TTCAL check-in week of 3/14

AL_TwinCities · March 2016

Congratulations to all the BFPs last week, and welcome to all the newbies! If you haven't intro'd yet, welcome to TTCAL. This check in is a great thread for you to jump in and introduce yourself.

1. Introduce yourself (if you're new)

2. Status (WTO, TWW, Benched, etc.)

3. Rants/raves:

4. GTKY: what is your favorite day of the week and why?

Boots&Co · March 2016

Good morning!

Today I'm in the tww, but I'm getting crampy and I think AF is coming soon, so about to reset the counter.

Rants and raves: thanks to everyone who posted support on the post about my bff being a bridezilla. That would be my biggest rant right now. Raves: just came home from a surprise vacation from DH. He knows how stressed I've been so we got away for a few days.

My favorite day of the week is Sunday because that is the only day DH and I both have off together. I also have Monday's off which is pretty great to get some nice alone time in.

AL_TwinCities · March 2016

@boots&co I'm glad you brushed off your friend's request - if she brings it up again I wouldn't let her off so easily!

2. Back to WTO, AF started yesterday. Onto the next cycle.

3. I woke up at 3:30 this morning. Why?!?!

4. Saturday definitely. DH and I have the day off together and we aren't even thinking about work. Sundays are stressful as we both keep thinking about our to do lists in the coming week.

Hope everyone has a great week!

roper2617 · March 2016

@Boots&Co So sweet of your DH to take you on a surprise vacation. I agree with PP about your friend, I would be explaining to her why her request is absurd and advising her to choose a new matron of honour if it's that big of a deal, if it happened again. (Let's hope it was a momentary lapse in judgement)

@AL_TwinCities Thumbs down to 3:30 wake ups! I tossed and turned all night myself. Here's hoping we make it through our days on minimal sleep.

2. TWW, CD16 currently either 2 or 3 DPO(I really really need to start temping to confirm). Let the TWW crazies and symptom spotting begin! It's been DH symptom spotting already though, which is kind of cute. I keep telling him it's not possible yet.

3. Rant: DH and I had okay-ish timing with the BDing last week. We got -4,-1, 0, +2. BUT I'm pretty freaking irritated that we didn't get +1 in there. And the only reason we didn't is because DH ended up drinking with friends all damn night! (Literally we didn't get to bed until 4am, oh and those friends were at our house and when I tried to shut things down at 1:30 it didn't go over well) He literally couldn't care less that we missed that day, which is irritating as all heck when he says how much he wants a baby.

4. Definitely Saturday, I can relax and enjoy my day off better than Sunday. I work Mon-Fri. Sundays I have a hard time relaxing because I know I have to go back to work on Monday.

BornReady · March 2016

2. Status (WTO, TWW, Benched, etc.) TWW here. 5 months post-loss

3. Rants/raves:
I ovulated 5 days earlier than every other cycle since my miscarriage, and in the range of my "old normal". It really amazes me how long this whole process of re-regulating has taken, but I'm glad it's happening! I think I ignored some of my fertility signs though because I was seeing them on CD 11-12 and I dismissed it as way too early.

4. GTKY: what is your favorite day of the week and why? Hmm, I'm not sure! I think it changes, but I get lots accomplished in my life on Tuesdays as I don't have to work until noon. So, I end up getting lots of done for me on those days, like getting hair cuts, shopping for me, etc. I always feel so accomplished on Tuesdays!

MooFish2364 · March 2016

2. Benched...waiting for my first post loss AF. I think we might start trying right after.

3. People who get pregnant just looking at their SO. Sometimes it seems that it is just so much easier for other people. I know that's not always the case but that's how I feel sometimes.

4. My favorite day of the week is probably Saturday. My DH works an irregular schedule so sometimes he's gone and sometimes he's home. It's a great day because I get to sleep in and I know I have the following day off too! Sunday's are depressing for me knowing that the work week is just around the corner!

Boots&Co · March 2016

@AL_TwinCities I saw how early you started the thread and was like "woah, she's dedicated to the board" lol!

@roper2617 my friend knows why it would be absurd. She's been with me through both mcs and her advice is don't get too upset, it's not like I was that far along anyway... She's just being selfish and oblivious, but she just lost her mom to cancer, so I think her emotion switch is off. Trying to cut her a break. If it gets brought up again, she won't be so lucky.

MooFish2364 · March 2016

@BornReady I'm curious as to how long it's going to take me to get my cycles back on track. I'm just still waiting for my first af. I think it's getting close though.

@boots&co I think DH and I need to plan a getaway. Everything has been so stressful lately with the loss, family issues, and work stress I really feel like I need to get away before I lose my mind! Maybe we can just get away for the weekend.

Spartanrd4 · March 2016

1. My DH and I have been TTC since June 2015 when I went off birth control. We got married August 2014- we are both 32 years old. Our TTC journey has been complicated by taking 2 cycles to ovulate post bcp, long cycles and poor timing due to my DH traveling for his job. Out of 6 cycles we tried, only 2 were actually good timing or possible to conceive and we conceived on the 2nd try in January 2016. We found out I had a mmc at 9w2d and had a D&C on March 4th. This was our first pregnancy. I have no other children.

