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  • I really kinda want to do acupuncture for a couple of cycles to see if it helps. I know some of the ladies who got BFPs over the last couple of cycles were doing acupuncture the cycle they finally got their BFP. I mean sure they probably would have gotten the BFP anyhow but still. I don't think I can possibility justify the cost of acupuncture to DH though. We have a community acupuncture center that charges only about $20-40 per session but apparently they want to see you something like once a week to do fertility acupuncture. So even at $20 a session that is $80 a month. Which isn't terrible but is kinda a lot to spend on something DH thinks is total crunchy nonsense.

    Okay that is the backstory. Here is the confession: I'm seriously considering doing acupuncture anyhow, scheduling the appointments while DH is gone to work and just paying in cash. He doesn't need to know that I'm spending $80/month on crunchy nonsense. And what if it works?!
    @NamelessAria - I had pretty much an identical conversation with my DH. He thinks it's crunchy nonsense too, but he said I could do whatever I want. But we have spent so much health savings money I had set aside in the last 3 weeks on DH's shingles episode with accompanying expensive medication, plus DH and DS being sick. I haven't even called yet to get pricing but even the idea that I would have to schedule appts would require DH to buck up and watch DS which is hard to do cuz he is still sick. But I think I want to do it! 
    Me: 33 DH: 31
    DS: 5 years old
    TTC #2 since August 2015
    July 2016: Testing cycle with 100 mg Clomid = BFN
    August 2016: 50 mg Clomid + IUI = BFN
    October 2016: IVF#1 - 13 retrieved / 12 mature /  9 fertilized / 2 blasts
    November 2016: FET#1 = chemical
    January 2017: FET#2 = chemical
    March 2017: IVF#2 - 18 retrieved / 18 mature / 16 fertilized / 5 blasts
    April 24, 2017: FET#3 - BFN
    May 24, 2017: FET#4 - BFP! - Beta #1 151 - Beta #2 503 - Due date 2/9/18
    Baby Birthday Ticker Ticker
  • I really kinda want to do acupuncture for a couple of cycles to see if it helps. I know some of the ladies who got BFPs over the last couple of cycles were doing acupuncture the cycle they finally got their BFP. I mean sure they probably would have gotten the BFP anyhow but still. I don't think I can possibility justify the cost of acupuncture to DH though. We have a community acupuncture center that charges only about $20-40 per session but apparently they want to see you something like once a week to do fertility acupuncture. So even at $20 a session that is $80 a month. Which isn't terrible but is kinda a lot to spend on something DH thinks is total crunchy nonsense.

    Okay that is the backstory. Here is the confession: I'm seriously considering doing acupuncture anyhow, scheduling the appointments while DH is gone to work and just paying in cash. He doesn't need to know that I'm spending $80/month on crunchy nonsense. And what if it works?!
    I'm currently booking an appointment. If it gives you peace of mind to try it, then I say, "Go for it." FX that it helps both of us this month!
  • sldp123 said:
    @NamelessAria I really want to try acupuncture, too. I think $20/session is amazing! At the place closest to me, it's $80/session and I have no idea how many times they would want to see me in a cycle to make a difference, but I'm sure it will add up quick. DH didn't necessarily call it crunchy nonsense, haha, but he did kind of roll his eyes when I mentioned it to him, but then again he does that mostly anytime I bring up some new thing I want to try related to TTC. 

    I guess to make this kind of a FFFC, the main (read: only) reason I want to try it is 100% based on the anecdotal evidence seen here on TTGP. I feel like everyone who started acupuncture last month got a BFP.
    Ditto! You are not the only one! It's worth a shot!
  • BerkeBaby said:
    My FFFC is that, when the TTGP board is in a lull and there aren't many new posts, I go over the the BMBs and lurk around. Some days, I don't even check TTGP until late, but I'm on the BMB daily. It's been torture lately, though...


