Around here all the hospitals are "baby friendly" so the baby staying in the nursery isn't an option because there isn't one. They have to nurse so often I don't get how it would work anyway.
A nurse brings them in when the need to nurse. It's not complicated.
My point is they nurse so often I don't see the point. Thanks though, for simplifying it for me!
@sidecarsareforbishes you're my internet hero. I want nothing to do with breastfeeding and am so over the preachy preach about it.
pretty sure that your baby will be just fine if you sleep separate for the night. haven't heard of that being a cause for ptsd. (sorry for my dry humor)
Actually separation has been linked to ppd. But I get why people want their rest. You have to figure out what works for you and everyone else should mind their own business.
For the sake of avoiding lengthy and complicated quote trees, my support of the baby-friendly initiative isn't related to the nursery/no nursery debate going on here. There are 10 points for achieving the designation, rooming in is just one of them. (For anyone curious https://www.babyfriendlyusa.org/about-us/baby-friendly-hospital-initiative/the-ten-steps ).
The problem with this is that they're operating under the assumption that all mothers who give birth at their hospital will breastfeed/have the desire to breastfeed. It's awesome that they provide so much support to new moms who are trying to navigate breastfeeding, but what about other moms? Removing nurseries, denying access to formula and pacifiers, etc is ignoring a segment of the population who do not plan to nurse. I think hospitals should be supportive to all mothers, regardless of how they plan to feed their baby. Giving birth is hard enough without feeling the judgement from hospital staff. And honestly, at a hospital with these policies as someone who doesn't plan to breastfeed, I would absolutely feel judgement.
For the sake of avoiding lengthy and complicated quote trees, my support of the baby-friendly initiative isn't related to the nursery/no nursery debate going on here. There are 10 points for achieving the designation, rooming in is just one of them. (For anyone curious https://www.babyfriendlyusa.org/about-us/baby-friendly-hospital-initiative/the-ten-steps ).
The problem with this is that they're operating under the assumption that all mothers who give birth at their hospital will breastfeed/have the desire to breastfeed. It's awesome that they provide so much support to new moms who are trying to navigate breastfeeding, but what about other moms? Removing nurseries, denying access to formula and pacifiers, etc is ignoring a segment of the population who do not plan to nurse. I think hospitals should be supportive to all mothers, regardless of how they plan to feed their baby. Giving birth is hard enough without feeling the judgement from hospital staff. And honestly, at a hospital with these policies as someone who doesn't plan to breastfeed, I would absolutely feel judgement.
For the sake of avoiding lengthy and complicated quote trees, my support of the baby-friendly initiative isn't related to the nursery/no nursery debate going on here. There are 10 points for achieving the designation, rooming in is just one of them. (For anyone curious https://www.babyfriendlyusa.org/about-us/baby-friendly-hospital-initiative/the-ten-steps ).
The problem with this is that they're operating under the assumption that all mothers who give birth at their hospital will breastfeed/have the desire to breastfeed. It's awesome that they provide so much support to new moms who are trying to navigate breastfeeding, but what about other moms? Removing nurseries, denying access to formula and pacifiers, etc is ignoring a segment of the population who do not plan to nurse. I think hospitals should be supportive to all mothers, regardless of how they plan to feed their baby. Giving birth is hard enough without feeling the judgement from hospital staff. And honestly, at a hospital with these policies as someone who doesn't plan to breastfeed, I would absolutely feel judgement.
I'm committed to giving birth here in Tanzania unless some crazy complications arise before delivery. There is only one private hospital with all resources so that is where I will deliver. There is no nursery, only a NICU. I'm hoping that I can pay a bit extra for a private room but the recovery rooms are three to a room separated by curtain. The babies not only room in, but they co sleep, I suppose this is just due to it being a cultural norm. I remember visiting a friend after she had given birth and I could hear another woman in the labor just down the hall. Unfortunately one of the times she was sleeping someone stole her cell phone so I guess I'll have to make sure I have someone with me at all times.
I will admit I'm quite nervous, being that I work at a home for orphaned and abandoned babies. 70% of our children have lost their mothers in childbirth. Granted the LARGE majority of those were born in remote villages, at home, with no skilled attendants. (Getting a bit off topic...)
I'm committed to giving birth here in Tanzania unless some crazy complications arise before delivery. There is only one private hospital with all resources so that is where I will deliver. There is no nursery, only a NICU. I'm hoping that I can pay a bit extra for a private room but the recovery rooms are three to a room separated by curtain. The babies not only room in, but they co sleep, I suppose this is just due to it being a cultural norm. I remember visiting a friend after she had given birth and I could hear another woman in the labor just down the hall. Unfortunately one of the times she was sleeping someone stole her cell phone so I guess I'll have to make sure I have someone with me at all times.