2. Status (WTO, TWW, Benched, etc.) Benched, waiting for first AF post D&C. Going to see my OB beginning of April for my post op appointment and see when he will give me the green light- When I had my surgery they said to wait after one period but just want to make sure. Want to try again right away. Started temping again on FF, starting to see my temperature go down which makes me feel good that maybe my hormone levels are going down as they should.

3. Rants/raves: My DH is moving on from the loss a lot quicker than I am, he is very positive and I know he just wants me to be happy again and move forward but I am just not ready. Some days I just want to be sad, Some days I just want to cry for no reason and I want him to understand that. I know he lost the baby too but everything hasn't affected him as much as it has me.

I am invited to a baby shower on Sunday and I just don't think I can do it. Its a close friend/co-worker, I am hoping to be able to grab dinner with her this week sometime and explain how I feel and give her her gift. I hope she will understand. I just don't know how I will react or feel when I'm at the shower and I really just don't want to distract anything from her day or put myself in an awkward position.

4. GTKY: what is your favorite day of the week and why? My favorite day is Saturday, Its my day to truly relax because I work M-F and Sunday is usually my day to clean the house and do laundry.

HLD3194 · March 2016

I guess I haven't really introduced myself officially, My name is Patty, I'm 30 my DH is 32. We have a 19 month old daughter and 1 cat and 2 pugs. We lost our 2nd at 10w5d. We live outside of Chicago and have been looking to move recently.

Currently we're benched. I'm waiting for 1st AF since MMC 2/25/16. I hope it shows up soon because we're eager to get back to BDing.

No really rants right now (surprising) but it is still early, lol. I am annoyed with myself because I had a hard time falling asleep and staying asleep last night (is there something going on with us all) and was suppose to start my new workout routine this morning and decided to snooze past it so now I have to work out when I get home and after DD goes to bed, Oh well it's happening one way or another today.

My favorite day is Sat I think. DH has a rotating shift so he's not always home but I love spending the day with my DD since I work FT. There's usually always something going on too so it's nice to sometimes get out and have something to do and when there are no plans it's nice sometimes to watch TV or do our own thing.

queenklau · March 2016

@BornReady @roper2617 I think we are cycle buddies! I am also early in the TWW CD18 now 3 DPO. Indeed let the crazies begin hehe. We had very good timing (BDed O, O+1 & O-2 twice) so I am hopeful. This is our 4 cycle post loss (losses Nov2015 and June2015).

3.Rants/raves: the regular rant, everyone around me is pregnant. Rave: I have been bowling regularly on a league and am improving consistently. I am not a professional in any way, but my form is getting better and better and it is finally showing in my scores. I got a 163 last Thursday woohoo!

4. I like this question. My favorite day is Friday. Everyone is more laid back and positive at work and it is the beginning of the weekend!!!

mylittleversailles · March 2016

@Boots&Co Ahh, how nice of your husband.

@Al_TwinCities So early! Daylight Savings has me all messed up, too. Did you at least get to see the sun rise?

@roper2617 Your timing still seems pretty good. Obviously irritating, though. I’ve had insomnia all my life, but temping isn’t so bad - if you get used to it. I always, always get up to pee around 5 or 6 am and I’ve gotten myself into the habit of temping right before I go and then I slip back to sleep (most of the time).

@BornReady Your Tuesdays sound perfect.

@MooFish2364 Ah, yes, it does seem that way. I’m finding it a rough life lesson at 31 that the way they scared us into thinking all (PIV) sex leads to pregnancy as teens simply isn’t even close to true. I mean, obviously I knew it wasn’t entirely true, but just how hard it can be was never something I even considered.

@Spartanrd4Hello, welcome. I’m very sorry for your loss.I see we had very similar timing for our losses, though I did mine at home. You take all the time you need to feel better, there is no timeline that works for everyone. There is no right way to feel and I hope that you can find healing and comfort on your TTCAL journey.

@crazypt2285I’m very sorry your find yourself here. My condolences for your loss. Good luck with everything, including your new workout plan!

As for me:

WTO, CD 13 (yo @megsbrock how’s 13 going for you?). Plenty of watery CM. First cycle past my loss. Doing SMEP, everything is fine so far. If things are the same as before (they have been so far but I’m not counting on it of course) I’ll ovulate in two days. I’m really going to miss POAS during the eminent TWW when I will surely become totally, completely, 100% BSC.

Nothing to rant about, actually. I’ll be back in a couple of days for that, I think. Oh no I thought about: I feel a lot of pressure this first cycle because I'd always imagined a Christmas baby to be extra special and this is our shot at it and argh oh no.

I got a kiss from a Nona and I’m still raving about it because I’m so far away from my grandma. There’s a small family run Italian grocery store on the corner of our block. They’ve been in business for more than 50 years. I made tiramisu with the advice of one of the owners and brought them some of it for critiques - recipe development is a complicated road - and the nona’s eyes lit up and she grabbed my face and gave me the best grandma kiss ever.

