When do you tell your kiddos?

thatlauragirl · March 2016

We have a 5 year old son and I'm already thinking ahead to when we should tell him he's having a little sibling. I'm extra cautious with my loss history but what's "normal"?

KilgraveMadeMeDoIt · March 2016

I think every family is different. My kids are 9 and 5. With my loss history as well, I'm waiting until well into the pregnancy, so we probably won't tell them until we know the sex and we can say "You're going to have a baby brother/sister."

momousekee · March 2016

My daughter is 12 - she knows it's a possibility and has asked that we tell her before she figures it out on her own.

I'm having an ultrasound at 6 weeks - as long as everything looks good, we'll probably tell her afterward.

MollySm · March 2016

My kid are 4 and 1.5. Because waiting is tricky for little ones, I'll push back telling them as long as I can. First I'll want to get through a couple of ultrasounds, definitely. And then we'll see how long we can keep the secret depending on my body. I'm sure I'll show fairly early (my abs seemed to give up after my first positive test!), so that will impact things.

NatashaSprout · March 2016

My boys are 10&11. They do not want another sibling. We will be waiting till at least we know the sex.

ficbot · March 2016

My stepson is five so we don't want to tell him too soon. But my parents travel in some of the same circles as kiddo's mother's parents so when we 'go public' we'll have to tell his mom. I'm sure she would be on board with waiting to tell him if that's the best thing, though. So we'd probably tell him once I start to show since he'll wonder what's wrong with me :-)

kms456 · March 2016

Lo is almost 3. I think we will wait til out of the first trimester. If I start showing early, we'll probably tell then.

talkthewholetime · March 2016

My daughter is almost 2. It's such an abstract concept at that age, I'm not sweating it. Once it's obvious, and we're doing things to get ready, we'll talk about it. I don't think she'll understand if I say we're having a baby and it doesn't just show up immediately, haha.

Plus she can't keep her cute mouth shut. So definitely not telling her anything until we're ready for everyone to know.

GraceUponGrace09 · March 2016

I don't trust my 5 and 6 year old a minute. We'll probably tell them right before we tell the world.

I can't wait to tho. They will be ecstatic!

rspalding001 · March 2016

My daughter is a little over two so Im just going to wait until Im showing quite a bit before I talk about it with her. We will need to move her into a grown up bed too so that might be a good time to talk about the "why". Maybe in my late second and early third trimester.

banfrog · March 2016

My son, he's 4, told me that I have a baby sister growing in me for him. We didn't say anything to him about it or around him. I wasn't going to say anything to the kids yet since I didn't think they'd get it yet. At bedtime when I wish him sweet dreams, he tells me he's going to dream of his sister. He's also named the baby already.

alanaw121 · March 2016

We want to tell my older son (8) but he certainly won't keep that to himself for more than 5 seconds so we will be waiting until we're sure it's a sure thing. With so many losses, we just don't want to get him worried about sharing us even more if it's unnecessary. The little guy (1.5) won't understand regardless so I guess it doesn't matter for him. How do you prepare a, will be 2 year old anyway?

Stickybaby2016 · March 2016

We are telling our crew once we know if it's a boy or girl.

the first two times we told them right away and they were crushed and sad when things went bad.

its hard enough to deal with it alone, then to have them all excited and they don't understand why those things happen.

so...we are waiting

Eagermommy5 · March 2016

Mine are 9, 13,17, 19. So I think they will be okay to know asap. Well minus my 9 year old that's debatable.

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