FFFC 3.25

DeePaddy24 · March 2016

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Not always flame-free.

DeePaddy24 · March 2016

Started it early today because I think I have a pretty legit confession for today, inspired by the between the sheets poll.

H & I haven't had sex since January. Early January. This makes me feel awful on multiple levels, because it's not entirely me. So, yeah...going on 3 months.

And I will now retreat to my box...

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crdo · March 2016

H and I adopted a new dog late this last fall. She's great as far as dogs go--well-behaved, smart, loving, happy, gets along great with kids and our cats, is mild-mannered but protective of her home, and given time to learn she generally does what we ask. The problem? I just don't seem like her. I haven't felt myself bond with her like I did with my last dog.

I feel like a total ass.

mrsschmity · March 2016

We have Easter with H's side of the family tomorrow. While I'm looking forward to spending time with family, I am not looking forward to seeing one of his aunt's. She's just so bitchy all the time and seems to want nothing but drama. In all honesty, I'm actually kind of sad that we won't be able to be with my side of the family for Easter this year.

Also, I'm secretly hoping H's cousin and his pregnant wife won't be there. She's due in May and I know everyone is going to be comparing our belly sizes and start making comments that I need to eat more or something along those lines. STFU.

WinniethePoohsPants · March 2016

mrsschmity said:

We have Easter with H's side of the family tomorrow. While I'm looking forward to spending time with family, I am not looking forward to seeing one of his aunt's. She's just so bitchy all the time and seems to want nothing but drama. In all honesty, I'm actually kind of sad that we won't be able to be with my side of the family for Easter this year.

Also, I'm secretly hoping H's cousin and his pregnant wife won't be there. She's due in May and I know everyone is going to be comparing our belly sizes and start making comments that I need to eat more or something along those lines. STFU.

Ugh I feel your pain. I'm already trying to making a mental script of what to say when dh's family: comments on how huge I am, tries to rub my belly, jokes if I'm having twins, starts telling their traumatic birth story, asks me if I'm breastfeeding- then argues with me about my decision, asks if I'm disappointed that I'm not having a girl. So far all of my come backs are really lame. I wish there was a snarky responses list.

goldie987 · March 2016

WinniethePoohsPants said:

mrsschmity said:

We have Easter with H's side of the family tomorrow. While I'm looking forward to spending time with family, I am not looking forward to seeing one of his aunt's. She's just so bitchy all the time and seems to want nothing but drama. In all honesty, I'm actually kind of sad that we won't be able to be with my side of the family for Easter this year.

Also, I'm secretly hoping H's cousin and his pregnant wife won't be there. She's due in May and I know everyone is going to be comparing our belly sizes and start making comments that I need to eat more or something along those lines. STFU.

Ugh I feel your pain. I'm already trying to making a mental script of what to say when dh's family: comments on how huge I am, tries to rub my belly, jokes if I'm having twins, starts telling their traumatic birth story, asks me if I'm breastfeeding- then argues with me about my decision, asks if I'm disappointed that I'm not having a girl. So far all of my come backs are really lame. I wish there was a snarky responses list.

You always have great responses on here though! I can't imagine a real-life winniethepoohpants that isn't snarky on cue.

mrsschmity · March 2016

WinniethePoohsPants said:

mrsschmity said:

We have Easter with H's side of the family tomorrow. While I'm looking forward to spending time with family, I am not looking forward to seeing one of his aunt's. She's just so bitchy all the time and seems to want nothing but drama. In all honesty, I'm actually kind of sad that we won't be able to be with my side of the family for Easter this year.

Also, I'm secretly hoping H's cousin and his pregnant wife won't be there. She's due in May and I know everyone is going to be comparing our belly sizes and start making comments that I need to eat more or something along those lines. STFU.

Ugh I feel your pain. I'm already trying to making a mental script of what to say when dh's family: comments on how huge I am, tries to rub my belly, jokes if I'm having twins, starts telling their traumatic birth story, asks me if I'm breastfeeding- then argues with me about my decision, asks if I'm disappointed that I'm not having a girl. So far all of my come backs are really lame. I wish there was a snarky responses list.