We’re also travelling this weekend to Montreal. So many people we love there; hopefully it makes some of the TWW a little easier. I’m working on a rosewater and halva cupcake for our old grocer (yeah, we like to make bffs out of local business proprietors; we’re huge on community stuff) in Montreal, as halva is his favourite dessert and every time we visit we bring him something special. We all three cried together when we moved away. A big part of this rave is my best friend gave us the tickets to Montreal for free, as he had a bunch of passes to use up with an airline. Yayyy! (Or I'll ovulate late and we'll have to awkwardly, silently BD in our friend's spare bedroom).

My favourite day of the week is, and always has been, Sunday. There’s something peaceful about Sundays. The world seems a little quieter. We usually do something in the neighbourhood and then spend the rest of the day doing special activities as home; baking French pastries, gardening, entertaining friends, etc. Even when I was young, I told my retail jobs I couldn’t work Sundays. I’ve always loved having them to myself.

Edit: found a rant at the bottom of psyche

penelope4612 · March 2016

@boots&co - someday your friend will realize how insensitive she was being (like, when she decides to TTC). Until then, I agree with PP - tell her that you can be there for her as much as possible but you're not willing to put your family plan on a 6 month hold for her wedding.

@roper2617 - From what I've read, I don't think +1 matters much. -1 is the best day, because the sperm is already up there ready for the egg to be released (although obviously people can get pregnant with other days as well). I think +1 is mostly there so that if ovulation was miscalculated, you're still in the game. Technically you could get pregnant on +1 because the egg lives for 24 hours, but it starts to degrade during that time so you may not even still have a fertile egg by the time you BD on +1.

2. Status (WTO, TWW, Benched, etc.): I *think* I'm in the TWW and I ovulated either yesterday or the day before but my temps have been weird all month (higher than usual) so it's hard to tell. I had a sort of temp spike today but it's not quite as high as it usually gets post-O. We shall see.

3. Rants/raves: I weaned myself off of caffeine and today is my first caffeine-free day. On a Monday. After daylight savings. Great timing.

4. GTKY: what is your favorite day of the week and why? Definitely Friday. I love the expectation that I'm going to have a few days off more than actually having them off I think.

Boots&Co · March 2016

@MooFish2364 you should try to get away if you can. I had a streak where I had my 2nd mmc, then my mom broke her ankle and I had to run our business by myself, then my grandma passed away. (All I kept repeating was "my grandma wouldn't have lived to see my baby anyway..." My first mc would have been an April edd) I was a shell. So we went down to Florida for a few days to recharge. To be warm and happy again. I'm feeling better since we got back. I needed to reset and if you can ever do it, I highly recommend it.

@Spartanrd4 I know how you feel about DH. I'm not quite sure they'll ever truly feel what we've gone through. To feel your body change, then to have it back to normal like nothing ever happened. All they know is what you tell them. I also think they try to be strong for us. And maybe that comes across as moving on, but perhaps it's just their coping mechanism. I'd skip the shower. It's still so fresh for you, don't put yourself through that.

dpjennifer · March 2016

2. Status (WTO, TWW, Benched, etc.): WTO. CD3.

3. Rants/raves: Having a rough TTCAL day. Got a cold on Friday and AF came on Saturday. This cycle I O’d a week earlier than any of my previous post-MC cycles, which I was totally unprepared for and so my timing wasn’t great. But I stupidly got my hopes up anyway (since I’d had sleep issues around the time of O, so my chart could’ve been off, and we BD O+1 and O+2), because my luteal phase was a few days longer than usual. So, between the cold and AF and work stress, I’ve already peaced out on today. I’m into my 5th cycle post-MC and although I know ttc can be difficult and take a long time, I just wasn’t aware of how stressed I would feel about it all after MC.

4. GTKY: what is your favorite day of the week and why? I agree with PP that Saturday is my favorite day of the week as well. Sunday can sometimes be relaxing, and sometimes stressful thinking about the upcoming work week.

Boots&Co Surprise vacation sounds awesome! Glad you enjoyed it.

@AL-TwinCities and @crazypt2285 I totally understand the sleep issues. I’ve been having serious issues with sleeping all night this past cycle… and it appears to be continuing into this cycle as well.

@Spartanrd4 Welcome! Good luck with the baby shower. There was a thread on this board a few months ago where people were talking about going to showers and there was a lot of good advice, you could look up and see what all was said!

BornReady · March 2016

@Spartanrd4 Sorry for your loss and welcome to the board. I would totally not worry about the shower, give her the gift and say you can't go. I think we can sometimes worry more about that stuff than is really necessary, I like to think that stuff doesn't really bother people. Really the day is about them and they will be so focused on who is there that who isn't doesn't really come into too much focus. I went to one baby shower while dealing with infertility and I wanted to melt into the floor, I cried the whole way home. I was so miserable. Best to you.

mylittleversailles · March 2016

Oh, and it's the week of what would have been my best friend's 30th birthday, so I guess I have that to unpack, too. I'd just moved to Montreal and in with him when he died and I promised him rainbow desserts for his birthday, so every year I've made something in commemoration of that. Will have a think of what this year's will be.

dpjennifer · March 2016

reneeannemm OMG, that Nona kiss sounds amazing! J Recipe development is complicated, and seeing some high props is awesome! Also, the Christmas baby thing has hit me too. Realizing that this is the last chance for a baby this calendar year is pretty rough.

musicinmysoul17 · March 2016

Status: WTO CD: 10

Rants/raves: I've been sick with the worst allergies for the last week. I'm so over it! This week I'm trying to be careful what I take for it since I'll O sometime.