    @BerkeBaby - I did that with Oct and it was such a torture to get the BFN and not join! Truly though, the BMBs have a greater variety of stuff to talk about! 
    Me: 33 DH: 31
    DS: 5 years old
    TTC #2 since August 2015
    July 2016: Testing cycle with 100 mg Clomid = BFN
    August 2016: 50 mg Clomid + IUI = BFN
    October 2016: IVF#1 - 13 retrieved / 12 mature /  9 fertilized / 2 blasts
    November 2016: FET#1 = chemical
    January 2017: FET#2 = chemical
    March 2017: IVF#2 - 18 retrieved / 18 mature / 16 fertilized / 5 blasts
    April 24, 2017: FET#3 - BFN
    May 24, 2017: FET#4 - BFP! - Beta #1 151 - Beta #2 503 - Due date 2/9/18
    Baby Birthday Ticker Ticker
  • @BerkeBaby samsies!!!!! I am all over those BMBs.... :cry: 

    TTC #1 - December 2015
    Me:31 H:31
    DX: MFI - 1% Morph 
    12/16 -IVF #1 - Antagonist Protocol w/ Lupron trigger
    ER - 11 retrieved- 9 mature - 7 fertilized - 3 sent for PGS on day 5 - No normals (1 XXX Embryo - may use in future)
    3/17 - IVF #2 - Antagonist Protocol w/ HCG trigger
    ER- 13 retrieved - 11 mature - 8 fertilized - 2 sent for PGS on day 5 -2 Normal
    FET #1 - 5/16/17 - BFP! - Beta #1 5/25 - 156 - Beta #2 5/30 - 2562 - Beta #3 6/1 - 5191!




  • @BerkeBaby ; @Zoey1019  ; @Megzb510  You ladies are stronger than I am. I'd be in full-on meltdown mode if I were lurking the BMBs daily.

    I've already told DH that if I'm not pregnant by June I'm going to have an epic meltdown.
    Me: 28 Husband: 31
    TTC#1: January 2015- September 2016
    Infertility, Recurrent Pregnancy Loss
    Rainbow baby born June 6, 2017  ❤️

    Baby #2 due June 12, 2018
    BabyFruit Ticker


  • @NamelessAria I do have meltdown issues! I just am not strong enough to resist! :scream: 
    TTC #1 - December 2015
    Me:31 H:31
    DX: MFI - 1% Morph 
    12/16 -IVF #1 - Antagonist Protocol w/ Lupron trigger
    ER - 11 retrieved- 9 mature - 7 fertilized - 3 sent for PGS on day 5 - No normals (1 XXX Embryo - may use in future)
    3/17 - IVF #2 - Antagonist Protocol w/ HCG trigger
    ER- 13 retrieved - 11 mature - 8 fertilized - 2 sent for PGS on day 5 -2 Normal
    FET #1 - 5/16/17 - BFP! - Beta #1 5/25 - 156 - Beta #2 5/30 - 2562 - Beta #3 6/1 - 5191!




  • BerkeBaby said:
    My FFFC is that, when the TTGP board is in a lull and there aren't many new posts, I go over the the BMBs and lurk around. Some days, I don't even check TTGP until late, but I'm on the BMB daily. It's been torture lately, though...


    Oh, I do this all the time, too. Yesterday I was thinking how it was kind of a boring week here with maybe only one BFP? But then I went and lurked on December and saw a couple that weren't announced. 



    DS: June 2008
    Married: July 2015
    BFP: 5/20/16  |  EDD: 1/28/17  |  Twin boys born 1/16/17
  • @NamelessAria hahah yes! this made me laugh loudly at my desk....people may be staring...
    TTC #1 - December 2015
    Me:31 H:31
    DX: MFI - 1% Morph 
    12/16 -IVF #1 - Antagonist Protocol w/ Lupron trigger
    ER - 11 retrieved- 9 mature - 7 fertilized - 3 sent for PGS on day 5 - No normals (1 XXX Embryo - may use in future)
    3/17 - IVF #2 - Antagonist Protocol w/ HCG trigger
    ER- 13 retrieved - 11 mature - 8 fertilized - 2 sent for PGS on day 5 -2 Normal
    FET #1 - 5/16/17 - BFP! - Beta #1 5/25 - 156 - Beta #2 5/30 - 2562 - Beta #3 6/1 - 5191!




  • BerkeBaby said:
    My FFFC is that, when the TTGP board is in a lull and there aren't many new posts, I go over the the BMBs and lurk around. Some days, I don't even check TTGP until late, but I'm on the BMB daily. It's been torture lately, though...


