Hope everyone had a good week!
Weeks:
What's next? (milestones, appointments, something you are looking forward to):
Rant/Rave/Positive Vibes:
Questions?
GTKY: What would you do for your own personal "Treat Yo'self Day"? (Please tell me we have some Parks and Rec fans here? If not, it is basically a day where you treat yourself to whatever you want!)
BFP #1: 08/17/2012 DD1 born 05/01/2013
BFP #2: 07/31/2015 M/C 09/23/2015 (11.5 weeks)
Re: PGAL Check-in 3/7
Weeks: 15w1d

What's next? (milestones, appointments, something you are looking forward to): Next midwife app't is the 16th, then ultrasound on the 30th. Lots of waiting this month!
Rant/Rave/Positive Vibes: I think I've been feeling movement this morning!
GTKY: What would you do for your own personal "Treat Yo'self Day"? (Please tell me we have some Parks and Rec fans here? If not, it is basically a day where you treat yourself to whatever you want!)
I would sleep in, cross-stitch, go out for brunch, read a book or take a nap (if pregnant), go on a book shopping spree, have dinner (and drinks if not pregnant) with friends, and go to a movie or a play.
BFP #1: 08/17/2012 DD1 born 05/01/2013
BFP #2: 07/31/2015 M/C 09/23/2015 (11.5 weeks)
What's next? (milestones, appointments, something you are looking forward to): check up next week and anatomy scan the following week.
Rant/Rave/Positive Vibes: I've been having some tightening, almost like Braxton hicks contractions every couple of days. My doctor said it's normal since it's not my first pregnancy but it's freaking me out a little.
Questions? Nope
GTKY: What would you do for your own personal "Treat Yo'self Day"? (Please tell me we have some Parks and Rec fans here? If not, it is basically a day where you treat yourself to whatever you want!)
Yes, I love Parks and Rec! I would go to a class at the gym, sit and have coffee and read my book, get a manicure/pedicure maybe massage, and, if I wasn't pregnant, go sit at a nice restaurant and have a glass of wine, and dinner with friends.
What's next? Anatomy scan on March 31.
Rant/Rave/PositiveVibes: I freaked myself out last night. I've been using my Doppler now that I can find the heartbeat more often (still don't get it every time). Well last night I found three heartbeats (my slow one and two fast ones beating at different rythems). I panicked thinking it was twins. But realty check: there was only one at my 8-week ultrasound. So I assume it's the placenta or the umbilical cord that pulsates with the baby? But it's getting really cool being able to hear all the different things happening in my uterus now! It's really starting to calm my PGAL brain. Although now I've developed this random fear that I'm going to have incompetent cervix or just randomly go into premature labor. I need to stop worrying all the time! I'm just so afraid of losing this baby.
Questions: What is that second fast heartbeat? The placenta or umbilical cord? Does anyone know?
GTKY: I work odd hours and have odd days off. So I don't really get to do much in my current job (hoping to change that soon). So a day of treating myself would be eating something delicious like Ben and Jerrys ice cream and watching an episode of the bachelor. But I do that every week! If I weren't pregnant then the ice cream would be replaced with a glass of pink champagne.
Hope everyone had a good week!
Weeks: 15w5d
What's next? (milestones, appointments, something you are looking forward to): Monthly visit next Wednesday and U/S on 3/25.
Rant/Rave/Positive Vibes: I am loving my bump. I went through my closet and sorted through my maternity clothes and I finally feel like I can wear them without jinxing the situation.
Questions?
GTKY: What would you do for your own personal "Treat Yo'self Day"? (Please tell me we have some Parks and Rec fans here? If not, it is basically a day where you treat yourself to whatever you want!)
There are so many times when I wish for day to myself but when I think what I would do, I have no idea! I love the idea of getting together with friends and binging on TV. My nails are in desperate need to a need of a manicure and a nap would feel really good right about now.
What's next? (milestones, appointments, something you are looking forward to): Anatomy scan and halfway mark!
Rant/Rave/Positive Vibes: Kind of irritated with the receptionist at my clinic. She forgot to schedule my anatomy scan for April 5th (I would have already been 22 weeks at that point), but gave me the appointment card for April 5th at 12 o'clock. When I checked the patient portal today, I wasn't scheduled for any appointments so I called and she reschedules me for April 12th at 9:30. I'm irritated because a) the first appointment was going to work out best for both me and my husband, & b) I skipped my 16 week u/s for insurance reasons so waiting until 23w3d on my anatomy scan is going to drive me crazy.
Questions?
GTKY: What would you do for your own personal "Treat Yo'self Day"? (Please tell me we have some Parks and Rec fans here? If not, it is basically a day where you treat yourself to whatever you want!) I would grab a few friends and go out for brunch, shopping, light hiking, or just do something to get out and enjoy the nice weather we've been having!
