Good for you @MojieJo! DH and I went to Babies R Us for the first time together today. We spent 2 hours just soaking it all in and really focused on cribs, dressers and gliders/ottomans. I am a little jealous you already picked yours out and have an order ready! We are going to need some time to figure out exactly what we want. It was all a little bit overwhelming!
Married: 3/21/15 First time mom to a human but have been a puppy mamma for over 12 years
@SarahNH1I feel the same way about being more tired on the weekends. I had to really force myself to not stay on the couch all day like I have most weekends for the past month or so.
Married: 3/21/15 First time mom to a human but have been a puppy mamma for over 12 years
@PSUBecky23 I so wish I could hire someone but its just not in the budget. My husband is not good at doing details like trim work so I've had to get on it before I'm too big to do it.
Andddd the lesbian/threesome dreams are happening to me all of a sudden. I'm not sure if it was this thread that triggered it but I woke up in a pool of sweat and really confused. Thanks hormones.
@blondie080300 Thanks! We originally had a different set picked out, but ended up with one that had been on our short list when we first made our registry once we saw it in person. It just seemed so much sturdier, nicer looking and better for "growing into" (it looks like it would make a good big boy/girl bed instead of being quite so baby-ish once they're ready to transition into it being a toddler bed and then twin size, if we don't get bunk beds) than the previous choice.
This is the crib we ended up with:
It's actually a dark charcoal/slate grey in person, even though it looks sort of brown here. The bottom has a slide-out drawer and it's made from solid poplar instead of pressed particle board or cheap wood.
We got the matching dresser and then a glider/ottoman set with charcoal grey cushions and white wood. I preferred the look of some of the other gliders and it's not a perfect match by any means, but the one we got was the most comfortable for me since I'm too long-torsoed to be able to lean back in most of the ones I've found (there's nothing behind my head and it hurts after a little while of trying to relax). Plus, DH wouldn't had the same problem, being taller than me, although he can relax/sleep anywhere and doesn't seem to mind having his neck bent backwards.
We also got a changing topper for the dresser. We got 15% off all the furniture and 2% in cashback (1% through Ebates and 1% on the credit card), which was nice, but it was still quite pricey. Thankfully my parents paid for everything (because they're awesome like that). They've been incredibly generous and I'm so grateful for that.
I have been looking forward to getting a quesadilla burger from Applebee's for awhile now, finally got one today and after about 3 bites I was full! Normally I want to eat all the food all the time!!
Ugh guys, I had a serious break down yesterday. We took some photos to make a Facebook announcement, and when I was looking through them afterward I just lost it. I felt like I looked huge, I just immediately became so self conscious, started crying, and wanted to delete them all. DH and the friend who took them were great and really supportive of course, and once I calmed down and looked through them more, I realized that there were a couple good ones. I don't know why that hit me like that yesterday!
It's not like I haven't seen myself -- we've been taking weekly pictures and most of my clothes still fit, and I know exactly how much weight I've gained (not too much yet), so I know logically I'm not "huge", but in that moment I just couldn't see that. I'm feeling ok now, and I'm sure once we announce I'll feel better since I won't be so paranoid about everyone thinking I'm just gaining weight, but still. Hormones, man! They've turned me into a crazy lady.
@VeraMali same here on having to do the trim. Husband is good with a roller but not patient enough for detail work. We have a first coat up on a couple of walls. So excited!! Also... I love painting
@Slou24 been there. Just Put on leggings and a tunic and felt gross so back to yoga pants and a hoodie. I'm in the obnoxious never lending blump phases. Regularl clothes still fit but are getting tight and maternity clothes are too big.
@SLou24 had that moment yesterday too. We were cleaning out the nursery which we had filled up with boxes when we moved a few months ago. I had a huge box of clothes that haven't fit for some time that I'd been relentlessly saving for "when I go back to that weight" but DH made me realize I needed to make room for baby, so we couldn't keep it. Going through all the clothes was terrible, especially with DH saying how he remembered each item, etc. I used to be a gym rat and runner and had to give it up due to the onset of a metabolic condition that affects ny muscles and I put on a lot of weight after. I sobbed for a long time after donating the clothes and again when I saw myself in the mirror with my belly and felt that I looked huge and just keep getting bigger. I felt embarrassed leaving the house yesterday!
