Update: phone sex lady just got off the phone and tried to have a conversation about the guy she was on the phone with, complaining that all he wants to do is go clubbing, and "ain't nobody got time for that."
I worked at a call center for a while and got to deal with all sorts of fun people calling in wanting to discuss interesting things with me. Also I held the record for over the phone proposals during the holiday seasons that year. Old people are lonely and sad... (11 btw, second place was 8)
I had some really awkward and funny conversations with people when I worked at a movie theater. Years ago one of the regulars decided to ask me if I was getting married "because I had to." He'd made the assumption that because I was young, the only reason I would be interested in getting married would be because I was pregnant. The guy eventually was banned after he overheard another two of my coworkers talking about how one had been raped at a concert. The guy tried to tell her that she must have been asking for it. Awkward moments? Before pretty much anyone knew DH and I were dating, he took his uncle to go see a movie. DH told his uncle that he was dating someone at work, but didn't tell him who or what I looked like. Guess who decided to hit on me when I was working? I talked to them after their movie and DH introduced his me as his GF to his uncle. Instead of getting embarrassed, he just told DH that he had good taste. I've also had a few dads try to prove to their teenage sons that they "still got it" and spent the entire transaction trying to hit on me...
The funniest one was when an older gentleman came up and told one of my coworkers to stay away from me (he was on register while I was running for him) because "redheads are brides of the devil." He said this with a straight face and seemed completely serious. My coworker nodded, told the guy he was doing his best, and that he would only be around me at work when he wasn't allowed to avoid me like the plague. After the guy left, we both almost fell into the warmer of popcorn from laughing so hard.
So this may be a silly question but I'm a bit ocd about some things, STMs, what do you think is the best way to organize baby clothes? Do you separate by size or by type of clothing? I'm struggling getting everything ready and am trying to find an easy way to keep it somewhat organized so my fiancé doesn't tear everything apart the first time he goes to look for something lol
@shawnacrest I generally only keep one size out at a time, except in this anticipatory stage, where we all have the nb and 0-3 sizes. I keep those kind of separate until I know what I'll be using (all the nb got put away immediately with my last), and then I keep tops, bottoms, and gowns. Eventually "gowns" will get replaced by "pajamas", and you'll add underwear, but that's basically how I organize all my kids' stuff. Anything more complicated gets effed up in no time flat.
So this may be a silly question but I'm a bit ocd about some things, STMs, what do you think is the best way to organize baby clothes? Do you separate by size or by type of clothing? I'm struggling getting everything ready and am trying to find an easy way to keep it somewhat organized so my fiancé doesn't tear everything apart the first time he goes to look for something lol
I do by size to start with (all the NB/0-3 fits in one drawer) in piles by types - onesies, pants, sleepers. Now that DD is in 18 month she has a drawer of shirts, a drawer of pants, and a drawer with socks/pjs/swimsuit etc.
Talked to my mother yesterday. She asked about the childbirth class we took, and I mentioned that it made me a little nervous, but that was probably just because they had to give us a small sense of the potential worst-case scenarios.
"Now you know why I should be at the hospital. I want to be there if thing go wrong. You know, to support you. And Joe."
I am getting dangerously close to running out of nice ways to say I don't want her there. I feel like "NO, your presence will not make me feel supported, it will make me feel agitated and it will put pressure on me to accommodate you, and if my husband needs comfort or support you are not the person he would want to have around!" would be a little harsh. I'd like to be able to give her a call when I'm in labor, since it's a four hour drive for her to Chicago and she may need some time to rearrange her schedule to come up (and she's already laid on the guilt about my MIL being only an hour away, and therefore needing a lot less advance planning to get there); I'm totally on board with having the grandmas be among the first people to meet my daughter, and with having that meeting be as soon as we've had the chance to meet her ourselves and spend some time just loving on her. I clearly can't trust that she won't show up at the hospital before we're ready for her, though, and I don't want to feel pressured into cutting our first few moments as a family short; if we're set after an hour, great, but if we want 6 straight hours to soak in our new little family, we're going to take it. So frustrating.
