

@lcsrva So glad you got your bags! I hope everything is in good condition and your wine is okay!

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