My family is a 12 hour drive away from me and I got to the place where I could tell them about my MC a couple weeks after it happened. My oldest sister and my SIL, who are both moms, sent me a package with chocolate, a beautiful necklace, a box, and wrote letters to my baby to keep in the box as well as my own when I can write them. It was so comforting because I had a meltdown the night before. I just cried on my dog cause DH was at work. Sometimes I feel so alone because I have no one to talk to or when I do talk about it people try to "fix it". I thought I was doing ok but I realized it still hurts a lot.

4. GTKY: what is your favorite day of the week and why? Saturday because I can do whatever I want!

fivetimesnoluck · March 2016

1. Working with an RE since mid-December and hoping to try again soon.

2. Status: Benched. CD 13 today. Will TTC if given the green light after this next cycle.

3. Rants/raves: A few.
RAVE: DH and I were intimate yesterday for the first time in a LONG time. We have been scared. And anxious. And sad. It's been so hard, but I told him recently we should practice before it's go time so that we can actually enjoy it and reconnect. He agreed and we had a date night on Saturday... but we both fell asleep before any fun stuff. HA! So, we woke up yesterday and fooled around and it was soooo lovely.

RANTS: (1) The BSC is ramping up. I have already counted out what a pregnancy would look like if we got KU the first try (which has happened a couple of times)... We would reach 13 weeks the week of my last EDD (June 30). No pressure, right?
(2) I missed my tattoo appointment because of a scheduling snafu! I took down the wrong date, so I was a no-show for Saturday since I planned on showing up Sunday. Oops. They were kind enough to reschedule without charging me, so I appreciate that, but I am so excited to get more work done and see the colors start filling in. Next appointment is now Friday, 3/18.
(3) My mom and I were texting last night and she asked me if I wanted some mirror she found in a antique store. I said, "No, thanks! Why don't you put that money away for my future baby?

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She replied with, "Excuse me, our baby! For as much as I have prayed, it will be yours, DH's, and mine and your father's."
I know she meant no harm, but FFS, that just really struck me the wrong way. I am still peeved this morning.

4. GTKY: what is your favorite day of the week and why? Today I like Fridays the best. But it's a tight race between Friday and Saturday...

SnobunnieMel · March 2016

1. I intro'd on last week's board. Still very new here. Today is 2 weeks since we found out about our MMC at what would have been 9 weeks.

2. Benched until my post op appointment Thursday. DH is counting down the days. I started temping last week and they have been dropping like a rock daily. Pretty much down at my former cover line levels so I think my hormones are almost leveled out. Plus I went crazy yesterday and wanted to make sure so I took a week estimator for reverse than normal purposes. Hcg down enough that it only registered 1-2 weeks. Needed some peace of mine since my office isn't drawing levels.

3 I have a giant rant about inconsiderate SILs. Both of them (DH's sister and my brothers fiancé) have decided it's "comforting" to tell me that if we keep having losses that they are both more than happy to be or surrogate since in their own and separate words "pregnancy went easy for them." Way to insult me and brag all at the same time bitches. My brothers fiancé also decided that after not texting me in months, that it's appropriate to start out with "I hear it's really common And usually happens atleast once." Please, tell me that after you have had 2 elective abortions in your past and then brag about how easy pregnancy went for you with your other kid. Ok. I'm done. Sorry.

4. I love Sunday's. If we are both off work for the weekend Sunday is our morning yoga, dog park and brunch day. We don't get our schedules matched up for off call weekends much but that seems to be the time we get together most frequently.

beff12 · March 2016

Status: TWW

Rants/raves: DH has Mondays off and it's so great having him home

I guess I have a semi-rant. I POAS this morning and he and I couldn't decide if there was a squinter or not. It was a wondfo. I have an unopened box of FRERs awaiting me for tomorrow. We shall see.

Favorite day of the week: I'm gonna be a weirdie and say Monday because it's our most relaxing day! When I was still teaching, Monday was obviously my least favorite but now I love it.

roper2617 · March 2016

@penelope4612 yeah the reason I really wanted +1 was just in case I ovulated a little later. I'm pretty damn positive I ovulated Friday night. But, even if I ovulated late our timing was still good. It just gives me anxiety when things don't go as planned lol. Also, I couldn't imagine coffee weaning on a Monday after day light savings. Your dedication is impressive!

@dpjennifer I hope you're able to take some time for self care today. TTC takes a lot out of us emotionally, especially TTCAL.

@Spartanrd4 sorry for your loss and welcome. I personally would be skipping out on the shower so close to the MC. I had a bad experience at my cousins shower that I attended 3 months post loss, there is no way I would've handled it well if the same thing happened any earlier in my grief journey. Take the time to grieve and take care of yourself.

