I'm going back to visit my family next week and I told DH I would go visit his family this time (I didn't see them last time because my trip was only a few days). He's not coming with me so I have to deal with them alone. SIL ended up getting bed bugs in her house a few weeks ago (I'm surprised it took this long for them to get them... They're dirty people) and a few were found in MIL's house. They had their houses professionally treated, but thankfully they aren't being really dumb about it and said lets meet somewhere besides the houses. That's not what annoyed me. DH said, "Go to dinner, but you probably want to go somewhere close to Mom's place. If you go somewhere further than Newport (about 5 mins from her place), you will probably have to pick her up and take her there and back." Um no... She's a grown ass woman who can drive herself. Everyone always picks her up and chaufers her around but I refuse to. We did that at Christmas and it pissed me off! Especially because DD was a newborn and we were driving out of our way. Looks like we will be eating in Newport!
Ugh now it's my mom who is making me insane! My parents live about an hour flight away, and my mom has been trying to come visit once a month or so. This last time she was here she kept making comments like "you need a better bra" (ummm it's a nursing bra and my boobs are huge, it's hard to find ones that fit properly, give me a break) and then I was leaning over the changing table kissing my daughter and she made a comment about "the view" (my butt).... I really don't think she knows how much these little digs about my body are killing me. I'm heavy to begin with, and my body still seems so foreign after having DD, and her comments just really hurt me so badly. I'm already so insecure about my body, and these comments coming from her make it even worse. If I say anything though she'll get so defensive and basically blame me for being too sensitive, so it's not even worth the fight to tell her how much it hurt my feelings.
My FIL said are you sure you're not pregnant again? And told me I needed to do situps. It really bothered me but I didn't say anything either. I mean, obviously that's rude...I didn't know what to say without making it into a huge deal
I sent my MIL flowers, a really thoughtful gift, and several cards for Mother's Day... On the card for the flowers I added my BIL's name, since I knew he wouldn't get her anything. Today my husband asks me if I got the thank you text from his mom.... NOPE. He looked again and it's because she only sent it to him and my BIL! It was all "I love you guys so much, you spoil me, thank you for everything.".... Seriously? I'm 100% positive she knows I sent it all, and she couldn't even include me in a group text to say thank you?
I sent my MIL flowers, a really thoughtful gift, and several cards for Mother's Day... On the card for the flowers I added my BIL's name, since I knew he wouldn't get her anything. Today my husband asks me if I got the thank you text from his mom.... NOPE. He looked again and it's because she only sent it to him and my BIL! It was all "I love you guys so much, you spoil me, thank you for everything.".... Seriously? I'm 100% positive she knows I sent it all, and she couldn't even include me in a group text to say thank you?
This is me every holiday. I send my mil stuff, and my husbands grandmother stuff, and yet they only thank him, wtf is up with that? They KNOW my husband didn't wrestle a baby to make a home made hand print project for them. But I get zero thanks.
I sent my MIL flowers, a really thoughtful gift, and several cards for Mother's Day... On the card for the flowers I added my BIL's name, since I knew he wouldn't get her anything. Today my husband asks me if I got the thank you text from his mom.... NOPE. He looked again and it's because she only sent it to him and my BIL! It was all "I love you guys so much, you spoil me, thank you for everything.".... Seriously? I'm 100% positive she knows I sent it all, and she couldn't even include me in a group text to say thank you?
This is me every holiday. I send my mil stuff, and my husbands grandmother stuff, and yet they only thank him, wtf is up with that? They KNOW my husband didn't wrestle a baby to make a home made hand print project for them. But I get zero thanks.
I wouldn't be in charge of sending them anything ever again. If your DH wants his mom and grandma to have Mother's Day gifts, then he'd be in charge of sending them. So when he forgets, he can have his mom and grandma yell at him for forgetting. Maybe he'd then appreciate what you do and let them know that you are the one who did all the work, or start actually doing it himself.