I think if anyone tries to make any comments or give opinions, I'm just going to immediately cut them off and tell them "I'm good, thanks". My bitch flag is flying high lately. I have no filter and I won't be surprised if something extra snarky accidentally slips out of my mouth.

Mr0616 · March 2016

Unless there is a mega nice two shower head shower with extra room, this chick wants the shower to herself.

mrsschmity · March 2016

Oh and one more confession...every morning when our dog finally drags herself out of our bed to come join me in the living room, I cover her up with a blanket and "tuck her in" on the couch next to me. She's spoiled and I'm pathetic.

amidavey06 · March 2016

This might totally flame worthy and pretty selfish but I'm happy that I'm the only one pregnant in my immediate family right now. We have tried for 3 years with multiple miscarriages so I'm glad that I don't have to share the spotlight with anyone else in my family. I don't want my pregnancy compared to anyone else's.

HBamama2B · March 2016

@winniethepoohpants I agree, I can't imagine you without the quick, hysterical comebacks. Family really can be such an inhibiting killjoy, come here and fill us in on what you would say if you could.

My FFFC: So Wednesday night I spilled dinner on my shirt and thought I cleaned it all, but there was some hiding between my boobs and belly. DH leaned over to help since I clearly couldn't see it, then also wiped my hands Bc there was some on them as well.... Embarassing, but ok.

Last night, he set dinner in front of me (a red based stew) and when I went to pick it up, laid his hand on my knee and said cautiously, "Honey, would you like me to get you something? Some paper towels or?" He then gestured delicately to all of me. Aaand cue tears. He quickly back peddled, "It's just that you love those pajamas..." but I was gone, "You think I need a bib! And you're right!" I sobbed. He gave me a kitchen towel to cover, everything, and I wish I could say I didn't need it. I tried really hard. Why the f is spooning from bowl to mouth so challenging???

Ladies, I have officially reached whatever level is beyond hot mess.

I feel like when I was 12 and I finally finished Mario only to discover there was a whole new repeat game where shells replaced mushrooms. I'm basically redoing toddler-hood with shells instead of mushrooms. Pregnancy and the shit they DIDN'T tell you.

goldie987 · March 2016

Jumping on the my dog is spoiled train. 90% of the reason that we strictly follow the "not safe for dogs" list from the vet is because we cave in giving him extra snacks all the time and it's the only way we can feel not guilty for feeding him something (ie. this pop tart contains less than 2% grape juice but the vet says no grapes so you can't have any). If we didn't do that, he would seriously be a footstool instead of being at least close to the vet's ideal weight for him.

goldie987 · March 2016

HBamama2B said:

My FFFC: So Wednesday night I spilled dinner on my shirt and thought I cleaned it all, but there was some hiding between my boobs and belly. DH leaned over to help since I clearly couldn't see it, then also wiped my hands Bc there was some on them as well.... Embarassing, but ok.

Last night, he set dinner in front of me (a red based stew) and when I went to pick it up, laid his hand on my knee and said cautiously, "Honey, would you like me to get you something? Some paper towels or?" He then gestured delicately to all of me. Aaand cue tears. He quickly back peddled, "It's just that you love those pajamas..." but I was gone, "You think I need a bib! And you're right!" I sobbed. He gave me a kitchen towel to cover, everything, and I wish I could say I didn't need it. I tried really hard. Why the f is spooning from bowl to mouth so challenging???

Ladies, I have officially reached whatever level is beyond hot mess.

I feel like when I was 12 and I finally finished Mario only to discover there was a whole new repeat game where shells replaced mushrooms. I'm basically redoing toddler-hood with shells instead of mushrooms. Pregnancy and the shit they DIDN'T tell you.

I seriously can't flame this at all because I have an old shirt that I change into when we eat anything colorful that could stain because I've dropped food on myself more times than I can count and am tired of stain treating shirts.

Mr0616 · March 2016

HBamama2B said:

@winniethepoohpants I agree, I can't imagine you without the quick, hysterical comebacks. Family really can be such an inhibiting killjoy, come here and fill us in on what you would say if you could.

My FFFC: So Wednesday night I spilled dinner on my shirt and thought I cleaned it all, but there was some hiding between my boobs and belly. DH leaned over to help since I clearly couldn't see it, then also wiped my hands Bc there was some on them as well.... Embarassing, but ok.