@reneeannemm Enjoy your Montreal weekend, I've always wanted to go there. Also those cupcakes sound amazing! I am sorry for the loss of your friend, I think it's great that you do something around his birthday.

@klauerinaking hey cycle buddy. I'm also 4th cycle post loss, also November 2015. Bowling is so much fun! I don't do league though. Are you 5 or 10 pin?

@crazypt2285 I hope that being benched ends soon for you. I've tried so many times to workout early am and have failed every time. I have a huge snooze button issue lol

@MooFish2364 I hear ya! I had to get off facebook for a bit because it felt like everybody and their dog was getting pregnant.

@BornReady yay for things getting back to "old normal"!

fivetimesnoluck · March 2016

Boots&Co
As I recently posted, I am impressed with your decorum. I would not have been so understanding.

AL_TwinCities
Insomnia sucks. Fingers crossed your clock resets and you get better rest this evening!

roper2617
Sounds like you had a good run! FX for a seemingly fast TWW!

BornReady
I love having time off during the week! It rarely happens, but your Tuesday mornings sound really nice!

MooFish2364
I hear ya on the everyone and their sister is KTFU. I was in a convenience store yesterday and the cashier and a customer in front of me were talking about their infants and one of them was already PG again. Grrrrrrr....

Spartanrd4
Welcome. I am sorry for your loss. My (unsolicited) advice is to skip the shower. It's too soon and your self-preservation is too important right now. Your consideration to even share ahead of time why you won't be attending is beyond thoughtful.

crazypt2285
Welcome. I am sorry for your loss. I think anyone who plans to workout on Monday am is ambitious

, so go easy on yourself if it doesn't happen until later. Where are you planning to move? Stay in the Chicago area or go somewhere totally different?

klauerinaking
Congrats on your high score! That's awesome. I think it would be a lot of fun to play in a league.

reneeannemm
It sounds like this week will be hard on you, so I think it's great that you will have the chance to travel a bit and make some new memories with special people. Big hugs.

penelope4612
Definitely a rough day to eliminate the caffeine! Hope it's going well for you so far!

dpjennifer
I am sorry you feel so out of whack. Hopefully this Monday will move on quickly.

becbec28
What a thoughtful idea for a comforting care package! Grief comes in waves... when we think it's gone, it takes us by surprise and surges again. I am glad some folks in your life get it, even if they are 12 hours away! xo

SnobunnieMel
Your SILs sounds like a special pair.... I am sorry they are adding insult to injury. My (silly) question is how did you get your partner to do yoga with you? I have asked, and even begged, to no avail....

beff12
Fingers crossed! I am not sure I could wait for tomorrow. We will be hoping to hear good news!

Edited b/c I pressed send too soon!

catiecatp · March 2016

2. CD21, 3 DPO - our timing was good, but could have been better if DH had slept more on Thursday night. With only 3 hours of sleep he wasn't up for BD on Friday so we missed O - We've got -3, -1 and +1 - and I'm some what certain that I had fertile CM Friday evening (so much this cycle), so a later in the day ovulation may mean that +1 is useful. I'm hopeful because this is the first cycle that CM and temps have lined up - I told DH but he wasn't super interested, in part because he's not concerned about how long we've been trying (it hasn't been long) and in part because it was 6 am and we were sleepy.

3. Rave - I'm in the process of proving my US citizenship (that will make for 3 citizenships by birth - Canadian, Italian and US) so I'm contacting companies and schools to prove that my dad lived in the states for a particular number of years (I know he did, I just have to find the documents). I've got his university transcripts (BSc, MSc, and PhD) on order and have a call in to his elementary school. Yep - elementary school - because I have his HS class ring and therefore was able to find and contact his HS, get those transcripts, and the lovely lady also pointed me in the direction of his elementary school (which is great - who knew there was a Sacred Heart Elementary in Lancaster CA as well as in Lancaster PA?). Veterans affairs may take up to 90 days - but I may be able to call for a statement of social security contributions (though that should go through my mom and I'm trying to do as much of the work by myself as I can - also because she's in Italy with my Nonna after a bad fall... so time zones and stuff).

Rant - I am sleeping horribly and I hope my naturopath can help me tomorrow.

4. GTKY - this varies by semester because my schedule varies - right now I suppose I like Thursdays - no teaching but not quite the weekend - or Saturdays... Not Mondays after time changes...

shae86 · March 2016

@SnobunnieMel Wow, I thought my in-laws were bad. That makes me so angry for you! Some people are just unbelievable.

Status: Benched until first AF post MC. I passed everything 2 weeks ago, and got a clear ultrasound last Monday. But blood work showed my HCG was still 234 last week. Having it checked again today, and crossing my fingers for a much lower number.

Rant: I'm 29 and seriously considering getting braces for the second time. My teeth totally shifted and I need a dental implant, and the dentist told me that this is by far the best option. I would get the clear ones, but I can't help but cringe when I think about it.

GTKY: My favorite day is Saturday. DH and I both work M-F, so Saturday is that perfect day when we can sleep in AND stay up late. Had a particularly perfect day this past weekend. Went to an antique store, then out to lunch, then to Disneyland to go on one ride (we have season passes), met DH's family for dinner, and we were back home and in bed by 9 to watch a movie. Why can't every day be like that?

lilyaster · March 2016

2. I'm benched following D&C. Our plans change daily but we may start trying this summer. I'll meet with the ob next week to discuss some RPL testing though I doubt we'll really get any answers.