    Yup! I do this all the time. I think it's harder to lurk the BMB that would be 'yours' if you got your BFP in a given cycle than the others though. But I lurk them all. They just have so many interesting things to discuss. And the birth announcements literally melt my heart and torture me all at once. One month did a take home outfit board that I was obsessed with checking. And I'm a fan of the ultrasound boards. Ok, I'm a fan of it all.
    **Formerly @aliciabhen**
    Me: 26 DH: 24
    Married: November 2015  <3
    TTC#1: January 2016
    BFP: 5/02/16 - MC: 5/27/16
    Computer Hope
  • @Lecool - I haven't looked at the Nov16 or the Dec16 boards. I've only been looking at Oct16 and earlier. Hopefully I haven't jinxed myself? I really want to go look at the Dec16 boards, after what @sldp123 said about unannounced BFPs, but I will wait. lol! I'm pretty superstitious, too! I will start to allow myself to look at the Nov16 boards, but only because the possibility of a Nov EDD has passed. lol!

    I'm also so relieved I'm not the only one! lol!
  • My confession is that as much as I want to go over to the BMBs, I just can't bring myself to.  I would love to tell you it's because it would be too upsetting when I get a BFN later in my cycle.  That is probably true, but the real reason is that I am so superstitious that I'm afraid every time I look forward to where I want to be, the universe laughs and laughs and no BFP for me.  That merely reading the BMBs will have an effect on whether I get a BFP or not.



    Bonus confession:  when I read WAYDTGKU in WTO, and people (including me!) put PNV, I know it's for pre-natal vitamins, but I still read it as P in V, and I laugh like a twelve year old boy.
    To part #1: I do the same thing! Every time I talk to DH I make sure to say "if we're lucky enough to get pregnant". I refuse to accept it as a given and use the word "when". BMBs I'm ok with though. 

    To part #2: yup. I do the same thing. I actually thought that's what it meant when I first started lurking.
    **Formerly @aliciabhen**
    Me: 26 DH: 24
    Married: November 2015  <3
    TTC#1: January 2016
    BFP: 5/02/16 - MC: 5/27/16
    Computer Hope
  • @lecool and @BerkeBaby, oh holy crap, I'm not alone.  I posted mine, then refreshed, and there you both were.  I love your logic about looking at earlier months, and I wish I were that brave and sane.  But nope!
    Me: 45 OH: 42
    Beloved SS: born 12/2011
    TTC my bio #1/our #2 since January 2016
    **TW** June 2016 had CP **end TW**
    August 2016 - dx with DOR
    Somewhere in here received recommendation to do IVF with donor eggs, elected not to; OH dx with Low T
    May 2017 - began freezing sperm
    June 2017 - OH began treatment for Low T
    July 2017 - began doing 1 IUI via a midwife and 1 at home insemination each cycle
    http://www.fertilityfriend.com/home/6259ba
    July 2018 - exhausted frozen sperm, officially NTNP since OH is probably shooting blanks

  • BerkeBaby said:
    My FFFC is that, when the TTGP board is in a lull and there aren't many new posts, I go over the the BMBs and lurk around. Some days, I don't even check TTGP until late, but I'm on the BMB daily. It's been torture lately, though...


    I second this!

    Me: 32 Him: 29 Live : London, UK
    TTC #1 since October 2015
    IVF Fresh Nov 16 = BFN
    IVF FET Jan 17 = BFP
    EDD: Oct 4th 2017
    TEAM: PINK!!
    Babysizer Cravings Pregnancy Tracker
    BabyFetus Ticker

  • BerkeBaby said:
    sldp123 said:
    @NamelessAria I really want to try acupuncture, too. I think $20/session is amazing! At the place closest to me, it's $80/session and I have no idea how many times they would want to see me in a cycle to make a difference, but I'm sure it will add up quick. DH didn't necessarily call it crunchy nonsense, haha, but he did kind of roll his eyes when I mentioned it to him, but then again he does that mostly anytime I bring up some new thing I want to try related to TTC. 

    I guess to make this kind of a FFFC, the main (read: only) reason I want to try it is 100% based on the anecdotal evidence seen here on TTGP. I feel like everyone who started acupuncture last month got a BFP.
    Ditto! You are not the only one! It's worth a shot!
    Not to be a Debbie downer.... but not everyone having acupuncture got pregnant. This stung a little thought I know it's unintentional.

    I think it's best to go into it with realistic expectations.

    Me: 32 Him: 29 Live : London, UK
    TTC #1 since October 2015
    IVF Fresh Nov 16 = BFN
    IVF FET Jan 17 = BFP
    EDD: Oct 4th 2017
    TEAM: PINK!!
    Babysizer Cravings Pregnancy Tracker
    BabyFetus Ticker
  • I definitely lurk BMBs and 1st Tri also, sometimes it's amusing and sometimes it makes me sad.  

