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LauraPCOS · April 2016

Okay I get the irony of my soon-to-follow rant as technically we're all strangers here, but I don't feel that way. It's a little too corny to say we're family here, but at least we get where we're all coming from in the "being pregnant" department.

I just had a woman at my husband's job tell me, oh and yes I am quoting it word for word "You are killing your baby before it's even born, you need to stop eating McDonald's." Seriously woman?! Not that I need to justify what I'm eating to anyone, but it's not like I'm eating it every day, for each meal a day. And I do try to make healthier choices in the week, but sometimes I just like myself a Big Mac and Coke.

Anyone else get "great" advice that just makes you shake your head and seriously consider throwing a shoe at them?

purelex · April 2016

That's exactly what I had for dinner last night. I worked a 12 hour day and, you know, sometimes there aren5t a lot of better options or you just want some comfort food. Screw those judgey people! Eat what you can stand and eat well as often as you can and call it good. Women in far less ideal conditions have healthy babies... I am sure some occasional McDonald's won't be killing any babies.... geez, what a crazy lady!

Unfortunately, I haven't had any random comments from strangers yet. The first stranger who tries to touch my belly is getting punched, though

br0co1ii · April 2016

Not a stranger, but a co-worker told me I'd have to get rid of my cat. She's well aware that I have 2 cats and a dog, but for some reason, I have to get rid of this particular cat because of the fur...

LauraPCOS · April 2016

I had an old Italian Nona pat my belly and tell me congratulations....before I was ever pregnant

ladyshark311 · April 2016

I posted this on another thread a few days ago but I've had two people ask me if I'm having twins because I'm so "big". If it weren't on FB I would've said no I haven't pooped in forever but thanks!

ladyshark311 · April 2016

Oh and @LauraPCOS My FI went out last night to get me two McChickens and a large fry at 11:30 because it was all I could think about! Screw that person, for real!

sheviolentlyknits · April 2016

br0co1ii said:

Not a stranger, but a co-worker told me I'd have to get rid of my cat. She's well aware that I have 2 cats and a dog, but for some reason, I have to get rid of this particular cat because of the fur...

My MIL wanted us to get rid of our dog before our first was born. Our dog that we made sure to socialize well, and who was around my toddler niece on an almost daily basis and we never had the slightest trouble. Then when we announced #2 one of her first questions was whether or not we'd keep the dog. Get off my damn dog, lady! He's great with kids and he's 100% a full fledged member of the family.

People get weird about pets and babies.

Kaessi · April 2016

Edited because pregnancy brain is seemingly in full mode & I posted under the wrong "Random" thread...oops!

sheviolentlyknits · April 2016

@LauraPCOS I had a Whopper meal the other day. I too try to eat healthy for the most part, but I wanted one so badly I was shaking. I'd throw my large Sprite at a b*tch for saying something.

krzyriver · April 2016

I eat whatever I can stomach. So mostly comfort food like tacos, pizza, and cheeseburgers. I'm too nauseous and food makes my stomach crawl. I do what I have to to get through early pregnancy. Opinionated people can suck it. Lol

mrszoess · April 2016

all I can stomach is ground beef and sometimes shrimp in the protein department. someone looked at me crazy with my smash burger bag in the office and I snapped "I'm pregnant I need the iron" LOL

babyblues3 · April 2016

Knowone likes when someone reaches out to touch your growing belly but wait until you have the baby. I can't tell you how often people (usually old) will reach into the car seat and touch the baby. I actually made a sign that said "you can look but do not touch".

When this would happen I would be so dumbfounded that I just frozen in the moment, when all I wanted to do was tell them off.

cd92007 · April 2016

Screw 'em. For some reason pregnant woman, especially those who are sick, just NEED fast food from time to time. I had a bacon egg and cheese biscuit from McD this morning and it made everything right in the world.

CatieBeth1004 · April 2016

All I have wanted for the past 2 weeks for breakfast was a sausage egg mcmuffin. So guess what I've had for breakfast?
And they were divine.
I'm just grateful I had a morning appetite!

LauraPCOS · April 2016

sheviolentlyknits said:

br0co1ii said:

Not a stranger, but a co-worker told me I'd have to get rid of my cat. She's well aware that I have 2 cats and a dog, but for some reason, I have to get rid of this particular cat because of the fur...

My MIL wanted us to get rid of our dog before our first was born. Our dog that we made sure to socialize well, and who was around my toddler niece on an almost daily basis and we never had the slightest trouble. Then when we announced #2 one of her first questions was whether or not we'd keep the dog. Get off my damn dog, lady! He's great with kids and he's 100% a full fledged member of the family.