3. Rant: Getting a call today from the perinatal clinic where I missed my appointment Friday (I was in surgery and couldn't find their number to cancel prior). I told her we had a loss and she apologized but clearly didn't understand as she asked if I wanted to re-schedule. Then there were the folks who congratulated us this weekend, and the friend who texted asking if she could take our announcement pics. I really felt like we had tried not to share much this time.

4. I love Fridays. Our other weekdays are so busy and Friday we can all decompress. It's also our usual date night, when that happens.

megsbrock · March 2016

I am feeling like there are SO many relevant conversations going on right now. I could be any one of you today!

@roper2617 How many times have I kicked my and DH's guy friends out of the house in the early morning hours?! They just don't know when enough's enough. It's a good thing they still love me (at least I hope haha) DH does nothing to help. He'd drink till the dawn with them if I wasn't always reminding him how important it is to stay healthy and get sleep while we go through this TTCAL process. It's not just my body we need to worry about, it's his as well. On that note, yes please @SnobunnieMel how did you get him into yoga?! I'm intrigued. I also try to no avail. I just want him to do some yoga with me at home, to help him relax and such, and get the blood flowing. Men really underestimate the importance of stretching and breathing, in my opinion.

@Spartanrd4 I would totally give yourself a break on the shower. Even to see your friend in advance to explain yourself and give a gift is going above and beyond and you are a super friend. I agree with PPs that everyone and I mean everyone seems to be pregnant so if there was ever a time to be picky and choosy with the showers you attend...now is the time you get a free pass on that.

@reneeannemm 13 is going okay. I wish I would hurry up and O, but realistically that will be CD17 at the earliest for me. I'm with ya on the watery CM. Sounds like you have an emotionally heavy week but I'm glad you are looking forward to your trip to Montreal. Great city I'm also (secretly) obsessing over this being the cycle that would give us our last shot at a 2016 due date. I have been obsessing about it for a while now. I think I'm starting to let it go a little bit...if not this cycle, then next cycle would give me a first week of January due date, which gives me a good chance of having the baby in 2016 still. If THAT cycle passes with no BFP, then I'll definitely feel it even more. Ugh. The things we debate in our heads.

@catiecatp @dpjennifer @roper2617 I'm glad I'm not the only one who obsesses about whether or not we got the timing right. It drives my DH nuts sometimes. But this is something else I think we deserve a free pass at.

Status: WTO, CD 13. Let's get this show on the road, ovaries.

Rants: Finished season 4 of House of Cards yesterday. Post series blues here today. Also, it's slow at work this month while I wait for the new fiscal year staffing plans (I work in hiring) and I'll come back from vacation in mid-April to a shit show, I'm sure. Frustrating because I have all the time in the world right now that I'll be wishing for in a month's time.

Raves: leaving for Florida vacation 2 weeks from today! if AF does show this cycle, it will be while we are on vacation, so I'm glad for the distraction.

Favorite day of the week: Friday! I agree with PP's - work is more relaxed, I'm able to get things done and prep for the next week, and I know I have a full weekend ahead of me, blank slate

SnobunnieMel · March 2016

@megsbrock I didn't have to do anything so I lucked out. He grew up doing yoga with hockey and he played professional baseball for 8 years and he did yoga and Pilates 4-5 times a week during the off season to help with flexibility and core. He loves to go and it's something we can laugh about how out of shape we both are now together while doing it.

CClark2014 · March 2016

2. Status (WTO, TWW, Benched, etc.) Still benched. I'm antsy for our first cycle, I'm curious how its going to be and just ready to feel like we are moving forward, I just feel like we are in limbo right now. Even though it has been just over a week, it feels like an eternity...so that's not helping.

3. Rants/raves: Rant: Last Thursday was one of the hardest since this all happened. It just really hit me how different our lives were a week ago. Each day has been better, and I feel like we are in a good place considering.
Rave: This is going to sound shallow, but I don't mean it that way. My skin, nails and hair are the best they have ever been in my life. I've taken prenatal vitamins long before we ever started TTC, but I've had other health issues that I'm hoping this is a sign that my body is more regulated and healthy from the inside out.
4. GTKY: what is your favorite day of the week and why? Actually I like Monday's for the most part. I like the fresh slate of the week. My office starts the week with a planning meeting and I love having the lists and schedules for the week.

dpjennifer · March 2016

klauerinaking I missed your bowling score earlier somehow! Congrats! I just finished a small 10 week league with my husband (again, I’m in no way a professional, and am working on form as you are) and getting in a REALLY nice game like that is a shining star!

becbec28 That was so nice of your sister and SIL!

roper2617 and @fivetimesnoluck Thanks. I can’t wait to get home from work so I can just relax and take some time for myself.

@shae86 Sorry about the braces. My cousin had invisalign a few years ago and liked them. So at least now they have braces that can’t be seen!

