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twopeasinapod · January 2009

I have to bring this back up, sorry.

https://community.thebump.com/cs/ks/forums/thread/8849835.aspx

OK coming back in a little late here but maybe someone is still watching this thread. To those ladies that said "As long as he's not touching, I don't care", how is it any different with a stripper than with a random girl? What if he was at a party and a random girl (or even friend, co-worker, second cousin at a wild family reunion) started dancing and taking her clothes off in front of your husband? Would you be OK with that?

vanillacourage · January 2009

lol, a stripper is not going to take off her clothes and then hook up with your husband. A random girl at a party would.

Stripper = professional. She's at work.
Random girl = hobag.

jenifairies · January 2009

I didn't post earlier. But I think it is disrespectful to do things like that when you are in a committed relationship and especially when you have a wife and child.

Unless your wife thinks it's ok, then whatever floats your boat. I don't care what your husbands do. Just leave mine out of it.

And for the record, I have never told DH he couldn't go. But he knows how I feel on the subject and wouldn't even try it.

I think the "he comes home to me" argument holds no water, as does "as long as he keeps his hands to himself." WTF ever.

jessicada76 · January 2009

vanillacourage:
lol, a stripper is not going to take off her clothes and then hook up with your husband. A random girl at a party would.

Stripper = professional. She's at work.
Random girl = hobag.

DITTO!

BTW - I posted before that it didn't bother me as long as he was looking and not touching, but like other posters my DH doesn't go to strip clubs so maybe that is why it doesn't bother me. I guess if he were going every night or every week it would but if he wants to go for a bachelor party or whatever I am ok with it.

And - is there a reason for your question? Did your DH do this?? Just curious!

mrs_harper · January 2009

jenifairies:

I didn't post earlier. But I think it is disrespectful to do things like that when you are in a committed relationship and especially when you have a wife and child.

Unless your wife thinks it's ok, then whatever floats your boat. I don't care what your husbands do. Just leave mine out of it.

And for the record, I have never told DH he couldn't go. But he knows how I feel on the subject and wouldn't even try it.

I think the "he comes home to me" argument holds no water, as does "as long as he keeps his hands to himself." WTF ever.

I completely agree with all of this, and it is our situation as well. If you're ok with your husbands going, that's fabulous, but in my house it's disrespectful.

katydid2007 · January 2009

twopeasinapod:
What if he was at a party and a random girl (or even friend, co-worker, second cousin at a wild family reunion) started dancing and taking her clothes off in front of your husband? Would you be OK with that?

Indifferent If he was turned on by his second cousin we'd have bigger problems than strippers.

twopeasinapod · January 2009

jessicada76:
And - is there a reason for your question? Did your DH do this?? Just curious!

My husband went down to the red light district and hooked up with a prostitute. JUST TEASING. I've become obsessed with a website on infidelity recently. It is a huge train wreck. Bitter, hurt, people posting advice to others who have been cheated on. Anyway, one of the posts a woman's husband cheated on her with a stripper and it made me think, is just going to a strip club cheating? Obviously THIS stripper was just trying to get dude's money and run but.........lead me to my question!

vanillacourage · January 2009

OK, after reading your link Agrippa became infinitely more interesting to me.

goodtobethelarkster · January 2009

Honestly, to me it's so dependent on context.

DH has gone to bachelor parties where there have been strippers. I'm sure he digs looking at the naked chicks but he goes because it's his friend's bachelor party. If it were only about the naked chicks then he'd go to strip clubs just as a random get together with his buddies.

We talk about it beforehand and if I don't feel comfortable he doesn't go. A few years ago a friend had a bachelor weekend where basically the whole point was to get as drunk as possible and see as many strippers as possible. This made me uncomfortable so DH and I talked about it. He went but he and 3 of the other guys that went along didn't go to the strip clubs.

::: shrugs ::: I guess it's all about respect. As long as you both respect each others' boundaries in the relationship it seems okay, kwim?

blueshirt2003 · January 2009

jenifairies:
I didn't post earlier. But I think it is disrespectful to do things like that when you are in a committed relationship and especially when you have a wife and child.

Unless your wife thinks it's ok, then whatever floats your boat. I don't care what your husbands do. Just leave mine out of it.

And for the record, I have never told DH he couldn't go. But he knows how I feel on the subject and wouldn't even try it.

I think the "he comes home to me" argument holds no water, as does "as long as he keeps his hands to himself." WTF ever.

I agree with her.

softballgirl24 · January 2009

I agree..not comfortable with either. I think there is too fine of a line...

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