Last night, he set dinner in front of me (a red based stew) and when I went to pick it up, laid his hand on my knee and said cautiously, "Honey, would you like me to get you something? Some paper towels or?" He then gestured delicately to all of me. Aaand cue tears. He quickly back peddled, "It's just that you love those pajamas..." but I was gone, "You think I need a bib! And you're right!" I sobbed. He gave me a kitchen towel to cover, everything, and I wish I could say I didn't need it. I tried really hard. Why the f is spooning from bowl to mouth so challenging???

Ladies, I have officially reached whatever level is beyond hot mess.

I feel like when I was 12 and I finally finished Mario only to discover there was a whole new repeat game where shells replaced mushrooms. I'm basically redoing toddler-hood with shells instead of mushrooms. Pregnancy and the shit they DIDN'T tell you.

Me too! I can't eat anything these days without some portion of it not making it into my mouth. My spoon to mouth ability has gone out the window.

mrsb8244 · March 2016

I'm pretty sure I have crumbs or food on my 90% of the day!

My FFFC probably deserves a flame. H's family just drives me crazy sometimes and really there's not a good reason why. I know this weekend they are going to be all over my belly and asking us about names. The problem is that I don't mind with my family so I know I shouldn't with his. I don't know why I'm being distant from them lately but I feel bad about it

goldie987 · March 2016

MrsB8214 said:

I'm pretty sure I have crumbs or food on my 90% of the day!

My FFFC probably deserves a flame. H's family just drives me crazy sometimes and really there's not a good reason why. I know this weekend they are going to be all over my belly and asking us about names. The problem is that I don't mind with my family so I know I shouldn't with his. I don't know why I'm being distant from them lately but I feel bad about it

Same! My mom can do/say something and I'm 100% okay with it but if it's my MIL I flip a shit. I feel like such a bitch sometimes and have even talked to H about it (he was useless) but I can't figure out what to do about it. I know his mom is just super excited about the fact that she's getting her first grandchild and wants to be involved but I just want to keep it all to myself. I'm secretly scared that I'll be like the kindergartner who doesn't know how to share their toys once this baby is here.

kwife15 · March 2016

MrsB8214 said:

I'm pretty sure I have crumbs or food on my 90% of the day!

My FFFC probably deserves a flame. H's family just drives me crazy sometimes and really there's not a good reason why. I know this weekend they are going to be all over my belly and asking us about names. The problem is that I don't mind with my family so I know I shouldn't with his. I don't know why I'm being distant from them lately but I feel bad about it

Oh, my, I can completely relate to this. Our in laws are coming too and I pretty much dread it for no good reason days ahead and stress myself out.

My FFFC is that I'm actually spending more time than I would have at work today so that I would partially avoid them. I justify it by saying so that my husband can hang out with them one on one which is what they wanna do anyway.

lm45678 · March 2016

My FFFC: I plan on staying in pajamas until 20 minutes before DH gets home from work so he doesn't realize I've been in pj's all day.

edeibel89 · March 2016

MrsB8214 said:

I'm pretty sure I have crumbs or food on my 90% of the day!

Every night when I'm getting ready for bed, I have to take my bra off, lift the girls, and sweep out the crumbs that make their way in there during the day -_-

My FFFC: H and I agreed not to tell anyone our little man's name because we want it to be a surprise, but I pretended to accidentally slip the name to my SIL because I just really wanted to tell someone. I made her promise not to tell anyone, and I know she won't, but I feel a little bad. My consolation is that she really really likes the name.

Kballew10 · March 2016

I suppose my FFFC is that I actually like my in-laws? We're headed there for Easter and I'm excited!

Our dogs are also spoiled and I am not "confessing" that because I'm not ashamed! They are my first babies and I love them.