People get weird about pets and babies.

We have 3 cats and a dog and my mother has been questioning if we're keeping them, so I'm all "well we tried for 5 years to get here so ya I'm going to keep the baby" and she'll be all "no! Your animals" and I'd be "but why would I get rid of one family member and not the other?" Now granted we might actually have to rehome our senior cat (she likes to pee on the floor) but I think she heard me talking to my mom about it and freaked out because she's stopped doing it....or is hiding it really really well. (If she stops peeing on the floor we'll obviously keep her, and "rehome" means back to my mother's house where she spent the first half of her life)

mrskratt · April 2016

Ugh. That is the one absolute thing I'm not looking forward to for when I start showing... Advice I never asked for.
With my last pregnancy, I wanted to throat punch so many people. My favorite was "sleep while you can!" Because sleeping now will help me how in the future? It's not like I'm going to be so happy, when I'm up at 2am with my 1 month old and be all like "I'm so f*cking happy I slept so much when I was pregnant, it's really helping out now!"

Also, my midwife told me to eat whatever I want. She doesn't care if I live on cheeseburgers and mash potatoes. As long as I can get something in my stomach.

Minnie1155 · April 2016

Also not looking forward to the unsolicited advice when I start showing. There haven't been many foods that I can even think about eating lately. I've eaten McDonald's more than once this week, I'm pretty sure that's better than not eating at all!

klv · April 2016

I was very pregnant with my first and was writing my graduate thesis. I needed caffeine and had not had any in weeks. I went to buy a Dr Pepper and the lady in line behind me says "that's not for you is it?" Uhhh yes? "You know if you drink that then your baby's heart is going to explode"

well i I burst into tears. The cashier gave me the DP for free and tore the crazy lady a new one. I enjoyed every bit of that DP

AshleyGemini24 · April 2016

One of my coworkers who has actually known me since I was a little girl, is always throwing out names to me. She's always telling me it's a girl. Then she'll say you should name her this, or you should name her that. Granted she throws out some really pretty and unique names, but we ahve already decided on a name. Also it's not your baby to name.

CaptainPhasma · April 2016

Nobody knows I'm pregnant yet but lord help the barista who refuses to serve me coffee in my 3rd trimester, I have a whole rant prepared.

SuperNerd42 · April 2016

I was pretty lucky while pregnant with DD. I was working retail sales at that time, and had a couple fun customer interactions though.

The first was some lady who needed help by apparel. I was paged over, and when I got there she gave me the up-down and said "oh- you're the running expert?" I told her I was pregnant, not infirm. It was one of the few times I was ever really tempted to be rude to a customer.

The second was a gross old dude. I asked him if he was looking for anything. His answer? "You can't handle what I'm looking for. I guess you got a bun in the oven though." Um eww.

I do not miss being customer facing.

MRSCORKER · April 2016

I can't wait for someone to offer stupid, unsolicited advice. I will give exactly zero f***s about telling them where to go, especially if it's unsolicited opinions when I'm breastfeeding.

strickland8052 · April 2016

MIL is the worst about this. She hates all of our names and said we need to name the baby after a saint (when we are not religious and haven't even been to church once in our entire 6 years of being together.)

She also insists our school district is awful. She doesn't even know the name of a single school and I know all the priciples, plenty of students/parents. Yet she knows more than me. I told her that our charter school was actually just named best charter school in the state and she just looked at me like I had three heads and asked if charter schools are accredited.

Them she is already listing all the things we need like a bigger house, a baby blanket, etc. etc. No shit! It never occurred to me that our baby might need a blanket! Also, our house size is just fine... We have two rooms we don't even ever go into. Ugh!

UponAStar16 · April 2016

I haven't had helpful advice from strangers yet, but so far I'm not a fan of people warning me to be sure not to get upset bc it's "bad for the baby." Like, motherf-er, one way to help me not get upset, is NOT to do something upsetting then tell me to think about anything I'm doing/feeling being bad for my baby. Plus, within reason I'm pretty sure it's scientifically inaccurate anyway...

sheviolentlyknits · April 2016

I find the best response to the caffeine/food police is "Oh, can I see a copy of your medical license?"

freckledlemonade · April 2016

@LauraPCOS Seriously!?! That lady needs to shut her whore mouth. My blood is boiling for you. A McDonalds meal isn't going to do anything to your baby. I get egg mcmuffins at McDonalds pretty regularly. It's got some protein, fat, and carbs. Whatevs, I'm eating what keeps my nausea at bay for awhile so I can feel human for a bit. I made a comment the other day at my parents' house about probably gaining too much weight, and my brother said, "Don't worry about it, you're bulking." Lol, love it.

kennelchick · April 2016

Today at work the secretary said, "Oh are you loosing weight, I thought you were supposed to be gaining! But don't gain too much" she and a coworker then began discussing what the ideal weight is for me to gain. I walked away (because otherwise I might have lost my job) and texted DH to ask if he coukd bring me Mcnuggets and a chocolate shake before he went to work. I did not share. That shake was magical.