@megsbrock Oh I definitely stress about the timing. Timing is about the only thing you can control (assuming your cycle is coming in regular at all)… and even then things can shift in your body. Ugh!

stephann85 · March 2016

2. Status: WTO, CD 12.

3. Rants: Daylight savings time... not sure I have to say much else about that.

... 2nd rant: I really love it when people are complaining about their pregnancy symptoms. I would love to have those symptoms. What hurts even worse is that she conceived about a week earlier than I did with my loss. So I see her bump starting to show and I start thinking that should have been me.
Rave: The chirping of the returning birds have a sort of soothing effect. It reassures me that spring has returned and with that it brings new life.

4. GTKY: what is your favorite day of the week and why? Saturday is probably my favorite day, just because that is my day to relax and my DH usually has off.

Aera11 · March 2016

2. Status (WTO, TWW, Benched, etc.) CD22, still benched. Meeting with my RE Friday to see if I am off the bench next cycle, fingers crossed! I am 2 months post D&C, which sounds so crazy.

3. Rants/raves: I don't know if this qualifies as a rant, but I can't get my due date/how many weeks "I would be" out of my head lately. A few days ago I would have passed the halfway point, which is crazy! I think it's because in the last few weeks there have been sooooon many pregnancy announcements, it is making me dwell on my own. Seeing my RE Friday will be good because I think I will be able to re-focus on my own game plan and less on what is happening with others.

4. GTKY: what is your favorite day of the week and why? Mondays or Fridays lately. I always have Monday off (and Friday if I don't have a wedding), so I get a lot done or can relax.

@bornready, that is how I am on Mondays usually! Weekends fill up with family/friends, going out, etc...so Mondays are usually my "me" and get other things done day.

@al_twincities ugh that time jump...yuck

LaurenDarling · March 2016

@Aera11 I totally get what you mean about the dwelling on other dates. In my head, I've been living two alternate reality versions of myself where things went the way I wanted them too. It's not healthy, but maybe that's the way I need to cope. Jumping back into the TTC world has helped though. Looking forward to what is to come.

Aera11 · March 2016

@LaurenDarling, I know...I feel for you. I go back and forth between feeling like I need to stop looking at 'where I would be' and to focus on the present and what is to come. I know the upcoming due dates will be hard and my mind can't help but wander down that road of wondering so many things. Yes, getting back into TTC will definitely be good!

shae86 · March 2016

@klauerinaking @dpjennifer bowling leagues are so much fun! We were in a league for 3 years with our best friends, and made total fools out of ourselves every year. We dressed up in costumes for the tournaments at the end of each season, which is something I totally recommend.

roper2617 · March 2016

@becbec28 so glad to hear that you have such good support

@fivetimesnoluck been there! I know all my EDDs from this cycle until Julys cycle...
I can see why your moms text would make you peeved, I would've had a hard time with it too

@SnobunnieMel sorry for rude SILs! It's amazing what people think is appropriate to say! urg.

@beff12 FX! I'm impressed with your ability to wait until tomorrow. I'd be peeing on everything in sight lol

@catiecatp you sound so busy with all of that! It seems to be progressing well though, that's exciting!

@shae86 hope your numbers are lower today! I am wickedly jealous of your Disneyland season passes. Disney is pretty high up on my bucket list.

@lilyaster wow, that's so much to deal with! hope you're able to find time to take care of yourself

@megsbrock woooooooooo Florida vacation!

@CClark2014 Being excited to get AF felt so weird to me in the first cycles after loss. But it's so nice to know that things are moving forward and getting out of that limbo stage. And that doesn't sound shallow. My hair and nails were (sadly) never more beautiful than the weeks following my MC.

@stephann85 I am right with you on both those rants!

@Aera11 FX for next Friday's appointment. I get hung up on the dates too. Especially when the anniversary of my MC rolls around.

zrain · March 2016

2. 12 DPO

3. Rant: Like I mentioned in the TTGP TWW thread, I'm having a rough symptom spotting day. No appetite, aversions to things, skin breaking out, crying randomly ("That guy at the counter was just so nice!" as tears roll down my cheeks after we checked our bag for our flight home). Probably AF coming soon, since I've had nothing but BFNs so far. It's so hard not to compare every little thing with how I felt the cycle I got pregnant. I'm trying to prepare myself for disappointment, but I think getting AF is going to be a difficult reminder of just how not-pregnant-anymore I am.
Another rant: It's pi day and I haven't had any pie and I don't want to. I usually bake a pie for pi day and this year I'm spending the entire day and then some traveling (30 hours in one day. Time zones are silly things), and I don't feel like eating anything at all.
Rave: I'm so excited to see my kitty and dog and sleep in my own bed and have conversations with people where neither one of us gets confused about vocabulary and not be sweaty and gross all the time! Also, our trip was amazing and I highly recommend Cambodia and Vietnam for anyone feeling adventurous who wants to experience some very different cultures, friendly people, and beautiful sights.

4. GTKY: I work a totally random schedule, so my favorite day of the week is the second and third days DH and I both have off at the same time. The first day off we're both useless.

zrain · March 2016

@Boots&Co or @LaurenDarling I hope AF stays away. How sweet of your DH to surprise you with a vacation! I agree, it's good to get away from real life for a little while.