VikingGirl12 · March 2016

My confession is that I can't stop stealing stuff y'all!!!!
I don't INTENTIONALLY steal stuff. Not really. A lot of times I'll put DS in the stroller instead of a shopping cart if I'm running into the store for a few random things. He does way better in the stroller. Well the past 3 times I've been to the store I've had to buy birthday cards or other small items and I usually slip them under the umbrella part so they don't get bent in the basket underneath. By the time I get to my car, strap him in, unload everything else, I notice my stolen goods under the umbrella. Do I go back to pay? Heck no. It took me 15 minutes to get the car packed up.

let me edit to add... If it were somehow a big ticket item I would have gone back to pay. I do have SOME morals.

BabyboyS2016 · March 2016

VikingGirl12 said:

My confession is that I can't stop stealing stuff y'all!!!!
I don't INTENTIONALLY steal stuff. Not really. A lot of times I'll put DS in the stroller instead of a shopping cart if I'm running into the store for a few random things. He does way better in the stroller. Well the past 3 times I've been to the store I've had to buy birthday cards or other small items and I usually slip them under the umbrella part so they don't get bent in the basket underneath. By the time I get to my car, strap him in, unload everything else, I notice my stolen goods under the umbrella. Do I go back to pay? Heck no. It took me 15 minutes to get the car packed up.

let me edit to add... If it were somehow a big ticket item I would have gone back to pay. I do have SOME morals.

Totally done this with soda in the bottom. Whoops!

mkemommy · March 2016

@crdo - I had the same situation (not bonding) with a cat I had once. The cat was evil though...my sister loved him (she loves evil pets for some reason). She kept him when I went away to London for a bit for school and I never got him back from her. I didn't complain.

Sydvicious08 · March 2016

I am truly terrified that my belly button will pop out. It grosses me out. I actually cried about it the other day because it's hasn't happened with my other pregnancies but for some reason it's flirting with popping this time. H just stared at me in confusion because I was literally sobbing while (kind of) in the fetal position on the bed...

crdo · March 2016

mkemommy said:

@crdo - I had the same situation (not bonding) with a cat I had once. The cat was evil though...my sister loved him (she loves evil pets for some reason). She kept him when I went away to London for a bit for school and I never got him back from her. I didn't complain.

At least evil kitty found a home with your sister, haha.

I'm not planning to giver her away at all, because 1) it's not her fault we haven't bonded, 2) she's not a danger or anything, 3) it would hurt her to be given away. I have to wonder what my deal is. Am I not bonding because I'm focused so much on baby? Did I just get used to not having to deal with dog slobber, hair, walks, gross things from taking over a year to get a new dog after our previous pup passed? Am I actually just an ass? Am I missing a dog sensitivity chip?

Probably being dramatic, but I don't know what my deal is. I'll just keep trying to find ways to bond with her through positive training, play, etc, and hope it forms.

AmberLiz99 · March 2016

I have my glucose test today at 3:20, so dh is getting off early to watch the kids. It's been a long week of sick kids and being sick myself, and I'm kind of looking forward to the hour of quiet, even if it is in a doctors office waiting for blood tests.
Also I have a meeting tomorrow night and dh will have to put the kids to bed, and I may be exaggerating a little about how early I have to be there...

chelseay416 · March 2016

My FFFC: I guess my belly has finally gotten big enough that I need to be careful, because last night I spit my toothpaste straight onto my stomach. I was wearing my H's shirt - he was not amused.

mkemommy · March 2016

crdo said:

mkemommy said:

@crdo - I had the same situation (not bonding) with a cat I had once. The cat was evil though...my sister loved him (she loves evil pets for some reason). She kept him when I went away to London for a bit for school and I never got him back from her. I didn't complain.

At least evil kitty found a home with your sister, haha.

I'm not planning to giver her away at all, because 1) it's not her fault we haven't bonded, 2) she's not a danger or anything, 3) it would hurt her to be given away. I have to wonder what my deal is. Am I not bonding because I'm focused so much on baby? Did I just get used to not having to deal with dog slobber, hair, walks, gross things from taking over a year to get a new dog after our previous pup passed? Am I actually just an ass? Am I missing a dog sensitivity chip?

Probably being dramatic, but I don't know what my deal is. I'll just keep trying to find ways to bond with her through positive training, play, etc, and hope it forms.

