i am bumping on the laptop for the first time (normally i am a mobile bumper). I am in my home office and DH keeps walking in and I keep having to hide the window because he doesn't know (or at least pretends not to know) that I frequent the bump and tell strangers about his slow sperms. The unfortunate part is that I am on my new Mac and as a first time Mac user, i have no idea how to quickly hide or switch windows.
@mrsdaddario@meilay If I can add to this conversation - as someone who's BMI would classify them as 'morbidly obese' also. @meilay I know EXACTLY what you mean about 'carrying it well' and people thinking you weigh less than you do. For the most part I feel okay (not great, but okay) about myself. I dress nicely, put effort into hair and makeup every single day and hope that despite my size, I'm inoffensive to look at. DH met me, dated me and married me at the size I am. I have been overweight my whole life. There's a lot of it in my family. But aside from the general risks that come from carrying extra weight, I'm not unhealthy. I don't smoke, I drink only socially and rarely at that. I have a pretty good stamina in working out. Yes I would love to be thinner and I know with trying to get pregnant, shedding some of this extra weight would be beneficial and I'm working on it.
But what DRIVES ME CRAZY is the perception that without exception, overweight people are unhealthier than regular people. And the people who use fake concern for my health as a tool for fat shaming. Plenty of regular sized people make choices every day that are bad for their health, but because my unhealthy choices are visible, it's somehow okay to make those generalizations. Every time Ashley Graham (who I love) or Tess Holiday (who I don't love, just because I don't) gets featured in an ad I have to force myself to stay off the comments. Outright negativity or douchery I can handle, but it's fake concern for health that I have trouble with. These people aren't concerned. They just don't want to look at someone fat.
Just my two cents. And none of that rant was directed at anyone here.
Me: 32 DH: 33 Married: October 2015 TTC #1: October 2015 EDD #1: June/July 2017
I'm glad you guys see where I'm coming from! I definitely have zero right to tell anyone anything about how to be healthy. Nor would I even try. And @MelissaM090 I completely feel you. I would never tell anyone any of these things, it's not my place and I hate confrontation. I guess where I was directing it towards are the people who are truly not healthy, those who don't make an effort to be healthy in whatever way shape or form that may take. And it was on my mind recently because Tess Holiday is KU, due in June. And maybe a small part of me was like, why her and not me? My PCOS diagnosis was seriously a slap in my face. Like hey girl, losing some weight could help your situation over all! I've never been classified as morbidly obese. (I really hate that word btw). Right now I boarded the overweight/obese line. In fact, I had an appointment with a nutritionist today because I really want to take not only the medical route to tackle this, but also the holistic approach. Not only for PCOS, future pregnancy/LO's (God willing), and my Multiple Sclerosis. I'm glad no one got offended though because I respect all shapes, sizes, colors, genders, nonconformists, sexual preferences etc etc lol
My FFFC is that I watch pregnancy vlogs and (sometimes) love pregnancy tests on youtube. I don't know. I just tell myself that it's research for future reference I also lurk the recent BMBs (Oct thru Dec). I know, it's sad. I'm probably jinxing myself but I can't help it.
First confession... I hadn't shaved any part of my lady business since early November. I finally shaved it bare yesterday.
Second confession... I've been itching so badly today I've had my hand down my pants every chance I've gotten. You'd think I have a raging std.
MAKE IT STOP!
Mama to two perfect little girls. Lucy 07-13-11 Violet 03-13-14 Conceived #3 since September 2015 11-25-15 twelve week loss 07-21-16 ten week loss 10-03-16 5 week loss TTC again soon!
Re: FFFC
But what DRIVES ME CRAZY is the perception that without exception, overweight people are unhealthier than regular people. And the people who use fake concern for my health as a tool for fat shaming. Plenty of regular sized people make choices every day that are bad for their health, but because my unhealthy choices are visible, it's somehow okay to make those generalizations. Every time Ashley Graham (who I love) or Tess Holiday (who I don't love, just because I don't) gets featured in an ad I have to force myself to stay off the comments. Outright negativity or douchery I can handle, but it's fake concern for health that I have trouble with. These people aren't concerned. They just don't want to look at someone fat.
Just my two cents. And none of that rant was directed at anyone here.
DH: 33
Married: October 2015
TTC #1: October 2015
EDD #1: June/July 2017
I'm glad you guys see where I'm coming from! I definitely have zero right to tell anyone anything about how to be healthy. Nor would I even try. And @MelissaM090 I completely feel you. I would never tell anyone any of these things, it's not my place and I hate confrontation. I guess where I was directing it towards are the people who are truly not healthy, those who don't make an effort to be healthy in whatever way shape or form that may take. And it was on my mind recently because Tess Holiday is KU, due in June. And maybe a small part of me was like, why her and not me? My PCOS diagnosis was seriously a slap in my face. Like hey girl, losing some weight could help your situation over all! I've never been classified as morbidly obese. (I really hate that word btw). Right now I boarded the overweight/obese line. In fact, I had an appointment with a nutritionist today because I really want to take not only the medical route to tackle this, but also the holistic approach. Not only for PCOS, future pregnancy/LO's (God willing), and my Multiple Sclerosis. I'm glad no one got offended though because I respect all shapes, sizes, colors, genders, nonconformists, sexual preferences etc etc lol
Second confession... I've been itching so badly today I've had my hand down my pants every chance I've gotten. You'd think I have a raging std.
MAKE IT STOP!
Lucy 07-13-11
Violet 03-13-14
Conceived #3 since September 2015
11-25-15 twelve week loss
07-21-16 ten week loss
10-03-16 5 week loss
TTC again soon!