I sent my MIL flowers, a really thoughtful gift, and several cards for Mother's Day... On the card for the flowers I added my BIL's name, since I knew he wouldn't get her anything. Today my husband asks me if I got the thank you text from his mom.... NOPE. He looked again and it's because she only sent it to him and my BIL! It was all "I love you guys so much, you spoil me, thank you for everything.".... Seriously? I'm 100% positive she knows I sent it all, and she couldn't even include me in a group text to say thank you?
This is me every holiday. I send my mil stuff, and my husbands grandmother stuff, and yet they only thank him, wtf is up with that? They KNOW my husband didn't wrestle a baby to make a home made hand print project for them. But I get zero thanks.
I wouldn't be in charge of sending them anything ever again. If your DH wants his mom and grandma to have Mother's Day gifts, then he'd be in charge of sending them. So when he forgets, he can have his mom and grandma yell at him for forgetting. Maybe he'd then appreciate what you do and let them know that you are the one who did all the work, or start actually doing it himself.
I decided today that this was my last time doing that. After getting zero thank you's, and his mother didn't get me a single thing. BUT, she bought HERSELF a jewelry set in my daughters birth stone....yea. Then of course showed it off to me. I didn't really know how to respond to that. So from now on, they are DHs problem.
I sent my MIL flowers, a really thoughtful gift, and several cards for Mother's Day... On the card for the flowers I added my BIL's name, since I knew he wouldn't get her anything. Today my husband asks me if I got the thank you text from his mom.... NOPE. He looked again and it's because she only sent it to him and my BIL! It was all "I love you guys so much, you spoil me, thank you for everything.".... Seriously? I'm 100% positive she knows I sent it all, and she couldn't even include me in a group text to say thank you?
This is me every holiday. I send my mil stuff, and my husbands grandmother stuff, and yet they only thank him, wtf is up with that? They KNOW my husband didn't wrestle a baby to make a home made hand print project for them. But I get zero thanks.
I wouldn't be in charge of sending them anything ever again. If your DH wants his mom and grandma to have Mother's Day gifts, then he'd be in charge of sending them. So when he forgets, he can have his mom and grandma yell at him for forgetting. Maybe he'd then appreciate what you do and let them know that you are the one who did all the work, or start actually doing it himself.
I decided today that this was my last time doing that. After getting zero thank you's, and his mother didn't get me a single thing. BUT, she bought HERSELF a jewelry set in my daughters birth stone....yea. Then of course showed it off to me. I didn't really know how to respond to that. So from now on, they are DHs problem.
My in-laws are terrific so I shouldn't complain, but I occasionally get texts from my MIL that say things like, "the TV said wireless internet is bad for babies." I appreciate her trying to inform me, but what am I supposed to do, dig a cave underground to avoid the Internet?
My in-laws are terrific so I shouldn't complain, but I occasionally get texts from my MIL that say things like, "the TV said wireless internet is bad for babies." I appreciate her trying to inform me, but what am I supposed to do, dig a cave underground to avoid the Internet?
Just found out my MIL is quitting her job "because she isn't getting enough time to see her grand baby".... They live 3 hours away. I'm currently so anxious because I feel like they're going to want to visit every single weekend now.
Just found out my MIL is quitting her job "because she isn't getting enough time to see her grand baby".... They live 3 hours away. I'm currently so anxious because I feel like they're going to want to visit every single weekend now.
That's a bit crazy, my MIL is retired and literally wants to get together weekly. I shot that shit down and usually just don't answer her texts lol. I told DH we see them too often and I need some space. DH and I usually only get 2 days a week off to get stuff done so if we have to spend one day with them every weekend it leaves us no time for house chores, fun activities etc.
I'm on VACATION with my inlaws. My MIL and I are surprisingly getting along. It's my SFIL who is gonna drive me up the wall. He has anxiety and uses this as an excuse to act completely out of control sometimes. I have anxiety too, there's a difference between anxiety and controlling. Whenever he has an opinion with baby I just walk away. No time for that.
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Whenever he has an opinion with baby I just walk away. No time for that.