Awww, I wouldn't give her away either (in all honesty, I was planning on taking the cat back from my sister too when I got back from a semester abroad but she asked to keep him so, yeah, no harm no foul). Honestly, the bonding might sneak up on you or it might not. Some pets I've bonded with, some I haven't....they've all been good pets though (minus the evil cat....who actually is a lot more mellow now) and I'd never give a pet away unless there was something seriously seriously wrong and they truly couldn't be rehabilitated (I'm sure you've seen my rant on the Parenting board about the lady who wanted to get rid of her mom's dog).

Or maybe the dog ends up being best friends with your baby and you find joy that way?....just give it time and I'm pretty sure it will happen organically.

colesmom33 · March 2016

I just found out that my mom is having Easter instead of my sister. Now I'm disappointed because my BIL is a much better cook and we were going to have his famous ribs. Now we're just having ham. Bleh! I guess I should just be happy that someone is cooking me dinner but I just was really looking forward to ribs!

My second is FFFC is I just really love Justin Bieber's new song "Love Yourself". Flame away!

mrsb8244 · March 2016

I'm so glad I'm not alone on the IL's. I'll just put a smile on my face and let them touch me. Also I think part of the problem is I'm always hangry there because they never have food in the house!!!

ahernandez16 · March 2016

Mine. I went against my morals and everything I believe in yesterday and posted a video of my belly moving on Facebook yesterday.

I had to have a repeat NST (I think that's what it's called) after my contractions a few weeks ago and the monitors were pissing off the boy and he was kicking and they were bouncing all over the place.

I sent the video to H but it was so grainy and took 20 minutes to go through so I just threw it on Facebook for family to see instead of doing that shit 30 times. I also trimmed it down to about 10 seconds instead of having 3 minutes of me breathing and 10 seconds of baby movement. I was also covered in monitors so it wasn't a bare, hairy, belly video.

And yes I am just making excuses to justify my choice because I feel like one of "those" ladies now. Lol

MrsAlliKat · March 2016

jaceyannie said:
My second is FFFC is I just really love Justin Bieber's new song "Love Yourself". Flame away!

I heard this on the radio recenly and liked it before I knew it was Bieber. I felt a little sad about liking it when I found out who it was. But I still like it!

HeartLikeMine3 · March 2016

My birthday was last Friday and I searched everywhere for a dress. Finally found an expensive on that fit me really good I wore it to dinner with friends and then took it back. I wouldn't be able to fit in it pp so I couldn't justify keeping it!!

ahernandez16 · March 2016

MrsB8214 said:

I'm so glad I'm not alone on the IL's. I'll just put a smile on my face and let them touch me. Also I think part of the problem is I'm always hangry there because they never have food in the house!!!

My stepMIL is Mexican. Like hard core. I was so excited when H and I got together to have bomb Mexican food readily available always.

Not the case. The only Mexican food she makes is tamales for Christmas and they suck. She is literally the worst cook ever. H grew up on hamburger helper and soggy oven baked chicken.

Let's be real. That's probably the real reason I hate her so much.....

lm45678 · March 2016

jaceyannie said:

I just found out that my mom is having Easter instead of my sister. Now I'm disappointed because my BIL is a much better cook and we were going to have his famous ribs. Now we're just having ham. Bleh! I guess I should just be happy that someone is cooking me dinner but I just was really looking forward to ribs!
My second is FFFC is I just really love Justin Bieber's new song "Love Yourself". Flame away!

I totally became a belieber last year... He's had some good songs recently!!!

In keeping with a second FFFC- I just had my second breakfast. Whoops!

dennyandlee · March 2016

@HeartLikeMine3 I have very much done this for a wedding. I didn't even feel bad about it.
@ahernandez16 I'd hate her, too. You can't get someone's hopes up about mexican food and then dash those hopes with shitty occasional tamales. Bitch.

colesmom33 · March 2016

VikingGirl12 said:

My confession is that I can't stop stealing stuff y'all!!!!
I don't INTENTIONALLY steal stuff. Not really. A lot of times I'll put DS in the stroller instead of a shopping cart if I'm running into the store for a few random things. He does way better in the stroller. Well the past 3 times I've been to the store I've had to buy birthday cards or other small items and I usually slip them under the umbrella part so they don't get bent in the basket underneath. By the time I get to my car, strap him in, unload everything else, I notice my stolen goods under the umbrella. Do I go back to pay? Heck no. It took me 15 minutes to get the car packed up.

let me edit to add... If it were somehow a big ticket item I would have gone back to pay. I do have SOME morals.