    @NamelessAria That is my new favorite gif of all time.

    I don't know if this is FFFC-worthy, but I'm having a hard time being optimistic about TTC at all.  
    DD born PPROM preemie at 36 weeks on 10/1/17 after over a year TI, 
    then 3 failed IUIs, and finally a successful IVF FET.

    Due with #2 5/2/19 after HIO once in my FW,
    because apparently that's how life works now. Team Blue!
    Babysizer Geeky Pregnancy Tracker
  • babymish said:

    BerkeBaby said:
    sldp123 said:
    @NamelessAria I really want to try acupuncture, too. I think $20/session is amazing! At the place closest to me, it's $80/session and I have no idea how many times they would want to see me in a cycle to make a difference, but I'm sure it will add up quick. DH didn't necessarily call it crunchy nonsense, haha, but he did kind of roll his eyes when I mentioned it to him, but then again he does that mostly anytime I bring up some new thing I want to try related to TTC. 

    I guess to make this kind of a FFFC, the main (read: only) reason I want to try it is 100% based on the anecdotal evidence seen here on TTGP. I feel like everyone who started acupuncture last month got a BFP.
    Ditto! You are not the only one! It's worth a shot!
    Not to be a Debbie downer.... but not everyone having acupuncture got pregnant. This stung a little thought I know it's unintentional.

    I think it's best to go into it with realistic expectations.
    Oh no! I'm so sorry @babymish! I didn't mean to be insensitive! :( Thank you for your input. I will try to take this all with a grain of salt. <3 Again, I'm sorry.
  • babymishbabymish member
    edited March 2016
    @BerkeBaby I know you didn't :) I'm just super sensitive today - it'll pass!

    I think acu practitioners say it takes on average 3 months for the acupuncture benefits to start kicking in

    Me: 32 Him: 29 Live : London, UK
    TTC #1 since October 2015
    IVF Fresh Nov 16 = BFN
    IVF FET Jan 17 = BFP
    EDD: Oct 4th 2017
    TEAM: PINK!!
    Babysizer Cravings Pregnancy Tracker
    BabyFetus Ticker
  • I agree that you need to go into acupuncture with realistic expectations.  I didn't start acupuncture this cycle with the expectation that I will get pregnant after one cycle. I started with the expectation that my cycles will be more regular over time.  Did I think this would happen the first cycle?  No. Am I getting my hopes up that my next cycle will be just like this one and I will ovulate on CD 13 instead of CD 23?  No. I know it can take some time. Am I pleased with my results so far?  Absolutely!  I think what has really helped me is knowing my diagnosis and changing my diet to support my diagnosis. 

    Acupuncture has also helped me with my stress levels which is an added bonus for me. 

    If you are able, give it a try. Just know that it may take time to see results. 
    About me:
    TTC#1: October 2015
    dx: PCOS & MFI
    IUI #1 w/Femara + Ovidrel June 2016 ~ BFP
    July 2016: Blighted Ovum
    IUI #2 w/Femara + Ovidrel September 2016 ~BFN
    IUI #3 w/Femara + Ovidrel October 2016 ~BFN
    IUI #4 w/Femara + Ovidrel November 2016 ~BFN
    IVF with ICSI January 2017 ~BFN
    FET February 2017 ~BFN
    IVF with ICSI March 2017 ~BFP--Twins Due 12/8/17
    Team Blue X 2!
  • @babymish I'm sorry! I know you said you know it was unintentional, but I really am sorry if my comment stung. It was an exaggeration for sure because I know that's obviously not the case or else there would be no need for REs, etc. Thank you for the reality check, and again I'm sorry to have been insensitive.  



    DS: June 2008
    Married: July 2015
    BFP: 5/20/16  |  EDD: 1/28/17  |  Twin boys born 1/16/17
  • @NamelessAria @sldp123 no need to apologise and thanks for the racoon - cat combo :) small animals hugging always helps!

    Me: 32 Him: 29 Live : London, UK
    TTC #1 since October 2015
    IVF Fresh Nov 16 = BFN
    IVF FET Jan 17 = BFP
    EDD: Oct 4th 2017
    TEAM: PINK!!
    Babysizer Cravings Pregnancy Tracker
    BabyFetus Ticker
  • I've been thinking about posting this one for a while, but I've been to nervous to post it.  And let me preface this by saying: I think the 'eff your beauty standards' (Tess Holiday) movement is fantastic and empowering. 