What's next? (milestones, appointments, something you are looking forward to):
Next appt (anatomy scan) isn't until April 7. So much waiting!
Rant/Rave/Positive Vibes:
Really wish I could shake the PGAL brain. Like @JournoGrl23I am terrified of incompetent cervix and preterm labor, even though I have no history of such. I think now that we are mostly past the risk of spontaneous miscarriage my brain just needs something else to worry about? Shut up, brain! After sex on Saturday my whole vag/ute area felt heavy, throbby and achy for several hours. I'm chalking it up to increased blood flow, but I still freaked out a little. I hate that I'm afraid to enjoy sex.
Questions? Nope!
GTKY: What would you do for your own personal "Treat Yo'self Day"?
I would spend an entire day at the spa. Facial, massage, mani/pedi, the works. I did this the day before our wedding - 6 hours of pampering - and it was glorious.
BFP #2 8/22/12 | EDD 5/5/13 | DS1 born 5/9/13
BFP #3 4/25/15 | EDD 1/7/16 | MMC 7/2/15 @ 13w1d | D&E 7/8/15
BFP #4 12/9/15 | EDD 8/22/16 | DS2 born 5/18/16 at 26w2d
Just keep swimming.
17w5d
What's next? (milestones, appointments, something you are looking forward to):
Anatomy scan on March 17, really looking forward to it being here!
Rant/Rave/Positive Vibes:
@bananers I get nervous during sex now since I get crampy after orgasm-it freaks me out. I orgasm so much easier now which doesn't help.
GTKY: What would you do for your own personal "Treat Yo'self Day".
Massage, pedicure, lunch out, hanging with friends watching tv and knitting, a fantastic book, and all the foods with DH.
What's next? (milestones, appointments, something you are looking forward to): Anatomy scan this Friday! They recommend between 18-20 weeks this was the only appointment that worked for both my spouse and i. Excited, but I also was hoping to have it closer to 20 so it would be right between appointments, less time between peaks to worry
Rant/Rave/Positive Vibes: feeling flutters, I think!
Questions? Anyone else getting periodic panes/cramps or a tenderness around the belly button? I know it is "normal" but it is also nice to hear I am not alone. OB says all is good.
GTKY: What would you do for your own personal "Treat Yo'self Day"? (Please tell me we have some Parks and Rec fans here? If not, it is basically a day where you treat yourself to whatever you want!)
Honestly, it is the last week of the quarter, finals are next week, my writing us behind, the new schedule for next quarter is not out, I have non-stop office hours appointments, stacks of grading, constant emails.... I just want a day and night in some remote cabin without any Internet access, a comfy bed and a lot of non-academic books.
Naps and reading FTW!
What's next? (milestones, appointments, something you are looking forward to): We have our anatomy scan next Friday, so that's exciting.
Rant/Rave/Positive Vibes: I feel super down today. My daughter turned 5 yesterday and I took her to the dentist, only to find out that she has FOUR cavities. She informed me that, during the weeks with her dad, he doesn't make her brush her teeth every day. He also apparently doesn't make her wear her glasses, or brush her hair. Looks like I'm taking him to court for primary custody, so that should be fun. I've been crying off and on since yesterday about the idea of changing my daughter's entire life/schedule because he can't get his life together.
And, a little salt on the wound... I responded to a "Graduation" thread in "TTGP" last week (Friday, maybe?) and someone immediately responded to me with something that got removed for TOU violation. Several people commended her for the comment, but I have no idea what she actually said. I know it's just a bunch of internet strangers, and I don't even know what she said, but I'm already super emotional and I really just want to curl up in a ball and cry about it. I've never been well-received on that board because of ONE question I posted back in November about TTC/frequency of intercourse. So. Won't be posting there anymore for a while.
Questions?
GTKY: What would you do for your own personal "Treat Yo'self Day"? (Please tell me we have some Parks and Rec fans here? If not, it is basically a day where you treat yourself to whatever you want!)
AHHH I LOVE Parks and Rec; Leslie Knope is literally me in TV form. Haha. DH and I always say "treat yo'self" whenever debating any type of treat, like a candy bar purchase in the checkout line for example.
If I had a whole Treat Yo'Self Day, I'd probably go get my hair professionally done (color, style, etc.), maybe get my first professional massage, go shopping kid-free, and spend the rest of the day hanging out outside.
Sorry about your ex as well-- that is a rough situation. Know that you are trying to do what is best for your daughter, and that is what being a parent is all about!
BFP #1: 08/17/2012 DD1 born 05/01/2013
BFP #2: 07/31/2015 M/C 09/23/2015 (11.5 weeks)
I also have a deep-seated resentment toward bullies, because my mom does that (she puts people down to make herself feel better) and it drives me crazy. I don't know how putting other people down could possible make them feel good; I always feel like crap if I accidentally hurt someone's feelings.