Talked to my mother yesterday. She asked about the childbirth class we took, and I mentioned that it made me a little nervous, but that was probably just because they had to give us a small sense of the potential worst-case scenarios.
"Now you know why I should be at the hospital. I want to be there if thing go wrong. You know, to support you. And Joe."
I am getting dangerously close to running out of nice ways to say I don't want her there. I feel like "NO, your presence will not make me feel supported, it will make me feel agitated and it will put pressure on me to accommodate you, and if my husband needs comfort or support you are not the person he would want to have around!" would be a little harsh. I'd like to be able to give her a call when I'm in labor, since it's a four hour drive for her to Chicago and she may need some time to rearrange her schedule to come up (and she's already laid on the guilt about my MIL being only an hour away, and therefore needing a lot less advance planning to get there); I'm totally on board with having the grandmas be among the first people to meet my daughter, and with having that meeting be as soon as we've had the chance to meet her ourselves and spend some time just loving on her. I clearly can't trust that she won't show up at the hospital before we're ready for her, though, and I don't want to feel pressured into cutting our first few moments as a family short; if we're set after an hour, great, but if we want 6 straight hours to soak in our new little family, we're going to take it. So frustrating.
If you decide to tell her, make sure your nurses know in advance that you will not be taking visitors until you tell them. Shut your phones off, have that baby, and soak up as much family time as you want. L&D nurses will throw your husband out of the room if you ask them; they are there for YOU. Or, you could be blunt and simply tell her that she'll meet baby when YOU are ready. It's not your fault that she lives four hours away while MIL lives only one hour away and if your husband would take more comfort in his own mother, that's his decision. It's a crappy situation but at the end of the day what matters is your little family of 3.
@AGK2015 My mom lives across the continent (she's in North Cali and I'm in South Florida). Her solution? Fly in a week before my due date and use AirBNB to rent the condo literally 2 doors down from me! There will be no hiding it when I'm in labor, she'll be able to stalk me and show up. She's a stressful presence to me as well, just a very naturally high-strung person to the extent that even her "soothing" methods come off as being too much. I'm definitely nervous about how that aspect will play out.
So this may be a silly question but I'm a bit ocd about some things, STMs, what do you think is the best way to organize baby clothes? Do you separate by size or by type of clothing? I'm struggling getting everything ready and am trying to find an easy way to keep it somewhat organized so my fiancé doesn't tear everything apart the first time he goes to look for something lol
Basically what the others say - from 0-12m, I generally keep one size out at a time. So NB has its own drawer, then 0-3/3 is separated by general types. Once it's a more stable size, like 2T on, then I go to a drawer for shirts, pants, socks/undies, etc.
Lets be real though, anymore, laundry lives in baskets for all eternity at my house it seems. Hoping the keep the baby's clothes separated out though since they're so little.
@AGK2015 My mom lives across the continent (she's in North Cali and I'm in South Florida). Her solution? Fly in a week before my due date and use AirBNB to rent the condo literally 2 doors down from me! There will be no hiding it when I'm in labor, she'll be able to stalk me and show up. She's a stressful presence to me as well, just a very naturally high-strung person to the extent that even her "soothing" methods come off as being too much. I'm definitely nervous about how that aspect will play out.
ILs are coming to sleep on my pull-out couch the week before I'm due...thank goodness they're only staying for a week. I'm honestly praying I go past my EDD because I would rather eat every dog bomb in my back yard than labor with her in my house. I'm also planning on working some long hours that week because I would like to have hair after they leave.
Question: I have to go to my friend's wedding this weekend and have limited dressy options. Would it be poor form to consider wearing my baby shower dress? She was at my shower and I've seen her one time in between at a friend's bday party...
Question: I have to go to my friend's wedding this weekend and have limited dressy options. Would it be poor form to consider wearing my baby shower dress? She was at my shower and I've seen her one time in between at a friend's bday party...