    However

    FFFC: I think being morbidly obese and 1) not thinking it effects other people is bull 2) is scary unhealthy 3) Is not okay just because you're confident with yourself. 

    I am in no way shape or form saying morbidly obese people shouldn't be confident of themselves. I would NEVER bully/make fun of/ or be insensitive to that. EVER. I have always had weight issues my entire life and I truly get it. What I'm saying is, I think sometimes it sends the wrong message. As in, I think the message of be confident in yourself and accepting of everyone should be the only message. But in my opinion some people take that as, well I can be morbidly obese and continue to disregard my health because I'm confident and happy. I feel like it's genuinely a disease. No one is telling alcoholics or drug addicts to 'eff your health standards'. 

    Am I totally off base here? I feel like an asshole even typing it out and I hope you guys understand where I'm coming from. 


  • @BerkeBaby I don't know how you do it!  I am by nature so jealous that it is really difficult for me to go to the BMBs.  I resisted for a while, decided to check it out a week or so, and proceeded to have a REALLY bad day.  Like an existential crisis bad day.  All I can think about is how all these other people are moving on to a really fun and exciting time in their life and I'm over here like

    Me: 36  | DH 35, Married 2007
    TTC #1 June 2015
    April 2016 - AMH, FSH, Progesterone normal
    June 2016 - HSG clear
    *TW* BFP - Aug16, demise confirmed Sep16, incomplete m/c, D&C Nov16
    BFP 3/27/17, edd 12/7/17
    DS - 12/9/17 
    <3 
    TTC #2 December 2018 
    BFP 2/22/19, edd 11/4/19
    DD - 11/1/19 <3
    My Chart

  • whiska said:
    @BerkeBaby I don't know how you do it!  I am by nature so jealous that it is really difficult for me to go to the BMBs.  I resisted for a while, decided to check it out a week or so, and proceeded to have a REALLY bad day.  Like an existential crisis bad day.  All I can think about is how all these other people are moving on to a really fun and exciting time in their life and I'm over here like

    I think I'm living vicariously through each and every one of them. I must also be a glutton for punishment. When I'm energized and excited about TTC, it's no big deal. But on bad TTC days (like I've had for a while), it does hurt, so I stop. I think I'm mostly just crazy...

  •  I am obsessed with watching live pregnancy tests on YouTube. Why do I do this to myself? Also today in church there were 3 pregnant girls in the aisle beside me all within my line of sight.....the one girl has a 2 year old and a 1 year old standing with her and also is rubbing her pregnant belly and I got so mad....so jealous and upset towards her...like why can she just pop them out like it's nothing... and I pretty much started bawling. Then I felt bad. Why can't I just be happy for others? It's not her fault...why does she deserve for me to be like that to her? I just felt horrible.  
    Me: 27 // DH: 30 
    Married 05/21/2011
    TTC Since Feb 2016
    RE: Dec 2016 Dx: PCOS
    5 rounds of Letrozole 5mg + Ovidrel + TI 
    BFP!!!! June 2017 // EDD: 04/01/2018
    IT'S A BOY!

  • @BerkeBaby I love the idea of living vicariously!  That is a really good way to think about it.

    @meilay I definitely get your desire to stay positive and sunny.  There is a reason I don't watch a lot of dramatic or sad movies anymore, or why I don't snark on other people or put sarcastic things on facebook.  I don't want to add to the negativity of the world. And ah, I loooooved surprise pregnancy announcements.  There was one night a few summers ago I swear I stayed up until the sun came up and watched every single one on YouTube!  Those are really fun and I got a few good ideas.  I always picture telling my inlaws with the giant wrapped box of balloons, and then when they open it at the bottom of the balloon string is the sonogram pic.  So hokey but I love it!

    My favorite now are surprise puppy or kitten gift videos.  Those make me so freakin happy!
    Me: 36  | DH 35, Married 2007
    TTC #1 June 2015
    April 2016 - AMH, FSH, Progesterone normal
    June 2016 - HSG clear
    *TW* BFP - Aug16, demise confirmed Sep16, incomplete m/c, D&C Nov16
    BFP 3/27/17, edd 12/7/17
    DS - 12/9/17 
    <3 
    TTC #2 December 2018 
    BFP 2/22/19, edd 11/4/19
    DD - 11/1/19 <3
    My Chart

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