Community› The Bump Month Clubs› December 2015 Moms
December 2015 Moms
New Discussion

FFFC 3/11

blended10blended10 member
in December 2015 Moms
tell it!!


my confession- I have a gf who's getting married & the b'ette planning had turned into kind of a drama fest. I'm not a bm but I'm close with everyone involved so I've been helping to plan. Anyway - I love the drama bc I'm not directly involved & it's something to gossip about that has nothing to do with kids or anything (very) important. Makes me feel like I'm in high school again 
Report Reply to Post

Re: FFFC 3/11

  • Court11152325Court11152325 member
    I've only had to teach on campus for the last 4 weeks (before that my classes were online as part of my maternity "leave") and I think I need spring break more than my students. I showed a documentary instead of doing a lecture yesterday and sat on Facebook for most of it!!
    Report Reply
  • Loading the player...
  • thatgirlree24thatgirlree24 member
    I called out of work yesterday and today with no real reason. Just didn't feel like going. 

    On the plus side, I still get paid and can hang out with my cute three month old all day ;) and I have weekends off
    Report Reply
  • MomofEv+1MomofEv+1 member
    I think my SIL is a great mom in a lot of ways, but she takes the easy way and then doesn't understand why she gets poor results. For example, a few weeks ago she complained to me that her mother told her she should be brushing her five year old's teeth everyday. How dare she state the obvious! But then cried to me that her DD now has multiple cavities to fill and is so out of control that the dentist said she may have to be sedated. The cost is $10,000 because it would not be covered by insurance and would have to be done in the hospital. I would feel bad if she would have brushed her teeth, but...
    Report Reply
  • NellieHarringtonCarterNellieHarringtonCarter member
    edited March 2016
    I love my DH, and leaving him has never been a thought in my mind before, but if things don't improve, I might have to at least threaten it. (Sorry, this is a long vent.)

    We're going through a rough patch right now. Over the past 2-3 years, since we moved here, he's spent a LOT of times with friends and a lot less time with me or our daughter. He's also had some work issues, and depression. He's had the last two summers off to do whatever the hell he wants (the first summer, through medical hiatus, last summer, unemployment). while I work full time and pretty much take care of our kid (now, kids). Lately, like within the last few months, this situation has worsened to the point where he works 8 hours a day, then has extracurricular stuff 4 nights a week (M-T), and lately, has been going out at least Friday or Saturday nights, or both, and then sleeping through Sunday. 

    In previous arguments we've had, he's shared some frustrations he's had with me, like that I can sometimes act depressed, and he feels like he has to bring me up along with himself, and that he doesn't like being around that. So I make a point to be upbeat when he comes home. He sometimes complains that I don't talk to him sometimes, and he thinks I'm mad. So I make a point to ask him about work or hockey or friends. I know house and money stuff is overwhelming him, so I try to work as much as I can, take care of the kids, and the house so that he doesn't have to worry about it. He doesn't really show me any affection lately, and though he says he loves me, I sometimes wonder if he thinks he means it. 

    I don't complain about him to anyone anymore, especially my mom or my sister, because when I would vent to them, and then we would go through a good patch, they would still be bitter towards him from before. Even though I don't complain, they still see his behavior. So I spend most of my time defending his actions or glossing over how much he's gone. Lately, though, I've heard from HIS family, saying that they don't think I am going to stick around very much longer if he keeps acting the way he is. They don't even live around here, and I haven't even said anything to them! 

    We're supposed to talk tonight about how things aren't very good right now. I really don't know how he would put any blame on me. I mean, I know I'm not perfect, but I'm at least trying. The only real complaint about me that he could have is that we haven't had sex (for like forever), but he hasn't initiated anything with me (I mean, he's never home, so how could he?) and while I've hinted at it a little bit, I'm not going to initiate anything if he barely treats me as anything more than a roommate. 

    I have to say that he is a great father; I would never question his love and devotion for his kids. I mean, he's not around a lot to help with them, but when he is home, he is usually very attentive and involved. 

    I just don't know what more he wants from me. I can be pretty self-deprecating, but honestly, I'm a pretty awesome wife. No one else would have put up with what I have put up with over the past 5 years or so.

    So yeah, we're supposed to talk tonight. And to top it all off, he got a ticket on his way to work this morning. So that should put him in a great mood... 
    Report Reply
  • navyblueladybugnavyblueladybug member
    @Mother0fDragons Omg, I lost handfuls of hair this morning in the shower!!! It doesn't help I only wear my hair up now for work and so DD doesn't grab at it and get it in her mouth. I'm thinking about cutting it all off again (I go from super long to super short hair and then grow it out and repeat). What's the point having it long if I only wear it up?

    @NellieHarringtonCarter A couple weeks ago DH and I were having a rough patch. He could tell I was holding in a lot of anger and he said he had some things to say to me too. So we took about an hour and wrote down everything we wanted to say to each other. We each had a turn talking and getting it out there. We weren't allowed to interrupt but listened. After one person was done, we talked about it. Then the next person went and we talked about that too. And oh man, it sure did help! We've been together for 11 years, married for 8 and tend to hold in our anger. We don't fight a lot but then it just builds up. I suggest writing down everything so it comes out the way you want it to. I hope you guys can work things out! 
    Report Reply
  • ammnam14ammnam14 member
    taysun said:
    Sometimes the only way I can get DD to stop crying (we've just started some hardcore teething) is to put her on her activity may on the floor and let her look at the tv. 
    And it's never baby friendly programs. Its criminal minds or family feud or Chicago med. 
    Love this! Zoe and I watched Notorious the other day. She watched the whole thing without fussing lol! 
    Report Reply
  • dec15mumdec15mum member
    I sing a lot of Taylor Swift to DS
    It settles him right down- no shame 
    Report Reply
  • KRH6829KRH6829 member
    Mother0fDragons said:
    Postpartum hair shedding is driving me crazy, some days I just want to pull a Britney Spears.