I would wear it. There are limited options indeed and I am not sure why anyone would mind it.
@AGK2015 My mom lives across the continent (she's in North Cali and I'm in South Florida). Her solution? Fly in a week before my due date and use AirBNB to rent the condo literally 2 doors down from me! There will be no hiding it when I'm in labor, she'll be able to stalk me and show up. She's a stressful presence to me as well, just a very naturally high-strung person to the extent that even her "soothing" methods come off as being too much. I'm definitely nervous about how that aspect will play out.
ILs are coming to sleep on my pull-out couch the week before I'm due...thank goodness they're only staying for a week. I'm honestly praying I go past my EDD because I would rather eat every dog bomb in my back yard than labor with her in my house. I'm also planning on working some long hours that week because I would like to have hair after they leave.
@AGK2015 My mom lives across the continent (she's in North Cali and I'm in South Florida). Her solution? Fly in a week before my due date and use AirBNB to rent the condo literally 2 doors down from me! There will be no hiding it when I'm in labor, she'll be able to stalk me and show up. She's a stressful presence to me as well, just a very naturally high-strung person to the extent that even her "soothing" methods come off as being too much. I'm definitely nervous about how that aspect will play out.
ILs are coming to sleep on my pull-out couch the week before I'm due...thank goodness they're only staying for a week. I'm honestly praying I go past my EDD because I would rather eat every dog bomb in my back yard than labor with her in my house. I'm also planning on working some long hours that week because I would like to have hair after they leave.
Here's to parents and ILs that we'd rather love from just a liiiiiitttle farther away than they let us!
Question: I have to go to my friend's wedding this weekend and have limited dressy options. Would it be poor form to consider wearing my baby shower dress? She was at my shower and I've seen her one time in between at a friend's bday party...
Hmm. More info needed! It's a spring wedding, what's the venue like? And what's your dress like? Picture? If it's just an issue of repeating a dress, no biggie at all! If it's a matter of "is this nice enough?" then more info needed... But in general I think people are more forgiving with pregnant women. I wore flip flops to meet with a client last week after my feet swelled too much for anything that matched at all. I apologized, they laughed, all was fine.
has anyone had dental work done? I have a raging infection in my molar, that's warranted antibiotics, and ultimately an extraction. They were going to give me Tylenol with codiene.. But I said no. I'm afraid it will cross to the baby too much.. Am I being paranoid? It's at the point I can't even talk it hurts..
Question: I have to go to my friend's wedding this weekend and have limited dressy options. Would it be poor form to consider wearing my baby shower dress? She was at my shower and I've seen her one time in between at a friend's bday party...
Hmm. More info needed! It's a spring wedding, what's the venue like? And what's your dress like? Picture? If it's just an issue of repeating a dress, no biggie at all! If it's a matter of "is this nice enough?" then more info needed... But in general I think people are more forgiving with pregnant women. I wore flip flops to meet with a client last week after my feet swelled too much for anything that matched at all. I apologized, they laughed, all was fine.
It's a repeating wardrobe issue haha! The wedding is going to be big so I will probably hardly see the bride except for congrats and maybe on the dance floor. All my friends who were at the shower will be with me at the table, but they are understanding. I was more worried about the repeat with the bride!
Question: I have to go to my friend's wedding this weekend and have limited dressy options. Would it be poor form to consider wearing my baby shower dress? She was at my shower and I've seen her one time in between at a friend's bday party...
Hmm. More info needed! It's a spring wedding, what's the venue like? And what's your dress like? Picture? If it's just an issue of repeating a dress, no biggie at all! If it's a matter of "is this nice enough?" then more info needed... But in general I think people are more forgiving with pregnant women. I wore flip flops to meet with a client last week after my feet swelled too much for anything that matched at all. I apologized, they laughed, all was fine.