I truly would never say something with the intention of upsetting or hurting other people, nor would I purposely brag about myself (I'm being completely honest here - I still have trouble distinguishing the different between "bragging" and just stating a fact, because it seems that if the "fact" makes you look good, it's automatically bragging, even if that's not the intention). So it sucks that I'm basically outcast over this. Blahhhh. Hopefully all of those "regulars" have forgotten about it by the next time I'm TTGP.
*sigh* Oh well. I am with you - I feel 10000% better on the August BMB. The people here seem very genuine.
Hopefully next time you're TTGP you'll think of how your posts affect other people if you're going to tell other people to do the same.
ETA:
Same goes for you @Fremdschamen - Calling TTGP regulars "bitter" because they haven't gotten their BFPs yet. That's a lot of assumption, and there are a lot of choice words but will choose not to use any of them. Just think about how you would feel if someone called you "bitter" because you'd been struggling with infertility or multiple losses and still hadn't gotten your BFP.
Me: 30 | DH: 34 | DSS: 14 | DS: 4
PG #2, EDD 10/12/2023
LFAF February Siggy Challenge - "Favorite TV/Movie Couple"
DD: 10/17/13
TTC#2 Actively: 10/14, NTNP: 01/14
Left-Sided Hydrosalpinx (cause: genetic abnormality, TREATED 11/16)
http://www.fertilityfriend.com/home/396b04
You know what? I can't even. To imply someone will still be there the next time you stroll in ready to TTC is lowest of the low.
Enjoy your BMB. Really, STAY here and enjoy it.
-sincerely TTGP "regulars"
LFAF February Siggy Challenge - "Favorite TV/Movie Couple"
DD: 10/17/13
TTC#2 Actively: 10/14, NTNP: 01/14
Left-Sided Hydrosalpinx (cause: genetic abnormality, TREATED 11/16)
http://www.fertilityfriend.com/home/396b04
LFAF February Siggy Challenge - "Favorite TV/Movie Couple"
DD: 10/17/13
TTC#2 Actively: 10/14, NTNP: 01/14
Left-Sided Hydrosalpinx (cause: genetic abnormality, TREATED 11/16)
http://www.fertilityfriend.com/home/396b04
As a former TTGP regular and now O16 BMB member-- its extremely poor taste to talk about TTGP in this way. They can still read what y'all write. To assume that some of the regulars would not have a BFP by the time you have your baby and come back for TTC another one is really really hurtful to some of them. Its not ok to say those things and really I think you should exercise more compassion here. Its never ok to use the B-word (bitter) with regards to folks struggling to conceive. Also, 1faceinacrowd, you are failing to inform your comrades of some of the things you've said that really bothered many TTGP posters at the time. You aren't blameless here and you aren't being bullied. I don't usually butt in on other BMB's without provocation, but here you aren't telling the whole story. So, I would kindly ask you to realize that its not fair to TTGP to paint them in a negative light here.
LFAF Summer 2016 Awards:
To, in the same breath, wine about bullying and then to say that we are bitter is just awful. I promise you I don't want to be on TTGP for any longer than I need to, but I will protect the "regulars" from hurtful language even long after I'm gone (whether that be through giving up or getting a BFP) because I promise you being told "just have all the sex to get pregnant, teehee" is way worse than being told "we aren't interested in updates".
Second... We get snarky bc after a while you get tired of people waltzing in and not reading the rules or taking time to give support to others or get to know anyone. You have to work to belong to an online community the same way you have to work to belong to an IRL community. If someone just waltzed into your neighborhood and acted like they owned the place spouting ignorant and unfeeling comments, you would be taken a little aback no?
Just my two cents...
Eta typos when I'm upset bc someone has called me (new edit... AND MY FRIENDS!!!) bitter.
Married May 2014
TTC Nov 2014-Aug 2016
Aug 2015 Dx: Thyroid Cancer and Hashimotos
Total Thyroidectomy October 2015
Ovarian Cystectomy Nov 2015
CANCER FREE and resumed TTC Dec 2015.
Must be nice up in that ivory tower...
TTC #1 - Nov '14
DS born 10/18
- BFP: 3/10/16 — Baby Girl born 11/20/16
TTC#2 April 2019@1faceinacrowd brought this on herself when she pulled low punches here.
TTC #1 - Nov '14
DS born 10/18
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Started TTC #1 November 2015
BFP 6/10/2016 - EDD 2/22/2017
LFAF February Siggy Challenge - "Favorite TV/Movie Couple"
DD: 10/17/13
TTC#2 Actively: 10/14, NTNP: 01/14
Left-Sided Hydrosalpinx (cause: genetic abnormality, TREATED 11/16)
http://www.fertilityfriend.com/home/396b04
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