LauraPCOS · April 2016

It's so funny how people can be opposite extremes. Hoe-bag telling me not to eat McDs and a convenience store selling me a pack of smokes (never had nor never will smoke, was picking them up for hubby as he is in the process of quitting), but as she sold them to me she guessed I was having a boy. Not a comment about the fact I shouldn't be smoking, but I still told her they weren't for me, they were for hubby, but she didn't seem to care. A sale was a sale.

wine_mama16 · April 2016

I don't understand why any person thinks they have the right to dictate what we can and cannot eat. Also this post gave me a craving so this morning I went to McDs for breakfast and I feel great about it!

anna.oskar · April 2016

At the GD nutritionist (who I had never met previously): "If we're going to lower your blood sugar you're going to need to give up all your unhealthy habits like soda, fried foods, and excessive sweets. Plus trying to get a little exercise could be good for you!" all cheerful like she was saving the world. I was pleased to shut her down with a "Well, I didn't lose 72 lbs pre-pregnancy without counting a few calories and I'm pretty sure I won't be adding more exercise since last weekend's 8 mile hike (mostly uphill) is considered a bit on the strenuous side by my doc" Way to assume a non-skinny person must be a couch potato, fast food junkie 24-7.

mrszoess · April 2016

@anna.oskar I am very overweight. my sugars and cholesterol and all bloodwork is perfectly normal. I hate when people assume shit bc I'm overweight. I was on prednisone for 5 years, cut me some slack

lmno304 · April 2016

My former co worker, the day i found out I'm having twins, decided to share a story about her friend who was "supposed to have twins, but one of them just stopped growing." Like, for real? I'm already shocked and scared out of my mind and you're gonna drop this in my lap the same day i we nt from having one baby to two?

LMNOBaby · April 2016

All I want is McDonald's now...like I can taste it. And I don't care who sees me eat it.

LauraPCOS · April 2016

mrszoess said:

@anna.oskar I am very overweight. my sugars and cholesterol and all bloodwork is perfectly normal. I hate when people assume shit bc I'm overweight. I was on prednisone for 5 years, cut me some slack

Same here! I have been on the heavier side my entire life, but all my aunts on my dad's side are big ladies. When I started seeing a naturopath to help me get pregnant, she wanted to focus solely on my diet and I kept trying to tell her that I have been down 60lbs from what I currently am, and no baby not even a scare, and it didn't change my cycle regularity so how about we fix the problem, not what you think the problem is, but nope never listened to me and not sure she even really liked me. Doctors always want to wag a finger and me too until they see my blood work is pretty healthy, then they go "well it couldn't hurt to drop a few pounds". Well by the powers of the unknown, I got pregnant naturally, so shows all them thinking I have to be skinny to have a baby.

Kaytee1087 · April 2016

anna.oskar, mrszoess

I'm in a similar boat with my OB practice. At my nurse visit I got a lot of information and three pages of testing they wanted done. Based on our conversation I assumed it was all bloodwork. When I got home and started reviewing the million papers I got from her, I saw a GD test in there. I was 10 weeks. I decided I wanted to talk to the doc first, and I had an appt with her like 3 weeks later, so I got the rest of the testing done and held off on the Glucola. When I asked my doc about why it was ordered, her response was “I don’t know, your BMI maybe?” and that was it. I had all my fasting numbers done less than 6 months ago and I was a model of perfect health, besides my high BMI. Oh, also, the nurse was reviewing “average weight gain” for pregnancy and how I should “probably stay on the lower end”. I almost punched her. Just because we’re bigger doesn’t mean we are unhealthy!

Thank goodness I have yet to experience something like this from a stranger. Depending on my hormones for that day, I can’t promise my response will be kind.

sadeathe · April 2016

babyblues3 said:

Knowone likes when someone reaches out to touch your growing belly but wait until you have the baby. I can't tell you how often people (usually old) will reach into the car seat and touch the baby. I actually made a sign that said "you can look but do not touch".