OMG, THIS IS ME!!! I've done this so many times since I was pregnant with my son. Before that, it never happened but between pregnancy brain and the exhaustion of having a newborn, I've done it so many times and I swear it's always at Target! For me, though, it's always in the back of my shopping cart that I don't see while I'm going through the checkout. Sometimes I don't even remember if I bought it or not. It's terrible! I feel so guilty but not enough to go back. Although, there was a couple times when it was a big box of diapers and I did go back. Now, I feel like I need to change my screen name considering I actually work for Criminal Justice!

WinniethePoohsPants · March 2016

My confession:
I rarely ever cry. Don't get me wrong, I'll tear up for movies sometimes (like for the movie "Room" recently). But I almost never cry during day to day life. The last time I actually cried/ sobbed was in early October when my sister miscarried. Either my life is super dull, or I'm missing a brain chunk.

crdo · March 2016

mkemommy said:

crdo said:

mkemommy said:

@crdo - I had the same situation (not bonding) with a cat I had once. The cat was evil though...my sister loved him (she loves evil pets for some reason). She kept him when I went away to London for a bit for school and I never got him back from her. I didn't complain.

At least evil kitty found a home with your sister, haha.

I'm not planning to giver her away at all, because 1) it's not her fault we haven't bonded, 2) she's not a danger or anything, 3) it would hurt her to be given away. I have to wonder what my deal is. Am I not bonding because I'm focused so much on baby? Did I just get used to not having to deal with dog slobber, hair, walks, gross things from taking over a year to get a new dog after our previous pup passed? Am I actually just an ass? Am I missing a dog sensitivity chip?

Probably being dramatic, but I don't know what my deal is. I'll just keep trying to find ways to bond with her through positive training, play, etc, and hope it forms.

Awww, I wouldn't give her away either (in all honesty, I was planning on taking the cat back from my sister too when I got back from a semester abroad but she asked to keep him so, yeah, no harm no foul). Honestly, the bonding might sneak up on you or it might not. Some pets I've bonded with, some I haven't....they've all been good pets though (minus the evil cat....who actually is a lot more mellow now) and I'd never give a pet away unless there was something seriously seriously wrong and they truly couldn't be rehabilitated (I'm sure you've seen my rant on the Parenting board about the lady who wanted to get rid of her mom's dog).

Or maybe the dog ends up being best friends with your baby and you find joy that way?....just give it time and I'm pretty sure it will happen organically.

Oh hey, no judgment about your kitty winding up with your sister. Totally made sense.

I totally agree with your philosophy that once you agree to take in an animal, you don't just up and get rid of them except in extreme circumstances, or when other options are exhausted.

I hope you're right that bonding will happen. She's a great dog, and I just hope she feels like she belongs with our family despite my failings after having a really terrible, abusive first few years.

newbabymakes4 · March 2016

amidavey06 said:

This might totally flame worthy and pretty selfish but I'm happy that I'm the only one pregnant in my immediate family right now. We have tried for 3 years with multiple miscarriages so I'm glad that I don't have to share the spotlight with anyone else in my family. I don't want my pregnancy compared to anyone else's.

@amidavey06 no judgement from here, I would feel the same way. I felt bad announcing that I was pregnant with #2 when my cousin was still pregnant with her first (we only overlapped a month, that people knew about), and she didn't have any issues getting pregnant, at least none that she's told anyone about. I just felt like I was stealing her thunder since it was her first.

newbabymakes4 · March 2016

sdnybrk1 said:

I am truly terrified that my belly button will pop out. It grosses me out. I actually cried about it the other day because it's hasn't happened with my other pregnancies but for some reason it's flirting with popping this time. H just stared at me in confusion because I was literally sobbing while (kind of) in the fetal position on the bed...

Mine popped out super early this time around (I don't think it happened until after 30 weeks with my first, but it was out by like 22 weeks this time). It's so gross. And DS loves poking it.

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