Girls, I also cried a little yesterday because I felt like I just swelled up overnight. My clothes aren't fitting so great and I have gained more weight then I would like initially. I told my DH I feared everyone would judge me, that he would judge me but more importantly, I really wanted to stop just judging myself. He was great and just reassured me that it was all in my head and that he loves me, finds me gorgeous, etc. Then I snapped out of it. Thankfully. But it did not feel good. I feel for all of you going through this! I just encourage you to remember that you truly are beautiful and we are growing our children inside of us right now which makes us even more beautiful!
Married: 3/21/15 First time mom to a human but have been a puppy mamma for over 12 years
@MojieJo the crib is beautiful! And that is great that your parents are helping and are so generous! It is wonderful to see you surrounded by so much love and support.
Married: 3/21/15 First time mom to a human but have been a puppy mamma for over 12 years
@blondie080300 Thank you! My parents are amazing. They've taken so much strain off of us (me in particular since I have an anxiety disorder and worry a lot).
Dear friends struggling with body image, You are beautiful. There is a miracle happening inside you. Your body may seem like it is betraying you, but it is doing what it needs to do. Paint your toes, slap on some makeup (or whatever makes you feel pretty) and make your hubby take you out for a milkshake! You are working so hard and you deserve a treat! XOXO
Totally agree with the other ladies pregnancy is HARD on our bodies, and sometimes it feels like you don't even recognize yourself. I felt that way with my last pregnancy and I'm sure I will with this one too. Gaining weight sucks not matter how wonderful of a reason. I pretty much avoided all photos during my last pregnancy because everytime I saw one I just wanted to cry. I have a few from my baby shower and a few from other random times, but hardly any at all. I know some people love to document every phase of their pregnancy, but I just wasn't one of those people and that's ok! I love my body for the amazing and healthy baby it grew for me, but that doesn't mean I have to go back and look at pictures about how great it was If you think your body looks awkward and weird that's totally normal and you don't have to love it. Last time I was mad at myself that I wasn't just totally rocking the bump and feeling fabulous. This time I'm allowing myself to not enjoy it if I don't want to. It's an awkward time and I know my body will be familiar again someday, even if it's not for the next 9-12 months! sending you ladies some love and letting you know it's okay to not feel like a pregnancy goddess
So today I decided I really don't want a baby shower. I am introverted and don't have many friends and I just don't feel comfortable having one. The idea of spending tons of time and effort just to get a couple gifts is not worth it to me. My mom wants to do one with all of her friends which is fine I guess. We were going to have a real one but the only location that really worked is my house (Mom lives about 45min-1hr away) which mean I would be responsible for so much of it. No one really has stepped up and asked me, I am not close with SIL or my step-mom so I just don't see that happening.
I actually feel relieved!
Me: 32 DH: 31
TTC #2 since January 2018
Baby #1 DD Born 8/25/2016 BFP: 8/11/18 Due: 4/26/18
I'm with you all. I felt great last weekend then literally went up 5 more pounds overnight and those pounds have stuck around all week. I'm ok with how I look but the numbers are going up so much quick than I'd like. Hoping to get some good cardio in this week to slow the gain and more importantly get some endorphins pumping!!
Agree with everyone saying that don't be so hard on ourselves! I think the beginning of the second trimester is when I keep seeing buzzwords like "entering a time of tremendous growth" on the pregnancy apps! Everyone's weight distributes differently and it's hard to keep a perspective of it being a good thing for the baby when we feel poorly about not fitting into clothes or looking a certain way. Just think, This too shall pass! But for now, grow, babies, grow!
I LOVE how I feel when pregnant. I feel like I want to show off my bump, etc and generally feel great about it all
UNTIL I see a photo. then I have cognitive dissonance and can't put together how I *feel* with how the photo *looks.*.
I'm working on trying to get past it and take photos because I know I loved seeing pictures of my mom when she was pregnant with me and I want my kids to have those too. But boy. It is a mind-eff sometimes.
Feel you all on the body image issues. I have this weird "wavy" belly going on where I have upper belly pooch, then lower belly pooch (baby), but in between the two pooches my waistline dips in. Hate it. Want uterus to move up already.
*************************************** FORMER USERNAME:@runningisrad
When I actually look pregnant, i rock it and am proud of what my body is doing. When I spend 4-5 months looking like I've eaten too many cheeseburgers, despite being healthy and active, I feel bad about myself. Pregnancy is hard.