It's a repeating wardrobe issue haha! The wedding is going to be big so I will probably hardly see the bride except for congrats and maybe on the dance floor. All my friends who were at the shower will be with me at the table, but they are understanding. I was more worried about the repeat with the bride!
If she has enough energy on her wedding day to care what anyone else is wearing (so long as it's not a white dress) I'd say it's her problem, especially since you're 8+ months pregnant. At this point it's lucky any of us have a dress and shoes that fit
Is it bad that I'm frustrated? Went to my Dr's appointment. Didn't check me for dilation. Baby is weighing about 7.5lbs at 37 weeks! We at least confirmed a date for induction (medical reasons). I know that dilation doesn't tell you how close labor is but for me it's exciting to know I'm progressing. Guess he's going to check next week.
@MegJerKlemz take the drugs. I haven't had major work this pregnancy, but I had three extractions when I was pregnant with my third. The stress of being in so much pain outweighed the risk of the medication for me. Codeine is pretty safe during pregnancy, although should be avoided during labor.
@AGK2015 My mom lives across the continent (she's in North Cali and I'm in South Florida). Her solution? Fly in a week before my due date and use AirBNB to rent the condo literally 2 doors down from me! There will be no hiding it when I'm in labor, she'll be able to stalk me and show up. She's a stressful presence to me as well, just a very naturally high-strung person to the extent that even her "soothing" methods come off as being too much. I'm definitely nervous about how that aspect will play out.
ILs are coming to sleep on my pull-out couch the week before I'm due...thank goodness they're only staying for a week. I'm honestly praying I go past my EDD because I would rather eat every dog bomb in my back yard than labor with her in my house. I'm also planning on working some long hours that week because I would like to have hair after they leave.
Here's to parents and ILs that we'd rather love from just a liiiiiitttle farther away than they let us!
My parents and his both live over 1,000 miles away. I just don't enjoy having house guests because I have to wear a bra or undershirt. She is super sweet, but I'm entirely too sarcastic to mesh will with her. But I still have to be nice. It's so hard
Speaking of not wearing a bra, some guy driving a tow truck definitely got to see my mile-long nipples when he knocked on the door asking about the previous tenant. Bro, it's after 8 PM...you're lucky I was wearing pants.
A lot of them, but some are way cuter than others! Every now and then (a few in the much older month boards or some friends of friends come to mind), I hate to say it, but I wonder "Why did you choose THAT picture? I hope your baby is cuter than that!" A16 has some good looking kiddies so far!
I could scream. The parent who called me the other day about her kid's grade dropping (the one who I have spoken to on the phone and had a conference with) has apparently called me again (there was a message on my phone this morning I did not get to check due to a staff social) and then contacted the guidance office about how she REALLY needs to speak to me. I'm sorry, but READ THE DAMN NOTES I MADE ON THE GRADEBOOK! And TALK to your child! Our guidance counselor emailed telling me that this parent "REALLY" wants to speak to me since it's my last day. Yep, my last day so sorry but NOT my problem. I'm trying to decide if I can just not make the call and pretend I never saw the email. Because seriously, once 3:55 hits this kid is not my student anymore. Why do I need to call her and tell the same thing I have already told her on the phone, in person, and have written in the online gradebook?
@imrachellea Is this a working mother? Can you call back at a certain (read busy) time of day so that you're able to leave a message? Maybe send a quick email to remind her that all of the notes for the grading period are available online.
@kerinsara I honestly don't know. What is just so frustrating is she didn't even wait 24 hours between when she called me, she hasn't taken the time to read the notes I took the time to write in, and she wants me to explain why her kid isn't doing well when I've taken the time to explain that otherwise (both online, on the phone, and in person). I put so much effort into giving my parents all the information they need so they do not need to call me (I hate speaking on the phone unless its family, and I really hate speaking with parents, and I know that is part of the job, but I hate hate hate it...hence trying to avoid at all costs). I know you're a teacher too, so I know you probably get frustrated when parents do not seem to grasp the amount of "extra" stuff we have to do as teachers, that it isn't just standing at the front of a classroom for 7-8 hours a day giving instruction. I also don't know why this parent waited until NOW, when grades closed for the grading period right before our spring break last week, and I'm not the one who will be running the show come Monday. Talk to that person about strategies to help the kid. I wasn't even supposed to be here this week AT ALL, it was a last minute decision because my temp can't get here until next week.