When this would happen I would be so dumbfounded that I just frozen in the moment, when all I wanted to do was tell them off.

I almost always wore my son because of this problem. I did not like people touching him. He had a rough start with jaundice and then a staph infection and I didn't want him to get sick.

simcal18 · April 2016

Kaytee1087 said:

Oh, also, the nurse was reviewing “average weight gain” for pregnancy and how I should “probably stay on the lower end”. I almost punched her. Just because we’re bigger doesn’t mean we are unhealthy!

I mean, I get the stress and sensitivity that comes with being pregnant at a higher BMI. I've posted on this board multiple times about my struggle with it. But the weight gain recommendations are what they are for a reason, and it's your nurse's job to make you aware of them. She's certainly not some "random stranger." My nurse at my initial appointment pointed out that I was in the 11 to 20 pound recommended gain range and actually circled the 11 pounds on my take home papers. Then we were done with the issue and we moved on to the next topic. I actually thought she was super professional and really appreciated that she didn't harangue me about my weight or imply that I was unhealthy. She was just pointing out a recommendation and I thought she was entirely reasonable.

Kaytee1087 · April 2016

simcal18: I know that you're right. It just really wasn't what I wanted to hear at the time, stupid hormones making me all sensitive to every little thing. I have tried to be conscious of my weight and making sure when I can to pick the healthy option.

Side note, she was kind of a stranger to me just because this was the first time I met the woman. Although I know her comment normally wouldn't have irked me, it's just because of the dang hormones...

simcal18 · April 2016

Kaytee1087 said:

simcal18: I know that you're right. It just really wasn't what I wanted to hear at the time, stupid hormones making me all sensitive to every little thing. I have tried to be conscious of my weight and making sure when I can to pick the healthy option.

Side note, she was kind of a stranger to me just because this was the first time I met the woman. Although I know her comment normally wouldn't have irked me, it's just because of the dang hormones...

I get it. I totally do. I burst into tears when I stepped on the scale at my first appointment. I burst into tears again when I sat down with the nurse/midwife because I was sure she was going to give me a huge lecture about getting pregnant at this weight and chastise me and tell me that I had no chance of carrying a healthy baby to term at the size I was. It's rough. I was just saying that from my perspective it didn't sound like the nurse said anything wrong or handled the situation in a particularly insensitive way. I unfortunately have heard of way worse, and am bracing myself for somewhat harsher treatment by my OB this Wednesday (although I'm hoping the fact that I haven't gained any weight in my first 10.5 weeks despite an underactive thyroid will get her to cut me a bit of slack). In any event, I'm sorry that her comment hit you the wrong way, and I hope that you can get to a mental space where you feel better.

UponAStar16 · April 2016

I think that generic advice is what nutritionists give regardless of weight though, in terms of regulating blood sugar since it is more about things that have an immediate impact on your blood sugar now that it needs to be tightly controlled, rather than longer-term considerations like risk for developing type 2 diabetes. It is kinda weird they didn't first ask about your typical food and exercise habits. You go girl, with that 8-mile hike @anna.oskar!

edit: I was just responding to yesterday's posts and didn't see that the conversation continued on this page

anna.oskar · April 2016

Kaytee1087 said:

anna.oskar, mrszoess
I'm in a similar boat with my OB practice. At my nurse visit I got a lot of information and three pages of testing they wanted done. Based on our conversation I assumed it was all bloodwork. When I got home and started reviewing the million papers I got from her, I saw a GD test in there. I was 10 weeks. I decided I wanted to talk to the doc first, and I had an appt with her like 3 weeks later, so I got the rest of the testing done and held off on the Glucola. When I asked my doc about why it was ordered, her response was “I don’t know, your BMI maybe?” and that was it. I had all my fasting numbers done less than 6 months ago and I was a model of perfect health, besides my high BMI. Oh, also, the nurse was reviewing “average weight gain” for pregnancy and how I should “probably stay on the lower end”. I almost punched her. Just because we’re bigger doesn’t mean we are unhealthy!
Thank goodness I have yet to experience something like this from a stranger. Depending on my hormones for that day, I can’t promise my response will be kind.

Same here but I didn't think to question the early glucola. I'm very confused about my alleged GD diagnosis. I don't understand why my numbers (that would be considered just fine and not worthy of any medical intervention pre-pregnancy are considered "way too high" now that I'm pregnant. I'm baffled!

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