I am so excited right now. I am about to take the first bath in my own bathtub since BIL started living here 15 months ago. Oh bathtub how I have missed you!
Me: 32 DH: 31
TTC #2 since January 2018
Baby #1 DD Born 8/25/2016 BFP: 8/11/18 Due: 4/26/18
I gained 50 lb with both of my pregnancies. I'm up about 10 so far, 15 weeks tomorrow, it comes off! I saw this posted somewhere and loved it "for every woman who hates her post baby body, there is a woman wishing she could have a post baby body" that goes for experiencing the weight gain and pregnancy too.
@RedMar I feel you! I was gone to my parents' for the first half of spring break, and hosted my in-laws for the second. Today, I took a very long nap, which was well needed, but I am not looking forward to work tomorrow. At least I had the foresight to mostly plan before break started and the students have an "e-learning" day on Tuesday, so I won't actually see them.
@blondie080300 Oh I know the overwhelming feeling of Babies R Us! DH and I went in just to look and see what's out there, and I swear the cribs all look MASSIVE to us! We live in a one bedroom apartment, so we have to do some rearranging. We originally decided to just get a pack'n'play and use that as the crib, but Ive read reviews and seen people on our BMB saying they outgrew it quickly, plus my mom keeps pushing how nice it will be to have a real crib. So I went onto Babies R Us online and they have mini-cribs! They look just as beautiful as the big ones, and some are still convertible into beds later on, not to mention they are way cheaper. I feel like a real crib is actually a possibility now So I had to share!
@RedMar@PSUBecky23@blondie080300@AlwaysAuntNeverMom and all of the others who have chimed in on body image... Thank You!! I have really been struggling for the past week or so with my body image issues battling with my thoughts of "I should be grateful for these changes, I'm lucky I get to do this, I'm supposed to feel beautiful" , and then it all just cycles over and over and over. I'm sure once I start actually looking pregnant I'm going to love it, and we just announced on FB tonight which also makes me feel better, but it is tough. I'm glad to hear others going through this, because as wonderful as DH is, he can't possibly understand exactly what I'm feeling.
Also, thanks @SaraJuul , that's a great perspective to keep! I also just think there is so much pressure on us as women to look a certain way, even when pregnant, and it's nearly impossible for most of us to live up to that. Not to turn this into a commentary on society but good lord it's hard being a female sometimes!
@SLou24 I totally feel you! Most days I feel totally comfortable with my size and I haven't gained too much either (okay, after Easter and eating like a pig I went WAY up but it was mostly bloat, and I came back to a reasonable weight gain after a few days- not dieting just eating plenty of healthy food). My regular clothes it but won't button, I was using the bella bands but sitting was excruciating, so I live in leggings and long tops right now, even though I'm still more blump than bump it seems like. It sucks! But remember, it's all for the (best) cause And temporary!
@SarahMConnors It's not just your imagination, cribs are shockingly big, even the ones without all the extra frills outside the regular rectangular space that's the crib itself. We weren't expecting them to be so big, either. A mini crib is definitely a good choice if you're short on space.
We thought we were going to have plenty of room in the first room we'd designated as the nursery (our current computer room), but with cribs being as big as they are, there's only one way to make it work with two cribs in there and it would be almost impossible to navigate easily.
Our FB announcement was like a mock movie poster.. And this week I saw a girl I know from a local mom meetup group and she asked me when I was starring in the new reality tv show I posted about. I was so confused and thought she had mistaken me for someone else, but it was in regard to the announcement. o_O
DH almost made a deal with me today that I could name the baby if he could buy a 4K tv using some of his birthday money.
Ladies I feel so accomplished already this morning! I don't have a doctors appt today (or this week) and I shaved my legs!! This is definitely the first time that's happened since before the BFP, poor DH, lol.
All of the regret this morning for watching The Walking Dead last night because who wants to have a dream where you have to walk to a hospital and deliver during the zombie apocalypse?! Starting off Monday right!
Please no spoilers for The Walking Dead, ladies!! (Not that your post had spoilers of any sort, @Katie8687 ) I didn't get a chance to watch last night, and probably won't get to until Tuesday, so now I have to avoid FB like the plague since spoilers abound on the book!!
