I am just going to throw this out there. I am a FTM and 10 days postpartum. Starting at about day 4/5 I have been having lots of crying spells over silly things and generally feeling a little down about my new normal.
I even have help, my mom, and I have a very supportive husband. I can't drive on my own due to the surgery and feel like I really just need to get out with baby and be "free".
I have a successful career and I think the transition to doing nothing but sitting at home trying to recover from a C section and caring for my baby are big contrasts for me.
Is is there anybody out there feeling blue or who has dealt with this before? I'm hoping this is just normal hormones after birth.
Share with me your experiences please...
Re: Baby Blues
mind and to feel a bit normal again to get out in the sunshine
Keep strong ladies, work through the tears and emotions and every day...every moment, look at that beautiful baby and remind yourself that you created that human being. You physically created something so complex and amazing and that nobody else could have and with a big deep breath, smile. Good luck to all - big hugs !!
Honestly, I did not have that immediate bond/love with my DD. Some moms feel it since day 1 of pregnancy but mine was slowly developed over time. I almost wanted to go back to work so I could have some freedom. Just give it time. But if things do get worse, talk to your OB.
Had a long talk with my husband about it and I'm just adjusting my expectations for what I thought would be my " baby bliss" time
But it before it was full blown depression, I remember being weepy over sometimes nothing. I think mainly because nothing about my life was "normal" anymore, and I missed that. But if you start to experience any of the symptoms I mentioned above, then get help!
I can't say normal or not but I do feel better everyday and I hope you do too
With this baby I'm taking 5 months maternity leave and deep down I know it's the best thing for me and I'll appreciate it in the summer I'm already sort of mourning not being at work.
Sorry, just had to let that out
I also gave up the hell that was nursing for me and I swear, I'm a new woman.
BFP #2 - 2/13/13 - EDD 10/24/13 - born 10/29/13 - Kian Edward
BFP #3 - 7/16/15 - EDD 3/27/16 - born 3/23/16 - Liam James
@alyshamarie007 'mourning period' is such a good way to put it. I distinctly remember having what I call (affectionately) an 'oh sh*t' moment - sort of an overwhelmed omg I am NEVER going to live another worry free moment again in my life. This was obviously part hormone driven but some of it really is just the adjustment period as you grow into the new reality too.
Its nice to know you're not crazy when you feel anything but.
I'm a FTM 2 weeks postpartum and just hate this feeling of doom and gloom and regret, thinking "what did I do?". And the unpredictability of each day is scary (how/when is he going to sleep, eat today?) Just focusing on taking it a day at a time for now and hoping it gets better soon...
I would say the 3 week mark really changed things for me. I'm almost 5 weeks pp now and j feel like my old self 100%
Today was our first full day home from the hospital and my almost 2 year old is so sad I can't pick him up (I did a few times despite feeling shaky and passed a big clot), super jealous of the baby breastfeeding and just generally off. The solution has been my husband taking him out of the house most of the day, but of course that makes me sad, too. And who knows what I'll do when he goes back to work. I've been crying a bit today and generally less concerned with the new baby than with DS1. Ugh, this is hard!
Also, for BF - the doctor advised that when you're feeding baby make sure the older one has a snack too that takes them a long time to eat (box of raisins, cup of cereal, etc.) so it can be snack time for everyone and they feel included. I sort of rolled my eyes at her at first but it seems to be helping a bit.