...maybe I'll just pretend I went into labor and couldn't call back
@imrachellea Since you have all of the documentation about previous contact, I wouldn't worry about it. Also since the grading period has already closed there's really nothing you can do about it anyway. Leave on a good note, and enjoy maternity leave!
@imrachellea at the end of the day, it's annoying AF, but I think you should call her back. FX it'll go to voicemail or something, but it's shittier to leave with the new sub to deal with when they don't know the student from Adam. Suck it up, get it done, and let it go. I do agree that talking on the phone blows, I hate calling MD offices for f/u on my therapy patients, it makes me cringe.
@imrachellea at the end of the day, it's annoying AF, but I think you should call her back. FX it'll go to voicemail or something, but it's shittier to leave with the new sub to deal with when they don't know the student from Adam. Suck it up, get it done, and let it go. I do agree that talking on the phone blows, I hate calling MD offices for f/u on my therapy patients, it makes me cringe.
But hey, happy last day, you lucky duck!
This is none of my business, of course, but I share the same thoughts as @cmjenkiesabove.
Yeeeeeah...I guess my biggest fear when I contact parents (and this is a fear that is founded in past experiences) is the parent is so quick to blame me for their child not being successful rather than recognizing that their child hasn't exactly done their part to BE successful. I hate confrontation, and since I have had parent contacts flipped on me in the past, I do my best to provide all the information to avoid them...
Re: **The Everything Random Thread for April Mamas**
The funniest one was when an older gentleman came up and told one of my coworkers to stay away from me (he was on register while I was running for him) because "redheads are brides of the devil." He said this with a straight face and seemed completely serious. My coworker nodded, told the guy he was doing his best, and that he would only be around me at work when he wasn't allowed to avoid me like the plague. After the guy left, we both almost fell into the warmer of popcorn from laughing so hard.
Oh, and then dresses are hung up.
"Now you know why I should be at the hospital. I want to be there if thing go wrong. You know, to support you. And Joe."
I am getting dangerously close to running out of nice ways to say I don't want her there. I feel like "NO, your presence will not make me feel supported, it will make me feel agitated and it will put pressure on me to accommodate you, and if my husband needs comfort or support you are not the person he would want to have around!" would be a little harsh. I'd like to be able to give her a call when I'm in labor, since it's a four hour drive for her to Chicago and she may need some time to rearrange her schedule to come up (and she's already laid on the guilt about my MIL being only an hour away, and therefore needing a lot less advance planning to get there); I'm totally on board with having the grandmas be among the first people to meet my daughter, and with having that meeting be as soon as we've had the chance to meet her ourselves and spend some time just loving on her. I clearly can't trust that she won't show up at the hospital before we're ready for her, though, and I don't want to feel pressured into cutting our first few moments as a family short; if we're set after an hour, great, but if we want 6 straight hours to soak in our new little family, we're going to take it. So frustrating.
Lets be real though, anymore, laundry lives in baskets for all eternity at my house it seems. Hoping the keep the baby's clothes separated out though since they're so little.
has anyone had dental work done? I have a raging infection in my molar, that's warranted antibiotics, and ultimately an extraction. They were going to give me Tylenol with codiene.. But I said no. I'm afraid it will cross to the baby too much.. Am I being paranoid? It's at the point I can't even talk it hurts..
@RoseShadow873 thanks! Seems I'm overthinking this...
So being in pain at regular intervals is cool? Sweet.
...maybe I'll just pretend I went into labor and couldn't call back
But hey, happy last day, you lucky duck!