    I did not have this with DS. All of a
    sudden this has occurred after having DD. There is so much hair on the drain when I am done showering that I don't know how I'm not bald!!!  So crazy, since this did not happen with my first. 
    Report Reply
  • Court11152325Court11152325 member
    RE: hair loss. I refuse to stop taking prenatals. They are supposed to help with the hair loss. 
    Report Reply
  • MomofEv+1MomofEv+1 member
    Prenatals are not working for me. Oh my god the hair loss! I am not looking forward to the regrowth stage. My hair is curly so I'm going to look like a fuzz ball.
    Report Reply
  • taysuntaysun member
    dec15mum said:
    I sing a lot of Taylor Swift to DS
    It settles him right down- no shame 
    DD loves Justin Beiber and as a result so do I. 
    Report Reply
  • ATolentino89ATolentino89 member
    I came down with food poisoning last night and was super delusional, feverish, and way dehydrated. The husband had to do ALL the overnight feelings and diaper changes. He handled it well.  I'm pretty sure the food poisoning was worth it to get my husband to see how unfun it is to wake up every 2-3 hours while the other sleeps. 

    PSA breast feeding with this particular condition is super not fun. 
    Report Reply
  • chillmama1518chillmama1518 member
    edited March 2016
    My FFFC (ya it's Saturday but it happened yesterday)...
    I'm super judging a friends choice to not breastfeed her baby. She's not due until June and has already decided against it. 
    Now, I truly don't think everyone "HAS" to breastfeed. I am a firm believer in you do you and do what works best for your situation. 
    But her reasons are sooooo stupid I can't handle it. She doesn't want to wreck her boobs (duh, pregnancy will do that for you anyway), she doesn't think she'll feel comfortable in public (how often do you really need to worry about this?) and my most hated of "my mom didn't breastfeed me and I'm fine". 
    All the moms out there who tried, and couldn't or it didn't work for them and their situation or who couldn't for legitimate reasons, you're doing a great job with the hand you've been dealt! I just must say I don't understand her reasons and think she's full of crap. 
    Report Reply
  • ammnam14ammnam14 member
    bev4242 said:
    My FFFC (ya it's Saturday but it happened yesterday)...
    I'm super judging a friends choice to not breastfeed her baby. She's not due until June and has already decided against it. 
    Now, I truly don't think everyone "HAS" to breastfeed. I am a firm believer in you do you and do what works best for your situation. 
    But her reasons are sooooo stupid I can't handle it. She doesn't want to wreck her boobs (duh, pregnancy will do that for you anyway), she doesn't think she'll feel comfortable in public (how often do you really need to worry about this?) and my most hated of "my mom didn't breastfeed me and I'm fine". 
    All the moms out there who tried, and couldn't or it didn't work for them and their situation or who couldn't for legitimate reasons, you're doing a great job with the hand you've been dealt! I just must say I don't understand her reasons and think she's full of crap. 
    Sorry but this bothers me. Maybe she has underlying issues and doesn't want to share them with you. As long as the baby is getting fed one way or another you shouldn't be losing sleep over it. Ultimately its her decision.

    Report Reply
  • chillmama1518chillmama1518 member
    ammnam14 said:
    bev4242 said:
    My FFFC (ya it's Saturday but it happened yesterday)...
    I'm super judging a friends choice to not breastfeed her baby. She's not due until June and has already decided against it. 
    Now, I truly don't think everyone "HAS" to breastfeed. I am a firm believer in you do you and do what works best for your situation. 
    But her reasons are sooooo stupid I can't handle it. She doesn't want to wreck her boobs (duh, pregnancy will do that for you anyway), she doesn't think she'll feel comfortable in public (how often do you really need to worry about this?) and my most hated of "my mom didn't breastfeed me and I'm fine". 
    All the moms out there who tried, and couldn't or it didn't work for them and their situation or who couldn't for legitimate reasons, you're doing a great job with the hand you've been dealt! I just must say I don't understand her reasons and think she's full of crap. 
    Sorry but this bothers me. Maybe she has underlying issues and doesn't want to share them with you. As long as the baby is getting fed one way or another you shouldn't be losing sleep over it. Ultimately its her decision.

    It definitely is ultimately her decision. As further back story to this she has asked me for tons of advice and has admitted to me that it is completely selfish reasons she doesn't want to do it. Like has said she knows it's best for her baby but she has reiterated those reasons over and over. I really do think she'd tell me if it was something else, based on the history of our friendship. 
    I'm not losing sleep over it, it just really annoyed me after our conversation. 
    I absolutely think every woman is completely entitled to their own decision and I won't be saying anything to her at all besides encouraging her with whatever she decides. Just wanted to vent that I feel she's not being very mature about the whole thing without making her feel bad of course.
    Flame free? 
    Report Reply
  • ammnam14ammnam14 member
    It just seems like mommy shaming to me, but everyone is entitled to their own opinions. FFFC isn't always flame free.
    Report Reply
  • ATolentino89ATolentino89 member
    I too have sanctimommy thoughts... Oh wait, no I don't. 
    Report Reply
Sign In or Register to comment.
Choose Another Board
Search Boards
"
"