That being said, anyone tuning in for the NCAA championship game tonight? GO UNC!!!
Re: April Randoms Thread
First time mom to a human but have been a puppy mamma for over 12 years
First time mom to a human but have been a puppy mamma for over 12 years
This is the crib we ended up with:
It's actually a dark charcoal/slate grey in person, even though it looks sort of brown here. The bottom has a slide-out drawer and it's made from solid poplar instead of pressed particle board or cheap wood.
We got the matching dresser and then a glider/ottoman set with charcoal grey cushions and white wood. I preferred the look of some of the other gliders and it's not a perfect match by any means, but the one we got was the most comfortable for me since I'm too long-torsoed to be able to lean back in most of the ones I've found (there's nothing behind my head and it hurts after a little while of trying to relax). Plus, DH wouldn't had the same problem, being taller than me, although he can relax/sleep anywhere and doesn't seem to mind having his neck bent backwards.
We also got a changing topper for the dresser. We got 15% off all the furniture and 2% in cashback (1% through Ebates and 1% on the credit card), which was nice, but it was still quite pricey. Thankfully my parents paid for everything (because they're awesome like that). They've been incredibly generous and I'm so grateful for that.
● IUI #2: BFP - early M/C
● IUI #3: BFN
● IUI #4: BFN
● IVF/FET #1 (2 transferred): BFP! TWINS!
● FET #2 (1 transferred): BFP! BOY #3!
● Natural #1: BFP - M/C @ 8 weeks
● Natural #2: BFP - M/C @ 5w5d
It's not like I haven't seen myself -- we've been taking weekly pictures and most of my clothes still fit, and I know exactly how much weight I've gained (not too much yet), so I know logically I'm not "huge", but in that moment I just couldn't see that. I'm feeling ok now, and I'm sure once we announce I'll feel better since I won't be so paranoid about everyone thinking I'm just gaining weight, but still. Hormones, man! They've turned me into a crazy lady.
First time mom to a human but have been a puppy mamma for over 12 years
First time mom to a human but have been a puppy mamma for over 12 years
● IUI #2: BFP - early M/C
● IUI #3: BFN
● IUI #4: BFN
● IVF/FET #1 (2 transferred): BFP! TWINS!
● FET #2 (1 transferred): BFP! BOY #3!
● Natural #1: BFP - M/C @ 8 weeks
● Natural #2: BFP - M/C @ 5w5d
You are beautiful. There is a miracle happening inside you. Your body may seem like it is betraying you, but it is doing what it needs to do. Paint your toes, slap on some makeup (or whatever makes you feel pretty) and make your hubby take you out for a milkshake! You are working so hard and you deserve a treat!
XOXO
time I'm allowing myself to not enjoy it if I don't want to. It's an awkward time and I know my body will be familiar again someday, even if it's not for the next 9-12 months! sending you ladies some love and letting you know it's okay to not feel like a pregnancy goddess
I actually feel relieved!
BFP: 8/11/18 Due: 4/26/18
UNTIL I see a photo. then I have cognitive dissonance and can't put together how I *feel* with how the photo *looks.*.
I'm working on trying to get past it and take photos because I know I loved seeing pictures of my mom when she was pregnant with me and I want my kids to have those too. But boy. It is a mind-eff sometimes.
FORMER USERNAME: @runningisrad
BFP: 8/11/18 Due: 4/26/18
Also, thanks @SaraJuul , that's a great perspective to keep! I also just think there is so much pressure on us as women to look a certain way, even when pregnant, and it's nearly impossible for most of us to live up to that. Not to turn this into a commentary on society but good lord it's hard being a female sometimes!
We thought we were going to have plenty of room in the first room we'd designated as the nursery (our current computer room), but with cribs being as big as they are, there's only one way to make it work with two cribs in there and it would be almost impossible to navigate easily.
● IUI #2: BFP - early M/C
● IUI #3: BFN
● IUI #4: BFN
● IVF/FET #1 (2 transferred): BFP! TWINS!
● FET #2 (1 transferred): BFP! BOY #3!
● Natural #1: BFP - M/C @ 8 weeks
● Natural #2: BFP - M/C @ 5w5d
DH almost made a deal with me today that I could name the baby if he could buy a 4K tv using some of his birthday money.
That being said, anyone tuning in for the NCAA championship game tonight? GO UNC!!!