I will admit I'm quite nervous, being that I work at a home for orphaned and abandoned babies. 70% of our children have lost their mothers in childbirth. Granted the LARGE majority of those were born in remote villages, at home, with no skilled attendants. (Getting a bit off topic...)
It'll be interesting for sure.
You have such an interesting life story @kmolleltz. I'd love to hear more about it one day if you're comfortable sharing. I'm so curious about what brought you to Tanzania, how you met your husband, whether you and your family intend to stay in Tanzania long-term or move somewhere else one day, etc. etc. Please forgive me if I sound overly intrusive or judgmental -- that's now how it's intended at all. I spent a good part of my childhood living abroad and DH and I would love to live abroad for a few years someday, so I'm just very interested in what leads other people down that path.
DH and I: Early/mid 30s Married 7/15
TTC #1 as of 8/15
BFP 11/21/15 -- MC confirmed 12/1/15 BFP #2 2/18/16
I'm committed to giving birth here in Tanzania unless some crazy complications arise before delivery. There is only one private hospital with all resources so that is where I will deliver. There is no nursery, only a NICU. I'm hoping that I can pay a bit extra for a private room but the recovery rooms are three to a room separated by curtain. The babies not only room in, but they co sleep, I suppose this is just due to it being a cultural norm. I remember visiting a friend after she had given birth and I could hear another woman in the labor just down the hall. Unfortunately one of the times she was sleeping someone stole her cell phone so I guess I'll have to make sure I have someone with me at all times.
I will admit I'm quite nervous, being that I work at a home for orphaned and abandoned babies. 70% of our children have lost their mothers in childbirth. Granted the LARGE majority of those were born in remote villages, at home, with no skilled attendants. (Getting a bit off topic...)
It'll be interesting for sure.
You have such an interesting life story @kmolleltz. I'd love to hear more about it one day if you're comfortable sharing. I'm so curious about what brought you to Tanzania, how you met your husband, whether you and your family intend to stay in Tanzania long-term or move somewhere else one day, etc. etc. Please forgive me if I sound overly intrusive or judgmental -- that's now how it's intended at all. I spent a good part of my childhood living abroad and DH and I would love to live abroad for a few years someday, so I'm just very interested in what leads other people down that path.
I'm committed to giving birth here in Tanzania unless some crazy complications arise before delivery. There is only one private hospital with all resources so that is where I will deliver. There is no nursery, only a NICU. I'm hoping that I can pay a bit extra for a private room but the recovery rooms are three to a room separated by curtain. The babies not only room in, but they co sleep, I suppose this is just due to it being a cultural norm. I remember visiting a friend after she had given birth and I could hear another woman in the labor just down the hall. Unfortunately one of the times she was sleeping someone stole her cell phone so I guess I'll have to make sure I have someone with me at all times.
I will admit I'm quite nervous, being that I work at a home for orphaned and abandoned babies. 70% of our children have lost their mothers in childbirth. Granted the LARGE majority of those were born in remote villages, at home, with no skilled attendants. (Getting a bit off topic...)
It'll be interesting for sure.
You have such an interesting life story @kmolleltz. I'd love to hear more about it one day if you're comfortable sharing. I'm so curious about what brought you to Tanzania, how you met your husband, whether you and your family intend to stay in Tanzania long-term or move somewhere else one day, etc. etc. Please forgive me if I sound overly intrusive or judgmental -- that's now how it's intended at all. I spent a good part of my childhood living abroad and DH and I would love to live abroad for a few years someday, so I'm just very interested in what leads other people down that path.
For the sake of the board I'll PM you.
I can't speak for everyone else, but you have definitely peeked my curiosity as well!
I'm on my third baby and I no longer feel the need to justify my decisions to anyone. I used the nursery with my first two at night (just brought them in for feedings) and will do the same again. I am quite well bonded with my first two daughters, and do not believe that getting less sleep the first two nights in the hospital would have set us on a different/better path.
Re: Baby staying in hospital room vs nursery
pretty sure that your baby will be just fine if you sleep separate for the night. haven't heard of that being a cause for ptsd. (sorry for my dry humor)
I will admit I'm quite nervous, being that I work at a home for orphaned and abandoned babies. 70% of our children have lost their mothers in childbirth. Granted the LARGE majority of those were born in remote villages, at home, with no skilled attendants. (Getting a bit off topic...)
It'll be interesting for sure.
Married 7/15
BFP #2 2/18/16
Do what works for you