Resurrecting this thread rather than starting new because I may strangle my DH before this baby comes. :-/ I work an exceptionally active job - on my feet all day long, snagging bites to eat when I can but no real lunch, etc. It's exhausting not pregnant and it's a whole F-ton worse now. When I get home, I make dinner. I also clean the house. It frustrates the HELL out of me to be the one who does all the cleaning/cooking etc AND working a more-than-full-time job, but it is what it is.
But now that I'm third trimester and freaking pooped by 11 am, I WANT SYMPATHY at a minimum and HELP would be fabulous. When I rant about how exhausted I am, or how I'm very excited for May to come to get my body back (and pee when I need to for real, not every 5 minutes because baby is tap dancing on my bladder!), all he can say is, "The baby will be worth it." YES I KNOW THAT. THAT'S WHY WE'RE PREGNANT. Offer to help, rub my back, make dinner, DO SOMETHING to make me feel like this is a team project and not a solo one. The other day, I fell going up the stairs and was complaining about how this day just hadn't started right (had been up all night with an emergency), he said, "Well if you're determined to have a bad day, you will." UGH. HUMOR YOUR PREGNANT WIFE FOR 15 SECONDS AND STOP BEING SO PRACTICAL ALL THE DAMN TIME.
UGGGGGHHHHHHHHHH.
Can you ask him to help more? You can't do his all yourself, and after baby arrives you will definitely not be able to clean or cook, so it will all be up to him anyway: he should get in the practice!
It's not that he doesn't want to or isn't willing to help, he's just generally clueless. Like, has no idea how hard pregnancy is, doesn't actually SEE the dirt (for real, is it a guy thing?), can't actually cook much beyond Kraft mac n' cheese. He'll willingly help if I ask but I get so tired of asking! Why can't they just look around and see what needs to be done?
It's not just him, it's every male roommate I ever had through 8 years of school - I think it might be a guy thing. They just don't seem to see dirt/hair/dust. haha.
@Karenpreggo I hear ya....I've had really bad hip/lower back pain which two weeks ago was preventing me from sleeping more than 3-4 hours a night. I was miserable as this lasted a whole week before I got any relief. After some chiro treatment, things are starting to get better, so I can sleep half-decently again. Now apparently last night pregnant sleepy me was snoring, and I feel asleep before MH. You know what he's been complaining about all day? How he didn't sleep last night because of me (FTR, he's quite the snorer himself, and really in no place to be complaining here). Usually, he's the one who makes dinner, and this morning he said he wanted to cook something nice. Now when we got back from all the errands we had to run, he kept on complaining he was so tired. I told him not to worry about it, and then he was bitching some more about my snoring last night and how he can barely stand up. Needless to say he got very little sympathy coming from me. Hum, who's pregnant again?!
Lol, awww, poor husband who didn't get sleep for ONE night. Yikes - you're a patient lady, I would have had words I think. haha
Re: Rant: Husbands can be such asses! (Or is it me?)
It's not just him, it's every male roommate I ever had through 8 years of school - I think it might be a guy thing. They just don't seem to see dirt/hair/dust. haha.