@AL_TwinCities Sorry for AF

@roper2617 Like @penelope4612 said, +1 doesn't really matter unless you're not totally sure of your O date. By then the egg is either fertilized already or no longer able to be. You have good timing either way!

@BornReady I'm glad your cycles seem to be getting back back to normal!

@MooFish2364 I hope AF gets here soon so you can start moving forward. And I highly recommend even a short little vacation!

@Spartanrd4 Welcome, and I'm sorry for your loss. My DH is handling things a lot better than me too. I think the dads just didn't have the same physical connections with our lost LOs that us mamas did, so it makes it less tangible for them with not quite as deep of a sense of loss. I hope you get the green light at your appointment and don't have to wait long for your rainbow baby

@crazypt2285 I think I've slept through the night maybe three times since my loss. I always seem to wake up around 3 or 4 and not get completely back to sleep. FF now marks my regular temping time of 5-5:30 as late because I've been waking up early so often. I hope it goes away for all of us eventually!

@klauerinaking Seriously, pregnant ladies everywhere. And awesome job with the bowling! I usually get like 70 or so. I'm terrible.

@reneeannemm Aww what a sweet story about the grocery store grandma. And yay for free vacation! I hope you O before then. Quiet baby-making sex in someone else's house is so awkward.

@penelope4612 Wow, you are brave to start no caffeine today. Good for you!

@dpjennifer Ugh, I'm sorry you're having a rough day. I hope next cycle will be more predictable and you can have better timing. *hugs*

@becbec28 I'm sitting in the airport crying in front of a bunch of strangers because of that story about your sister and SIL. That is just so unbelievably sweet. I'm glad you have them at least to give you support. As for thinking you're doing ok and then finding out you're not, I get that too. Something triggers it and I feel such an immense sense of loss and just cry til I'm done. Grief comes in waves. Also, my phone just autocorrected grief to "fried", which made me giggle, so now I'm giggling at my phone with tears running down my cheeks. People must think I'm a crazy person

@fivetimesnoluck Re:rave: I cried the first time DH and I were intimate after our loss, but it's been good ever since. I'm glad you were able to enjoy each other again. Re:Rant #2: Oh no! That's a bummer that you missed your appointment. I'm glad they were able to reschedule you for so soon! Re:rant #3 I hope this doesn't offend anyone, but praying is not at all the same as creating a life, carrying it, delivering it, and then having it be reliant on you for at least 18 years if not the rest of your life. I get that your mom feels strongly connected to her future grandchild, but I can definitely see how it would rub you the wrong way.

@SnobunnieMel I tested the hCG out of my system with wondfos. I also had a MMC (miscarried at 9 weeks ish) and I finally got a negative 17 days later. My temps stopped being weird after that. As for your SILs...wow. More than a little premature. What a weird and inappropriate thing to say. I'm sorry *hugs*

@beff12 I'm going to keep my FX that it's more than just line eyes and you get a darker line tomorrow!

@catiecatp Wow, proving citizenship sounds like a lot of work!

@shae86 That sounds like such a wonderful day! How nice to be able to just pop into Disneyland for one ride!

@lilyaster Ugh, I'm sorry so many people are not getting it. That's extra weird that the receptioninst at the perinatal clinic didn't understand. You'd think they'd have some experience with this. Sorry you had to hear all that *hug*

@megsbrock. I imagine it's hard to enjoy your slow time with all the busy-ness coming up! And I hope AF never shows on your vacation!

@CClark2014 Doesn't sound shallow! Ever since I was pregnant I've had more acne, which is annoying, but my hair is much fuller and shinier and doesn't fall out much at all. I'm hanging on to every little good thing that came from my brief pregnancy.

@stephann85 I hate when people complain about pregnancy symptoms too. I would love to be nauseated and pimply and crying all the time again if it meant I could take home a baby at the end of it.

@Aera11 Totally counts as a rant. I do the same thing and it makes me sad. I'm trying to stay away from the what ifs/what would have been, but it's hard.

beff12 · March 2016

@roper2617 don't be too impressed haha! I gave in and did a FRER this evening. Still can't tell either way. Ugh. FMU it is!

Af2013nl · March 2016

2) TWW Ovulation day 24, 4 dpo.
3) Rave: Was traveling without DH for two weeks mid cycle so fully expected to miss our window this month, but I ovulated late, the day I got back. So we still have a chance this month.
4) Don't really have a favorite day of the week--they all seem to blend in together, but if I had to pick one it would be every other Saturday because I get to sleep in for a bit!

@Spartanrd4 A good friend should understand your feelings behind wanting to miss out on her celebrations. I think meeting with her privately before her shower is a good idea if you don't feel up to going to the party.

@klauerinaking I agree--every around me seems to be KU as well. I just try to be happy for them....though to be honest try to avoid them on days I'm feeling down.

@catiecatp Good luck with the citizenship paperwork. I went through it a few years ago and getting all the paperwork in order can be quite a pain!

@shae86 My dentist brought up the idea of braces a few years ago too (my middle bottom teeth are a bit overcrowded) I decided not to bother as no one seems them.

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